You’re Sexiest When You’re Vulnerable | {THE AND} Ikeranda & Josette

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After 15 years together, married couple Ikeranda (she/her) and Josette (she/her) have learned that honesty, vulnerability and openness are the keys to healing past trauma and developing a connection that’s profound - and still growing.
We'd like to thank Ikeranda and Josette for participating openly and vulnerably in our project. We appreciate what they've shared with us and hope you do as well.
Be sure to check out Part Two:
Building a Blended Family as a Same-Gender Couple | {THE AND} Ikeranda & Josette:
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With the Participation of | Ikeranda and Josette
You’re Sexiest When You’re Vulnerable | {THE AND} Ikeranda & Josette
#TheSkinDeep #BlackLove #Vulnerability
P2: Building a Blended Family as a Same-Gender Couple | {THE AND} Ikeranda & Josette
#TheSkinDeep #BlackLove #BlendedFamily

[@sadiabruce9560]

"I continue to love you, and relearn to love you, and love you more than the last time..." Wow.

[@ridamichelle]

"I loved you when you were unlovable" "I stayed when I wanted to leave"

[@Mila-rp6mj]

The Skin Deep is one of the few channels what makes a big and real difference, speaking about society and boundaries of love. Big applause for that

[@sharimaluleke7749]

Seeing beautiful black wlw couples is everything ❤ made my day. Thank you Skin Deep ❤

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@Madsassy]

Theres just something about the woman on the left, she's so comforting and loving!

[@selfconceited29]

She’s a psychologist

[@Bridget2460]

Yes

[@blegghhh]

havent watched the video yet but im just SO excited to see older black lesbians!!!

[@blegghhh]

ugh this was so beautiful

[@ImASurvivorNThriver]

This is the type of love, intimacy, commitment, and maturity we should ALL (Gay or Straight) strive for. They could keep all the material riches. I'll take a love like this one over ANYTHING! BEAUTIFUL WOMEN INSIDE AND OUT!!!

[@ismith6395]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@LisaMariesmile]

#Facts

[@gloriabyas8088]

I agree! I'm straight and I would love to find a man this deep!

[@afrakoma_a]

This was the most touching episode I've seen in a long time. If I can't be loved as deeply as this, I don't want it!

[@blazeemergencydeliveryserv3023]

Afra...that hits home!

[@annaparrajordan2411]

i find it rude they didnt ask what lip gloss shes wearing

[@novablack1934]

How dare they 🙃❣

[@pinkivy20]

I agree. It’s beautiful on her:

[@jasminehouston-burns1691]

Word

[@a-snt9230]

Dammmmmn

[@loveheals6184]

Both beautiful in and out. Not to be presumptuous, but Ikeranda seems like a sage-goddess who I hope is also given the love & support she gives others. Josette has one of the few faces and spirits wherein the child she was is still present and vulnerable. May she be loved, protected & safe. Wishing them an abundant, looooong lifetime of loving togetherness. ❤🙌🏿

[@loriannrichardson7644]

Both women are beautiful, but there is something about the darker woman's beauty that is almost spiritual.

[@philmutonhodza7899]

First word that came to me was Oracle..she sees into the soul

[@kadytherealtylady]

They have hurt each other deeply just as much as they loved each other.. it's a working process..

[@ismith6395]

Indeed. Always a work in progress.

[@sadiabruce9560]

This!

[@EpitomeOfGemini]

Yes and yes

[@stefn6243]

these women are so beautiful inside and out wow.

[@alleycarter6286]

I felt every part of this beautiful interaction with these ladies. I definitely felt a combination of feelings... hurt, love, growth, learning, relearning, vulnerability... so much joy and LOVE. Thank you ladies for sharing! I forward this video to my wife, we both have spoken similar words during times of healing.

[@poohchi6205]

Too short. Father god only a minute and 4 seconds in and already crying. The maturity, intimacy, the love, acceptance, patience lord this gives me hope. I can’t even say heal through your trauma bcuz she was there, guide,patience through all the healing. It’s so hard and you really have to put in the work.

