Your Husband Is A Grown Man: Stay In Your Lane

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[@loverofgolf]

Every wife ever: "Did you remember to.....", "are you going to.....", when are you going to....." Change my mind.

[@gtharo]

Bingo!

[@Hebrewess8]

This last Sunday we had a party at our home. I asked my husband to take care of a few things because I was overwhelmed with everything I needed to do because of health challenges I have. I needed help. On the morning of, he hadn’t done what I asked him to do. I did just this, that you’re referring to. What’s the solution to avoiding this kind of situation, if it’s wrong for us wives to ask these questions?! It’s very frustrating! I don’t want to act like his mommie, but if he’s not going to be mature and remember and do the things, I have no choice. 🙁 I know Karyn has talked about men and escapism and why they do that, and I’m trying to do better, but that’s a big part of the issue I think. He’s not focused on what needs to be done or how he can help make the load lighter. He’s reading his book or scrolling Facebook when I need help. Now when this happens, I don’t criticize and I don’t condemn and I don’t blast him anymore. I just let it go. But that’s still not helping yet to stop this cycle. I’m at a loss.

[@TheoriginalKaraoke]

Yep nagging complaining, 150 years ago they would be in line , feminism is evil at the core

[@philgowan6298]

How about these,,,,, you should have done..., why didn't you do....., don't do ....

[@loverofgolf]

@@philgowan6298 So many variations who could name them all?

[@madbug1965]

Your videos will never help me with my wife but your videos are very validating for me...

[@nollid006]

Yeah ... Me too man. My wife said she'd never talk to Karyn, but I enjoy the validation that her message brought has been great.

[@gtharo]

Same! Listening to Karyn confirms I was never the problem. This validates everything for me as well.

[@racebannon96]

At least you guys know what you are dealing with and it is not your fault.

[@caseyolson0369]

Same here. All of the comments help me know I'm not alone.

[@racebannon96]

When I was married, everything was my fault. I got no help with our kids and the daily chores. She advised me that her affair was my fault. She finally moved out after we were married for 10 years. I got the divorce done quickly as possible. When I started dating again, most of the women were her clone. I never remarried. There are too many miserable women out there that want total control of the relationship. I have been alone most of my adult life. I enjoy it now. Good luck to all.

[@BoksCar29]

My advice to any man thinking of marriage, don't do it! Once the "I do's" are said men are fair game.

[@aidanmartin7923]

This isnt an insult, but your voice always sounds on the edge of tears. I feel your compassion for the good men out there getting treated poorly.

[@RETAINGANG16]

Because she knows and has lived the disgusting behavior of women!

[@dtybur10]

The irony, is they control and micromanage us men, then complain that we are not manly enough. No points for what has been done on her behalf, demerits for what has yet to be done to her satisfaction. Pleasing, amounts to ceasless complaining, and most importantly, ingratitude! Ingratitude is the downfall of our relationships. I can not believe how ungrateful women are, and seemingly unaware of the damage caused by their inability to be satisfied.

[@CrochetNewsNetwork]

Bingo

[@SKBottom]

That's why the way is clear. No marriage or cohabitation. Ever.

[@lildragon6415]

To be fair, the wife would be correct. If you allow your wife to micromanage you, then you are not man enough.

[@dtybur10]

@@lildragon6415 Being manly, and taking on the role of being a man, is two separate things. If you assert yourself, to be the provider, the protector, the person who has certain responsibilities, you also have to strive for a balance. Balancing your obligations, and being aware of her equally important roles, and obligations. The women I have had long term relationships with, have been strong willed, and self sufficient. These are qualities I respect, and admire. However, they also seemed to be taking on my role as well, and were unaware of how this diminished my importance. This resulted in miscommunication, and her feeling threatened by me following my biological imperatives. The end result was an unintended competition, or being accused of trying to control her. Ultimately, the more I tried to do for her, the more she seemed to find fault in my goodness of heart, and the gestures of kindness, and love, were met with ingratitude, and contempt. The old adage of no good deed goes unpunished, often resounded in my head! This wasn't just one relationship, it was seemingly every one, to a degree. I would never presume to view myself as innocent, or being a non contributor to the failed relationships. Looking back I would have left the situation much sooner, and may have been less giving of the good deeds, or acts of kindness, and affection. Gauging her response, and consider, if she truly respected, and most of all, appreciated my efforts to show my great affection towards her.

