Kismet | Ep. 6 "Foster Care Adoption and Reunion"

[@misswinner3627]

Thanks for sharing your story and feelings about your being adopted. I love your calm disposition. I could listen to you talk all day!! Best wishes!!!

[@simonwhite4330]

Wow you are an amazing person, you should be so proud of yourself youself. Any parent would be blessed to have you as their daughters.

[@chuthi1399]

I am a single foster mom. I am thinking adopting my foster daughter. So I am searching to hear how adopt kids grow up feel and what I can learn to make my future adopt children happy and have a great life. Thanks for sharing your story and pleasure to hear your calm and sweet voice….I also always dream to have mix family all my children are different but all have the same kindness heart are care to other…. wishes you happy everyday with your reunited family….

[@beckybryant9891]

This is just my opinion, but as long as you are a loving person that can give everything you can to a child, then the child will feel you wanted them completely if you adopt them. Foster children must feel in limbo all the time, not fully accepted and therefore insecure. I know you will not have an income, as with a foster child, but from the child's viewpoint, it's everything to them.

[@robinsmith3987]

ahhh.. mom even in her impaired state of mind...she wanted you to know that she loved you and you were not forgot.....so glad y have those cards and letters to hold...

[@squirrelboss7067]

You’re both lovely! I’m happy that you had good adoptive parents.

[@almas6088]

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[@suzannevandivort3278]

You both sound the same, have that same soft calming voice!

[@arielm1112]

I am 11 years apart from my oldest sister as well as my youngest brother and I have always been very very close to both. I love the age gap!

[@user-cy4vw1qj9m]

Lovely person.

[@rachaelfredenburg7037]

As a mother who adopted 3 children, my heart is breaking for your adopted mother. It sounds like you didn't have a very good relationship with her. Are you still in touch with her? I love my children as if I gave birth to them myself, and would be devastated if they just walked away from me.

[@shelbyredfieldkilgore]

Filmmaker speaking. I believe she continues to have a relationship with her adoptive mom. In many cases when adoptees speak about the things they struggled with growing up, and may still continue struggling with at times, it stems from the initial loss. I think it can be really difficult for parents to meet the needs of several children, add special needs in, and possibly different ones for each child, it may be not all their needs may be met, unfortunately. I’m not sure if you watched until the end, but I feel she has much love for her adoptive mom.

[@rachaelfredenburg7037]

@@shelbyredfieldkilgore Yes I wrote this thinking it was over, then I heard her talk about her adoptive parents.

[@erinash1231]

This is Erin here! Of course I have a relationship with my mother!!! Maybe we don't see eye to eye..but I love her with my whole heart! I'm actually here living with her now and have my own daughter!! Its most of my adoptive siblings that I don't get along with well. A lot of them are just not good to my mom. And I've had many issues with many of my siblings..so I distance myself from them. My mom is the number one person I care about in this family!! I care about her and would give my life for her. I don't know how you got that I don't have a good relationship with my mom from this? But I definitely do!

[@mimit9308]

The word kismet means destiny or fate !

[@cynthiaallen9225]

So many foster parents take sooo many kids. Why is that?

[@shelbyredfieldkilgore]

That is not a simple question to answer. I think it depends where you are in the U.S. If you watch my Beyond Biological series, you'll see how the opioid crisis epidemic hit Appalachia 10 years before it spread all over the US. It really mirrored the crack epidemic. So drugs and addiction is one factor. The cycle continuing spanning generations. Many times parents that have lost their kids to the courts, were foster care kids themselves. Poverty, no support, unable to navigate the sometimes confusing government forms to apply for aid. Not enough resources to help parents in need. I would say if the system treated every family the same, we would see more kids displaced, because it is not as likely for kids in middle and upper middle class homes to be removed from the home for abuse. There are so many forms of abuse - physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, neglect.... On the flip side, some kids are removed for reasons that could be easily remedied if they could help the family with resources, such as food and daycare. A single parent could be working three jobs to provide for their children, and the kids are removed because of neglect. Each situation for kids being removed is unique and not always in their best interest. Actually, there aren't enough foster parents to care for kids that have been removed from their homes in the US. You could watch Valerie's episode. She was in a group home and was an older teenager when she was adopted. Many children age out of the system. Some foster parents opt not to adopt but to become legal guardians. There are also many foster parents not equipped, as well as adoptive parents, to help their children walk through the trauma that they experienced and those kids are displaced again. It's a very hard question to answer and different people may give you different reasons.