Female Friendships And Fall Outs - You Can Sit With Us Ep. 6

[@AlyssaTheGeek]

You Can Sit With Us is like having four moms who are willing to talk to you about the stuff your real mom might not be comfortable talking to you about.

[@jackguhl4556]

So true

[@jackguhl4556]

Except I'm a boy am I still allowed

[@AlyssaTheGeek]

@@jackguhl4556 Of course dude! We all need a little mom advice sometimes

[@mickenziegibbons2840]

Jack Guhl of course, you can sit with us

[@ibtisammy]

I'm very thankful for this podcast!

[@BunnyandMoon]

I don’t know if this is too personal, but a body positivity/insecurity podcast would be really nice. My mom and I are at opposite ends of the spectrum of body insecurity, she thinks she’s too big, I think I’m too small. It’s an endless cycle of women disliking their bodies.

[@katiejones3029]

Agreed! I really struggle with body image. I can use all the body positivity podcasts/posts/memes I can get!

[@Dani-ry7eu]

Yes, this would be a great topic for discussion!

[@Sayj14]

Yes, a wonderful conversation topic

[@ohnoitsavery]

Wait me too!!!

[@AndreaGarcia-zz7jz]

Great idea! Body positivity is really important right now especially since so many women and young ladies are stuck at home. You feel like you aren't doing enough to be fit or you are doing too much. We either feel to fat or too skinny and this could lead to a lot of great solutions to just feeling secure about who you are.

[@xoalsophx]

rachel talking about buying becky's moisturizer she is so precious i love her so much help

[@tybo328]

Ladies in hi ok qlzkow

[@meepmorp1022]

Time stamp

[@badenpaoloyichuangthian3400]

@@meepmorp1022 31:39

[@ashleyfitz7761]

This is some solid friend getting move. Create a common ground.

[@namasteypapaji2315]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKS9o6SPbb92j5o 😮

[@janette_alberto]

I remembered a something I saw on Facebook. How introverts make friends: • They don't • An extrovert liked them and decided to adopt the introvert Very accurate for me 👌

[@sanchankim87]

ME

[@ameliewiseman744]

My friend claims she did that with our entire group. Apart from her we are all shy, socially awkward or 100% introverted. And she is 100% extroverted. Entirely grateful cos otherwise I would have no *Good* friends.

[@MsBianCola]

SAME! I'm such an introvert. The three friends I have are all extroverts who adopted me lol 😆

[@catherinefuller3633]

Happened to me too

[@orie._.]

Lol, this is so true. I wouldn't say that I am an extrovert but I am an extroverted introvert. All of my friendships started by me being the braver one who actually came up to a person and started talking to them. I have such a funny story of desperately trying to be friends with my now best friend. I always smile when i remember it 😄

[@historynut00]

Ariel and Rachel moving spots has messed me up

[@amandafreitas3181]

Same 😅

[@catherineh3446]

that’s what i said!!!!

[@saiknight6901]

Yes

[@mozhangashteh639]

Yes lol

[@karma1110]

same 😂

[@ashchoosespikachu]

I'm so glad Rachel is being included more... It always felt a little weird that the other girls were talking and rachel would mostly be quiet and sometimes prompt them along. She's so precious when she talks about her friendship with them and her twins and whatnot

[@juliettriggs]

Yess!! I commented on a previous video that I wanted her to be included more and got a bunch of hate for it :(

[@Anna_Bee]

I mean it makes sense since she's the host (like Miles). She's mainly there to direct and move the conversation along. I do enjoy when she chimes in though.

[@orie._.]

@@juliettriggs oh this is so sad, Rachel is a sweetheart i would also love to hear from her more

[@orie._.]

@@Anna_Bee i agree with the fact that she's a host, but also look how much the conversation flows better when all of the girls are actively participating. It always feels kind of unnatural to me when Miles don't really supports the conversation and keeps being forcefully quite. I feel like he has so much to say

[@petpettylife7094]

Can you explain who Rachel is? Is she related to Eugene or something?

[@mercedesb2313]

Zach helping Maggie make a friend is so cute and pure

[@ccchat8]

Ariel is all of us: “You had three friends?!” 😭😭

[@immethos1]

As an introvert, the only way I've ever made friends is 100% through the effort of the other party. I've had a girl in high school and then a woman at my job that just either straight up asked to join me at lunch or just sat next to me and said hi. And I love them for it. Cuz otherwise those relationships never would have happened, cuz I cannot force myself to make the effort.

[@clairebeaumont8540]

Same. One of my closest friends became so by literally walking up to me during class and saying, "You seem cool, do you wanna sleep over at my house this weekend?" I'll always be grateful for her casually outgoing attitude.

[@utamirizki6976]

Same :(

[@crystalkemp452]

I'm 100% the same way. I can never bring myself to start a friendship. I'm also that awkward person when trying to start a conversation. 😣

[@herdingborahae]

Same. I have one friend. And she lives in a different state. I have friendly relationships with others, but not like where I can just randomly text or call to hang out.

[@kerrie790]

I have found my people!

[@edo27]

"i dont think Zach has exes' omg I spit out my coffee LOL these girls are fun.

[@monedameow]

And the lovely frown on Maggie's face ❤️🤣

[@spin1jump1]

Tip for quarters! Ask your landlord when he's going to empty the laundry machine and ask if you can trade him a $20 bill (or whatever you want) for quarters he emptied from the machine.

