Your big sis in Christ | seeking validation from guys 😔💔

Hi Fam 🤍
Today I'm sitting down being really honest and open about my journey when it comes to seeking validation from guys. It's not easy to talk about, but I never had a big sister or mom who told me these things, so I really pray that I can be that to you 🤍
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chapters
00:00 - Intro
01:05 - The definition of Validation
02:10 - Growing up without a father
04:18 - Seeking validation from guys
07:08 - A turning point
11:30 - Healing
14:56 - It's not worth it
17:45 - You are Enough!!

[@echarles6204]

Interestingly enough, though many men in Christ don’t admit it, we experience this same sense of inadequacy and same desire to be desired by women that God never confirmed for us…..thank you for this video Deborah! 🙏

[@mrzsonqbird]

Very insightful thanks for sharing

[@TheFIame]

100 percent true

[@howarddodge772]

Your telling me about god like seriously

[@deborahbx_]

Thank you for sharing this! It's hard when things like this don't get talked about enough. Even though it's such a tough journey to walk, it gives comfort to know that we're not alone. God has everything we need 🤗 Your validation is found in him. You're a son of the most high king!! It really doesn't get much better than that 🤍

[@howarddodge772]

@@deborahbx_ what s up

[@adrianops7]

Seeking validation, regardless of the source, from guys, girls, bosses, parents...if not from God, will always lead us to a dark hole, and it will never be enough. We are very much loved and wanted, and thats from the greatest of them all. Jesus Christ, and he has those scars on his hands as one of the thousands of ways he's shown us the immensity of that love. Nothing beat that.

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!!! 🤗 Nothing comes close to living life the way it was intended to live: with our maker!! He truly loves us beyond measure

[@rambothomas2209]

@@deborahbx_ Matthew-18:19-20🙏🏿🍓👍🏽💌

[@misslulu8110]

For someone who grew up with a father and never felt Seen, Loved , Respected , I understand searching for validation in men . I will never seek anything from anyone , But my Father Jesus Christ . God has truly changed my Desires , It’s my responsibility to protect his temple . 👏🏼❤️I always wanted a sister Glad I found your Channel it’s really speaking to my heart ❤️ 🥺😫 Thank you sis

[@deborahbx_]

Amen !! 🤍 God has everything we need and he is who makes us whole. He loves us more than we will ever know. It's definitely a journey, and it's a painful one to walk through. But It's so beautiful that God is showing us that we're not alone in this. God is our Heavenly Father, we are his beloved daughter. Nothing will ever come close to that 😭🤍

[@misslulu8110]

@@deborahbx_ Yes sister Praise God 👏🏼

[@JodyJody]

I really love that part where you said "it's my responsibility to protect my temple." This is something that I really had to learn the hard way and I really wished I had learned it soon but better late than never. I learned it through a process with God, it was never easy but He has taken me a long way and I'm grateful.

[@misslulu8110]

@@JodyJody Yes definitely girl we feel the conviction of are sins . God bless you in Jesus name sister ❤️

[@rambothomas2209]

⁠@@deborahbx_and amen 🙏🏿✝️🌴💐

[@analea6531]

Sis, your testimonies always hit home. I’m 28, never had a boyfriend, last time I kissed was probably in high school. But I was so insecure and ashamed that I created this persona for my friends who is supposed to be a hottie, having sex and I even started drinking and smoking to fit in. It was so bad that I wouldn’t go anywhere including family gathering without makeup to seek validation and appear as a baddie. Ever since I had a mental breakdown and God helped me out of that state I decided to be my own self and honor the lord. I created a new Instagram where I only share positive quotes, I stopped going on random dates just to have a story to tell and not have to justify why I’m single. I’m not ashamed of being a 28 yo virgin or look a certain way without makeup because God doesn’t look on our appearance he looks on our heart. Your are such a blessing to me and I am grateful God blesses us through you❤

[@lilyyowsah]

❤️

[@deborahbx_]

wauw sis thank you for sharing a part of your testimony 🤍It's so sad how we feel pressure from people around us to be a certain way. This has definitely affected my journey too. But usually in our lowest moments we are able to humbly before God to ask for his help. We can't overcome these things in our own strength. I'm so proud of you and excited to hear that you've started a new instagram too! God is doing a new thing within you. He's only just gotten started! Isaiah 43:19 🤗 I pray that you will continue to see yourself the way God sees you, valuable beyond measure, and so so loved!! Love you sis :)

[@sindisessions]

​@@lilyyowsah How gorgeous are you ❤

[@sindisessions]

@analea6531 We are here, me too ❤ sis is relatable

[@CappieBG]

I was in the same boat as you till exactly 29, im 32 old now. Got the girl I dreamed of and didn't even think exists and given up at one point. Long story short she was a counterfeit ( a narcisist ), not only that she was a party girl of the world and introduced me to the New Age crap. Angel Numbers, Manifestation, Tarot readings I really questioned my faith at one point as this stuff seemed to work ( but it's demonic ). So what's the difference between you and me. I got lured by a counterfeit sent by the devil and my last word to her were I wish I never met her and it's true. Not only was she sent on a mission to destroy me as a man and waste 3 years of my life which I am still recovering from, but most importantly I realise she was trying to lure me out of religion and question my faith, because she was constantly spamming how the Bible is teaching me that actually ,, I am God '' and how to manifest my desires.

[@alexaanai169]

ive been celibate for almost 3 months now (which is a lot to me, compared to my past) its been so hard & ive been literally fighting the spirit of lust & sexual temptation. i feel so seen with this video. God led me here to confirm what he told me.

