The Slumflower Discusses Dysfunctional Families, Feminism & Plagiarised Work

[@theslumflower]

Thank you for having me Wunmi, you star! And thank you to everyone for your kind comments. I appreciate you all taking the time out to hear my story. Hopefully, you see a bit of yourself in me. x Take care.

[@tamarabello]

You are a rare gem and so special ❤️.

[@ssankm508]

I love you sunflower chantayjayy dated a rapist so hates other women from one black women to another its love

[@TanikaTanUK]

What an amazing conversation, I was engrossed from beginning to end.

[@naomiononuga961]

Honestly, I know where Chidera is coming from and up until a few weeks ago I was in the exact same place. We share a similar experience in being oldest daughters in a Nigerian household. Our parents have made a multitude of mistakes and if we choose to have children we will also make a multitude of mistakes, and be responsible for someone else’s trauma. But as my parents get older I realized they posses the same humanity I do, and they are also fragile and feeble like I am. When we are kids we put our parents on a pedestal because it’s their job to love and protect us, forgetting they share the same imperfect humanity we do. Forgiveness is not the justification of right and wrong it is the expression of love despite right and wrong. I’d urge you to forgive but I have no knowledge of the trauma you faced and I won’t pretend to know your life experiences. Regardless you are loved and you are valued ❤️

[@TheMusicmakesmehigh]

Please tell me where u hat is from pls

[@DrJessicaKatanga]

only people who have cut off their parents will ever understand other people who have made the same decision, especially in the African community - love and solidarity to anyone else who's made that tough decision x

[@misss9092]

The part where she acknowledges that trauma is no excuse for a parent to hurt their child really resonated with me. For some reason, whenever someone, including a family member behaves in a toxic way, the behaviour is encouraged through criticism by other family members when you decide not to talk to that toxic family member and you’re blamed for their behaviour in the first place. If we start holding toxic behaviour to account, then maybe we’d live in a much kinder world.

[@sisandangema7527]

"the idea that women can hold resentment towards their oppressor is somehow worse than the oppression itself" that's the best thing I've heard ever

[@blase057]

Very similar to the racism argument.

[@lilibetty]

I liked Chidera before this, but I LOVE her even more. This was such a great session. She's so honest and spoke some serious gems there. Integrity is everything. Definitely worth the time to watch it. 🌸

[@lwill5936]

The conversation about childhood triggered a healing process in me. I can so relate to having to lie a lot as a child just to do things like meet friends to play etc. It mixed up my self perception, self-worth and my understanding of the agency I have in this life. It left me paralyzed and incredibly scared of the world and hearing her response to that kind of upbringing just showed me that there is another way I can process this experience and also that I do have the power to decide my narrative. So grateful to have access to this conversation ❤️❤️

[@Naomi-zj2yf]

Cut off toxic family members, this needs to be normalized

[@shadesofkayb4886]

When she started talking about the “do you hate men?” comment & Chidera came back with the “do you hate women?”, it made me think of the song Afeni by Rapsody

[@ladyf5217]

It’s so refreshing to see someone stand firm in their beliefs. ❤️

[@megs3003]

Always love hearing Chidera speak. As a mum found the stuff she was saying about her mother so insightful and useful when thinking about parenting my own daughter, thank you so much

[@megs3003]

Love Chidera’s response to “do you hate men” also

[@TheDydy26]

There are very few REAL and truly inspiring people left on the internet.. Chiddera is one of them. I just love how she keeps it real.. We all need to raise our heads from them phones, get out of instagram, stop wasting time watching other people's achievements and JUST GO LIVE OUR LIVES.

[@fel425]

I loved this conversation. She’s breaking a cycle. 💙

[@AfrikanQueen17]

Incredible interview. Chiddy is such a wholesome being; her consciousness, mindfulness and ability to carefully articulate herself is amazing. Well done Wunmi! You were made for this.

[@Mvriamxx]

I do not exaggerate when I say that this are my favourite series in the whole of youtube. Happy belated birthday Wunmi, and as ever great job!

[@taliajournee212]

I’m just finding this interview and The Slumflower now…bravo to this girl! A firm head on her shoulders with her own thoughts and ideas. The portion about men - society loves for black women to have no standards - especially black men because they benefit from it. All women should have standards but especially black women. BW deserve relationships that are balanced, stable and beneficial for US and however that looks for you. Whether it be financial support or otherwise, women of other groups have had this for an eternity (not saying it’s perfect, no man is perfect but other communities have better structures in place for women/children) yet black men have missed this point. May your heels be high and your standards be higher!!!

[@heartlesswoman1904]

Wummi deserves so many more subscribers...black community please keep supporting!