[@GenieGin13]

this. i save $40-60 bucks in quarters for my tenants instead of depositing all at the bank. one of the units always does so much laundry . so it's become easier for them to come to my door weekly and we exchange the $20 bills for quarters or 10. however many they want. on some months, they even add extra money to their rent check and when they drop off the check, we give them the quarter rolls on the spot we were doing this even before quaratine. but now with quarantine, it's even more relevant so that they don't have to go to the bank just for quarters ever.

[@janhankins911]

Excellent suggestion!

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

@@GenieGin13 you're the type of landlord I wish I had.

[@beckjaeckels]

I love that Keith has basically become the Wes of You Can Sit With Us with his random appearances.

[@namasteypapaji2315]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKS9o6SPbb92j5o 🤐🤐🤐

[@lostintranslation8550]

This is really nice. Be careful with saying your landlords name Becky. There are a lot of people who would try to put together the info from all the try guys videos and podcasts and figure out where you and Keith live, and his name and what he looks like might lead to something scary 😖 stay safe guys!

[@labyrinthminds_]

Yes! I hope Becky and all of them will see this comment. You'll never truly know what kind of people are on the internet. It's better to be safe.

[@GenieGin13]

adding a comment to shamelessly bump. this needs more likes although LA is really big and sprawled out...with the right information, there are people who can find out these things no matter how small or vague or irrelevant it may seem. because this town certainly has all sorts of people, smart lands on both sides of the coin

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

That's a good point. I didn't even think of that but you're so right. Please be wary Becky.

[@abbyrivers9971]

@@stillvisibletoallusers yeah be carefull

[@hanam6093]

Another reason to move now haha

[@kidachan1764]

I appreciate Becky's approach to just be straight forward and tell a person when they think the friendship should end. Ghosting friends is such a cowardly approach. I had someone just disappear from my life after three years of really close friendship. I still have absolutely no idea what I did wrong and it's really hurtful. If you are upfront and just tell the person, they can have a closure and also, have a chance to better themselves.

[@TheAnimefan56009]

I had a “friend” of 11 years. She always felt that in the trio, she never felt like she belong. Never said anything. Then to the mutual friend she said all these nasty and gosh awful things about me. She claimed to be “blunt” but yet didn’t wanna say it to my face. She went block happy on me. She said she needed more time away from me and I was giving her that. But how she went about it was vile. You think you know someone.

[@samwich3k]

When Ariel's mic cut I turned my volume up because i thought it just got really quiet and i screamed out of terror when it cut back on😂

[@nancybarajas7555]

Omg same. I thought my phone stopped working just to rip my ear drums

[@n.m.g2008]

Oh good! I was worried my headphones had stopped working too!!

[@Aurora-ql7sd]

I’m glad I’m not crazy lol

[@nadarocker7605]

Glad it wasn't just me, I wondered what happened to the sound 🤣

[@JuliaIrys]

I felt like I was missing something. Thank you.

[@elanaofearth3679]

A podcast just about their college majors/career paths/past jobs/current jobs would be interesting. Maybe also about starting a (not YT) business as a woman - if Becky or Ariel have their own makeup artist/interior design business. (Not sure if my assumption is correct here.) 😊

[@maia9726]

Agree! I'm moving into college tomorrow and this would be really cool to see!

[@ellebaby588]

i’m an interior design student and i would LOVE to hear Ariel speak about her job: like what does she do on the daily basis, things she’s learned throught out the years or how did she start her own studio.. idk, it would be so so cool!

[@justjoannak]

@@maia9726 I feel you! I just moved out of state for college and this would be a huge help

[@maia9726]

@@justjoannak out of state? Oh my goodness! I hope everything is going okay for you so far!

[@Nikki-tx6kh]

My cousin had the best conversation about friends with his girlfriend. "The best number of friends to have is Three. Because you can only plug four people on a PS and it would be unfair for the rest of the people."

[@namasteypapaji2315]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKS9o6SPbb92j5o 😮 Please

[@nyalastaggger2793]

I want to like this but I don’t want to mess up the like count lol EDIT: When this comment was made the like count was at 444

[@ig1398]

every time u make a new friend do u have to kick one of the others out ???😩😩😩

[@cecefernandes5657]

@@ig1398 vote 'em off island style😎😅

[@skylarm.7544]

I was once told, "Don't be worried if a group of girls doesn't like you, because chances are they don't like each other."

[@shesapolca]

YES. There were groups in my batch I wanted to be a part of yknow wanted my own squad... but squads are like nah you cant be w us. After school ended I found out that they just do it for photo ops. there are divisions, some of them cant stand one another and once the photos are done, they wont even talk to each other.

[@beccah.7954]

omg Rachel talking about looking for reasons to DM the rest of the girls, she's so pure 🥺

[@ananya8269]

I love the casual mention of Matt, he is not forgotten and is very much w part of their gang even if it's not in the public eye ❤❤

[@mandipandi303]

My advice for making friends is a little stupid, but here it is: logo t-shirts. I always wear t-shirts with things I love on them. You definitely strike up conversations when people see you share a love of the same book, tv show, charitable cause, etc. My best friend and I came together because she saw my shirt and knew I loved the same book she did. We chatted, exchanged our info, and the rest is history. It's happened with several people now. Fandom merch is a great icebreaker.