[@nobuhleee]

this youtube channel is perfect

[@KatMoleZA]

Fellow Southey. Unjani? 👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽

[@SoftEarthHoney]

These 2 beautiful souls are just as amazing in real life. I have the honor of knowing them and their love is truly one that is healing just to witness it. They are SO loving to each other and when I find a love like theirs, I will cherish it forevermore. Love you🖤

[@zakiraray2906]

I want this kinda love, truth, transparency, vulnerability, understanding the complicated parts of me.

[@kadytherealtylady]

The lady with the glasses 👓 is so beautiful inside and out.. she's so free and supportive and welcoming 💓 beautiful skin also.. she reminds me of Taraji P Henson.. even her voice..

[@ismith6395]

Thank you. 🥰💛

[@ilikepickles9568]

"Why do you love me?" Hell I bloody love her and I don't even know her. Lol😂

[@oeu3669]

I am CRYING 😭 you don’t know what you have done for me posting this! This couple, their love, the fact that they look like me... I just had a heart breakthrough. I’m so Grateful for this 🥺🥺🥺😭🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡❤️❤️❤️❤️ THANK YOU, Skin deep and MAJOR THANK YOU TO THE BEAUTIFUL COUPLE for demonstrating the essence of a LOVE so Deep and wholesome and VULNERABLE and pure and spiritual and calming despite some very clear storms they alluded to ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@TheSkinDeep]

Wow, this comment. Thank you so much for your words--they mean so much to our team! We're so glad that you're able to connect with our participants and feel love through the screen.

[@brooklyncoop3607]

She said "I love you more the next time" so deep🥰🥰🥰

[@33ladyRAM]

Now that is love - 0:47 - 1:08

[@EpitomeOfGemini]

There is a lot of hurt behind those eyes and words. There is a deep understanding and emotional capacity on a whole other level these two have cultivated over time. Almost 10 years in with my wife and I am now sure my wife and I are on the right path.... Much love, respect and higher vibrations to you both ❤️

[@LisaMariesmile]

I loved you with my whole heart. With you I did everything right. 💗

[@dacemuhammad659]

This had me in tears their love is soo genuine and beautiful.

[@selflovecycle]

I did not want this to be over... no time soon. When I look at Josette and Ikeranda, I think about a situation that I am in with a woman currently. The lady I am having this "situation" with is definitely Ikeranda, while I am definitely Josette. Falling for a woman and being with a woman is so new to me and I almost hate that I am in this "dilemma". But when I watch Josette and Ikeranda, I think about me and my lady. I know I love her and she loved the hell out of me, but its something that makes me so numb thinking about it. I dont know if im scared to be loved especially by a woman. I just dont know

[@oeu3669]

I’m rooting for you Sis. Love is such a Beautiful thing, a beautiful opportunity and a DEEPLY personal experience 🧡🧡🧡 allow yourself to be happy- and protect that at all costs. Your life, your love, your joy, your peace, your heart - is sacred and worth it ❤️❤️❤️

[@micole83]

I been LOOKING for this one for over a week after seeing the ad on IG

[@sianthompson8638]

4:16...aaah the way they look at each other...that's love mahn...that's real love😍

[@xoxoIzzI23]

I wholeheartedly loved their conversation. I'm so glad they offered their vulnerability so freely.

[@tany2191]

That fuchsia lipgloss is EVERYTHING

[@PomSptz]

OMG! This is the best interaction I’ve ever seen! I love these two for the love they share and the overall quality of people they are.

[@TheSkinDeep]

That means a lot to us, thank you ❤️

[@ccruiz8245]

Who is cutting onions?. (Sniffles)

[@Paths2business8406]

Okay, for real😭

[@MiaCas]

Please adopt me 😩😭 this is too beautiful

[@Demebeso714]

Clean Pure Love.. emotionally healthy couple. Great Video!