[@deepikaravi637]

Praise God sister! Keep fighting the good fight of faith 🙌❤️

[@Christelletv]

Yesss keep going sissy! I'm in for 5 🙏🏾☺️

[@Magical_Maya]

Girl you’re worth more than RUBIES! Keep going!!

[@najmehheydari5660]

Those men don't even deserve you Deborah... You are smart, beautiful, talented and the most important; you have God in your heart. Thank you my sister.

[@Christ_Is_Faithful]

Don’t demonise the men. We’re all broken and in need of Christ. You can encourage a sister without putting down the men.

[@crysrsmith]

Hi Deborah, I’m 41 & still single. I cried because that what I been through in my past with the wrong guys. I know God is in control of everything. Thank you so much for sharing and I needed that. May God continue to bless you and many more! ❤

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!! It's not easy sis, but know that God has someone so special set aside for you. Not all can walk a journey of singleness, it truly is a gift. 1 Corinthians 7:7. Don't let the enemy convince you otherwise. Take this time to go even deeper with our Heavenly Father 🤗 You never know when you'll have to start sharing Jesus with someone else haha. You're so so loved, and never alone :) xx

[@Reneeh13]

Same sis..Same age and everything.

[@0iamesmeralda0]

He will give you more than you asked for my love be patient and don’t stop praying 🫶🏻❤️

[@0iamesmeralda0]

@@Reneeh13 He will give you more than you asked for my love be patient and don’t stop praying 🫶🏻❤️

[@karimehendrix]

I was on the same boat, I didn’t listen and now I’m in a marriage i don’t want to fight for. I don’t regret it because I was blessed with two amazing baby boys, but it is hard to get through a relationship that was not ordained by God. I hope and pray every young person in here truly takes this advice to heart! ❤

[@deborahbx_]

Oh sis I'm so sorry to hear that 😞🤍. God sees you, he knows your heart. Like you said: you have been blessed through this and I pray that you will continue to be blessed. God can turn things around, night and day. I will be praying for your partner. That God's hand will rest upon him, and upon you also. He loved you too much for this to be it for the rest of your life. In Jesus name I pray healing, restoration and transformation!! Amen

[@karimehendrix]

@@deborahbx_ amén. thank you sis! 🤍

[@DyanaMariie]

This was my experience as well. Seeking validation, yearning for a relationship yet only being used and confused as to why it never worked. Still, I feel I’m being “ hidden” but God definitely knows if I get in a relationship I will stray from Him in this season. Thank you for sharing your story❤

[@deborahbx_]

Amen! God Loves you so much! He doesn't want to lose you. Spend your single season on getting closer to God. That's what I'm doing as well 🤗 This season truly is a blessing. One day when we get a spouse we will never have this much free time again!! Don't forget that haha. At the right time, God will send you the perfect hubby, Isaiah 60:22 x

[@zechariah4663]

In OUR WEAKNESS HIS STRENGTH is made perfect. Your transparency is healing thousands... I am sending this to my daughter. Thank you my sister... Dr. Tara United States

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!! 🤍 Our God is so good! May God speak to your daughter through what he's allowed me to share. I'm just a vessel of him reaching out to his beloved daughters 🤗 Thank you sis!

[@noems7810]

Thank you for your powerful testimony. I have a son and daughter about your age, my daughter had a similar path before, and I prayed years for her that the Lord will straighten her path. She is now happily married and had two sons and another on the way. Our God is a good Father, and I truly believe that God is preparing the man of God rightfully for you, and will bless you with God fearing children. HE will reward your obedience and will bless you more abundantly, you will be like a tree planted along riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Your leaves never wither, and you prosper in all you do. -Psalm 1:3. Stay bold, strong and courageous woman of God! HE is with your wherever you go. God bless you!!

[@deborahbx_]

Thank you so much for your beautiful message and your encouraging words🤍 Amen! It's so beautiful to hear how God lifted your daughter out of that life into everything that he's had for her! He is so so good, he uses everything for good. Thank you for sharing this verse with me also. I receive it in the name of Jesus. May our Heavenly Father continue to bless you and place his loving hand on your head. What an amazing momma you are fighting for your children at all times 🥰

[@noems7810]

❤❤❤

[@jackyneves9522]

I come back to this video everytime I need a reminder to not sell myself short for a man but instead rest in Gods love and trusting in his timing 🙏🏾 Thank you so much for this amazing video 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@Daughter.of.Yahweh.]

This is so relatable. “If he gave me what I wanted I would’ve never went back to God”

[@sindisessions]

I found a spiritual father from church, he treats me like a daughter and gold! ❤ I'm grateful to God for him because no man can ever devalue me... he's the reason I'm able to even have a channel and talk about God, encourages everything I do 😭

[@deborahbx_]

ahh that's so amazing to hear!! He is a small reflection of what God is like as our father 🤍🥹. You are so so loved and special girl! xx

[@xtrasprinklespls]

Thank you so much for this video!! I’m 23 and never had a boyfriend, and it would always make me feel weird starting from age 18..so I constantly found myself seeking validation and acceptance from guys..but as a result I couldn’t really learn to embrace being single and learn who I am through Christ. One of my main goals now.

[@deborahbx_]

I'm praying for you sis!! There truly is nothing better than being content in singleness and just going deeper with God. It's a journey with ups and downs for sure, but focus your eyes on him 🤗. The world is so loud advertising other things, but God has everything you need. I pray that you will experience the waterfall of his love more than ever! You are his beloved daughter, he's called you to singleness right now for a reason. Don't let it go to waste, we're in this together!!🤍

[@waneaallen7595]

This is so timely. Im in my early 20s and am experiencing the beginning of my first romantic relationship. Even though this guy cares for me and I for him, God is rearranging things to hide me in this season so that I can make Him my first love before anyone else comes into the picture. Im still on this journey but thank you for your wisdom and please pray that your sister learns to want Him above everyone and everything else 🙏🏾💓💒.

