Xoli Mfeka & Philani Mthembu Define Intimacy | DEFINING Intimacy S1:E3

[@DEFINING]

Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed Xoli & Philani on the channel🔥! What was your take-away from the episode ? 🤔

[@behlumatheezali]

What can we possibly take away from it.🤔

[@DEFINING]

@@behlumatheezali did you watch till the end?

[@Ms-lb7lb]

Can we have two conservative people in the next episode. Please and thank you!

[@DEFINING]

@@Ms-lb7lb Who would be your ideal guests 😄

[@behlumatheezali]

@@DEFINING ofcourse not!! Judging by the comment below mine I did not miss anything.

[@phumudzocharlestshinyani5721]

I really pray that you find Jesus Christ earlier, He is the only thing that matters..we have normalised sin forgetting that the wages of sin is death..Ask Jesus Christ to come onto your life and He will purify you .. John 3 v 16... Everything else will parish... Every eye will see Him, every knee will bring bow before Him and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is the Lord,for the glory of God..i pray for all of you to find Jesus before it's too late

[@kimandyamandakunene3262]

Is the only religion?

[@NandiphaMbaligontsi]

Jesus people though 🤒🤒🤒🤒😷😷, everywhere they be feeding us him. UQamatha uMvelinqambi, uMdali wezinto zonke nezinyanya zam are who I believe in 🤗🤗🤗. Love and peace to you though Mkrestu❤

[@savela_bethi_za]

Jesus is overrated yazi

[@TheunDaed-qb7ii]

Jesu

[@donaldmampuru9153]

You are high 😂

[@KayMahapa]

My boy Philani is at home with topic. I’ve never seen him this excited. Even at the birth of his son he wasn’t this excited 😭😭

[@bathob3625]

🤣🤣🤣

[@elnotickschit_chat9904]

Ye ke hit😂😂

[@DEFINING]

😭😭😭😭

[@nolusizodlalisa5573]

😂😂😂😂

[@qiniso_9ix467]

😂😂😂😭😭

[@NoloMamps]

For the kids: this take on intimacy is called sexual immorality.

[@Toki_M]

How can we pin this comment?🤔

[@thabomoyo2701]

I love you for this ....

[@TumiMokone]

Where is Defining headed vele😬 think it's slightly getting confusing because I personally (which can be unfair perhaps) hold this team to a certain regard - Dennis with his other channel, Bongani being married .. but at the same time - are they merely mirroring society and sometimes its just "relevant content " Eish ku tricky. But I guess thats were our agency comes in as viewers...we can totally skip some videos 🤷🏽‍♀️ or give the team constructive critique. That's my 2c's

[@chotachota3536]

Thankyou so much. The first thing is thought was, are they really describing intimacy?😢

[@nomfundomathebula528]

​@@TumiMokone📌

[@thobilemhlongo6456]

I can't believe porn is normalized nowadays. Says a lot about about the times we're living in

[@jonasmaseko9194]

People who say such often have the most interesting browser history😁

[@thobilemhlongo6456]

@@jonasmaseko9194 You don't say

[@tshiamo009]

​@@jonasmaseko9194 don't say that I am guilty

[@ndwandwewasendwedwe7964]

Kuyefana ngoba abantu badlana strong kulezinsuku

[@cyberpunk5507]

People will never agree that porn is ruining their lives

[@monalisandlovu7390]

She looks so goooood in this comfort outfit and the natural skinnnnnn😍😍🔥

[@DEFINING]

💯💯

[@davislubekokashweka8475]

Too much the natural skin is so clean

[@johanneskhanyi7349]

Not natural

[@johannesmothiba9056]

Can u pls stop saying skin thats ASS..n big ASA

[@forbezofficial]

Asking a porn star and a dude who learnt about sex through porn to define intimacy is crazy! This channel is wild'n😂

[@Kamoomonslay]

Honestly

[@omphemetsephemie5819]

Listen!

[@forbezofficial]

@@Kamoomonslay bruuh!

[@forbezofficial]

@@omphemetsephemie5819 to what? distorted perceptions?...you trippin

[@cityboycityboy7620]

It like asking a bank robber and someone in debt about financial freedom

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

Philani is so outspoken and he makes the conversation very fun. I really enjoyed this episode. 🥰

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Right?!Such a vibe😂❤

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

@@wewemhlaba7593 yessss! 😹❤️

[@SibonisoIsrael]

Imisebenzi kaSathane.Abantu abanamahloni ngamanyala abo.Impela izikhathi zokugcina lapho amadoda okufanele abheke imizi yawo ebizwa ngama clients e sapota imisebenzi yokuncola.

[@lelethulukhozi9429]

This channel is facilitating open, non judgmental conversations about real life things and topics, that most people don’t talk about or acknowledge, and you some of y’all hate to see it. Loved how real this episode was, the conversation of sex is so important and I loved that we got to learn about it from different lenses and perspectives.