[@feraguilar4175]

I had a t-shirt, that said "I don't care" and people would sing "I love it" when I wore it! 😂 It truly works.

[@sarahberlaud4285]

I met one of my really good friends because my husband noticed she had a bag from the kpop group I love... she ended up having an extra ticket to their concert which he bought for me for my birthday. She and I went together (weekend in another city since there were two concerts) and have been to more since. And I absolutely adore her!

[@CR092888]

I've heard of this! Band t-shirts, funny tv catchphrases, etc. Something to break the ice

[@namasteypapaji2315]

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[@nicolemontana7347]

@@sarahberlaud4285 this is how ive made some friends in college!! i noticed this one girl's bt21 charm and we became close that way :) did you guys go see nct in concert together?!

[@deborahpotter4785]

OMG, why do these girls podcast make me feel like i am in the conversation? Like i love the guys but this one with the girls feels more personal, feels like im talking to my best friends. For 50 minutes I forget i'm 18, for 50 minutes I forget my problems and anxieties. You girls are special

[@restricted.rhynnpaulet]

In all honesty, I have been on both end of the spectrums of being a toxic friend and leaving toxic friends. I felt awful when my friends (who were amazing btw but truly did deserve better) left me, but when I started seeing their point and how I was acting, I was extremely happy that they were able to get out of our friendship. I had two best friends who were so nice and won't leave me even if I was the worst person ever, but when they left, I did realize like holy shit if they got tired of me there is probably a problem with me. I am genuinely grateful that they saw how bad I was getting, and left for their own sake. For all the people, who were left behind and was told it was because of toxic behaviour, you still have a chance to change. ❤️

[@labyrinthminds_]

I resonate with this 100%. I had an unpleasant personality when I was younger that led to friends having to distance themselves away from me. I regret a LOT of it to this day. But at the same time, you'll meet people who can help change you for the better. If only I had realized the things I've realized now... Maybe things would've been better or maybe not. Who knows? As long as you take yourself accountable of the things you did, there will be people who'll continue to love you for you. It's not the end of the world 💕

[@maggieann5569]

This gave me flashbacks to middle school cuz I was trying so hard to be the funny friend that I forgot to be nice and supportive. I became a better friend to these ppl in high school but I feel so guilty about how I treated them

[@kayagaffney5922]

It takes a lot of strength and growth to admit being toxic, I can really relate because sometimes I'll look back and feel like I betrayed friend. I feel like I've grown a lot from then but I'm still putting more effort in paying attention to myself. Stay safe😷

[@namasteypapaji2315]

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[@ep7095]

“He’s a 70 year old Cuban man. If you talk to him you’re there for 3 hours.” 🤣😭🤣😭

[@Jennifer-jj6om]

So tru tho 🤣

[@meghinson1186]

One great tip I have is to join a club, a class, or a local group. I finally went and did some larping that my friend convinced me to go to and I made a ton of friends right away. There's lots of volunteer groups where you can give back and make friends along the way. Just find something that interests you and try it out because you and the other people in the group already have something in common. Whether it's a dog walking group, a mommy play date, D&D, larping, a cooking class, a book club, etc. Everyone there is there partially because they want to socialize with people who have common interests.

[@meghinson1186]

Of course covid-19 prevents people meeting in person depending on where you live but a lot of these groups have online forums on fb, Twitter, reddit, etc.

[@cassie4027]

I used to ask myself, "Would I help this person move?" And if the answer was yes, I considered them a friend. Now, I ask myself, "Would this person help me move?" I've found that to be a much better indicator of friendship.

[@user-lk1ot7je7x]

How to end friendships is literally the advice i needed going back to school

[@KarensWorld]

Tips on how to make friends: 1. Ask to pet people's dogs 2. Compliment someone (outfits are a good option because people generally wear clothes in public) 3. Find a club/group in the area that you are interested in -- like zumba, hiking, reality tv, etc. I moved across the country two weeks ago to a place where I didn't know anyone and these strategies have helped :)

[@florecitayami]

What if you are a cat lover instead? 😂

[@kayaa5359]

I love your comment about how most people wear clothes in public XD that made me laugh. But very good advice!

[@clarissadunn3188]

Have you tried the meetup app?

[@namasteypapaji2315]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKS9o6SPbb92j5o 🤐🤐🤐

[@nidhitiwari3716]

I have ended 'convenient' friendships with a few people... Who portrayed as if i was weird to walk away... But in reality they got in touch only when they wanted something from me.. and i was just being a nice friend..until it got too far and i decided to walk away..

[@Dani-ry7eu]

I really need to do this with a few friends. Any tips on how to go about this conversation?

[@nidhitiwari3716]

Since they only called when they wanted something...i started ignoring the calls, and eventually they realized that i wasn't interested anymore. There's another option to go about it.. do it the way Becky did it.. tell them that "Let's not be friends anymore"

[@namasteypapaji2315]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKS9o6SPbb92j5o 😮 Please

[@barbarastevens4922]

Can you guys have the boys walk thru more. We started a drinking game. It would really help us out. Thanks

[@romulusthemainecoon3047]

Regarding the social settings that are scary because you have to put yourself out there - before today I hadn't gotten my hair cut since way before March. I'm really bad at remembering to go - I'm always anxious that I'm not being chatty enough, witty enough, laughing enough. I always worry that the girl who cuts my hair wishes she was cutting someone else's hair, someone who's not so awkward! But I went today, tried my best - and now my crunchy pandemic hair is short and sleek again!