[@deborahbx_]

I will be praying for you sis 🤍 That God may be the centre of your relationship at all times. Draw near to him, keep your eyes on him, and he will be with you both. You sound like a very smart young lady so keep pursuing God 🤗 He loves you both so so much, and wants you to walk in everything that he has for you!!

[@waneaallen7595]

​@@deborahbx_ Thank you for this encouragement! God bless sis🤗💞

[@everythingNen]

I’m literally going through this right now. God always speaks to me through social media and KZbin. God directed me to you. I just finished crying asking God for help, I know there’s a life better than this. He directed me to you😢 thank you for sharing ❤

[@deborahbx_]

Amen sis 😔🤍 it’s not easy to go through things like this, but I’m praying for you. That you will get a revelation of God’s love like never before. Nothing comes close to our Heavenly Father. Everything else is second best 🤷🏽‍♀️. You’re his beloved daughter, you deserve only the best! Walk in that 🤍

[@sindisessions]

❤❤❤

[@munalulalifanu155]

Wow!!! Deborah you are amazing!!! I see the Lords validation all over you!! I thank God for you because you are touching lives with the Gospel..!! The youth especially. We love you!! God bless

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!! 😭🤍 Thank you so much for your kind words. To God be all the glory!! I'm truly just a vessel. Love you too, thank you for being here with me 🥰

[@1novabella]

Exactly what I needed to hear this morning! Thanks for sharing your story. I’m on a path to freeing myself from guys’ validation also. I’m enough in God’s eyes and there’s absolute freedom in that ❤

[@deborahbx_]

I’ll be praying for you sis! In Jesus name you’re also freed from the desire to get approval from guys! The creator of the universe approves of you!!! It really doesn’t get much better then that 🥹🤍

[@victoriasteward1186]

We are NOT enough, that’s why we absolutely need Jesus Christ!

[@deborahbx_]

Yessss amen!!! 🤍🤍

[@user-or5fv5py8f]

I can relate 2 your story😊.....I have been there but Jesus❤ found me n m happy being single in Christ.

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!! He is so so good 🥰 We are not alone in this, he just wants us to rest in his loving arms. The place where we won't lack a single thing

[@suzanuwera]

Thanks darling for sharing with us ❤️ love you so much from East Africa, Uganda 🇺🇬 keep the fire of God burning dear 🙏🌹 God bless you so much 🥰

[@deborahbx_]

Thank you sis 🥹🤍 to God be all the glory! Thank you for being here

[@nooby165]

As a guy I can relate a lot to the struggle you talk about, and finding validation in girls that I should've found in God. What you ended with about their not being a point really struck my heart, so hearing you say that you dared to pray about being hidden and finding peace in God through it really blessed me. I pray we all come to that that point guy or girl of surrendering to God and letting his love restore and sustain us into who He has made us to be

[@tamarabello]

I struggled with this but recently realised it was distorting how I viewed myself and what I am capable of doing. I am now on a journey of self-discovery and building my relationship with Christ.

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!! Sis you deserve so so so much better. I am praying for you. That you might also get that deep revelation of God's love for you. it really changes everything. You'll start to see yourself the way God sees you! How valuable you are, how precious, how chosen! Because that's the truth about you. You are the daughter of the king of the universe 🤗 Walk in it!

[@elisaaaaa7502]

Such an honest person. God bless you. I'm glad I found your channel

[@lovefromlerato]

This is the only thing I could find on exactly what I’m going through, there’s not even one article on this on google. So thank you for responding in obedience to God. This has blessed me and comforted in such a great way. Grace and peace to you, Deborah😭 Glory to God for you.

[@deborahbx_]

Oh praise the Lord sis! You’re not alone in this, it really is a struggle. But you’re loved beyond measure and everything you’re looking for is found in your Heavenly Father 🤍

[@ChosenByHisGrace]

Its when we're broken that God is able to heal us and build us up to the person He intended for us to be. We never need validation from anyone, whether its a guy or a friend. We have already been validated through the Blood of Jesus!!

[@niquaemyers]

And we overcome by the Blood of the lamb and with the word of our testimony. Thanks for sharing ❤❤ powerful!

[@Vivienneliv]

I’m 32 and have a had so many failed relationships. I didn’t understand who God was, his ways or the Bible until last year and I’m finally surrendering to God. I’m tired of doing this on my own. It’s been painful and I wish all my wounds could be healed over night but I’m learning to just take it day by day. I pray for a kingdom husband and marriage as well. I pray God fills all my needs and voids during this season and forever 🙏🏼❤

[@deborahbx_]

Amen 🤍. I will be praying for you as well! May our Heavenly Father reveal himself to you like never before. When we try to do these things in our own strength we never get very far, so I pray that he Holy Spirit will guide and carry you through this. In your weakness he is strong! You are so loved and he has a divine plan for your life. At the right time he will provide your kingdom spouse. Amen ❤️ Isaiah 60:22

[@Vivienneliv]

@@deborahbx_ thank you 🙏🏼💕

[@danilaroche1156]

You want to dismantle soul ties from sex. God will bring you great fulfillment. He is able. I struggle, on occasion with strong sex drive. I'm abstinent and you can't pray the desire away. I just don't act on it. No sex. Any thoughts?

