How NOT to Tidy with a Chronic Illness | You Look Okay To Me

Come clean with me. I tried to tidy my room and it was a journey.
This is not a tutorial....obviously.
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[@sarahwithstars]

Perfectionism and a Chronic Illness is the worst combination. Never being satisfied with the end product makes it hard to want to bother starting or finishing a project when you feel like crap. If you feel well it is easier to motivate yourself and remember your passion for the project. When you feel unwell it is easy to lose time being unwell and just surviving, and putting things off in the little windows of feeling marginally better because there is something better to do 'and the project will be shit anyway.' it is a battle. This vlog exists. I'm so proud of you! ❣️🥰😘💜

[@Katyayanibetha]

I can SO relate, both to the struggle itself and the resulting thoughts and feelings of inadequacy and having to remind myself, Hey! You're fighting a life-threatening illness here.

[@ellainaboucino5005]

For many years I was so disabled that I could only be responsible for laundry. This past year has been the opposite for me, I've been thriving in this pepperoni and are responsible for laundry, dishes, trash management, and even cooking for myself. The two mantras I keep repeating to myself when I feel like I should be doing more are "perfection is the enemy of done" and "a day rested is a day well spent". The way I combat the overwhelm is by moving up and down a sliding scale of how much I have control over/am trying to control on any one day, and at worst it means something is a problem put off and at best something is delegated to someone else. It's not perfect, but I am safe and feel less overwhelmed overall.

[@hollywood101ism]

This comment really helped me, thank you!!!

[@rhondapagan5759]

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[@katestone7160]

Omg not wanting to shower before cleaning your space is so damn relatable. Feels related to the perfectionism trap as well perhaps. Thanks so much for your videos and your honesty.

[@MarieObscured]

Recovering perfectionist here, glad to know I'm not alone! I seem to be comparing how clean I keep thing back to when my illness wasn't as bad... It's been hard accepting my limitations when it comes to housework, and also handling the guilt/shame I put onto myself. I've had to get over the way I think things should be cleaned and be satisfied with however it gets done. Switching cleaning products because I can't be bothered to make DIY eco conscious ones that take a lot of elbow grease when cleaning, letting my partner do their best when I know it won't be up to my standards, and getting things clean enough before feeling safe to ask for outside help.

[@chiedza7280]

I could listen to you talk about anything :) Anyway, I also have the same struggle with the chicken and the egg situation. My space is closely tied with my mental health. I don't think I have found a way to overcome it but most times I will just stuff things away to trick my brain into thinking the space is tidy and I think that helps. Or I just try to do a part of the tidying-- little bits spaced over a number of days-- and remind myself that that little bit is a lot and that it's this oppressive system that we are in that makes me tie my self-worth so closely to my tidiness and productivity.

[@rosieblyther444]

I relate to this so much. I’m such a perfectionist and having a chronic illness makes that part so hard to quiet. Thank you for sharing your day!

[@lilfroggie5802]

I've been in a constant state of flares and crashes for the past few weeks and was just sooo overwhelmed with cleaning up the mess of it. Your video gave me the motivation to just get some stuff done. I spent a whole 40 minutes cleaning , putting away trash and storing clutter in bags to deal with later. Still a long way to go,but i feel so much better. Thank you

[@Dee-pv8cy]

Perfectionism; check. Chronic illness; check. I’m not really a fan of either, but I do my best to deal with them.

[@helleluyahatanda5886]

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[@MilenaReads]

‘Finished but not perfect’, that feeling has given me so much courage! As always, I love the way you talk about chronic illness, I always feel so seen. But I’m also learning from you. 🧡

[@Heckyeahellothere]

Love the "My Wife and Kids" reference lollll (okay, now I'll watch the rest of the video)

[@ChronicGoblinQueen]

Hiya from a fellow spoonie with a messy room who's also a perfectionist! I've also found my brain just isn't working as well recently but not sure if it's the rona or me lol

[@hannahmay11]

Same! How will we ever know 🤫

[@klisterklister2367]

does taking breaks work for you? like scheduled breaks? it works for me so i'm curious if it does for you i am brain damaged though, very slowly recovering but i'm not chronically ill. just disabled with brain stuff.

[@bazenhaile7742]

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