[@ridamichelle]

I love seeing mature lesbian couples ❤

[@jesswise1863]

Same here ❤

[@starj5114]

This is so lovely and honest and wholesome 😭 I hope wherever they are in their journey right now they’re both content and happy. Beautiful souls

[@laudyjimeneztejeda696]

KEED DOING THIS KIND OF VIDEOS...love itttt♥️ so peaceful and every word that they said was sweet!

[@demetriusbrown5542]

they are both so beautiful !

[@ismith6395]

Thank you. 🙏🏾

[@LoveLakesAndStuff]

Wow. These conversations are so brilliant...thank you 👏💗

[@queen_jaylo222]

This the type of love lets me know I’m on the right pathway in my journey. I know true love is real. I speak that I have a match made in heaven relationship with someone who loves whole heartedly and is not afraid to be vulnerable. Peace and love. 🥰💕🦋

[@jbaby007]

Here for it! ‎️‍🌈

[@wholenesslab]

Aight...who else got the water works? Oh my heart...! Love them and their love!!! 🤍🤍🤍

[@d33w33]

15 years?? A lesbian relationship??? I wonder if Gen Z will have sustainable relationships like this or I'll never find a long term partner 😞

[@ismith6395]

Absolutely you will. Just work on yourself before you get with someone else.

[@d33w33]

@@ismith6395 Thank you for the advice😥 All the best

[@HellaReckless]

There’s something they’re not telling us that has transpired.

[@faraikunaka8458]

I felt it too

[@opeoluwabeloved]

And they don't owe it to nobody to share really.

[@opeoluwabeloved]

@Johari Larosa How about you get the point of the channel that a pack of well-defined questions does improve communication in all kinds of relationship and perhaps try to use it to fix yours with yourself. Whatever happened to you to make you curse because you couldn't sniff out these complete strangers' personal stories that they chose not to share must have been quite traumatic. You need a set of skin deep cards sweetheart.

[@mela4082]

I cried the whole time watching this 😭

[@jemimabrady4896]

thank you for this representation, i rly need it for my journey :) they are so beautiful, im in love with a woman rn, but im still accepting and trying to discover myself, and i wonder what it looks like for a long term black lesbian unification now that im opening my mind up to that possibility :)

[@NorthernFella]

thanks for bravery you will be ok, there will be challenges for sure, however you will overcome them, not sure where you are, I hope you find a lessbian community and LGBT friends to help and support you.. Blessings

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thank you so much for sharing

[@jemimajoel]

@@NorthernFella thank you so much❤️❤️❤️

[@NorthernFella]

@@jemimajoel you're more than welcome

[@clairer42]

I love this couple off the bat. Thank you for posting them!

[@AllNaturale11]

That last question & answer?? i cant. absolutely beautiful

[@barrymoton1]

Am I the only one that looks for all the videos with Black folks first, and then watches the rest?

[@vivianokon7256]

Beautiful, deep, true, evolving, appreciative and fulfilling love. I salute you ladies 😊

[@SharmanePowell]

@6:22 I listened to this dialogue so many times. This is where it hit home for me.

[@gigitea4205]

Ikeranda (the woman on the right) is giving me such Scorpio vibes... I love it!

[@ellaelouise]

I'm loving this beautiful intimate moment.💙

[@user-yj4hz3nq6q]

Inspiring, thank you very much for sharing your story... Love from France :)

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thanks for watching!

[@Lifewithkatrina]

Beautiful couple this was a great episode

[@ilikepickles9568]

You know when I think of love it looks like this 😍🥰

[@vc6218]

Why are some of the clips so short and others are longer? I want to see this full video. Older people have such wisdom and I want to take more of this in. ❤️

[@TheSkinDeep]

Hi there! Thanks for your comment ❤ this is actually the full video, but we have many more! We're glad you enjoyed this one :) the length depends on the time their conversations takes and the flow of it, so all of them are different

[@leshz]

Great authentic conversation thank you!