[@Vivienneliv]

@@danilaroche1156 Thank you, I have been celibate for a year now. I don't act on it either.

[@mwashi401]

Omg!! Deborah, this was sooo needed! A lot of women seek validation from men and it’s beginning to be wayyy too much. With social media, women are forgetting to embrace Gods love FIRST before any man! I realized this last year when I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. I was more miserable than anything because I was seeking man’s approval rather than Gods!!! His love is pure and it’s all I need in my life!!! 😊 I trust God completely 😊

[@deborahbx_]

Yess sis so true! It’s very heartbreaking to watch how the enemy is targeting women collectively making us feel like we need the validation. We become dependent on it. But God lifts us out of it!! In him we are whole, loved, called, enough and so much more 🥹🤍

[@mwashi401]

@@deborahbx_Absolutely!!!! 😊😊

[@yolandamcclendon9627]

Big Sis!! After seeing this video and reading Hosea…I just couldn’t get this off my mind! I must have read the chapter 3 or 4 times in various versions of the Bible! I was so blessed that I was awaken at 4:30 am and i had to journal ! As I looked in my journal I looked at the page where I was writing a letter to my future husband but I didn’t finish. I actually couldn’t get past the first line! There is where I continued my journaling and wrote a letter to my LORD! Saying just as you restored Israel back to you after her whorish ways in Hosea, restore me back! I am no longer interested in chasing after lovers. I too am done partying! I am a wife and I submit to you JESUS! Then I wrote on describing my new perspective and serving God as my Husbandman by consulting and respecting Him, and speaking with Him and spending time in His presence! So “Thank you” for this video I am glad you were obedient to GOD! Praying for you!!!

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!! Wauw thank you so much for sharing that. In our weakness he is strong! Without calling on him for help we will truly never escape the patterns the enemy chains us to. 2 Corinthians 12:9-11 🤍 His grace for us is sufficient. It's a process of falling and getting up, but by God's Grace we will become the women we were always called to be. May we as his beloved daughters never forget how loved we are so that we will never lower our standards ever again! Amen

[@Thia.e]

Hey Deborah. I can tell that this was not easy for you share because sharing means reliving the memories. So thank you for sharing with us, and I am sorry you had to go through all of that. In my case, I wont call it seeking validation per say, but I have been in a friendship group where I was really hurt over and over again and I know how hard it was to let go, so I understand. I pray that as you continue to walk through this journey with God, that He’ll bring you to a beautiful rest. One of which will include a man that will love, adore and respect you. Amen❤️

[@deborahantiri7093]

Thank you for being honest and sharing this. I‘ve searched for love in my family instead of God. It’s draining begging for love from the wrong places. God is Love so therefore I have to align myself with God and seek him daily. God bless you, Deborah🙏🏾

[@deborahbx_]

Amen sis 🤍 I know how hard it is, and draining like you mentioned. God calls us to just rest in his presence and love. We won't have to earn it, or work for it like with these earthly things. Jesus died so that we are already right and deserving of God's love 😭. I pray over your life that you may experience his perfect love for you every single day. You're his beloved daughter, crowned with splendor Isaiah 62:3. Walk in it! It really doesn't get any better than that :). Thank you for being here with me sis ( my namesake 🤗)

[@godplustwoandyou111]

That’s the book He led me to one day when I was fantasizing about marriage and He showed me that HE IS MY HUSBAND firstly that I need to receive that revelation first 🌸🤯just wow

[@deborahbx_]

Yesss Amen!!! How beautiful is that! Everything we need is right here already. God doesn't withhold a good thing from us. We just have to accept the gifts he so graciously pours out over us 🤍

[@theonegrateful-leper]

This is so good Deborah . Am in my early thirties,been single for 6 years and recently found myself wanting attention from guys. So I recently stepped away from social media to get my "act" together. Thank you so much

[@deborahbx_]

God sees you and he's with you! He knows the desires of your heart. The single season can be so hard, but don't let it go to waste. Draw near to our Heavenly Father and just experience his perfect love for you. That's what I'm praying over your life. That you might know how perfectly loved you are. At the right time God will provide you with the best husband!! He only wants the best of the best for you as his beloved daughter 🤍

[@user-nk5no9wc2w]

Thank you so much for saying that. It really is important that people start talking about this more. God bless you❤❤❤

[@deborahbx_]

🤍🤍

[@magdacavuquila3263]

I'm tearing up in the office, the way I relate, going through this right now, needed this

[@deborahbx_]

You’re not alone!! 🥺🤍 Our God is so good. He loves you so so much. You only deserve the best of the best and that’s found with our Heavenly Father!

[@Anthontd83553]

It's a struggle for everyone. Especially nowadays with social media, dating apps etc. I resonate with what you said even as a male about taking a photo etc. and posting it and if you don't get likes or comments you go from thinking its a great photo to deleting it and wondering if it was a bad photo.

[@deborahbx_]

Yess you are so right! It’s very “normal” in our generation to be addicted and rely on those things. I’m praying for all of us! That we may constantly be reminded of God’s love for us. Chasing worldly approval is just a dead end. There’s nothing for us there.. All that we’re looking for is found in him 🤍

[@m77ast]

I don’t know if I am different but as a Christian guy - boyfriend / girlfriend issues seem to be the last thing on my mind. I’m thinking of building orphanages in Yemen, helping displaced children from war torn countries. Those are the types of things that I’m wrestling with but I do understand that this is such a big issue as well. Girls you belong to light. You are extremely special and valuable.