[@lindokuhlemadiba-tr2yo]

Shame...

[@jacksonmpala7870]

that thing called non judgmental is what is destroying planet earth

[@lokishvibes202]

Shame...

[@thatomanaka323]

💔

[@jacksonmpala7870]

prostitute and you come here talking about the so called non whatsoever

[@RefentseNosi]

Welcome to United states of South Africa We've normalised the abnormal this generation and the next is doomed

[@Kwazeemodo100]

This is what we call progress in the black communities, adopting every destructive notion out there in the West.

[@PDAVE0308]

True

[@baneleTngcobo]

Amanyala I progress?

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

Westerners also have cultures.

[@luyandamthembu5678]

They have really good chemistry. You would swear they have known each other for years.

[@Bjm365]

It's not chemistry, bayarhalelana nje. The dark side nje justified

[@BoipeloModise-gl2hf]

You don't what's the meaning of chemistry 😂

[@lesediseemela9856]

Intimacy isn't only sexual. Kante what kind of dictionary are they reading from? But the conversation was thought provoking.

[@siviwengcwabe6005]

Philani is alwayyyss a vibe 🔥🔥🔥

[@VivianKuvare11]

Philani's message to his younger self is everything ❤

[@ladyqngomane]

Literally ❤

[@zandilemfeka1530]

I love that he acknowledges those mistakes hhey.

[@DEFINING]

You wouldn't believe that this is the first time Philani & Xoli met 😅

[@pearlmbatha3673]

Toomuch chemistry laba

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

No ways! It's like they've known each other for some time

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

Wow! What a VIBE! 🔥❤️

[@CACTUS_Riico]

Philani saw her vidz...me too I would be this excited 😅😅

[@anastasimankesemokgobu1724]

Ohh wooow, really ? You would swear they knew each other before

[@its___Möra02]

This generation is messed up! BIG TIME

[@andrewvitalis3682]

I tell you ,that's why today we have old men running governments coz this Generation is confused lost touch with reality 😢

[@andrewvitalis3682]

I tell you ,that's why today we have old men running governments coz this Generation is confused lost touch with reality 😢

[@abrahammacamo3763]

The truth

[@sithembiledlamini9652]

Very

[@chadwyn1107]

I like philanis honesty,he wasn’t afraid to say it infront of xoli that he would tell his younger self not to watch porn..that time Xoli does porn

[@kagisokodibona1127]

It's really boring me when We justify what is bad, evil and sinful🤷‍♂️we promote what is bad, evil and sinful 🤷‍♂️

[@Bjm365]

Gents listen up! Ayikho indoda ezalelwe eBank. Don't be trapped into thinking you have a responsibility to give anybody money 😂😂. Stay away from that kind of manipulation n you'll be more happier - imali yakho yimali yakho

[@Kwazeemodo100]

Ubudoda abusekho, ubuntombi abusekho, amahloni yinto engekho kanti whats going on with us, were pandering every kind of toxic behaviour out there?

[@nokwandahlongwane8286]

When Philani heard what a "Golden Shower" is. He will be scarred for life😂😂😂😂😂

[@KagoRealEstate]

I can't be the only one thinking Xoli is beautiful and warm hearted.

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

And intelligent

[@mbalib2694]

I love how she speaks, mean they both are good for this topic

[@tamiratmanamo2400]

Tbh what they’re busy talking about is interesting but there’s nothing related with true meaning of intimacy.. we can call it affection for sex 😂

[@lisa.k1969]

True

[@phumlanindlovu5653]

Xolie is so hardcore Durbanite the accent and slang is on a 💯 😅✌🏾

[@lulufierce01]

Are they friends? The chemistry is insane 😍❤

[@Fiiloe2.0]

Giiirl they dont khow each other, they only meeting for the first time😊😊😊 So crazy

[@Toki_M]

So true!

[@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297]

And just like that, DEFINING hits 200K. Congratulations. Here's to defining yourselves and our community more and more.

[@Rocklee-db4xj]

Telling her you watch her adult content is wild

[@baratangmokwana2877]

😭😭

[@thandekam9065]

I love how excited he is...its like he's BEEN meaning to have this conversation but couldn't find the right candidate. DEFINING just said BINGO!!!!😂

[@victoriamokwatlo345]

The golden shower part and Philani’s reaction 🤣🤣🤣

[@yawesambo]

This is the duo we never knew we needed😂

[@conceliamaila8995]

This lady is beautiful

[@zuzilemtembu2910]

My elder sister is Xoli Mthembu and her Husband is Philani Mfeka. Therefore my sis is now Xoli Mfeka🤭

[@smith_got_keys_1738]

Yo .. mind sharing ur instagram?