[@sweetoT2]

Would love another episode with these two, 2 years later.

[@ayyb6789]

Good questions and honest answers and I like their commitment to their relationship.

[@micole83]

IKERANDA must be a PISCES ♓ LOL when she answered what does nobody understand about her that no one else does AND when Josette answered why she loves her. Everything they both said was freaking me I promise

[@naomirp7649]

YESSS I was thinking Pisces or Sag, definitely mutable vibes

[@Ritziiii]

I was thinking cancer and scorpio eheh

[@itscarissahere]

and i was thinking virgo 👀

[@micole83]

Lol hopefully she will see our gusessiggame and let us know🤗

[@ismith6395]

Smiling! My wife is a ♓️ Pisces and I am a ♎️ libra.

[@AESTHETICPERCY]

PUT ME ON THIS SHOW OMG!!

[@TheSkinDeep]

www.theskindeep.com/be-on-the-and :)

[@AESTHETICPERCY]

@@TheSkinDeep THANK YOU 😬😬 just filled it out 🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾 fingers crossed

[@sierra2123]

Love this channel such a beautiful couple

[@jasminehouston-burns1691]

Subscribed. Great work.

[@solar3853]

I don't know why im crying

[@oxygenlung]

i see wlw and i click

[@TheBillionaireTomboi]

YOOOOOOOOO!!! they a vibe...

[@Rosa29]

This is my personal dream of a relationship

[@MeliYT]

Ikeranda is such a Scorpio!

[@ismith6395]

Not even close. I’m a ♎️ Libra. 💛

[@NorthernFella]

@@ismith6395 Really I guessed Libra! Do you know your moon and rising signs? I was so happy to see this video you both must have faced some serious challenges and overcame them and stayed together that's awesome! Its been good to see some African American Lesbian and Gay couples on Skin Deep. Blessings.

[@Iloveyusomuch]

Sure i don't mind crying before bed Skin deep

[@jccanteen]

That first answer was fuq’d up 😑 if that was your last convo you would tell someone you liked them when they were unlikable, loved them when they were unloveable 🤨 you stayed when you wanted to leave and forgave when you didn’t really want to 😒 that you did everything right??? So you would make your last moment all about your self-righteousness and throw some low key passive aggressive jabs in there to highlight how much you had to put up with but overcame??? Ok.

[@maggie84123]

Okay but I love them🥺🥺. Where do I meet friends loke this?

[@NascentAudrey]

brilliant!

[@jesswise1863]

Such a beautiful couple ❤

[@vc6218]

Is Ikeranda a Scorpio or Leo.. ? Do we know? Lol 🔥🔥

[@adaoraok]

Love them so much.

[@mpalmer7800]

Now am wondering if I am meant to love a soul sister? 🖤🖤 this is deeeeep..

[@sonquatsch8585]

too deep fa me. sheeeeeit. dayum.

[@saturnteatree]

They are so cute lol

[@746shix]

So beautiful 💕

[@vkulumba]

This ❤️❤️❤️

[@chefboyarzee]

I felt that

[@1980havplenty]

I love LOVE.

[@pfb74]

The comments are so mixed, I wonder why.

[@jackiethompson3144]

Heart n Soul

[@dymondkittync]

Beautiful.

[@Suri-o7w]

These two women are gorgeously beautiful in every way IMAGINABLE wow I just honestly wanna be loved ...I feel like the long lost lesbian 🌈 who never ever knew love 💕😘💕 but always wanted to be loved and give love and receive love but the only thing I ever really knew was lust in the heat of the moment

[@hthomas3190]

😢💞

[@teem3263]

😭😭😭😭

[@albrianafields8439]

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@somiomer3503]

😭😭😭😭😭😭💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@graceelizabethedgin486]

❤

[@sugerfreecandy4874]

Tears ...😢 love wins yall

[@keyonna]

That was so beautiful I'm here laughing crying smiling. I mean wow. Thank you for this