[@siphumeleledube3167]

The timing of this video is crazy and it just proves that God speaks to your specific need through people. I am currently going through a heart break and I am feeling like when am I going to be enough for someone? I have been sitting in my disappointment and hurt for a weeks now but this is so timely and I could not agree with you more. Thank you so much for this message and I pray God continues to heal you and use you to help heal others! God bless you Deborah

[@deborahbx_]

Amen sis 🤍 I am so sorry to hear that you're currently experiencing this heartbreak. It's never easy, but take comfort in the fact that our Heavenly Father is right there with you. It's often in our broken seasons where we get to experience him more intensely than ever! I pray that you will experience his loving arms around you, that his comfort will be surrounding you like a blanket. You're so so special to him and you are more than enough! You're the beloved daughter of the creator of everything we know! It really doesn't get much better than that 🤗🤍

[@sunnni_]

Whew this is a word! I grew up w/ a father in and out my life and watching all my friend's have dad's or boyfriend's love them, I became a bit jealous. I didn't understand why I could feel like I was good enough and now I am unlearning those toxic & trauma that I went through. I no longer want forced love, but genuine love that God sends to me. But now that I am 26, I am learning to understand that all the love and such that I crave, God is the first one who has done it and I am genuinely blessed to see it like this. Love this channel ❤

[@melenies.5096]

This video was such a blessing to watch it freed me from wanting validation and actually made me realize why I shouldn’t want it from ppl but only from God thank you sis❤ love and support from Philadelphia, PA

[@selestineshiro3918]

Hey gal. I can relate to this conversation. I also spent a lot of time seeking validation from guys until God shifted my mindset. Thank you for the inspiration. Blessings and much love from Kenya

[@deborahbx_]

Hi sis 🤍 it’s so tough to have gone through things like this, but how amazing is our Heavenly Father that he pulled us right back to him !?! 🥹🙌🏽 we’re so loved as his precious daughters

[@hellothere8347]

The way I can relate to this video….. I’m in the process of falling and getting up I give myself grace because God gives grace but I can’t keep doing this to God & myself. That feeling is so terrible & I’m the same I lost myself with my ex boyfriend and I’ll go months without seeing or talking to him then I’ll give in 💔 but this video just confirms that I’m never going to be enough for my ex. He’s the only guy that I would get like that for but I’m done I’m over it and I just want to walk closer to God! Thank you for this video! 🩷

[@brishelton7107]

Thank you for being honest! It is refreshing. May God bless you. We are all guilty of wanting to be validated.

[@Kat_Apiata]

This same journey happened to me! I didn't know the Lord at all, until one day I was at my breaking point and I prayed. He came into my home and gave me an unexplainable peace and I've seeked him ever since ❤

[@deborahbx_]

Ahh wauw what an amazing testimony! In our weakness he is strong. When we finally surrender everything, knowing that we can’t get out in our own strength: that’s when he lifts us out. May you be constantly reminded of his perfect love for you 🥹🤍 You’re his deeply loved daughter!

[@GODisGOOD395]

Thank you for your transparency. I understand where you are coming from & just like you said...now that I'm growing "I'm good!" You are beautiful inside & out!!!❤

[@deborahbx_]

Praise the Lord for the place that we're in now where we don't need this validation anymore!! May he continue to work on us so that we may flourish as the women he's designed us to be 🤗

[@iheart_.phiwee]

Here’s a virtual hug 🥹🫂 Love you too sis❤️!!

[@lilyyowsah]

Hi Debbie❤ this made me so emotional. I can relate a lot with certain aspects. I lost my mum as a baby and I was left with my father as a parent. He was present but he did not protect me. It just felt like he was absent when I’d be hurting and going through pain. I’m 26 toooo and navigating relationships can be tough because of the trauma. But I’m glad you’re sharing. We are all here healing and learning together. I have learnt that every time I think to chase a guy I should rather chase God… read the Word or listen to worship songs and it helps my focus remain on God. Thank you Debbie. Thank you for sharing the truth. Love you all❤ let’s keep learning

[@deborahbx_]

Amen!! Thank you for sharing a part of your testimony sis 🤍 I’m sorry to hear that you lost your mom so early on, and didn’t get the support from your dad that you needed 😔. But you sound like such a beautiful and strong woman! Look at who you are becoming. We have to constantly remind ourselves that God is indeed with us. He will never leave you. He’s closer than ever: and you are his daughter. He made you! He formed you in your mothers womb. Jeremiah 1:5 ❤️ May our Heavenly Father continue to heal you and shine his face upon you!

[@lilyyowsah]

@@deborahbx_ Amen and Thank you❤️

[@hnurtanic]

I am muslim but your thoughts were really inspirational thank you sis❤

[@lebojesica8193]

Yoh I always find myself coming back to this video🙌. I really appreciate you sharing this part of ur life as my big sis in christ, because only a few talks about this matter😢... Thank you and may God keep you❤❤❤

[@amoswealth4real]

This is an inspirational message for those who are seeking validation from this temporary world. Hebrews 12:2 Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. We should always look to our creator, not the creation because in Christ is our validation, sometimes our spouse can not give us that validation and that is why many marriages end up in divorce and relationships are been broken. ❤

[@deborahbx_]

Yes Amen! Matthew 6:33, seek first the kingdom at all times, also when finding a spouse. Our God is so so good and he loves us beyond measure

[@dreamchaser7603]

You have such a pure heart ❤ I bless you to meet true love 💗

[@deborahbx_]

Thank you so much 😭🤍 to God be all the glory !! How loved we are by our Heavenly Father!

[@HugMySmile]

You are such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for sharing your story. I too have a very similar story and I am now in the place of seeking validation from Christ. You have encouraged me and inspired me to want to share my story. Thank you!

