You Can't Use That Word!!!

The girls told them, "You can't use that word!"It takes a lot of bravery to stand up to people and tell them when what they are doing is wrong. Especially when they don't even realize what's wrong about it. They chose to be advocates and educate others and I'm so proud of them. There are words that are extremely offensive to the special needs community. Kylie and Summer find out first hand that there is still so much that needs to be done for autism acceptance, autism awareness, and special needs acceptance in general. Words can hurt and we should all be more mindful of hurting others. I'm so proud of them for standing up for our girl and others.
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[@Clarey-ke6vb]

Excuse for why Abbie was late to school today Friday... “worked the concession stand at my brother’s school last night”. Haha Great vlog as always! Way to go, Summer and Kylie!! #Advocate #cawcaw 😂

[@Autmazing]

“I was following the ABA protocol and they weren’t having it.” 😂😂😂 We are late so often and I wish our school had a place to write reasons. Because no matter how early we start and how well prepared I think I am... at least once or twice a week there’s something.

[@colleenmcindoe6812]

I need a full video on why kids are late to school 😂

[@kaylashelbourne1748]

That would be so good 😁😁😁

[@christinabonnell7953]

Not all

[@sophiehoney]

*The Yoda voice on Abbies tablet 😂😂. So glad Summer and her friend spoke up about the R word. I get so annoyed when people use that word* 💚

[@lorihuff7511]

Sophie Honey yes. I have see people use R word that I hate. It makes me angry. I think hearing people called me R-word. I’m deaf. They bullied me then I fight with them. That’s long ago I was 9. I fought with them. She put her hand on so I slammed my shoe on her hand. I stand up. I’m glad that many of my friends and you support together and said not use that word. You’re stand up too.

[@auburneytuckerson2959]

What is the "r" word?

[@reneecote7187]

I hate that word the r word as if it’s something to be proud of it’s vile and disgusting way to go summer

[@reneecote7187]

And I mean this in a nice way no one needs to say that word

[@gracer503]

I love how Isaiah's friend said "pink backpack" and not "autistic". That's awesome

[@bethl4674]

I thought the same thing :)

[@gracer503]

Mel, I never said there was? But autistic isn't an adjective. You don't use it to describe someone.

[@jenifer200809]

Ok the look on summers face when Abbie controlled Alexa was priceless and way to go summer for advocating for those of us with mental challenges

[@emma_in_mn]

Abby showing Summer how she can talk to Alexa and looking so proud made me so happy.

[@SixBlindKids]

So proud of Summer and Kylie for standing up and speaking out!

[@cassyork3553]

Isaiah’s anxiety with the concessions is a metaphor for all of my jobs lmfao

[@artiemuse]

Same. Hahaha

[@cassyork3553]

social anxiety is so much fun!!!!

[@patriciahowellcassity767]

My husband and I were out walking and a group of people were passing us. He heard one use the r word. He immediately spoke up and said please don't use that. He is in his first year of special education teacher, 54 years old, and the kind of person that does not say anything, very timid around strangers. Afterwards he and I was very proud of his quick response.

[@fatheringautism]

Good for him!

[@babygirlbabygirl8020]

Thank God for people like your husband he is a good man

[@mirandamoreno5377]

Were not working the concession stand, were just stocking it and organizing it. Week 2, were working the concession stand. Lol every school needs parents like you. You guys make the best team.

[@colleenmcindoe6812]

Poor Mav, he’s such a trooper! And super proud of Summer and Kylie, way to stand up and advocate! #spreadthewordtoendtheword y’all! Love the vlog today you guys!

[@athf226]

Liked for Summer and her friend's standing up. I'll admit I've used the R-word before, and at this point I am definitely ashamed, but especially after watching a lot of your vlogs, and fairly recently having a young cousin with DNS (along with one aunt as a special education teacher, and another as a speech language pathologist) I have realized how insensitive and really rude it can be. It's one of those things where it's easy not to think about until it starts to hit close to home, so to say. I really enjoy the advocacy that comes along with your vlog, and the fact that you really make us feel like part of your family with all of the love and conversation you have with everyone. If you ever find yourselves smack-dab in the middle of PA I'll happily treat you all to Dunkin.

