Women Who Stonewall & Refuse To Communicate

Why women who stonewall & refuse to communicate can be impossible to have a healthy relationship with.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following me for 5 years and read 3% Man, over 10 times. He says he has a great relationship with his girlfriend of over 2 years. However, when she is going through a difficult time or is upset, she is unable and unwilling to talk to him and explain what she wants and needs. He tries applying what he learned in the book, but she simply will get emotional and cry for hours and not tell him why she is upset. She says she needs emotional support from him, says he never provides it, but refuses to explain what that looks like. He is frustrated and ready to pull the plug on their relationship because of her unwillingness to communicate.
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[@mikemaryniuk571]

Silent treatment, stonewalling, blame shifting, deflection, and projection. If you see these tactics, run in the opposite direction. You will not win or even begin to understand......it is a waste of time.

[@Pistonhammer]

Two words >> Narcissist/Borderline

[@jeromerelayson3850]

My wife was like this. Well pending divorce so ex soon. Couldn’t win. And really it’s not even about winning if we could just talk and figure shit out it would have been good. But nope. Done so!

[@andrewwest8186]

Been there, done that. You're dealing with a vulnerable (covert) narcissist. She will slowly erode your mental well-being until you don't know up from down. You will lose yourself trying to help this woman. And when you reach a low point, she will start blaming you for her difficulties. At that point, you'll be so invested with her that you'll find it hard to leave. And the cycle of abuse will go on and on and on. She will never change. Run now!

[@redridgemedia3771]

This is 1000% Correct. And the situation is even worse if the partner being abused is codependent, or was raised by narcissistic parent(s). Self awareness is key, along with solid boundaries and knowing what a healthy relationship looks like. Great Comment !

[@BongoHabariTv]

Best advice Ever

[@Tololo86]

Yup, been through it. Glad I was young and learned my lesson

[@Mike_Cosentino]

🎯 💯

[@Mike_Cosentino]

@@christopher-yi3rmspot on.

[@undrtow0515]

If you need a fucking therapist with the girl you’re dating, she needs to be your ex ASAP.

[@Mike_Cosentino]

Shame that some of these women only get the therapy AFTER all the destruction is said and done, only AFTER the fact

[@jeromerelayson3850]

@@Mike_Cosentinodude for real My ex in laws basically knew my wife needed therapy But only after I told them I’m divorcing her that they wanted me to wait a bit and see if my wife could d o therapy first. lol no f way she would say Yes to that

[@692mexico]

Currently been dating a Dismissive avoidant the last 2 years and she shuts down whenever there is conflict. Luckily for me she is willing to change and has been showing progress. But regardless like coach says, it’s very hard to deal with them. Especially if you really love her. If she is not willing to change for the better, leave. They need space and they don’t like talking about their feelings or emotions, because it scares them. Very challenging to deal with a woman who is not healed, I understand it now.

[@CeeT-wg3hz]

Runn!!!!!!!!!!!! I dealt with this for 1 whole year in a 6 year relationship. It is not worth it, bro. You're gonna drive yourself crazy trust me. The last time she gave me that she wanted a break, I litreally walked away and lived my life as if it's a break-up! Fk that ishh, to mentally stress over another person childish way is not worth it. Once I walked away from that relationship, my stress literally went away.

[@13sprintuser]

Dude, my most recent ex gf is a DA. I only learned about it after the breakup and now it all makes sense. And yea, that’s what avoidants do. They avoid conflict. I remember one time she said “you are NOT a good arguer,” and I was like wtf?? I think I’m being reasonable. She was projecting. And she’d say “you will NOT flip the script on me.” I’m still trying to get over her. She got away with a lot because I was beta and she was the hottest girl I’ve ever been with. Have been in NC for about 2 months now.

[@6688ya]

Dismissive avoident are for recreational use only

[@CeeT-wg3hz]

@RonInTheUSA222 is exactly how it should be. They want the break A.K.A. "BREAK UP" give it to them by walking away, the very next day you start living brand new.

[@MattCassCook]

@@6688ya🤣🤣🤣🤣 love this comment because it’s so true. My ex was one and it is the most bizarre “relationship” I’ve ever experienced. Keep em on the side while someone who’s got their shit together comes along 👍🏻

[@Mike_Cosentino]

Stonewalling is one of my least favorite things that some of these narcissists play, as if mentally abusing you & you experiencing reactive abuse is normal. After everything I had said and done. Indeed, tap out while you can. Truthfulness and transparency is key. If not, then the door is that way 👉🏼 🚪 👋. Giving boundaries and space is all fine, but got no time for mental gymnastics.

[@dennisrobinson8008]

She was carving a throne in his brain with her abuses.