[@sheenageorge226]

I never knew Slumflower before this! Watching this has made me a fan. I share the same beliefs but never been able to properly articulate it like her! Amazing interview.

[@nicetonolu4658]

I have alopecia too and “please don’t offer me any hair growth advice” took me OUT 🤣💀❤️

[@Nyanchama_]

I wish this conversation was like 24 hours long

[@tee6654]

I understand her, not to say that I have experienced what she has or that I agree with everything (& I don’t have to at all) but I fully understand her & love her so much !

[@ebere_spirit]

Brilliant! It’s good to see a range black perspectives from the black British community being highlighted for once. Love this Igbo babe

[@letusgrow2gether801]

My daughter suggested this video...I am so glad I viewed; so much inspiration and genuineness! A great wealth of information regarding the current realities Black women are and the Black community is subjected to within various industries and worldwide oppression. Yes, I said it! There are so many quiet voices that have been bought and paid for, hiding in the ugly hypocrisy of being black but actively supporting oppression - just going along (with oppression) to get along (receiving crumbs of opportunity).

[@lenam.r.6693]

I love Chiddera's work and mind. Also, Wunmi you're a great interviewer

[@i.l.746]

Chidera, thank you for being so brave... Thank you ❤️

[@ruwabs]

I love Chiddera so much. Love from Uganda 😍

[@nnebugho]

My favorite interview you've facilitated to date.

[@odemichelle]

I did not want this to end!

[@gossipgi]

the interviewer had some really antagonizing questions and wouldn't let her finish. i found it disrespectful her response to Chidera's relationship to her mother. like lets not project our home situations on to another's and then shocked when they dont agree with you.

[@JaJaKisses]

i think she asked the questions alot of us (especially black women) would naturally be intrigued about, its not always about being overly polite when we're trying to really understand

[@beya8955]

I 100% feel you on this point! I felt the same !

[@zarajay7396]

I feel like she understands perfectly because honestly her childhood sounds worse. I think the shock came in because she couldn't believe Chidera would even be brave enough to cut her mum off and face black society's wrath. I feel she was somewhat in awe. I wish we had got to hear about her relationship with her father.

[@zipitzizzy2442]

Agreed, she was antagonizing.

[@DaniellaMurrell]

This is probably my favourite interview yet! It is everything I've felt but was unable to comprehend or express at all !

[@seashore961]

Best interview I've seen in a really long time, thank you for this ❤️ I know I'll be coming back to watch this over several times, Chidera's wisdom and perspective is unique and blessed 💓

[@MagnumIsAG]

What an amazing conversation. These are very important subject matters that need 'unpacking' in the way Slumflower and Wunmi did in this ep. Congrats.

[@PraiseAra]

Such an amazing conversation. Sooo many gems were dropped and I feel very seen

[@getitg44]

I am disappointed that I had never heard of Slumflower until now. As soon as she read her old comment at the very start, I just had to find her Instagram. I knew from then that she was my type of lady

[@tamarahid9713]

she has an amazing Skillshare mini course. Well worth a look

[@babyokwuolisa]

I can"t wait for Wumi to be on TV. I'm in America, but I would subscribe to the UK networks to watch her.

[@OYOKO]

Slumflower is such a gem!

[@stacie8131]

This has probably been one of the best interview's I've ever listened to thoroughly, such a good conversation

[@MedieTC]

Chidera is so wise and graceful!

[@managementmeru5654]

Wake this is so relatable! Also I feel you’re SO GRACIOUS oh my Godiz

[@KN-zm1rw]

I loved this, Chidera is a real and beautiful one. Florence and especially Munroe really did her dirty. Glad we got to hear her side. Wunmi you're so talented x

[@dottyx1]

her tweet on male genocide, best tweet eva!

[@hairbykstylist9818]

Damn, real people still exists! By far my fav series💪🏾

[@yasminwalker4966]

💛💛💛😍😍😍 Chiddera is wonderful as always. I literally have no words 👌

[@thesitdownuk]

Amazing questions. Amazing answers. So honest and seamless!

[@simiomo4469]

Completely made me see her differently, love this!

[@beya8955]

It felt like Wunmi was more interested in getting the tea … idk and her pushing her narrative about forgiveness and Chidera’s relationship with her mom was so tone deaf to me smh

[@zipitzizzy2442]

Yeah, I literally had to stop watching the video because her energy is awful and it feels like she's just giving her space to talk so she collect information and be the one to say she received access to someone who protects and guards herself from people exactly like her. Like she kept interrupting or waiting for Chidera to finish answering before moving onto the next question without being inquisitive or even responding to the answers Chidera gave her. And emphasis on 'answers' because it literally feels like she's just syphoning info out of her.