[@Glacire1990]

athf226 another pa person here... Harrisburg!

[@SmearCampaignsAreEvil]

And the insurance company said that she showed "no desire to communicate"... You should show them the clip of her communicating with Alexa and her happiness and pride!

[@kellieh854]

Natasha Lysette YES!!

[@Tenareful]

I wish people would not act like communication is only verbal even people who do speak use multiple ways to communicate abby has awesome communication with her signing and tablet

[@noellelee4138]

Yay! I lurked on youtube long enough to be one of the first comments ❤ Adding (since I watched)-great vlog, I enjoy all of them. It's wonderful having you guys to watch. We haven't connected to any local Autism families so you guys are as close as it gets for now :)

[@rayapervez6232]

Lovely

[@Diwondermum]

You all did awesome in the concession. Considering it was the first time for Abbie there she handled herself well. It just shows how awesome parents you are. Some parents would not even have attempted to do the concession let alone do it so well! Go Maas family!! Bug hugs!!

[@shanell7683]

On my worst of day's, you all brighten mine. I realize daily to be thankful for every single moment. I appreciate everyone of you. Sending so much love from Minnesota. Blessings 💙💛❤💙💛❤

[@lameasscatlady]

“Alexa, play me some boy band jams on prime”. I feel as if Abs hasn’t had proper exposure to the boy band life. It’s a necessity for any teenage girl!! 🤪

[@fatheringautism]

She prefers 90's hip hop. #ThatsMyGirl

[@PianoDisneygal10]

Good on Summer and Kylie for speaking up! I hope they continue to be advocates!

[@imawesomeavi688]

Thanks for making me and everyone else who watches happy and keep doing what makes u and everyone else happy

[@leslieholland7843]

I'm late seeing this, but your family were troopers!! Way to go, y'all!!!

[@sherrypalmer4347]

She doing so good helping😊

[@MelB868]

One of the kids in my Sunday school class has autism and he ran out and went outside. I got him down off the slide he slid down I couldn’t pick him up and I took his hand and got him inside the church. I told him no we can’t play outside it’s about time for devotion then Sunday school. They started putting two teachers for a class unless they are teenagers we only have a few. I’m glad to have two teachers per class.

[@BarbaraJeanFecich]

I'm late to the party but leaving my first comment! :) Been watching your blog for a few months now, our almost 4 year old is so much like Abbie. We just got approved for our communication device (iPad) and can't wait to teach our little guy to talk to Alexa! You bring so much hope and humor to our days. Thanks for being here and for keeping it real!

[@wastyeasty8042]

I work in Midtown Manhattan (super close to Summer's school), and a customer used the r-word the other day. I said, "please don't use that word. It's really hurtful." She used it again and I stood firm. The customer left, and I hope she stops using that word. It's honestly so shocking because I haven't heard anyone use it in YEARS, and the woman was in her mid-30s. It happened with another customer earlier this week when I wasn't there. Smh.

[@tittysweatt]

"you're making her nerdy" LMAO oh my god i love you guy.

[@koreanchick1417]

Oh boy..Abbie in a room with unlocked fridge and freezer! Lol bet she was loving that! :-p thinking *heck yeah I can get all the food and drink I want now! Hahha

[@annettewhitbeck6072]

Yeah for Summer. Miss you.

[@xsarahtiger24x]

so proud of Summer and Kylie for sticking up for Abbie and other's that word is hurtful. Abbie was so happy in this vlog ;)

[@cherylboyanowski5452]

Yeah, I got it before I fell asleep. I was thinking I would have to wait. I really miss it when I don't get to see one daily. Thanks for making part of my day.