[@xyzct]

Oh God, you men who are married ... you have my condolences.

[@loverofgolf]

Same here.

[@bryanglass5818]

Avoid it if you can!

[@kennymarteen9856]

But ....but she's the ONE😂😂

[@alsimmons1650]

​@@kennymarteen9856 That an Ironclad beta male mindset.

[@kennymarteen9856]

​@@alsimmons1650whole point of my statement been married twice 😂😂

[@snake57]

Wife “nag, nag, nag”. Husband “you’re starting to sound like my ex”. Wife “you were never married before “.😳

[@Steverz32]

LMAO!!!!!!🤣😂🤣

[@gtharo]

I like this! 🤣🤣🤣

[@starguy2718]

Husband: "Whoosh!"

[@eddiea3251]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@geraldfranklin6049]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Good One.

[@nollid006]

What's funny is that they'll micromanage you and get all upset if we don't allow them to control us as much as they'd like, then they post memes with a woman holding a grown man in a diaper like a baby and say something like, "We don't need no man child"

[@jimjohnson394]

Honestly, I think they do want a man child. There’s a lot of women out there who are misplacing their maternal instincts onto their husbands.

[@witnessforchrist7778]

They do it themselves lmao

[@nollid006]

@@witnessforchrist7778 , yeah, they sure do.

[@jenaedaniels8057]

Thank you for this video. It's been a min since I watched some of ur videos and I needed to listen to this one. Sadly as a woman I get caught up. I would never tell my husband how many shirts he could have etc, but lately I have been a little bitchy in this way. I need to stay in my own LANE!

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you so much for your comment. Good for you to be honest about where you're at. As I often say, it's not about being perfect but about catching ourselves and recommitting to do better.

[@jenaedaniels8057]

@thehappywifeschool you're so welcome! And that's so true. I want to do better. I enjoy listening, and it really does help to be able to recognize these horrible traits we can carry along the way, and we need to be honest with ourselves.

[@jenaedaniels8057]

I don't know why I kept saying "We" lol. Maybe I meant " We as Women" but I should have said ( I)

[@kpbchan168]

Have a blessed and blissful marriage! 😊

[@stevepizzo6062]

So many women need to hear this and put it into practice

[@adk46er5203]

Single old guy here (66). I had to laugh. I paused this vid and did a quick check. I have close to 40 short sleeve T shirts. And a maybe 1/2 dozen long sleeve ones. And that is only my cotton stuff. I actually have ton of clothes. I have storage containers of outdoor clothing (synthetic fast drying clothing, crampons, micro spikes, tents, ski gear etc.). If a woman ever lost her mind and wanted to move in with me, I would have to get rid of a bunch of stuff. 😄

[@Okiehoma]

I tried sending my wife a few videos hoping it may help her see thing’s different but she said it was attacking her I have two kids with her and my kids are my world and don’t want to leave them and I love this woman but I feel so alone and don’t feel like things will ever change.

[@sideman7117]

Neither do men need a roommate or another fifth grade teacher (Yes, elementary school teachers, I talking about YOU!)

[@poopingwhilestanding5801]

You would think elementary school teachers make great wives...trust me, they don't! Everything Karyn talks about here is what my ex-wife did. Now she's a single mother of two.

[@heinzpilot]

Your materials should be mandatory content in all premarital counseling classes. Then maybe so many marriages wouldn't end up in these situations that you discuss all the time on your Channel.

[@JamesPetroff]

Nagging like this comes from a place of abject insecurity. It is from a need to feel superior. The only way you get to feel superior is if you are. And you are not.

[@desylid5915]

Ive learned the hard way as a business owning employer and bonafide authority in my realm that some inferior men will nag nag nag trying to bully themselves into a false superiority. Entrepreneur friends of mine I’ve discussed this with have reported similar experiences. In hindsight now that those ‘men’ are purged from my life and business but continue to fix and cleanup the damage they caused I can’t find any difference between a toxic relationship with them in employment and the epitome of a toxic ‘romance’ with a feral woman. Good, hardworking and forthright men need to be as careful hiring men as they do choosing a female partner bc the behavior isn’t by women but towards men by women and men.