[@manziejeanne]

See I am an anxious talker so i try to make myself stop talking because i talk too much and i feel so stressed out because of that. Like they would rather i just shut up because they don't care about the random things i am blabbering about but i can't seem to get myself to shut up.

[@amandathompson7269]

This is too relatable

[@romulusthemainecoon3047]

@@manziejeanne I do that too!!

[@janhankins911]

I haven't had my hair cut since before the pandemic hit--health concerns kept me away for a couple of months--and then there was COVID. So I'm starting to look a lot like a terribly neglected poodle (curly hair). Don't know when I'll get a trim as COVID-19 is still really bad here and as an asthmatic, it's too risky for me to go out unless I absolutely have to. I keep telling myself I'm going to order a pair clippers and shave my head one day....

[@buybui4784]

couples court: I hate when the sink is full because, when the dishes has to be washed, it'll be ready to put water in and the stuff that is not in the sink will be less yirky to touch. I'm very slobby and lazy, so that is my prefered way of handling dirty dishes :) Love from Denmark :)

[@eleanormason2647]

I hate a full sink because it means that if I'm going to do a load of washing up, it means that I have an added chore of emptying and cleaning the sink before I actually wash up. I also live in a flat but the kitchen isn't tiny, so there is enough room to put washing up by the sink instead of in it 🤷‍♀️

[@hannaheva6809]

I know! I always put everything next to the sink. We have a tiny kitchen so it will take up all the counterspace, but we also have a sort of bar that separates the kitchen and living room so i do the food preparing on there anyways. I really had to teach my boyfriend to not put them in the sink because it just gets nasty. I also do the dishes only once a day to save water so the sink would get too full.

[@hildaalvarez-strang9108]

I'm 57 and remain extremely close to a group of high school and college friends which I call my "core" friends. We have a group chat and meet regularly. Before quarantine, we would meet at least once a month for coffee, and since quarantine, we have weekly Zoom meetings. These women are my "framily" and I would never have gotten through my husband's death last year if not for them. I also have another group of friends that I've made from book club and work for over 20 years and we're close as well. The older I get the more I value my female friendships.

[@cassidybrewer]

Friends are the only thing that got me through so many losses in my life, too. It’s so important and often draws us back together because it reminds you how fragile life is.

[@janhankins911]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am so glad you had the support that helped you get through one of the toughest things anyone can have to go through.

[@LoveTheBellos]

I LOOOOVE LOVE LOVE COUPLES COURT lol. Can you guys talk about “Dealing with the in laws”?

[@namasteypapaji2315]

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[@saraa.7836]

I learned that I had friends from high school that were friends out of convenience. We were all in the same honors and AP classes, so we were together all the time. Once we went to college, you find out if you're on their priority list.

[@nkp650]

The biggest falling out I ever had with a friend was my former roommate. We were best friends before living together. Now we don’t even talk. Living together is an easy way to strain a friendship.

[@dddila]

My biggest concern about sharing a living space with someone

[@Frogsituation]

The same thing happened to me, we had been friends for years before we moved into together and things took a turn for the worst very quickly. After a year, we cut ties which each other and have never talked since. I'm scared to live with anyone I know because it let's you see the worst side of each other. Worst falling out

[@erikaalbert929]

Becky, there are mini-portable washing machines that don’t need as many hook ups that you can get for under 100-200 and can be used for small loads. Might help for now. I thought of getting one when I had my baby for his clothes as I felt I was doing small loads everyday.

[@requa407]

The scrubba bag!!

[@LaPetitePunk]

Totally agree. I've had my tiny washer for almost 10 years now and it really does the job.

[@mimik2561]

You can go really physical with a scrubba bag or you could go simple with a foot pumped or hand cranked machines. Both options are online

[@leannadawn6943]

This would help with your counter space issue as well! When we had a tiny apt we bought one, changed our life. My landlord actually even bought it off us when we moved :)

[@mackenziedunn954]

You can actually even get a full-sized dishwasher that's on wheels with a little bit of counter on top. When it's time to do the dishes, you roll it up to the sink and hook it up to the faucet. The best-working dishwasher I've ever had was one of those.

[@aprillehibbard924]

So I am so shy and such an introvert, so making friends is really hard for me. I remember seeing this quote once that "Introverts don't make friends. An extrovert finds them and adopts them into their friend circle". This could not be more true! Looking back all of my friendships involve someone coming up to me and initiating a conversation and then introducing me to their friends.

[@krystaleischenolsen3896]

[@manziejeanne]

THISSS!!! OMG!!!!

[@reaganreynolds4]

Amazing!! Would watch!!

[@janhankins911]

Yes! Great suggestion!

[@FlagCutie]

Making friends was never hard for me. My single mom and I moved around a lot when I was little, so I needed to be good at making friends to survive. What I did have to work on in my 20s was working on making friendships last and mature. What was also lucky in my 20s was that I ended up with a few male friends that happened to end up marrying fantastic women and I got to become friends with these women and they are blessings in my life!

[@kayleec9349]

I'd love to see them talk about the transition from college to 'adult life.' I graduate in May, a year ahead of schedule. I'm not scared of the change, but no one really talks about what to expect or what changes and I'm curious to see what they have to say!