[@britaneelilly8147]

Yay for standing up for what's right, Summer and Kylie! It is an ongoing battle in my life as it's a very commonly used insult in Oregon, especially the area near us, with lots of "hicks." Some people just don't understand how hurtful these things can be, the power of their words. Story time: my husband invited a coworker over for dinner recently. He was raised in a completely neurotypical environment and had never been around anyone atypical (even though he has a nephew on the spectrum, he hasn't met him). That said, he is a sweet kid, just completely ignorant. I overheard a conversation between him and my husband about having children. The coworker said the only way he'd have children was if he had to adopt his (not local) sister's children in an emergency. He goes on to say "I'd only take my niece though, I don't want a kid with Autism (his nephew)." The look on my husband's face was priceless. He was waiting to see what I'd say. Momma Bear doesn't tolerate that crap. I said "Excuse me? What did you just say?" and again, my husband looked frightened haha. "You would abandon a child simply because he has Autism? You've been playing with an Autistic kid all afternoon. Why don't you tell me what's "wrong" with her?" He stumbled on his words and said "Yeah, but she's not retarded." I think there may have actually been smoke coming from my ears at this point. Normally I'm a level headed person but that doesn't fly. Our nephew has an intellectual disability and this Auntie loves him fiercely, he's so damn cool. The R word is not allowed in my house and everyone knows it. I don't remember what I said to the coworker but he hasn't been brave enough to come back for dinner. He did, however, ask my husband about our baby girl the next day at work. Hopefully he learned something and will change his thinking!

[@lorikiszkawoods9350]

I was getting worried. I was beginning to think we were not getting a vlog tonight and I can't sleep without my Maass fix. I love you guys so much! I can't believe in this day and age that there is still such a lack of awareness about Autism. It's not because the information is not out there because it is but take heart, it's not just Autism. There is a general lack of awareness about a lot of disabilities. For example, my Spina Bifida. As far as the R word goes, there is never an excuse to use that word. Ever! That is not a lack of awareness. That is a lack of compassion period! Sorry that is one thing that really sets me off! I am so proud of Summer for standing up for Abbie and all the other Abbie's in the world.

[@seifalah0626]

Glad to see Summer and Kylie being advocates. It's not always easy but what matters is you come out on top in the end over the haters

[@daysmile12]

Hey beautiful family. Hi and Thank you again Summer and Kylie. This subject is one that is of importance to me because everyone knows there are so many negative things in this world that need to be changed or addressed. Fortunately there are so much more positive and very awesome gold hearted people like you guys are, the Maass Squad are and so many that come and go unnoticed because good people never ask for anything in return and continue to try to make a difference . I am so proud of you all and those who continue to try to put and end to all negative actions , words, etc and not giving up on doing good things for others despite being knocked down, made fun of and whatever else happens. We all know it's not easy however with awareness, education, and so many other positive options around because there are people who care, love, respect, have plenty of knowledge, have so much understanding, kindness, etc. I know and they know these positive ways to make our world better doesn't cost a thing and until those who think they know despite not having to walk in the shoes of others, no one should have the right to think the know what right or wrong or judging others is ok. It's never ok, NO human being is better than another. We all have a lot more in common if those who think that they are better than others. They should take a few minutes to stop and think about it. Stop and see what really matters in life. All that matters is making some kind of a positive change, something most people want but can't for whatever the reason are. We all need to go out there, UNITED in STRENGTH and make differences, no matter how big or small it is so important and for those who continue to do so I THANK YOU for being who you are and for what you do from my heart to your hearts. As always love you guys, thank you, you will always have us by your side and know how much you are all thought of, appreciated and so much more. Pleases take care, be safe and continue being the wonderful , inspirational and awesome family I am so honored to know. Have a wonderful weekend. Hope Priscilla and Maverick are getting better with each new day. 😘💜💛😇🌟🐶

[@szqsk8]

Asa: "I have confidence in her." Priscilla: chuckles

[@amytih47]

You are just such a beautiful family. Watching your vlogs makes my heart happy xx

[@mkaemarin]

Recently came across your channel and I love what you do! I am an autism mama in NYC. My son is 8 and low functioning. People I work with and meet always expect ASD kids to be some variant of high functioning and it just isn't real. We need to educate people on the struggles and need for support in our community. I have been thinking about starting a channel myself for this reason. Keep it up mom and dad. 💙💙

[@tiffanywolcott7860]

Summer and Kylie am very proud of you girls for stepping up.