[@anthonywarren1317]

​​@@desylid5915😂😂😂...what aboutizm I see... your still a women looking through a delusional lens as always....the fact that you highlighted that you're superior is the red flag this video discussed...🤣🤣.... similar experience you say your friends have experienced huh!...sounds like you and your friends share the same BS bubble....just admit women's behavior for once in your life instead of blaming men all the time..... society has looked passed women's behavior long enough....grow up already..

[@davebrucher5550]

On occasion,my roommate wife will donate my shirts/pants to Goodwill. She does not ask, or even tell me. Several times, I have seen them hanging on the racks at Goodwill and I quietly buy them back and rehang them in my closet, without making any comment to her.

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

Donate her stuff. Two can play that game.

[@BBQGuy7]

You are my hero Dave! Great job! I have no idea why they think they need to get rid of OUR things. Like don’t you have enough of your own stuff without messing through my things?

[@davebrucher5550]

@@BBQGuy7 Her shoe count is over 100 pair. I do not rag on her for that. Imagine if I took 50 to donate.

[@gtharo]

This wreaks of poor boundaries, disrespect, and a lack of human decency! And they wonder why men are leaving?

[@davebrucher5550]

@@gtharo It is just par for this course. Lately, as we approach our 43 anniversary, I really wonder if it is wise/possible to see #44. Time will tell. Life is short.

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

Your videos may not help most women turn into good wives, but they provide validation and comfort to countless millions of men trapped in dead and abusive marriages; men who over time doubted their own sanity and worth. That alone is laudable and worthy of gratitude.

[@moseslrsmith2625]

The title alone will ruffle feathers......

[@charlesowen4728]

I am. Permanently treated like a slow 8year old. I have been so demoralised by it over nearly 30 years I fear it has caused me much unhappiness. I fear it is too late for me to get beyond it but at least you make me feel that I have the satisfaction of knowing what has happened

[@SeenAndCheese]

I'm extremely independent and it bothers me when she washes my clothes and plates me at dinner. She doesn't understand that I don't like it but she needs to do it so she feels good about herself in our relationship. No, take care of the kids and yourself; I will take care of you and me.

[@racebannon96]

At least your wife cooks and washes your clothes. The ex-wife here would not help me with our kids and the chores. She added chaos and confusion. She walked out on us at the 10 year mark. It is the gift that keeps giving.

[@smokingcrab2290]

She's doing it so she can hold it over you when you ask for sex or any other contribution to the relationship. She's giving you the easiest possible thing so you can't ever ask for what you really want.

[@SeenAndCheese]

@@racebannon96 It's a fake attack vector from her and only brought up now that she's got pregnancy hormones raging. Rarely cooked and never did my clothes before. I cook nightly after 11hr work day. She's good with the 1yr old boy but not the older girls because they challenge her. She does some chores but mostly just accumulates Amazon boxes. We aren't married, with good reason.

[@SeenAndCheese]

@@smokingcrab2290 Agreed. Sex is rare, too. She does the heavy lifting with regards to the kids but other than that, I'm on my own getting the house in order. Good reason why we still aren't married; I'm not about to lock myself into a worse future than now.

[@kennymarteen9856]

Jesus ....tumbler of ice and a nice bourbon shit im independent too ! Does she fold the laundry as well

[@mr.dennis5503]

Nobody is going to put me in a place where I'm waiting on her to "tell me what to do!" Very recently, I shocked a female friend when she tried to advise me about my business. You would have thought she was teaching a kindergartner the alphabet! When I tried to explain why I was doing a particular thing a particular way, she kept interrupting until I got fed up, and I replied, "So, I have managed to get this far, but I didn't know anything before you came along? Forget that I've done this on a high level my entire adult life, and that I'm following an actual plan, and let's just do everything your way!" She said I hurt her feelings... 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@RETAINGANG16]

I can't have female friends maybe an acquaintance.

[@the.bonsai.samurai]

Love this content! The only problem is that the type of women that act like this will never listen to content like this. 😣😣 It's good to know a person is not alone, but it doesn't solve the problem unfortunately.

[@CrochetNewsNetwork]

Great video. Very accurate.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for watching and commenting :)

[@kenthil]

My STBXW is like this about a lot of things in my life.

[@UnexpectedWonder]

This is some of the Realest Talk you'll see and hear about Women.