[@cassandrayolanda4220]

The spark in Philani’s eyes mekhuluma ngaleTopic😂😂😂😂Priceless😂😂

[@nthobzamkhize2911]

I think I've found myself a new favorite channel on KZbin, y'alls chemistry is insane, big ups guys 🔥❤️

[@khulekaninyuswa721]

Isn't it different people every episode

[@nh782]

She's so pretty!

[@nkosazanahlatshwayo3948]

Xoli looks beautiful

[@mbalib2694]

She’s pretty 😍

[@Freaknik_anarchy]

This world is broken

[@thatomanaka323]

Jesus is coming bro don't u worry

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

Thula wena

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

​@@thatomanaka323Then what, is he gonna give us a hiding?

[@mmangalisotreasure8958]

Philani is a super star. I did not notice this when we were in High School. Big Ups bro. Keep it pushing.

[@TheJooceza]

Thank you bro 🙏🏿

[@KCclippies]

She needs Jesus in her life✝️🚶🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@mpendulombhele5036]

Bro😢

[@NaledzaniTshifhesi-hm9fy]

😂

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

Shut up wena

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

Everyone has sex

[@Anele_Mchunu]

​@@lesegogaebeeyn4005saying everyone is crazy 🤪

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Umbuzo umile Defining fam what are we doing for 200k subbies?

[@siyabonganhlakaniphomatheb1039]

Wow... Seeing Xoli like this was pleasant. Goodness, she an attractive girl Nextdoor

[@kamoganopule]

When she said “another form of intimacy is money. Give me money mna” 😂😂💯🙌

[@easydot3313]

😂you Xhosa neh?

[@Khumalic]

Didn’t know I needed to watch this. Enjoyed every bit of it.

[@ayakanyabixa9214]

This was by far the best duo in my opinion❤

[@ShawnJunior-m7p]

The relationship she have with her bf is not love, its a fucking body relationship

[@Lunar.cipher]

I would like to be on this show. I'm polyamorous and think that Poly relationships aren't really talked about.

[@nkibanemasenya213]

So true n ALOT OF US WOMAN ARE OPEN TO THAT IF WE PUT IT TO VOTE U WILL see 50% of woman are up for it.

[@simthandilebhengu9409]

😂😂😂😂😂tjo hhay

[@victorlebza]

I'm also Poly, and the world just isn't easy ready enough bra. Cheating is more acceptable at this stage.

[@PureBrand-xh5wp]

even marriage will destroy your life, everything has an potential of destroying your life.

[@phumlatenacious]

This was fire🔥 🔥 Philani and Xoli should consider starting a podcast. Even the crew was blown

[@a_carefree_butterfly]

a podcast thats about porn and sex everyday? okay lol. 😌

[@Nkosikhonamasemola9100]

100percent behind ur back❤✌️😅😚

[@lokishvibes202]

Shame

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

✊

[@cebompanza3860]

Best combo for such conversations 😂😂👏🏾🔥

[@beingcoolaintenough]

He saw her videos 😢😢😢😢bruh didn't lie

[@lawrencebore7767]

i am the only one who finds it insane that, there is nothing that separates her "man" from everybody else

[@KhanyiiDlaminii23]

"But igirlfriend allowance where I need to take out idebit order"😂I truly agree with him on the girlfriend allowance part...this was a great video and the chemistry between them was unmatched 😭😭😭we need part 2❣️

[@siphelelemjwara]

First Question! What is intimacy. The guy says touch n i hv a type. I was bored immediately 😂😂😂

[@kwetsephetla3597]

Dude 😭

[@dansterasiphesona5306]

Xoli is so beautiful ,I just wish she didn’t do this with her life but I’m sure she has her reasons . I wish her all the best yazi she deserves it 😢❤

[@FionaJayy]

For real , I really wish she didn't destroy herself like this but I wish her all the best

[@lesediradise9739]

Loved this episode..Xoli has a dope character 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@chuenemasoga1935]

They're going to have it this two 😂

[@nishamtitima8988]

No, But this girl is Beautiful 😭

[@FionaJayy]

So beautiful but she's degrading herself so much 😢😢

[@xolajonas3424]

When ever you have sex with another person you exchanging energies, so you have people with good and bad energies,some using good Muti others bad Muti, sex is physical n spiritual also and affects you , same time your ancestors too. The rest you can think for yourself. Because in future you claim you have bad luck , while you gathering it in your early lifetime. "Wat goes up, comes back down" when you least expect.

[@Chidzy.M]

"Shuthi umnandi wena"🤣🤣🤣🤣 yoh philani😭😭😭🤣

[@victoriamokwatlo345]

😂😂

[@joylinemudzingwa9801]

😂😂

[@brianmolele7264]

Xoli kinda looks like SZA

[@Palesa-Amanda]

I appreciate how open they are despite them meeting for the first time 🤞🏾

[@crosbymakhalimaiv931]

Xoli man, I look at this nigga and how excited he is. Wish i was the one asking questions kid u not!!