[@honeybunnysam]

Hahaha I laughed so hard at the Yoda voice on Abbie’s tablet😂 Great vlog guys!!

[@pedigocaitlin]

My mother is one of the wonderful kind patient women who are special education teachers, she is going on 30 years sp'ed! She doesn't love IEP' s either but I think the ones who try and the ones who arr invested in chikdrens lives deserve some props and really respect.

[@Dakota-Rose]

I’m so proud of the girls. Takes alot of guts to speak up. Especially at such a young age where fitting in is important at that age. So speaking up is not easy. I love your conversation’s in the car with Priscilla.

[@natalijaparadiso7566]

Team work ...Abbie did well from what I saw way to go 👍👍👍 Isiah to the rescue you are n amazing brother, hugs to all of you love you guys so much ❤❤❤❤🇨🇦

[@nicolemadsen3463]

Way to advocate, Summer and Kylie!!

[@guadalupepineda5954]

You guys are quite a team! Great job Maass family!👍👏

[@joanmcgilton5148]

There is a lot of words that people just don’t think that’s not nice to say. Like the R word the N word and M word. People needs to be aware and educated. Good for Summer and her friend.

[@blackeyedbutterfly]

Also I think that ppl who have been using certain words need a little time to self correct and gentle reminders are great until their lexicon catches up.

[@joanmcgilton5148]

The m word is a name what people call little people. It would be Midget.

[@annab8470]

Joan Mcgilton what's the R AND M WORD I don't understand

[@autumnsteel307]

I just stand up for people without much thought or much fear... I do get that feeling sometimes, i can only speak for myself but If i was on the scene I couldve done the EXACT same thing In short I'm here for you whenever you need me :) *reaches out*

[@Theycallmemar]

Summer did the right thing Spread the word too end the word

[@patriciab2591]

Good job summer and Kylie. They both were great advocates for Abby actually all of us. You can tell how much they really love Abby. And Abby is going to be a very successful DJ later on in life.

[@kaylashelbourne1748]

Yes 100% 😁😁

[@bethl4674]

ACES, I AM CALLING YOU OUT DUDE ! Seriously ! ?? "a semi successful win" ??? No way fathering! I was OVERJOYED to see how well it went. Yes, I did not see all the behind the scenes action but she did not have a melt down or anything "dramatic". Why am I really calling you out? You need to give each of you (in your household) a lot of credit for all you do with Abbie and just THAT is a success. I called you out to tell you to give yourself (selves?) more credit. I ADORE all of you and have MUCH respect for each of you ! PS: I use to be a foster mom to "special needs" children. I had 35 children in foster care in my home and adopted 2 of them (they have sadly passed away), so I am very aware that we need to give ourselves pats on the back, even for the "not 100% successful wins" - said with LOVE & Prayers :)

[@eternal.prospect]

It was so fun to watch you guys work the concession stand!

[@lori750]

Ok.... granted, I'm probably a cry baby due to menopause hormones...lol....but, Summer has me n tears right now. As I've stated my late big sis was mentally challenged and back in the 70's that dang word was used as a "catch all" for any/every mental disability. I'm SO NOT PC... yet it's just terribly insensitive and hurtful. Summer, I am extremely impressed by your leadership and humanitarian qualities. I pray that more young folks will follow you and Isaiah's lead and realize that it's just NOT COOL to be oblivious to the feelings of others! With teenagers such as yourselves....I have hope for the future. 🌠

[@jimmyfallonfan98]

I love watching your videos! It’s my way to unwind after a long day of class and work. Thank you for being an amazing family!!