[@bbclose]

Also, a man shouldn't do the same to his wife. There are men who literally throw a fit if their wives want to cut their hair. Some devout Christians will say a wife should wear her hair the way her husband wants her to. Also, if he finds something she wears is immodest, he can tell her to change. Basically her husband takes the place of her father.

[@BBQGuy7]

I love your channel so much! I am a runner and I keep all my old running shoes. Just like you said - so what. What’s the biggest pain for her to deal with? Seeing my old running shoes in a spare closet. I know how many I have had and how many that have been removed and discarded. I truly believe it’s a control thing more than a mommy thing. Thank you again!

[@acmikell6765]

03:10 is perfect for a video short! Men start to default to their wives to avoid the backlash and think maaaaybe she'll be happy if things go her way..... THIS is the "Happy wife, happy life" mentality that doesn't work!!

[@jwhite8086]

How many valuble items you wanted to keep magicaly ended up in the trash?😢

[@johnthree1611]

When my wife a few years ago, stopped trying to be my mom, on certain things, like disciplining the kids, or if I accidentally cussed and she shamed me for it. When she stopped trying to be my mom, because it's what culture teaches women to do to their men, we rarely fight now. She does still get super defensive, if I bring up something that bothers, which is rare to bring anything up. My wife has always picked me and kids clothing out for events, and holidays. It's never bothered me much, because she dressed us very nicely, and she enjoys doing it, so I allow her to do it. I don't feel like everything has to be a battle, or me showing my independence. Now, if I ever didn't want her to pick out my clothes, she may be surprised, but she couldn't make me do anything.

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

They love to discipline you as your mother, but reject the idea to cook, clean and do laundry for you as your mother did.

[@johnthree1611]

@@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115 , True. Luckily, my wife does all that for me, and takes care of me and the kids, she doesn't ask too much from me.

[@Dee-th4mr]

Lists and lists and lists! Then lists of lists. Scariest words in my life “I’ve got a great idea! We can do this...right?” Since “we” generally means “me” I go along hoping to “make her happy” and get along. Never works cause the goalposts get moved again. Just sad.

[@MSMW23]

My ex-wife did this, and when she left me for another, she blamed me for treating her as my mother. Funny, but whenever I tried to assert control over myself, even little things like my clothes, she would get angry as heck. It was all about control. Everything is the house had to be her way, including me. She tried this with her new man lol. So glad I did not take her back when the other man dumped her and she wanted to "try again."

[@VYT6171]

So in all seriousness - how does a wife address what she feels is her husband's reckless driving (i.e. speeding, needless lane changing, etc.) while she is in the car with him? This is a continual issue with my husband and I (we even argued yesterday about it). He says I'm controlling, but honestly I just want to make it home alive!!

[@bobbye7353]

Do not drive with him and take separate cars if possible. Explain and promise that it isn't personal. Even go as far in your compromise in telling him that it's very possible that he doesn't actually drive poorly and that you have a complex that YOU need to work on. This may all be bullshit, maybe you shouldn't have to do it, BUT if he actually loves you he will no longer take it as an act of aggression/spite and he will be moved to "help you" as ANY human would feel compassionate about this issue.

[@bobbye7353]

I have seen people drive EXACTLY (or worse) as I do, but when I'm driving that cling to the car for dear life as if I'm about to kill everyone. One day I stopped taking it personally and tried to be empathetic and look for better solutions other than victimizing myself. If I was your husband I would HAPPILY let you drive if that's all it would take to solve the problem

[@VYT6171]

Thank you both for your very thoughtful and respectful responses 😊

[@brettonwoodsvsbtc1217]

U are a genius…I will not allow a women into my life until she gets it like you do. Virtually all women out here are trying to set the agenda for how the relationship goes. It’s exhausting.. u are a genius

[@paddyoak1]

I always thought all these married men were exaggerating about how their wives were!😂😮

[@natalia1045]

I’ve never looked at it this way 🤔 the way you say it it really does sound horrible. How I see it though is that I stay at home and I do things around the house, they are important but they can wait, they are not priority. So now I say to my husband like I need to be this done within a week so he has a time frame. He used to ignore me altogether because to him it was just not important and my attitude wasn’t right either. I also told him to declutter his t-shirts 😬😬😬🙈 but we put them in a box and are waiting if he even misses them and wants to wear them… so now… wow this is confusing. I don’t think I treat him like a kid… but maybe I should change my perspective a little bit and not try to have everything perfect at home (but my priority is to have a nice home for my family).

