You Can’t Miss What’s Meant For You

[@lsls-lb7qv]

God is never late. He is always on time. This expression is relevant to your video as well. It helped me a lot to let go a person I love.

[@shalv1731]

I have been on a similar journey of letting go and trying to be myself without worrying why someone didn’t like me. Universe sent this video to me to reinforce my beliefs

[@itsmeardenleigh]

It’s an honor to be a part of the message delivery! 😊

[@albertagerlt9055]

Do you have suggestions for ways to calm, comfort and soothe ones self while waiting for the things we want?

[@brain0nfire]

The problem with this mentality is that no matter how authentic you are you can still get left when you need most and you can still not be cared for. When you advertise insecurity, insecure people will leave you and secure people will tolerate you only so far; but when you advertise security, secure people will come and go for different reasons and insecure people will latch on to you or leave you just because they would rather abandon you first than be abandoned. Sure you can stay in your lane and watch people come and go, but that doesn't solve your life, neither it will make you immune to traumas or other people's moves. Everyone wants to game life and have a mindset strategy to come out on top but the reality is that life is chaos and we are all thrown up against one another and what will be will be. Secure people attract everyone (secure or insecure); and insecure people repulse everyone (secure or insecure). No matter where you're at, there's always good and bad about your situation. You can't game life.

[@itsmeardenleigh]

In saying “secure people attract everyone and insecure people repulse everyone,” you’ve just proved the point of why adopting the mindset of this video is effective :)

[@brain0nfire]

@@itsmeardenleigh you can't install a healthy program in an unhealthy person. The way people behave has a tradition rooted in the past that present relationships still display. Insecurely attatched people have deep flaws, incidental or accidental, that they complement with partners or social circles that are in some way subject to the same fate as well, for similar/analogous complementary reasons. It's hard to explain in a few words, but let's say every person competes for every other person; people with better pasts have psychodynamics that will make them more suited to pair with other like minded people. Not to mention that all that stability makes people more competent and wealthy, as byproduct. If you produce a hierarchical ladder of this pairing up algorithm you end up with most secure with most secure, some insecure with some secure, a smaller group of insecure with insecure, but mostly insecure alone or at least more isolated. It suits their circumstance and psychodynamic. The absense of leverage and mental stability is a natural deterrent. Even insecurely attatched people push partners away because deep down they know they are doing them a favor and to themselves, not wanting to cathex in a relationship unlikely to last. If you install a 'healthy mindset' you don't remove the vulnerabilities never fixed since the past. You just create a person that crosses the road blindfolded with a smile on her face. Securely attatched people are not saints and they are on a different pace and stage in life. To them, 'insecure' people are like a dead horse they have to drag, one they don't understand. Because to know and to understand a person's predicament are two different things. One does not simply understand a person without having similar analogous experiences. It's just not relatable, which creates a different internal library and a different language both people speak. This gap is also very hard to bridge and it will lead to all sorts of frustrations and misconconceptions between differently attatched people. It comes to mind how insecurely attatched people often try to drag partners or other people in general down to their level. It comes off as extremely toxic but, rationally, it's an attempt to reproduce the conditions that made them the way they are to initiate others in their essence so as to become relatable, all the while push the other person down closer to them. Like cutting off their legs so they can join the legless. There are no easy solutions I reckon. I'm not sure some insecure can turn their lives around. Some trauma and subsequent mindsets are there for life (for a reason). I hope they manage to turn their lives around, but, mechanistically, I don't often see how they can...

[@brain0nfire]

@itsmeardenleigh you can't install a healthy program in an unhealthy person. The way people behave has a tradition rooted in the past that present relationships still display. Insecurely attatched people have deep flaws, incidental or accidental, that they complement with partners or social circles that are in some way subject to the same fate as well, for similar/analogous complementary reasons. It's hard to explain in a few words, but let's say every person competes for every other person; people with better pasts have psychodynamics that will make them more suited to pair with other like minded people. Not to mention that all that stability makes people more competent and wealthy, as byproduct. If you produce a hierarchical ladder of this pairing up algorithm you end up with most secure with most secure, some insecure with some secure, a smaller group of insecure with insecure, but mostly insecure alone or at least more isolated. It suits their circumstance and psychodynamic. The absense of leverage and mental stability is a natural deterrent. Even insecurely attatched people push partners away because deep down they know they are doing them a favor and to themselves, not wanting to cathex in a relationship unlikely to last. If you install a 'healthy mindset' you don't remove the vulnerabilities never fixed since the past. You just create a person that crosses the road blindfolded with a smile on her face. Securely attatched people are not saints and they are on a different pace and stage in life. To them, 'insecure' people are like a dead horse they have to drag, one they don't understand. Because to know and to understand a person's predicament are two different things. One does not simply understand a person without having similar analogous experiences. It's just not relatable, which creates a different internal library and a different language both people speak. This gap is also very hard to bridge and it will lead to all sorts of frustrations and misconconceptions between differently attatched people. It comes to mind how insecurely attatched people often try to drag partners or other people in general down to their level. It comes off as extremely toxic but, rationally, it's an attempt to reproduce the conditions that made them the way they are to initiate others in their essence so as to become relatable, all the while push the other person down closer to them. Like cutting off their legs so they can join the legless. There are no easy solutions I reckon. I'm not sure some insecure can turn their lives around. Some trauma and subsequent mindsets are there for life (for a reason). I hope they manage to turn their lives around, but, mechanistically, I don't often see how they can...

[@steveward5925]

thanks for this, just discovering vibration and law of attraction, so this is a new Journey for me, you're so pretty x

[@drewtrulock333]

i always have to leave my town to start over or where im located lol good video. ive been manipulative before in relationships and i feel bad for doing that.

[@unknowndes1re]

Thanks

[@peanutbuttergoblin7129]

Thank you for this!

[@itsmeardenleigh]

You’re very welcome!

[@kittykat4313]

I don't find this though comforting. What if there is nothing good meant for me?

[@sarangbhanap7343]

@kittykat4313 Hey, When you be the authentic version of yourself and every word you speak is what you believe to be the truth, whatever happens to you, actually happens for you and that is the best that can happen.

[@eduardo1308eduardo]

Great video at the right moment, go figure.

[@itsmeardenleigh]

Thank you! probably for me too! 😂🙏🏻

[@drewtrulock333]

it hit me

[@juliesings2]

yikes, still didn't understand what on earth you were trying to say.

[@itsmeardenleigh]

yikes, imagine flexing a lack of comprehension 😬