[@emilyreynolds3318]

Kaylee C this would be a great topic. I graduated two years ago now and I’m still trying to figure life out (like everyone else). But it was very surprising how jarring it was to transition in that situation. No one talks about it and I think there are so many subliminal messages coming at college students that create very high expectations for what is “supposed” to happen right after graduation. They aren’t realistic and are unhealthy. A lot of people I knew are still struggling to find jobs in their fields or figuring out what they want to do for the rest of their lives. Your life is yours, your journey is yours, so don’t compare your path with anyone else’s. That’s probably the biggest thing I needed to hear when I graduated.

[@harjuhubba]

I would also love and episode on this. About to be in the same place myself.

[@ameliewiseman744]

I graduate next summer and people keep asking what I’m doing and I HAVE NO CLUE. It’s even worse because I always knew what I wanted to do all the way up to University, and now everyone expects me to have a fully formed career/life plan.

[@solfeggietto8306]

That thing Ariel and Rachel talked about with spending time almost solely with family once you have a partner/kids, is one of the hardest things about getting older if you don't have a family and your friends are your family. Especially if you're sick.

[@ms.hueysclass2202]

I actually do carry around fruit snacks...pretty much everywhere. I’m an adult 😂. And I always have extras to offer people. I’m also a kinder teacher so I identify with my kids a lot 😂.

[@rabab473]

😂

[@ccyn042]

I would love the outtakes on that “Ned was a ho” segment 😂 All those edits I’m like 🧐 there must be something juicy there! 🍋

[@anjamilicevic498]

Oh, my God, they're so beautiful and eloquent. I'm glad to see women who are each other's support ❤️❤️❤️

[@namasteypapaji2315]

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[@vanessaproa-granillo8689]

Hey Becky, Depending on your lease agreement, adding a permanent structure to your unit (dishwasher) would fall under a reasonable accommodation, which can be approved or denied depending upon fair housing rules. If it doesn’t present a financial burden to the landlord, then they can agree to the accommodation but you are responsible for the expense. At move-out if you would leave it in the unit and it would be up to the landlord to keep or go back to original structure. If they go back to original structure, no expense is applied to you. This would fall on the landlord.

[@rachelclairejohnson7298]

The thing about snacks is so true for when you’re in college I would make rice crispy treats or like brownies or cookies and I would bring them down to the study room or the game room and I would just go around asking people if they wanted any or I would put them on the table and be like does anybody want any and I would make friends with people in my dorm that way. That kind of helped me get used to talking to people and making like acquaintances because I’m super shy talking to people but I like cooking so I think making food for people and doing something that I like to do and meeting them that way it was easier

[@colleengordon3128]

I just want to say that I am loving your podcast so much. It really just feels like chatting with the girls. So I met one of my friends by commenting on her purse at the bar in an Applebee's on lunch. Next thing I knew we were exchanging numbers and 15 years later we are still friends, even if a little more distant since I moved.

[@csoph_5891]

Just had a falling out with a friend and this was like a closure I never knew I needed. Thank you try wives

[@daneclark4340]

I love Rachel in that color she’s wearing! 💜

[@haleyprice8451]

I used to have pretty severe social anxiety so making friends was a big struggle for me. But I've learned that being kind to people and showing a genuine interest in the person you are talking to makes a huge difference. Actively listen to people, ask meaningful follow up questions, and look for things you have in common. Just go into the conversation looking for the best of the other person, and they almost always will end up doing the same for you! :) That's how I've been making friends lately.

[@kaomoni]

Tip for making friends: anytime you have a convo with someone that you think you'll see again, remember at least one tidbit of that conversation. Then next time you see them again, ask them about it like oh how's journaling going or is your cat still scratching your furniture. It means so much that you remembered something even if it's not the whole conversation

[@alelialcaide1889]

Tip on how to make friends: put yourself out there. I moved a couple of times and I always join extracurricular activities that interest me in order to meet other people. In addition, I’m a Returned Peace Corp Volunteer and a New Leaders Cooncil alumini, and there’s groups all over the country that you can connect with. That’s part of the reasons why I join these organizations, is that there’s always a group that you can connect with.

[@namasteypapaji2315]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKS9o6SPbb92j5o 🤐🤐🤐

[@frizzyhairedbandit3590]

I really love this podcast, like I love the guys, but it is just so refreshing to see an all female podcast with such wholesome and funny content

[@frizzyhairedbandit3590]

Additionally the whole segment of Ariel explaining to Becky how dishwashers work is so cute!

[@kaleidoscopekayley]

Everyone always talks about going back to high school friends, but when I left for college, all my high school friends basically left me in the dust. And then, after I graduated from college, people I thought were my friends never spoke to me again. So now, here I am in my early 20s, without anyone my own age to talk to.

[@kaleidoscopekayley]

@SheyShey M You are the sweetest, little bean.

[@ptboy18]

Find groups that share your interests. Honestly, the world is too easily accessible to not find even at least one connection. Imagine back before internet when people were truly alone. Take advantage of the tools around you...and also maybe be more selective of your friends.