[@jacobkennedy1065]

More people need to see this video. Way too many women operate like this and should be avoided at ALL costs!

[@xmax9297]

It’s possible that she’s also looking for or found your replacement, with that attitude . So now she’s looking for ways either conscious or subconscious to sabotage the relationship. Definitely pull the rip cord man. Not worth it. Doesn’t matter how much you love her. Listen to coach and the other guys here. Find a way to respectfully break up and walk away and never look back. The sooner you do it the better off you’ll be and less painful it will be in the long run, 💯. Learn from your mistakes (yes, you made a mistake in not properly vetting her before getting this serious with her. Sometimes it hard to know how things will turn out in the long run but eventually with enough advice and experience you will be able to spot these types of women very quickly, literally within hours of talking to them. Some might be better at hiding it so it will take longer but you will know waaaay before the two year mark). So you get better at picking partners and finding someone who will be a better match for you. Best of luck man. 👍🏼

[@Espiral88]

You run brother. I've been in these relationships and don't work. Unless you are actively engaged in your own healing process. No one can do it for you.

[@MBAYoungboy]

This is one of those “I want a man to just get it without me having to explain” type of women and unfortunately it’s most women.

[@MrShane008]

I've been single for a couple months now after a 3 year relationship. She was the one I planned to marry and start a family with, so it's been hard on me trying to adjust to single life. Every few days I'll be thinking about her and get sad etc., but I continue to throw on one or two of Coach's vids when I feel down and he gets my head in the right space to keep pushing on and feeling good about my situation. Thanks Coach!

[@evanhiggins7298]

If she won't work on it, there's your answer. It's part of the vetting process to not get emotionally invested with a girl like that

[@MattCassCook]

I went from being with an avoidant (might be a narcissist) to a girl who was so open and easy to talk to and man… the difference is unbelievable. I’ll never go back to someone who’s such a PITA again.

[@jackthere]

Even if they're willing to get the help, they likely won't change. You're not here to pick up the broken pieces of someone else's traumatic upbringing and try to glue it back together

[@numa333]

It's like the coach just knows I got a high conflict going on with someone like this, lol. Stay strong, fellas. The light at the end of the tunnel is within reach with the right support and self care.

[@DavidCartmellDJCartmell]

A major red flag being stonewalled

[@chriscarr7397]

If a woman is stonewalling you, then this is a red flag. It's best you cut your losses by leaving, walking away and ending the relationship.

[@FreedomMinded23]

Hit it up coach 👏

[@additivesphere]

Great episode love ya Coach

[@swoopnseconds9428]

She is bread crumbing you & possibly talking to someone else. Maybe a friend, fam member, or another person that doesn’t know the FULL STORY. They are only hearing her side

[@j.a.b.2250]

I disagree with the idea of helping her. The amount of emotional labor is very taxing. She's not going to change. She'll just move on to someone who's naive and accepting of this behavior.

[@andrewpowell1734]

I had gf like this once. When I left her, she became a stalker and I had to get a restraining order. RUN!

[@jamesharris6368]

I ignore or move on from these type of women. Some girl tried to do the "No Contact" on me a while back and me wondering WTF did I do, but I guess she wanted me to fall hard for her, so I gave her the same treatment but I did it with the full intention of replacing her and next thing you know she started looking for me asking me if I was mad at her LOL....nah I said I told her I moved on. I blocked her cause she was texting me like crazy about wanting to talk. Ya'll can do the same but you're too fkn weak and soft that you give in to their BS little high school bf/gf game and find any excuse to start talking to her again...."I'm gonna be the bigger person and initiate the conversation"

[@michaelthem3]

I needed this one! Thanks a lot.

[@toadman5184]

Silent treatment = hit the ejector seat button. Life's too short for that nonsense.

[@georgepaul3974]

I don't know if the dude will read this, but I'm feeling she's hiding another man somewhere, I'd do some research, but this is the best case scenario, because if not, this is some serious mental illness and a huge red flag, I hope this dude won't lose himself in this relationship...

[@cameron8500]

I too experienced this don't walk away run. F this. That's abuse in many forms. Coach is on point here

[@rashadm.sadigov4366]

This video is an answer to many of my questions. Thanks

[@cameronkroupa3632]

Hit the nail on the f***in' head, Corey!!💯 just got out of a longterm relationship I stayed in wayyyyy too long where my lady would consistently stonewall and run away, then (textbook) act like everything was great and her actions should be swept under the rug when she did return... like my actions warranted her difficult and dramatic actions.

[@13sprintuser]

Sounds like a dismissive avoidant

[@additivesphere]

I get it that you love her but life can be soooo much better without her. I was in a similar situation. It was traumatic. By being with her you agree to that treatment. You do it to yourself.