[@deborahbx_]

Thank you so much 🥹🤍 To God be all the glory! Amen! God has sooo much better for us. The world will never give us what we need. God loves you beyond measure. I pray that you may experience his perfect love like never before in this season of your life. That you may walk in the freedom of it 😊 You his beloved child! It doesn’t get any better than that!

[@thabrichanel]

Thank you Deborah!🥰 I’m reading this book called “Captivating” by Stasi & John Eldredge and it’s all abt how God wants to be the one to fill us w the love we’ve been looking for and heal all the wounds that came from our failed attempts from looking… this video came right on time💗 I rlly suggest the book too!

[@thabrichanel]

Wow, I also jus read the Hosea scripture in the book last night! This is confirmation that He rlly is after my heart🥰🥹

[@deborahbx_]

Hi sis!! 🤍 Oh yes, I have the book!! I read it ages ago, but will pick it up to read through it again. Thank you so much for the reminder. God really is actively pursuing you every single day! He loves you so so much, and wants all of you 🤗. His love is something you don't have to earn, work for, or strive to get. It's already yours. Just go and stand under the waterfall of his perfect love that's already pouring out for you sis 🥰

[@thabrichanel]

@@deborahbx_ thank you so much, God bless you sister🥰🙏🏾

[@beaudinetm1693]

Very encouraging sister I was listening and really wasn't paying attention til You were speaking about if God had a fridge your picture will be on it,. It really hit me dropped a tear

[@catherinetheron8529]

My father was killed when I was 4 years ,my vas was Murdered, I was raped ,got my first born while still in school so I went through so many stuff ,but when I met The father he accepted me and I was restored in many ways .and my Identity was restored .

[@amosngalimani1974]

The compassion of Christ fills my heart as I am listening to you, sister Deborah. The fundamental reason for this thirst for validation from guys is the foundational issues associated with the absence of fathers. It is a deep-seated inner conflict as we all seek fathers. Truly, some of us have been given obvious names, perhaps because God knew that we would need to be reminded of our callings and destines even through our names and saving us from the world of sin. I am deeply humbled by this moment of your transparency in sharing your "then experiences" sister Deborah. We are not our behaviors nor our mistakes but rather the finished progressive work of the Father perfected in Christ Jesus. God has more of you in Him. Thank God for His salvation and mercy as He is giving you a voice to them that are held hostage to announce to them "Live" Thank you woman of God. God bless you my sister❤

[@deborahbx_]

Amen! Thank you so much for your words of wisdom as always! 😭🤍 What a good father we serve that he works EVERYTHING together for good. Nothing goes to waste. What the enemy planned for our downfall, will become our victory. We are victorious in christ. We are not our past, Jesus has paid the price for that. We now get to walk away from the sin that so easily entangles us, and run the race that God has marked out for us! Hebrews 12:1-3 🤗

[@27stewartc]

Thank you for being obedient and sharing sis! Sending love & hugs, may God continue to heal your heart & those dealing with similar situations. I pray what you’ve been diligently waiting for will be waaaayyyy more than you could ever think or imagined!! ❤

[@leahwilliams156]

This was so good. I’m THIRTY-six and still dealing with almost everything you said! Was actually gonna create a profile on Hinge today😂. But you (really, God!) reminded me that, just like ALL the other times, it would just be to no avail; that He has to be enough for me; that the relationship that matters most right now is my relationship with Him; that He is doing a work in me, and until that work is completed, every path I try to walk down towards a guy will only continue to be BLOCKED🙄😂. Thank you for this word and for sharing your experience. You have no idea how many people you’re encouraging and positively impacting. God bless you! 🙏🏾

[@jacksonogwindi1653]

I am so blessed by your testimony my sister. You have been sheer blessing to me and others. May the Lord continue to use you to shine. You are shining. Thanks so much and keep up the good work for our Lord.

[@cecesartaguda]

What are the odds as I’m watching this an ad pops up to download Tinder 😅 This is something I’ve been dealing with for awhile & definitely needed to hear this today!! Thank you 🙏🏽 🤍

[@spiritfuelled]

this video tore me down and brought me to tears. it was the video I needed for the longest and I am so glad God lead me to this channel for I finally understand why I have been facing the problems that I have been facing with my relationship and desire to be desired by men. God is so good and His light is really shining through you. thank you for uploading this video. i know it must have taken a lot of courage to upload it. all glory to God, may he continue to bless you and may your ministry continue to thrive

[@deborahbx_]

You are not alone sis 🤍 It's definitely a tough journey to walk, but when our eyes get opened to why we face the heartbreak we do, it all makes sense! God is protecting you always! That is always his agenda, you are so special and so loved. And I pray that he will pour out his presence over your life like never before. That you may know how perfectly loved you are by our Heavenly Father. Then you'll know that no other 'love' or validation will ever come close 🥰

[@kathradabeverly669]

You're my favorite big sis-I love you!!!Where have you been all my life??

[@deborahbx_]

Haha I’m here now 🤗🤍 we’re on this journey together. I’m so grateful to have you here :)

[@laurens5083]

this is a hard pill to swallow. i feel like i subconsciously would seek validation but as i grow closer to God he revealed this to me. it’s just very difficult having a desire to have a relationship and still feel that feeling that you are made for more than being single. 19 years and have been single this whole time. I know I have to have patience, but it just gets a little discouraging after being in this waiting season.