[@alsimmons1650]

They treat you like a child when you allow it. Protecting your dignity as a man is a must no matter what.

[@DeoFrutuoso]

Yeah I don’t tolerate that bullshit, told me ex several times, you are not my mother

[@sandevilleadfoot8443]

😂 if I told my husband he couldn’t wear certain things he’d tell me to f-off. And rightfully so. Can you imagine the tables turned? My response would be the same… It would make me angry also if someone just got rid of my clothes. I’ve definitely learned a lot on your channel but can’t believe most of what you say isn’t common sense…

[@User31084]

Old women do all this crap. Young women "dont need no man". And, can't find one, because men are walking away 😂😂😂

[@ste6826]

Spot on. 😢

[@nateg861]

Holy moly that hits close to home.

[@DonFarmer-hq5sw]

Bingo , on target 🎯 😊

[@keywestfan2503]

Another example of the craziness: During the course of the marriage she surprised me with a new Corvette and also a new Mustang. SHE went and bought them. Then after awhile it turned into “those stupid cars”. Because I’d wash them etc, or because I was a dad and they were stupid cars to have with kids etc.

[@maryherasme]

Thank you, I am learning a lot here.

[@per_growth]

Personally, I like it when my wife 'mothers' me in a way that takes care of me. But when i put my foot down and say - no - this is what I'm going to do - she just keeps quiet and accepts that.

[@JDavidHopkins]

My lady “refuses to leave the house” if I don’t wear what she accepts & then later says she won’t have sex with me cause I’m a “little boy”.

[@gtharo]

Leave her!

[@j.p.5716]

Start ignoring her demands and making some of your own. Flip the script. You are the man, start acting like it. Reward her when she does what you want and do not reward when she doesn't. You might be very surprised at the results.

[@JDavidHopkins]

It’s like she never stopped playing with dolls that she could dress, command & scold. I’m the doll!

[@haddadiwanassa]

So How to be truly happy so that we can make the men in our lives happy ? Hope you make a video on this question

[@privateprivate4315]

I’ve tried all this and nothing works. She isn’t receptive to the videos and message either. I have come to HATE my wife. Lack of sex, disrespect. When I met her she was making 30k between two jobs and I was making 130k. I’m pulling in 230k now and still she speaks to me like I’m clueless. We have three kids under 5. When the youngest is 18 I’ll be filing for divorce the next day. I also feel no compulsion to be loyal to her anymore since she has zero desire to meet my needs. And yes I’m still in shape, doing all the same things I did before.

[@randydavis7718]

Yet Another Great Video from you. Thank You 👍😁

[@carolobrien7071]

Married old woman here (65). Your comments about t-shirts made me laugh because I have more t-shirts than my husband! I love t-shirts, and if they have something funny or crazy on them, all the better. I wear jeans and tees all the time and intend to continue doing so because they're COMFORTABLE and when I'm doing housework at home or for pay part time, that's important. If my husband and I are doing work around the house they're the most sensible things to wear. Kirk Cousins's wife picks our his clothes?! Yikes!

[@billfickle2844]

I've had the you have too many T-shirts you need to donate some talk.... And my response always is, they're my t shirts That's none of your business. She doesn't like it but that's okay.

[@darrellbarry3402]

I told her that many many comments on this channel described her BULLY behaviour with such accuracy it couldn't be a coincidence. She couldnt give a shit.

[@TephaRhi]

What about when our husband is going through rough times… regarding health and/ or career? I feel there are frequent times we should have a motherly approach: tenderness, encouragement, affection, listening, helping. The line has to get drawn somewhere for mothers even of their own children of wanting control over everyone and everything. That’s different and I would use a different term for that than “mothering”…. Perhaps “controlling” or “emasculating”. Even for my young children, I tell them “let me know when your clothes are too small or you don’t want them anymore and we’ll donate them and I’ll get you new clothes”. I’m there to help if they need or want it.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Good question. I understand where you are coming from. I consider our tenderness, affection, and providing help, if asked, as womanly and wifely in the context of marriage. A man doesn't want his wife to mother him.

[@TephaRhi]

@@thehappywifeschool Thank you for your reply!💜💐 That makes sense.