[@kaysmellsgood]

​@@zipitzizzy2442I also love how chidera answered her questions without still giving her much tea

[@Svga0006]

Even later in the video, she doesn’t even pause on what chidi says about women’s oppression, she instead goes ahead n asks “well what about your brothers or good men?” Like 😐😐

[@Svga0006]

She saying “mm” “yeah” but isn’t actually listening n absorbing what chidi is putting down

[@regalchic]

There will always be that small group of people who will misunderstand and misrepresent the whole conversation..

[@WeDeyChop]

Hands down one of my favourite interviews. Loved every minute of this!

[@vanessaadofo6122]

Wow I really didn’t know what to expect but this is so relatable 😔😔😔

[@yemialade7]

Best interview I've watched in a long time. Thanks Chidera for your transparency and thanks Wunmi for facilitating such a great conversation!♥

[@STARZldnlyfe]

The best interview ever if 10% of women had this confidence the world would be a different place

[@MissssTai]

This was incredible to watch!

[@carmelmuz4220]

Great conversation !! Really enjoyed it 👌🏾

[@labakeajimobi7119]

Best interview so far ! I really enjoyed this !

[@ashavalii]

I was waitinggg for this, you're doing amazing!

[@zainabbeckford1588]

This has been enlightening and relatable

[@ladeaminu8200]

I thoroughly enjoyed watching this interview, thank you for sharing your story 🤎

[@Chimaoges_Comments]

✨🌴✨This Is A Wonderful Interview! ✨🌴✨

[@TheMakendi]

I throughly enjoyed this conversation 👌🏾♥️

[@JoyJayde]

This was an awesome conversation, enjoyed every moment of it.

[@PrettyBudget]

Such a great interview - thanks!

[@rechouka7287]

I can relate so much - such an amazing interview x

[@QueenBossism]

I loved this so much

[@mirianwendy2934]

Chiddy a gem 💎❤️❤️❤️

[@Lolalai]

I love her, that's all I'm going to say.

[@hafsasuleiman9724]

I actually love slumflower ❤

[@ogundelehabibah]

This’s really so inspiring, welldone Wunmi ❤️

[@jolie09ful]

Such a great interview Wunmi !

[@Natashaiyadi]

This was amazing

[@GrungeGalactica]

This ❤

[@ChideraAgoha.]

Love this interview!

[@juSdoNme]

I need here hat! Someone let me know where to get this, please!

[@daisy_allen]

WHERE CAN I GET THE TSHIRT!!!!!

[@tamarabello]

I am in awe.

[@ShendaeGyal]

Where’s this hat from pls 😭😍

[@peacechidinma12]

Chidera love,♥️ I love you baby girl,not your fault for being interviewed by that stupid fool .

[@TheWunmiBelloShow]

😂😂😂

[@peacechidinma12]

Olosho loose loose loose I am teaching you .🔥Dinman Kwuman 🇺🇲🇳🇬✌️ Learn

[@peacechidinma12]

😂😂😂

[@zipitzizzy2442]

exactly. not all skinfolk is kinfolk.

[@IonaRowanMacleod]

Where is her hat from?

[@Haychhx]

There’s definitely a difference between hating the behaviour and hating a group of people. The ‘I hate men’ mindset is no different to any other form of discrimination

[@Naomi-zj2yf]

Keep your standards high!

[@user-ol8mm7tm1k]

Anyone know where the hat is from ? I need this

[@SummerTyme2023]

I didnt even know this happened. 😔

[@P05P05]

Slumflower has so somany admirable traits and quite an inspiring story but dang girl she's never acknowledged the many times she's been called out for directly copying the works, words and ideas of others. Every other year there's been an exposure with plain evidence of blatant plagiarism. It's a feat she's able to continue this crusade against the other girl. The irony isn't lost on many.

[@kwameopoku3576]

Wat bout the stuff she copied from another feminist did u being dat up

[@joeroot9142]

I swear she has a twin

[@francisnwaobi]

Chidera supremacy onlyyyy!!!

[@ricardoricochet3021]

Lol if a man said all women deserved to die there would be a witch hunt the double standards

[@joeroot9142]

Who is the white girl.

[@ishabah5610]

nah man i really enjoyed this interview it was very inspiring, i love chidera she is a real one met her a few time, she may not have notice me but she is very lovely and inspiring 👏👏👏👏👏🖤🤎🖤🤎

[@MichaelRhodesno1]

I continue to love and respect Childera. We should all be taking notes. 🤎🤎😊👌🏿