[@BethBoots]

Awesome save when Abbie tried to walk out of the concession stand❣

[@alysha7173]

Catching up on old videos and this is my favorite so far loved it

[@deblavan4190]

Summer you 2 were great advocates!! Great job!

[@KiT-vv4sm]

9:19 "oh my gosh im losing my mind!" Haha yup thats the fast food life for you

[@fallonrives1877]

I love watching abbie grow everyday it's incredible! She is making amazing progress, and she is becoming such an amazing girl, not that she wasn't already but you get what i'm saying ;), love your vlog's and keep doing what ya'll are doing!!!!!

[@JustBethTrying]

Every day is a victory!

[@didiplus3]

Love you guys!

[@faithandautism-myjourney264]

Go Abbie. And yay summer you teach them to change their ways. ❤️

[@Cheye-one]

So proud of Summer and friend for speaking up and wish more people would do so. Abbie did a great, all things considered. btw my son and I wear our bracelets all the time #MaassSquadAllTheWay

[@leslieholland7843]

Summer and Kylie did great. Thanks!

[@Nelphoto]

Omg! The being late to school excuses remind me of my senior year of high school 😂 I had such bad senioritis, and when I turned 18, I could write my own late notes, so I kept having to be creative to think of new acceptable excuses 😂😂 As for Isiah, I spent the first 13 years of my working years in food service. It is not easy. Believe me.

[@elle11993]

I don't know anyone with autism but I enjoy your videos and find them very informative about autism. I enjoy watching y'all's awesome videos, keep up the awesome work and stay awesome! #maasssquad

[@debbiepetaccio4203]

Abbey was a great supervisor.

[@amberchamberlin3967]

When the time comes, what would be the best way to approach puberty / periods?

[@AnnaBananaLM]

Well what did y’all put today for the tardy?

[@wt0416]

Wow. Go summer! Ur new in the team, but u spoke up. We are all proud of u.

[@pandabear7073]

I think your children did very well ps you too that was so amazing that you guys do that for everyone

[@niasha7317]

I'm liking this, Abby can talk now :) and I feel that this is gonna give her more good days. I didn't quite get what the title was all about but through summer's video call, I'm guessing it has something to do with standing up for Abby and defending Autism, :) this warmed my heart because i know how people can be so disrespectful to others who isn't within the same wavelength as they are and that's wrong., they need to know their place and have manners - don't treat individuals like that, they have feelings., anyway I'm gonna stop here, because the disrespectfulness shown to others often makes me angry, nevertheless I'm encouraging y'all to keep up the great work. Summer do have a blessed time wherever you are, good luck in your endeavors and guys - take care and all the very best.

[@lilliantrevino6940]

Awesome Job Family.....Thank You Summer and Kyle My Son has PDD-NOS and he is also Mildly intellectual. So Thank You.

[@kellieh854]

Yeah summer and kylie!! I get very upset when people use the R word too, and I usually say something, especially if I know them. You have definitely inspired me to be even more assertive about it though, it is so important!

[@maefynan754]

I hated going to my IEP meetings. Terrible school system in Arizona. My teachers never showed up so it was always my case manager and my mom.

[@racheallewis3283]

Isiah is awesome, he is so helpful. It will be sad when he isn’t there to help anymore.

[@ashleytompkins1221]

Summer you are the best for doing that !! You guy should do a spread the word to end the word thing at you school . I have siblings with special needs and remember getting really mad at a boy in my class in six grade for saying the R words . I told him why and never hear him say it again.

[@sarakeith5480]

You all did a fantastic job!! I was never good at concession stands back in the day!! Thankfully becoming a nurse was the right fit for me!! Summer and Kiley are two wonderful young ladies who are making a difference on this planet!! Love you guys!! Have a fantastic weekend!! Love you Maverick!!