[@Raven.Tulips]

The tender and encouraging approach you're describing is not motherly; it's **nurturing**. Being a nurturing wife is a wonderful and beautiful trait. It means being a help meet to your husband, showing compassion, actively listening, and being empathetic. 🌷 My husband recently faced a tough decision about whether to switch jobs or stay. When he asked for my support, I responded with love and assurance, telling him that I trust his judgment and know he'll choose what's best. Throughout his decision-making process, I supported him and listened attentively whenever he wanted to talk about it. Yesterday, he made his choice, and I made sure to let him know how proud I am of him. ♥️

[@TephaRhi]

@@Raven.Tulips Thank you for sharing💞🌸

[@krowraven7]

you know if they never bit that apple they'd be great !!!

[@jimb3093]

It went down hill from there.

[@little8940]

I live this most days.

[@diegomora1294]

Sister is saving an entire generation

[@nicklewis7291]

"The Undertaker" (a former WWE wrestler in case someone doesn't know) has a podcast. On one of the podcasts, his wife who was once in the WWE herself, emasculated him right on the show. So, apparently, even "The Undertaker" gets treated like that.

[@lotharlazlo2958]

So many relationships die because wife takes control, then resents husband for being under her control.

[@dennyfw]

as a man, just asking, and you think women can be taught by her own man 😏

[@alohaohana901]

That's a very old trope. It goes without saying that grown men don't want another mother. Women say and think the strangest things.

[@Setright]

"You mother me, I son you." - James (That's a UK band)

[@paisano777]

Too many t shirts... SMH Yep, always griping about something. Always have something to say

[@josephskowronski]

The Happy Wife must know my sister, she turned me off on the idea of marriage!

[@avalerionbass]

"I'm not his mother! I need a grown man!" - The woman that feels the need to nag all the time.

[@tristanlanier5641]

I would love to hear your thoughts about sexual intimacy while kids are awake in the day. Sometimes I wish my wife would distract our kids and pull me away for some alone time, but it seems difficult for her to get in that mental space. Last year, I took her for an overnight getaway and it was like being with a different woman, i want her to be able to be that woman at home too even when the kids are here. Edit: the hardest part is that she seems to care about my needs, but it's like that care only lasts for 1-2 weeks with lots of sex then I'm supposed to be okay with it suddenly cutting off and not happening again for awhile.

[@Raven.Tulips]

Be silly and tease each other to get into a playful mood. My husband and I have two small boys, and when they’re occupied with the TV or their toys after meal times, and there are no pressing needs, we sneak away for some alone time. When discussing intimacy with your wife, honestly express how it feels neglected and that you wish it could happen more frequently. My husband and I have had this conversation before. This was something I recognized, wanted to change, and sincerely apologized for. For your wife, I pray that she is respectful, thoughtful and receptive to your words. Sometimes, we wives unintentionally put sex on the back burner, which isn't good for husband’s, ourselves or the marriage. Physical intimacy is important and strengthens the connection between husband and wife and should be honored. Something I personally do is plan for intimacy three days a week and it’s truly exciting! My husband is always on my mind, but it’s on full blast during these times! 💕 Some people feel that planning takes away spontaneity, but in my experience, it enhances the anticipation wonderfully. My husband isn't a fan of a planned schedule because it feels like pressure to him, but since he doesn't know I plan it, it remains a nice surprise ☺️. We both have our own ways of initiating, and it works wonderfully in our marriage. I apologize for the lengthy response, but I hope this helps! Suggesting a similar approach to your wife might make a positive difference.

[@tristanlanier5641]

@Raven.Sunflower thank you for the reply! I truly appreciate all your input, we have a son and daughter, and just found out we have another on the way! I've discussed the scheduling, I wouldn't want to know either, I love the surprise. Maybe it's just something we need to go over again, thank you!

[@Raven.Tulips]

@@tristanlanier5641 How wonderful! Congratulations to you all! Sending many blessings on this new journey and to the beautiful new addition to your family! 🙏🏾🤍 Yes, definitely look into it again, as many married couples report great satisfaction even with scheduling intimacy.

[@Raven.Tulips]

@tristanlanier5641 How wonderful! Congratulations to you all! Sending many blessings on this new journey and to your beautiful new addition! Yes, it’s worth considering again, as many couples find great satisfaction even with planned moments of closeness.

[@tristanlanier5641]

@@Raven.Tulips yes, the intentionality is something I would really appreciate!