[@manziejeanne]

I usually make friends through other more extroverted friends "adopting" me (this is how I met my boyfriend that I have been with for almost 3 years). But I also find going to the park with my dog, training classes or classes in general (French, yoga, wine and paint, pottery, adult soccer league etc.) are great ways to meet people! If you have an interest, go explore it and meet people because you will already have that thing in common to start your friendship off on 😊

[@2b00bsjohnson]

i used to have reeeally bad social anxiety that made making friends really difficult, so now that i'm managing it properly i am eager to make friends everywhere! this sounds cheesy, but i seriously have a lot of success making friends literally just by saying "we should be friends!" whenever i meet someone i really like! we exchange socials and try to make plans right away if possible. it's hard for all adults to make friends so people appreciate you being straightforward, plus it takes a lot of pressure off because you're not trying to play it cool. 🖤

[@whaddupdyes]

I was literally sitting with my phone in front of me while eating ice cream. They made the vibe more comfy. Feel like im also part of their friendship circle.

[@minderfamily7454]

Not sure if i have commented on a video in my many years of KZbin but this one hits home... it's so hard having kids away from family, i think Becky is so relatable because she just has that friendly smile, and when she isnt happy about makeup on camera she's still confident and fun. Rachel id love to see more of you! Rachel and Ariel give me hope that the work life balance is achievable, Maggie you on the nurse scope of this - during the pandemic we have been living in 2 hot spots and couldn't appreciate your work more, we have lost many close to us. All of you get me through a very alone work day with these, thank you! So relatable on so many levels, need your own channel!

[@leafyveins4985]

Rachel shout out!! She's so sweet, witty, funny and brutally honest at the same time. I love hearing from her and g er tying to know her more through these podcasts :)

[@theahlawrence4007]

I’m 45 and most of my friends have been made at work but I have found that taking a class of something you enjoy like cake decorating or flower arranging helps to meet people and make friends. Then you are starting with something in common and can build from there. Love the pod ladies!

[@goh4135]

I loveeee this so much, please grab matt as a guest (but if he doesn't want to its ok) but i am so inloveeee with this podcast, please make more

[@dora6090]

Making new friends has always been a challenge for me, because I don't enjoy placing my trust onto others after so many betrayals and getting bullied at school. I hace recently joined a Toastmasters club, which is helping me face 2 fears at the same time: speaking in public and being the center of attention. It's made me such a great conversationalist I never knew I could become :D Keep up the amazing work, ladies! Lots of love from Ana :*

[@momoirox3556]

As someone who has moved around every couple of years from being in fostercare who's now in their mid twenties... This made me realise how alone I am. I never made these kinds of friendships growing up and now I work 40 hours to 60 hours a week... I don't know how I'd be able to make and maintain friendships.

[@tammiedowning2188]

Same, but I wasn't in foster care. I don't feel like I have any friends. The few from high school I don't talk to, and the only ones I was in contact with I introduced to each other and now they're dating(one couple) and the other got married and stopped talking to me. 😞 I'm sorry you feel the same.

[@susienight6118]

I moved around a lot to and trying to make friends who I could trust was super hard. My home was not a “traditional home😅” so finding kids my age who would understand was not easy, anyways I just turned 27 this week and making/keeping friends is still tuff! if u guys have an Instagram an want to be internet friends my user name is -24rav3n😄💛

[@keylightph]

Love this episode, I hope everyone who's currently stuck in toxic friendships will have the courage to break out of it. "Think about the last 2 years. Like how has this friendship been serving you in the last 2 years - and we've been friends for over... 10? Yeah. I was like, wow. Let's take a snapshot of the last 2 years. Is it worth my time? No." This is so relatable. I broke off my friendship with a friend I practically regarded my sister about 2 years ago. It was hard for me and I always thought of maybe just owning up to it and forgive her anyway, but I wanted to give myself some credit and I knew deep down that the gaslighting, blame, and basically zero apologies I've gotten from her are too much. This girl, then there were also some friends who I just wasn't sure if they still cared about me or not - I was right that they don't; I haven't heard from them in over a year now. With all honesty, even with all the friendships of mine that died out over the years, I've never been more content with having just under 10 actual friends.

[@littlestarfox]

I think you really need to put yourself out there to make friends- just like any relationship. Seeing or finding someone who has similar interests is the best way to go. Whether it be in a park, or on a KZbin comment, or in a game chat. Just say hey! Try not to get discouraged if hey don’t go for it! It may not feel right to then and that’s totally okay. But if ya feel something just go for it! Maggie’s story really tells it best.

[@AshleyFooter]

I'm 27 and Becky made me realize, WOW I have zero friends I still talk to from high school or college lol! But I will say, I have made one really close friend in my late 20s, and it was all because of having a mutual love for a band. She saw one of my tweets about the group one day, and slid into my DMs to talk about them and well, fast forward a year and we are SUPER close! We have hung out countless times and have even traveled out of state TWICE together to see the band in concert. I am so grateful for her, especially because you girls are right, it's so much harder to make friends when you are older! Love the podcast ladies, can't wait for the next episode!

[@DeadGators]

Way to find friends: Pick up a hobby. Something that you can or have to do with a group. Everyone in your group will already have common ground you can use to start conversations and create collegiality because you're there to do a specific activity. Even during COVID, you can do group activities through vid chats like dance lessons, stitch & bitches, miniature painting sessions, tabletop role-playing games, etc... You can do a search for what's happening near you or you can cast your net farther and interact with people around the world (I've run Pathfinder games for people as far away as Germany and Australia this summer).

[@JadynZip]

This episode honestly meant so much to me. I have always struggled with friends and the topic of friends has always been a very sensitive one for me. I have a lot of trust issues from past friends that I still deal with every day. Hearing your stories made me feel really good and helped me to remember that I am not alone and everyone struggles with friendships at some point in their life. Thank you ladies, this meant more than you will ever know!