[@deborahbx_]

Hi sis 🤍 You are absolutely not alone, I know the feeing. Please know that God knows the desires on your heart. He has placed most of them there :). Trust that he knows your desire to have a partner. He will make it happen in his perfect timing. You are still so young! Enjoy all the time you have to spend with Jesus alone. As amazing as relationships can be (or so I've heard, I've never had one either), they will also restrict a lot of your freedom in ways you don't realise now. You kingdom spouse is in the hands of our Heavenly Father, that's not something you can speed up. Trust him 🥰

[@basicinfo2022]

Validation comes from within. You are not a parking ticket that needs external validation. Your worth and value is determined by you. ACT LIKE THE PRIZE!

[@TheToxicgee]

Just here to say I'm thankful for your sharing and while one might not always comment, I am always watching and liking. Stay Blessed

[@ashcxxx]

Wow! Girl this is so timely. I believe your video was sent from God straight to meee😂. No because I'm 17 and I struggle with male validation and due to having an absent alcoholic father and a toxic narcissistic mother ( which plays in to the daddy issues) I feel like I have daddy issues too. I literally have been praying to God about this because whenever I feel unloved due to my father not being around or whenever i would argue with my mum and she would insult me like crazy, it's like I would run to boys as a bandage to heal me but they just used me for my body and left, sometimes took advantage. I have done this so many times and God taught me that not only will it affect me but sometimes them because as a result of my actions i noticed occasionally i would become toxic or use boys for my own gain. Kind of like come here im sad let me release my pain on you and then leave. However, I'm so grateful that we serve a God who is ready to restore us even tho we make the wrong choices. What your doing is really helping young girls like me. God bless you girl and thanks for sharing your story❤️❤️❤️

[@deborahbx_]

Hi sis 🤍 Thank you so much for sharing part of your testimony! I can relate to your comment so much! My mom also never provided the support I needed on top of my dad being absent. It just makes you feel like you're all on your own and have to fend for yourself. And what you said about becoming the toxic one as well, girllll I've been there! But God has soooo much more for us. I pray the awareness of God's perfect love over your life! That you might know without a shadow of a doubt how loved, valuable, precious, chosen, enough and so much more you are! In our weakness he is strong. This is a journey we can't walk on our own. His grace for us is sufficient, even when we fall and get up a 1000 times he will always be there to dust us off and keep walking. You are so special sis 🤗 don't ever settle for less. xx Deb

[@TheDallydall15]

Amen I needed to hear this today ! The enemy has been tempting me to feel that I should go back to when I used to enjoy validation from men, but I do feel I’m getting stronger in spirit because a distaste does occur when we fall more into who God says we are. I also think it’s important to remember how God is our redeemer we should accept how much we’ve done wrong but just stayed focused on how he will redeem and we are FREE 🙏🏽🙌🏽. Forgiving ourselves is a major step in the healing process. God bless you ❤️

[@deborahbx_]

Amennn!! You’re so right. We condemn ourselves so much, when God doesn’t! His grace for us is sufficient. There’s nothing we can or will do that will ever make him love us more or less. I found freedom through that. That even when I do fall back into sin (because we’re all sinners) instead of beating myself up, to just reach for Gods hand and keep on walking. His perfect love casts out all fear and sin! Eventually we’ll see ourselves more and more like God sees us. We’ll know that we’re special, worth so much, enough, chosen, loved!! I pray that God will continue to pour his perfect love and presence out over your life. So that you’ll never return back to your old ways! Men won’t give you what you’re looking for sis, it’s a dead end. Remind yourself of that. What you need and deserve if found in Christ alone 🥹🤍🥰

[@Helen_590]

Sis, we are sat next to each other in the same boat 🥲 but right now, it's time to transform into the women God has called us to be. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto us. Just focus on God. This is the main reason we in this earth realm. Let not let men distract us 😅

[@luizadossantos1064]

Sis, this is soooo powerful!! I stumbled on it in God's perfect timing! Thank you so much and may God continue to bless you and give you strength to endure!!

[@taylorgood1821]

Oh my goodness!! What a wonderful message!!💕💕💕 May the Lord bless you!!

[@Callingmyphone]

Wow🙏🏽🫶🏽 thank you , I needed this !!

[@ayomipobalogun1009]

Thank you so much Deborah🤍God Bless you sister!!

[@adjoaassan4720]

Thank you so much Deborah for being open with this important topic and giving us all encouragement 🤎! May God continue to bless you and raise you up as you inspire others to be all they are called to be ✨.

[@coilsfros6404]

I resonated with this! Thank you so much, Sister in Christ! The Lord is truly speaking through you and I pray He continues to bless you and others with His word, presence, love, peace and forgiveness!

[@shaybutter3403]

You made this so simple! I will be sharing this with so many ppl... I haven't been able to articulate it like this! Thank you.!

[@user-vc5to4mm2m]

Brave, courageous, intelligent and articulte that's you, you should be proud of yourself and your achievements.

[@meddiarieschi]

thank you for sharing this sis!! this was so so timely! God bless you🥹

[@hiyori2846]

Wowwww!!! This video is so so timely! God is so good! I’ve been in a season of healing and God has given me reoccurring dreams of me seeking validation from men. I told Him last night that I’m open to healing now and that I’m tired of seeking validation. I’m so obsessed with romance but God is showing me that I’m truly looking for romance in Him but I’m looking for it in all the wrong places.

[@deborahbx_]

Ahh I know the feeling! I romanticise a lot!! God told me off for doing that, we’re just setting ourselves up for failure 😔. God truly is our portion, he wants us to come to him to provide everything we’re looking for. Seeking validation outside of God is just a losing game. I’ll be praying for you 🤗🤍 we’re in this together! And our heaven father loves us so so much. He is love in overflow!