[@franciscozamorano2927]

Yup eventually had to stop trying.. everything was on her terms. Would try to communicate but stonewalled then she disappeared for few days come back like oh I’m better I’ll follow your lead.. with none or little accountability.. this is abuse.. she wouldn’t let me sleep or have peace would bring up bs late at night and act like I was the worst person in the world I’d try so long to calm her work with eventually I had to leave it and eventually block her.. 😢sucks because I love her but no she would talk to her fam and friends that validate her behavior. I just had to say we’re not gonna work I’m done and mean it.. peace is back and I’m dating some awesome beautiful women but suck that connection and love is still there for someone that’s clearly a bad partner..

[@franciscozamorano2927]

Foreals screaming and crying but wouldn’t work with me.. bratty behavior and trying to embarrass you infront of people or family.. some women take us personally to humble you while acting like they support you.. under cover haters you feel that run.. because there are so many people at are fun easy and will be there for you.

[@charlesthomas3367]

Is It THE TIME OF THE MONTH?...The Unspoken Factor.

[@justanoob4425]

It's not. I was dating a woman who had her uterus removed.. it's 100% emotional trauma. Just sharing my info

[@charlesthomas3367]

@@justanoob4425 Or...Sexual Repression-Suppression...Basic Freud.

[@lukehart7225]

13:03 🤣 Corey’s stomach

[@mirrorglassgames]

I think that may have been his dog i thought lol

[@additivesphere]

Haha I though it was mine and was confused

[@Majestic_Dark_Horse]

There are only volunteers & there is no relationship. Notify her support system. This is not your wife. If it was vice versa...she'll leave. I would document these traits & behaviors then plan my exit. ~Bachelor, I Stand...I use to, but I no longer a punching bag

[@brett_919]

If she won’t work on it, she way as well say that she won’t work with YOU! If that’s what she ultimately shows she thinks of you via her actions… end it.

[@CoachSteveJandS]

Passive aggressive is still a form of aggressive... 😮

[@LassieFarm]

In the Philippines it's called Tampo 🇵🇭

[@CryptoTaurusMoon]

Avoidant behavior 💯

[@princeandthief8193]

She sounds like a quiet borderline.

[@makan1568]

Sounds like it’s about my ex 😂 The good thing is if you experience this you are aware of it in the next relationship so you can act fast and don’t waste time dealing with broken person. It doesn’t matter man or woman.

[@akanicolerocks711]

Trying to hug her when she is upset is a big no no if she doesn't want to be touched.

[@ListingLore]

Yea if she’s a wacko

[@andiXD1990]

Had the same experience with my ex. She stonewalled and gaslighted me everytime we had an argument (fights in her eyes) and she told me she would cry every time after (never saw it though) I stuck around for 3 years with ups and downs and eventually she pulled the plug after I got complacent. It's 1.5 years ago now and I'm still hurting from that breakup as she is already head over heels with a new guy and moved together with him after a few months of beeing together. Can anybody tell me how to stop ruminating and thinking about/comparing myself to them? I know I have to get back out there and take action to get better. Still reading the book and having high hopes for the future despite the heartache! God bless corey wayne!

[@KaraRocknRoll]

A girl I have known for 10 years. We rarely see each other but when we do, we legit act like a couple. Since Sunday after seeing each other on Friday, I've been stone walled. Blocked on TikTok and Snapchat, can't see anything she posts on Facebook but still friends. Nope. Won't date her.

[@hammy2729]

Unfortunately I learned the hard way. I am not, I cannot be, and never again would I try to become someone’s therapist. As the coach explains on his videos and books, you want someone that’s easy going, communicates, and doesn’t stonewall you. The way you allow them to treat you, you only allow for more of the same treatment. Even if you love them and hurts, it’s better surrender and walk away from someone who’s not willing to see and accept their flaws and mistakes, much less apologize for doing you wrong, and still allow for their unhappy miserable friends with a bad track of multiple gone bad marriages to influence their decisions in your relationship.

[@giovannipantorno884]

You'll never win.

[@paluszter]

Oh yes! To all of you guys who REALLY loved crazy woman like this (pissed of Coach likely as well). Cheers, never again!

[@74GenX]

More importantly you must have unresolved issues if you continue to allow yourself to be manipulated and abused by this woman and you continue to beg her to communicate with you. You can't fix her but you can heal yourself.

[@DaLightBlue]

100%

[@jhamilton1007]

Sounds like she has trauma from physical and/or mental abuse as a child. He should just cut his losses while making sure she gets professional help.

[@nevick2]

This sounds like her wanting to break up tbh.

[@nikonxxx]

Narcisism