When you are raised in the same race and similar environment.. it is so tough to see love.. or to see affections or sentiments... It really is ?..... But this is whereby, you would need some "me time"... detach and to stop projection.... in order to find that inner feeling. Which is quite hard. It is very weird... cos.. when guys are emotional... I kind of detested this, a lot. As well... whereas women, or being in front of women... you kind of... but you know who you do like or don't like etc. Cos you would sense it... Like, when a friend of mine became too girly,.. I rejected this feeling. You need to stay strong with your heart... and not to be too logical.. Which is so rare.