[@renee1167]

Hi Deborah, you’re so real for this! thank you for doing the Lord’s work with these videos. This one really spoke to me especially the part about the peace that comes with ceasing to chase after guys and worrying about their opinion of us, and redirecting that energy into deepening our relationship with God. the heartbreak and loneliness has been so tough for me and I’ve cried so many times in this season, but it’s so comforting to know I’m not alone in this. Thank you and may God bless you abundantly

[@naschalyruizmelendez4729]

You’re such a precious human being. God bless you. 🥹💕

[@Sherlinerose.]

Hi Deborah, girlll everything about this video was so on point as usual but the Hosea verse just hit different 😭 whew chillll😰 . Thank you for your transparency and being so relatable 🤍

[@deborahbx_]

Hi sis 🤍 trust me, when God sent me that verse I was bawling for a good while haha. He loves us so much, we deserve the best as his daughters! And that’s found fully in him 🥹🙌🏽

[@CANISHARE]

Thank you for being so transparent and sharing the gospel. To God be the glory.

[@aidarogerio214]

Your faith talks have been helping me understand God’s ways of sending messages. Please continue with your work 🙏🏿

[@iamartoriah]

I grew up with the same values and placed a lot on my purity. I didn't date until about 25 but having not known anything, I mistook flesh for love. I got married and had a beautiful baby but the man was not the one (or he was for a time) then, he left and disappeared. Do not feel shame, it reminds me of the Samaritan woman he spoke to, he revealed himself to her despite her having known so many men, he loved her and showed who he was even to her. That in itself tells me that I am accepted in Christ and waiting was not wrong, making my mistake was already forgiven and as he always says... You latter will be greater than the former ❤❤❤ you're a beautiful soul, forgive yourself and forgive the past mistakes

[@m77ast]

Thanks for your honesty. It’s refreshing. I can see it hurts when you think about it. But don’t allow it to hurt you. In Jesus Christ your past has no power over you. The fact that you are so ashamed of it shows that the Holy Spirit is doing an excellent work in you my sister.

[@ot__4]

This video really resonated with me. But thank goodness God is a forgiving God ❤. Thank you for your courage in posting this.

[@kerinesuccessful7501]

I relate to this as someone who has been through so much heartbreak because I didn’t let God choose for me. It’s better to just wait for ur kingdom spouse heartbreak are not nice too much trauma to heal from

[@deborahbx_]

it's so tough sis.. The enemy is constantly attacking us and daughters of christ. I pray God's presence over your life. That you might know in full how valuable and loved you are. Running to him is the only way. He loves us beyond measure 🤍

[@jordynharris6311]

Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share and encourage us with this!!!

[@adelevandie]

Jireh, You're enough! Having an experience in a negative route doesn't mean you're not God's child or you must be underestimated. Our Father is all open 👐 arms and wow see the great and thrilling side of it, you've been able to get into His arms and your burden and yokes have been cut off. Thanks for being candid and confident to share your testimony of how God is now validating your life and not guys anymore and he'll always be there for you. Yeah, this testimony will surely transform someone. May God always strengthen you and shepherd your life forever, in Jesus' name, Amen. Yeah, after salvation, we're bought by Jesus Christ and sealed by the Holy Spirit. Much ❤️ love, Sis.

[@theevilgago5908]

You have become my spiritual little sister in only a few days. Your messages speak directly to my heart and I learn so much and get so much hope from watching you ❤. You also remind me of my real lil sis which makes me love you even more! You are great and so beautiful inside and out ❤🎉

[@makayadejarnette6671]

This blessed me. Thank you for your vulnerability sis. ❤️

[@bytiffanynicole1044]

Thank you for being vulnerable Sis! You have a beautiful heart!!!!💕💕💕💕

[@jasminecrawford7828]

Thank you for creating this, it’s crazy because I be thinking as a woman of God I still don’t struggle with my insecurities and it hit me the other day I started heavy crying and I realized I got to give everything to my whole heart to Yahweh, God bless you. ❤

[@TenaciousB20]

Thank you sis for being transparent! My story is similar and I have saved this video as one my favorites that I need to revist. God bless you on your journey !!

[@itsjennyfromtheblock333]

WOW your entire story is relatable! I cried so hard while watching this video sister. I strayed away from God and he has walled me off to bring me back to him, and it hurts, but i am so grateful for him seeking me out. I can only imagine how much he wept while watching my actions. It feels beyond amazing to have this confirmation of his love for me and to experience a revelation in spirit. I have been intentionally working on my relationship with God and Jesus since last week. I have been praying and studying daily and I plugged myself into a church in my new place of residence. I am in a season of healing and seeking his kingdom and I am glad we can support each other on our journey. Bless you sister and thank you for your beautiful testimony! Sending you so much love!

[@nykealyons5620]

Hi! I usually don’t comment on KZbin videos but I am currently @ 9:48 and you just shared the verse in Hosea. Last week God revealed this voice to me after I was trying to get in contact with someone who I had been seeing and craving there attention. Wow literal tears because I have never read or heard this verse until recently and I clicked on this video randomly. Thank you for sharing what God has been doing for you !

[@miss_ysmanzana]

Thank you so much for this, it came exactly at the right time as if you knew what I’m battling with and it’s not nice😫, a very known traumatic experience that you know how it will end but you do it anyway😢. . I truly found a sister in Christ in you and you’ve gained yourself a follower❤

[@igboyaalale6145]

Thank you, dear Deborah! I have just "randomly" discovered your channel and I have been positively touched by your message! Thank you, for using your energy, to bring people back to G od! Stay blessed!