[@XolisileMfeka]

Let’s Goooo 😂😂😂😂📌

[@DEFINING]

It was so much fun having you on the channel 🤩

[@bokanisenda7361]

Lot's of love ❤❤❤

[@bongekagumbu5027]

You’re beautiful Xoli and this was so much fun

[@boichokophiri7867]

Are you ready to shot content with dude?

[@innocenttatenda5826]

Ukuphi siyakufuna eh Durban 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@innocenttatenda5826]

Xoli she's beautiful shame.....❤❤❤❤

[@tshepohope7948]

I like phelani's "younger self advise"

[@mikemudimba5531]

Philani stand up. I want to confirm something 😄😄

[@Pamela_MrsMike]

It's when Philani asked "so you pee on him....."😂He was sooo shoook.

[@lesegogaebeeyn4005]

He got turned on you mean?

[@kefiloesebogodi8378]

Let them do more videos, they work well together. ... good vibes

[@kaylomayekiso3851]

😂😅Connection between these two, unmatched! Content. Vibes. Energy on💯💯

[@vuyeyaleticia6312]

Philani is shocked🤣

[@DEFINING]

completely 🤣🤣🤣

[@sphesihlecomfort4985]

They both seem like they have chemistry, just on their first time

[@kitsoyaonephatudi1274]

This Philani guy is just imagining things in his mind.😂😂😂

[@tsoelellosibisi6987]

Usechamile lomfo

[@nokwaoo]

Uih okay .... maybe if they introduced these personalities we would've understood maybe what this particular context of intimacy could involve. A bit brash though at the outset.

[@hlakaniphanicele6059]

After I'm done watching this... I'm watching one of her vidz🥱

[@gbishopmulaudzi8675]

Life is all about choices,don't judge 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@mzansifamilyvalues8040]

Lol no ways she has made 400k a month...that means she has seen atleast 4 mill in two years if she is making between 100k to 500k a month...but you have no car and live in boulders Midrand...Cap...

[@ThabisoDisanyana]

Golden-Shower😮Guys.. Joh🙌

[@platinumheartaartist]

And I know someone’s outchere wit a closed mind, open it and leave all opinions till the end. Y’all low-key be dreaming and doing these things and feel ashamed highlighting your judgment based on social opinions. Relax, you grown fam. This real talk.

[@lexioko]

Defining is such a great channel. 💖

[@DEFINING]

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@starboy1380]

This was a dope ass interview. Thank you for you competency Philani 🔥

[@SanelisiweMdlalose-h6p]

I agree with philani you can't ask for more money same time mawuphiwa noo

[@eltonndawana9597]

RIP to this generation 😢

[@loadview]

if i hear lies i leave because why are we here?

[@williambigsos761]

Lying u will feel weather u put ur mind elsewhere a feeling is a feeling, she just don't wanna dissapoint her hubby

[@mukovhebaloyi1475]

first time seeing xoli do an interview sober minded

[@lwelimakhaga4459]

People praise sexual immorality and it’s leading many to hell Seek Jesus and you shall have victory

[@thandondima1150]

Philani you should try being a naturist with your girl the lifestyle is very enjoyable trust me I know😊

[@NtokozoSiwelaDiamond-j5g]

It's a very tricky one but very good conversation from Philani

[@Ma_Akho21]

One Of The Best Interviews Ever🔥🔥🔥😂

[@nkosii.M]

philani's blood was hot during this interview

[@sinethembadeyi3595]

Philani is very correct with points he made on girlfriend allowance

[@liamwhisprs]

Thank god she aint xhosa omg

[@AkhamahleGxagxama-wu2pq]

Thats my reaction too like xhosa's are already damned

[@TshegofatsoRacoco-r5x]

My advice to one with interest be surrounded by health practitioners first including a pro body gaurd. Just the basics.

[@qiniso_9ix467]

Her level of innocence amazes Me 🔥🔥🤞🏿💕

[@sibusisolukemoela4624]

A porn star bro really?? That's so wild 😂

[@nolusizodlalisa5573]

I actually agree with you! Every interview of hers I have seen she comes off as such a genuine and honest person....and to me that's the essence of innocence

[@OneKingAboveAll]

Innocent people don't have sex?

[@authenticstories2571]

Xoli is Soo wholesome and there is a purity about her❤

[@thabomoyo2701]

​@@authenticstories2571purity? 😮

[@skhanyisozulu651]

Amasimba laba ubufebe Stupidity on Steroids 😮

[@husainalli]

Imagine. Tapping 14 times per week without a mention of Lobola. Its either she goes up in value or he moves on.