[@princessfaith925]

I had a dream that Ariel had the baby and she and Ned announced the gender and the name, and she's a girl named Griffin because Ned wanted her to be in Gryffindor and he thought that might switch him back to Gryffindor from Hufflepuff

[@teresablue2553]

@@architanigam7973 You made an amazing comment 10x better 😂

[@anadacosta4043]

I'm impressed! You didn't get the gender or the name but Griffin is very close to Finn!

[@aur9035]

@@anadacosta4043 it iss! Or.. wait maybe its the miscarriage ariel had? And griffin was a name they planned, but they turned it into finn for their new baby

[@giomarcella]

I am not from America, but I also came from an all girl school. When Maggie talked how she felt about the friendship there, I felt exactly the same. It feels natural and not one sided, we've bonded during our time there and even after years of graduating everything still feel the same

[@acissej821]

I haven’t finished this episode but this podcast is such a breath of fresh air for me. I really love it

[@zzammmsss]

I have made some very good friends from fandom twitter and from meeting people at concerts! The passion to support a group really unites people especially when you hit it off on talking about other topics 💜

[@D_Dizzy_]

I'm 34 and have cut so many people out because of toxic personalities. My 2 sisters are my friends and I have one best friend I've known for 10 plus years, but I can't see her very often. I've accepted I won't have much more than that. Which is why I love this podcast so much, I don't get to have conversations like this.

[@danitaclowney6867]

Same

[@erineileenb6911]

Ariel!! Back at it again with that relatable content! I also feel like I didn't keep in touch with my international friends very well (I lived abroad for 5 years when I was middle school aged). I think its a product of being international kids. You're so used to people coming and going, moving around, having to constantly make new friends. In my experience, the friendships formed very quickly and very deeply, but often weren't sustained. I truly believe its a product of growing up in the international school culture. I think its a very common third-culture-kid experience.

[@avaadair1917]

I know they're related, but Rachel looks a lot like her daughters

[@namratanath6486]

You meant to say that Rachel's daughter looks like Rachel right?

[@guyismyhigh]

@@namratanath6486 no rachel is the daughter of her daughters and that's why she looks like them

[@namratanath6486]

@@guyismyhigh oh yeah... My bad

[@mrunmaiparab9705]

@@guyismyhighLOL

[@Maxisaspoonie]

wouldnt her daughters look a lot like her

[@makeupbyty710]

I really really appreciate this episode. I lost my best and closest friend last year just due to life changes. Never thought possible but here we are. I have no idea how to make new friends. Thank you ladies for continuously being real and sweet and welcoming.

[@mimijester]

Becky! My friend bought a mobile counter dishwasher. It’s essentially a dishwasher on wheels that when you need it, you plug it in and attach the water hose to the sink, and when you don’t need it, you can unplug everything and place it somewhere else.

[@slushygreen]

my absolute favorite podcast at the moment (sorry try guys)!!! all four of our gals just seem so genuine and I'm always checking this channel to see if they've uploaded!

[@mirelysbaezacosta3343]

Two years ago i ended a friendship because it got toxic to the point she was pressuring me to do drugs and shamed me for being a Virgin. After that i felt like a weight was off my shoulders.

[@anjalidiwakar880]

I got out of same kinda ..friendship....they made me feel bad about being me...so for my self respect and my mind ..i left them

[@teresablue2553]

At first I was more than sceptical, but my mother has formed a lot of connections in the neighborhood by opening up a book exchange in the front yard. A great part about making friends with neighbors is you run into them later on. I'm genuinely impressed by the increased community she's helped foster.

[@jackrainbow8160]

I was rly good friends with someone at summer camp and then we were texting several months later and once I told her I was in the autism spectrum she just stopped texting me and never responded again. It sucked and rly hurt my feelings and I always wish we could still be friends but I try to remind myself that it would be a toxic relationship if she couldn’t accept that part of me.

[@maggieann5569]

I'm sorry that happened! My brother is on the spectrum and when ppl hear that they just assume that he can't be a good friend

[@sophiekerr8964]

I've experienced that too, more so when people go on social events without inviting me. It's sad because my other friends are making memories amongst themselves and I'm not part of it.

[@jackrainbow8160]

Sophie Kerr yeah I know all too well what it like to be left out 😞

[@Theadhdentrepreneur]

I’m really sorry that happened. I don’t understand why that would change your friendship honestly, if you were already friends beforehand it’s unlikely your friendship would have changed. Disappointed that the girl couldn’t see that

[@ashleyfitz7761]

"Well guys we've come to the end ..." What? These podcasts are so much fun to listen to, they go too fast. I look forward to these every week. I don't have any friends where I live right now and 'sitting' in with you guys is so nice. Thank you for another great podcast.

[@ig1398]

can yall do an episode about your career journeys from college to actually beginning your career? im a nursing major and would love to hear what maggie has to say about her experience and some advice

[@joannakong4289]

the skincare jar thing was such an eye opener! usually i look for expiration dates (sometimes they'll have it) but that jar with the amount of time is so helpful!

[@Samldooley]

I've definitely had friendships fade away after I realized I was putting in all the effort-- it's emotionally exhausting to try and maintain a friendship when you feel like the other person doesn't care.