[@janaleonard4702]

Way to go Mass family! You are amazing! So proud of the girls

[@rmjames83]

Woop Woop for Abbie in the situation she was in!!!-And you guys too!!!! I would imagine she wouldn’t be at the ground very often (because you have said that football is Isaiah’s time)-combine that with basically her foot nailed to the floor-in one spot for a long time-it’s testimony to the amazing work your whole family is doing!! You are making so much progress!!! Even tho it may not seem that way some days!!!

[@littlemrs.fabulous9432]

I have a great question about Abbie, because she loves to run have you guys ever thought of finding either a track that's inside or one that is fenced in and let her just run free?

[@bencooper4058]

Dinavox yoda is freaking hilarious 🤣

[@artiemuse]

Right!? That made me laugh so hard.

[@leahgrayden6309]

Confession is always stressful so I can only imagine how it was having to keep an eye on abby. Sweet girl just wants to run. Great job summer and her friend for standing up

[@rileyplaysanimalcrossing4415]

I’ve heard the r word being thrown around my school to much. I’ve quite shy and the times I’ve tried to correct people they just rolled their eyes and call me sensitive. Luckily though there has been a few teachers reminding people not to use it and having a small discussion about it

[@shamur]

Hey!!! Where's the hour long vlog? (A reference to yesterday's vlog I think?) As usual great content!!!!

[@kimberlysmith7793]

Yoda sounds like Cookie Monster to me.

[@darciedickie5541]

How can working in a concession stand be stressful!

[@missspazztastic123]

omg when you played Abbie's iPod saying Alexa play you hits, my Alexa in my living room heard it and started playing, LOL! so it does work

[@JustElly123]

Shameless plug at the end 😂

[@hs489242]

I'm so proud of Summer!!

[@marissamarissa359]

I really proud

[@sicknote4557]

Good job Abbie(and all of you) you did a great job on the concessions stand. I have ASD and other disabilities and I HATE the R word. Now it’s used as an insult but it used be the actual medical term for Autism(well it was here in England anyway) well done Summer for standing up for awareness. Changing the world only has to start with one person. Hope you all have a great weekend. Sending you loads of AUsome hugs and love from me over here in England 💜🇬🇧

[@kavitadeva]

You guys are real Troopers

[@believeinmiracles7065]

Good job girls on the “r” word conversation. That reminds me of growing up and having those same conversations with people at school. Whenever I would hear someone say that it would make me fume. That’s been probably 25-30 years ago. I had a brother 10 months younger than me and he had Down syndrome and autism. He was the best!

[@paint-everything-dont-panic]

Sorry if this has been answered in another video and I missed it, but does/will Abbie have commands for Maverick on her DynaVox?

[@emilydavis2513]

Way to go summer

[@jacquicoder7160]

Great video! I was exhausted just watching all of you running around in the concession stand and I know you only showed a few minutes of what was probably hours for you. I am also proud of Summer and Kylie for taking a stand against something that is offensive to the special needs community. God bless them, I'm sure that was not easy.

[@IzzyPlatten]

Just a thought, the talking app can be useful if u get bronckitis or something & lose ur voice too. I get bronckitis alot in the winter so maybe i can look into those apps u said about :) thanks :) :) :)

[@kris2671]

The kids are fed and alive Wooohoo!!!🤣💙

[@lesliewood4154]

As a person with a mild learning disability like me I Don't like being called the R word. I will cuss someone out or get physical!!! I was Bullied for being in special Ed all my life. But I've came a long ways I got my drivers license when I was 17 and now I live on my own, I pay my own bills, and buy my own grocerys and cook on my own. I lost my Mom in 2011 and I'm still heartbroken!!!! My Dad don't have much patience with me, and his wife Damn sure Don't have patience with me... So I'm pretty on my own now. My Mom's youngest sister helps me a lot when she can. I love my Aunt I don't know what I'll do without☺☺☺

[@amyeli33]

Good job on working the concession stand while watching Abbie.

[@bsktballfrk220]

All those reasons of why students were late, "Dad" and “I was following the ABA protocol and they weren’t having it.” are simply hilarious. The look on Summer's face when Abbie talked to Alexa was great. We're all so proud :)