[@AutunmBlossom]

WISDOM IS FAR FROM THIS WOMAN...

[@canelareina3795]

1:25. I dont understand this. Are we to assume that the man is afraid to say, "No, Im keeping all my T shirts?" And the other man is not allowed to go to a store and buy his own clothes?

[@98pointseven]

Karyn: I really love your videos. Not only because you speak so much TRUTH, but because you're fearless too. What a shame that you're happily married. Because you're just my type. HOWEVER: In the area you are talking about today, I must tell you a shocking secret: A LOT of us men actually crave "Mommy." To one degree or another. And in one way or another. My own marriage eventually fell apart because my Missus had no interest in telling me what to do. It would have made me deliriously happy if she had picked out my clothes and told me when I could have a beer, how much TV I could watch, when I had to go to bed, etc. I know perfectly well this kind of relationship is not to everyone's taste, but for some of us, it really does make our little hearts go pitter-pat.

[@dragoneyr1632]

I don't think you make the majority of men

[@98pointseven]

​@@dragoneyr1632 Never claimed to. But the prevalence of such men is certainly higher than it's conventionally thought to be. I'm guessing maybe ten or fifteen percent. Sexual attraction to "dominant" women, which is not the same, though related, is very widespread, and has been demonstrated statistically in studies of internet porn searches.

[@terrymitchell7714]

Wow, if only your thinking could be cloned million's of times the world would be a better place. God Bless

[@brianhoyt3780]

WHEN THEY BUY CLOTHES FOR US. NOT!!!

[@Brody.W]

Thanks! For being my biological mother.. Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen and amen.

[@TomeRodrigo]

Looks like you have it a bit confused. The grown man won't let his wife or girlfriend to micromanage him. He will stop that behaviour in 3..2..1. Man who can't do this, is definitely not a grown man but rather a little pushover.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Thank you for your comment. What you are describing is an alpha male. A good man has been emasculated, so he is unable to "stop the behavior." Until he learns to rebuild his strength and confidence, anything he does to "stop the behavior" is like bringing a knife to a gunfight. Watch this video to learn more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d6CyqHeVlJ6joac.

[@TomeRodrigo]

@@thehappywifeschool I mean, I talk about myself in that comment, but I definitely don't perceive myself as any alpha male, sigma male or whatever of that fragile egoistic nonsense.

[@balticstain7150]

I love your video's fabulous so helpful, but my wife would say I don't need to be told what to do because iam nothing wrong especially in the area of sex I don't need it do hear me !!!!

[@blueheelerfriend8450]

👍

[@Wisdom122]

Just act loke an adult . Nog a scared child.

[@SC-or2ek]

You do all the work .she took all the credit . You go to work . She keep the money . Men beings slave to their own wife a little did they know that. 😢😢 Come home to second mother.👩

[@anamosa1574]

Hahaha are you married to an Italian guy because ….

[@lloydwalden4053]

A Lot of Men want Mum.🤔🙏🇬🇧

[@gtharo]

Not in the slightest bit! 😊I can buy, maintain, and put on my clothes!

[@Leslie-es5ij]

There is such a thing as the mommy complex though !

[@jimb3093]

Some men are like that. I’ve seen it.

[@fcf777]

@@jimb3093” some “

[@BoksCar29]

My wife makes a great mother but a terrible wife, so damned tired of being condescending to. If my wife isn't pissed off about something, on a daily basis, she isn't happy, and complaining is another of my wife's traits that grates on me.

[@racebannon96]

Thank you for reminding me why I never remarried. The ex-wife was a miserable creature. Divorced 27 years now. I was able to retire seven years ago. It is very peaceful in my home.

[@chrisomalley1105]

Great mother? Doesn't sound like it. She's giving a horrible example of what a respectful, loving, caring, intimate relationship ought to be. The kids will duplicate it into their own lives, and already despise mom and her constant condescending attitude. ( Voice of experience 😢)

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

Gentlemen, just learn how narcissistic men manipulate and emotionaly bully w0men, and w0men will love you.

[@chrisomalley1105]

What if it's the other way around? The Husband ( me) wanted to change my wife? You know, the sexless, controlling, manipulative female that I divorced. Sadly I did just "stay in my lane" for decades. Trivial things do add up...death by a thousand cuts! She's an adult, but no other adult wants much to do with her!

[@AZRob56]

"I thought you said you".....