[@emilyreynolds3318]

Ive been struggling over my friendships during quarantine so it’s nice to listen to this podcast. After I was laid off from my job, I’ve found that it’s been really hard to get together with my old work friends especially since they went back to work together and I decided to go another route. I’ve also been dealing with a fizzling friendship reminiscent of Maggie’s story. I’m usually the friend putting in all the effort and it’s been really hurting my feelings and self esteem lately (especially being so lonely and in solitary confinement that is quarantine). I’ve come to the conclusion that I have to distance myself emotionally, so I felt validated hearing Maggie’s story. But I’m still struggling making new friends at this point in time.

[@sarahcervantes1270]

I love these ladies so much. It literally just feels like they are my friends and I'm listening to them talk lol

[@kelseyccoleman]

I met my best friend while I was in the navy. We're both pretty standoff-ish around strangers and are introverted, so the first few times we saw each other nothing really came from it. Once we actually started working together (we worked as lab techs so we'd be the only ones in the lab apart from the phlebotomist) we realized we had a lot in common, particularly our mental health struggles. We've been inseparable ever since, even now that we're both out of the navy and live in different states. Love the podcast, it makes my week so much brighter!

[@mirrandalynn484]

This episode kinda made me sad because Becky was talking about her childhood friends being in her wedding, and I am 17 and have no childhood friends or friends in general

[@ptboy18]

And that's okay. It's even more isolating now in quarantine but we all go through that. Becky is just a natural expressive extrovert as a theater/ actor. People in that group tend to attract all kinds of people. But trust me, it doesn't take much to make a friend. Sometimes a friendly hello, a random gift or sharing something ( like a snack). The best friends happen when you're not looking. Just feel the vibe.

[@aur9035]

Aww honestly yeah it sucks, it always makes me sad that i dont have someone that i could just trust instantly, and the best ways to have those kinds of people around you is knowing them since childhood. I had kindergarten friends but thats it. Well, im 16, and id like to be friends with you! Maybe we could talk and find out if we have things in common? If not, that's fine, we could play games or talk about things together?

[@rachellolive]

I saw this pop up in my subs earlier... but I saved it for the end of my day so I could truly sit and enjoy it. Such good and relatable talks!!! I've definitely felt that one-sided friendship in the past.. one in particular that "fizzled out," and still makes me sad to think about at times. Even though it was mentally draining to try and maintain that friendship, I do miss the good times.

[@jennahedderson9976]

My now-husband and I moved to Toronto, where we didn't know anyone, after university. It took about a year, but we eventually made friends by joining sports leagues - Ultimate Frisbee and Volleyball. Frisbee is a SUPER approachable sport for the non-athletically inclined. If you can run short spurts, you can play! We've seen 2 couples that met through Frisbee get married and the whole team is our Toronto family now, 7 years later. Would def recommend joining some sort of league or club to meet new friends!

[@megankidd4671]

I found that being consistent with a habit really helped out in making one friend, I sat next my now friend from the first day of class to the last and I’d greet and say goodbye or ask about their life. It was nice to slowly become a part of her life and in doing that it allowed for friendship to happen. I sat next to her on my first day of university and we’ve been friends for 3 years coming this September.

[@yuiunus4917]

I started my friend groups in high school and university the same way: Me talking to someone after realising we shared an interest. We would talk about it and eventually someone else would hear us and join. I'm usually shy, but both times I was encouraged to act because I didn't want to be alone and I knew there was a topic we could talk about, so it woudn't be just akward silence. They all turned out to be great friends, so, if doing this worked for me, it will possibly work for you too~ Good luck💕

[@timme4062]

I'm envious of those that have a close group of friends. I have friends that I keep in touch with every once in awhile, but no one where I feel comfortable or close enough with to have these kind of conversations with. Really appreciate this podcast because its like the group of girlfriends I never had.

[@jenwells4208]

Nothing bonds people like a bad customer 😂 never have truer words been spoken

[@namasteypapaji2315]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKS9o6SPbb92j5o 🤐🤐🤐

[@lynseyyoung7029]

I’ve never really taken to podcasts but I’m so glad to sit with you guys. Truly one of the highlights of my week. xxx

[@halleyloredo5933]

Please do a session on heartbreaks hahaha like how y’all get through it

[@AnaxErik4ever]

I didn't start making my first "long time friends" until I was in college, to a lesser degree in high school too. Part of it was influenced by my Asperger's Syndrome (Nobody ever talks about mental health and [develop]mental disorders after the high school stage.), but a major part is having trouble letting go of fear with being close to people my own age since I have been ostracized by them before (I am 27, the same age as Stefanie Kornfeld; bullying leaves scars, even if you cannot see them, much like mental illness.) Thank you for the candor, ladies; it really puts things in perspective for those of us who have trouble making friends, and those who have no trouble as well.

[@harperhyperfixiates]

My friend used the strategy of “accidentally” falling off a bench to break the awkward tension and start a conversation. I don’t know if I would recommend that though...

[@evelyne-h9090]

lol that seems like it would be so awkward omg

[@harperhyperfixiates]

Ya, but it was really funny.

[@kayagaffney5922]

Lol that is sooooo hilarious

[@harperhyperfixiates]

It was only like a month ago to lol

[@harperhyperfixiates]

penguin chaewon with a pen, (great username btw), I laughed because it was so ridiculous. I had known him previously, we just hadn’t been able to talk for a while.