"Your man is cheating because you are boring"

"Your man is cheating because you are boring"
Side Chick Anonymous - Trappin Anonymous - Episode 9
Welcome Back!
On this episode of Trappin Anonymous we delve into the lifestyle of the infamous "sidechick." In what may be one of our most controversial episodes yet, our guest details the psychology behind being the woman in the shadows, gaining a perspective on someone in our society who is often shunned. You will learn the experiences that lead someone to no longer wanting to be in a relationship, how scars from the past can impact every encounter in the future. Have an open mind and explore the mind of a woman once hurt in Side Chick Anonymous. Be sure to follow @Breakbeatmedia @Trappinanonymous and @Christylezz on Instagram.

[@indiganoir]

She wants to think she’s a “realist” but in reality she just went through some sh!t that she didn’t deserve and now she’s projecting her hurt onto other people… it’s pretty sad to see…

[@acpkam1]

She uses "its not on me " as a coping mechanism

[@mlove8158]

Taking a man but not being able to keep him wears on the heart at some point. This ain’t a flex

[@kayg2908]

She sound so defensive on everything he ask. She definitely is having a battle within herself she needs to learn how to love herself. Whatever she puts in the universe will definitely come back on her whenever she finds happiness.

[@femalebabypluto]

The fact she said she’s not a hoe 😭

[@Beautyy832]

Sure will. Karma's a b**ch

[@hazelsunshine1502]

My thing is.. If she doesn't GAF why hide her face 🤔🤔 I'm confused

[@mschellylove3588]

😂😂😂 I just said that lol

[@EverydayGworl]

I really liked this interview, I can definitely see where she’s coming from and agree on some points. Can we get an interview with a habitual cheating boyfriend/husband? I want to hear a man’s perspective as to why he wants/needs a side piece.

[@calired704]

She’s explaining it .. there are equally opposite types of the same men and women with personality traits and mentalities…….. but from a man I’d say that I was totally seeing it all her way n the same way as a guy I know for a fact guys do this too… I was a sniper when I went out… it wasn’t hard .. I’ll never forget the night me n my boy was out n the one I told him about that we saw literally all night was scoping us the same way…. Made a good friend that day she’s been solid since day one tho.. 🤣🤣….so I literally listen to this n switch the male n female roles all interview n it’s exactly true still…

[@rakystalewis9431]

SHARING!!!! Serious mental issues, low self esteem, past abuse, DEEP past trauma...etc, i could literally go on. It's literally radiating off her and that's what saddens me the most. I pray she finds healing and wholeness🙏🏾

[@EverydayGworl]

People cheat because they want to at the end of the day… yes they can be motivated to go outside of their relationship when they aren’t getting what they want within their relationship. But let’s not just put it all on the “main” woman as if it’s impossible for somebody to be bringing the whole package and still get cheated on 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@94ftoflogic_idr14]

Someone is self motivated to cheat and they take normal relationship hardships to justify doing what they already want to do. Hardship should motivate you to connect deeper with your partner not seek a new connection outside of your partner.

[@prtyblkprncss1980]

Perfectly said!!

[@cvaldez4937]

She says she has trust issues, but she's not trying to help that. All I can say is she's got a lot of maturing to do, and hopefully when she's older she heals.

[@luvingmewholeunapologetica3640]

I used to be her…. I understand and I also understand the hurt she’s hiding. I hope one day she free herself and realize she’s much better than the person she’s portraying to be.

[@wandalee5977]

Yaaay.

[@incrediblywhitty]

She can EXPECT only good karma but that doesn’t mean she’s gonna get it🥴🤭This is immaturity, hopefully she grows up eventually

[@queensmos9052]

AYO Chris the way you described marriage was SPOT ON, I valued that brother.

[@mikap4937]

Bird behavior 😳

[@ericadesiree8700]

Sis got inner demons. Can’t even take her serious. Sounds hurt frankly 😕

[@HIWWPI_2024]

“I’m the eyeball 👁 of your eye”😂😅

[@lashawndajohnson4249]

I’m sorry being over 30 there is No way I can knowingly share a man. I know how that hurt feel and I could never do that to another woman. As humans I feel like if you know you have NO intention of being faithful you should let the ppl know that and let them make their own decisions if they wanna stay and participate! LISTEN MEN: No one is forcing you to be with them. If you are not ready to be with just one person, stay SINGLE and just mess with who you want to!

[@beautybykey9322]

Lol she sounds delusional.. she moving like shr doesn't care but how much u want to bet she has fallen for one of these dudes that she'll never get because they'll never leave their ladies for her.... 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Msvictoryy]

Lol this isn’t realistic… this is just a coping mechanism from her previous trauma. As a realist first and foremost, you see the world for what it is, meaning there’s more than one side of a story. The projection she displays is really contradictory to her whole point of being honest in a relationship. Because if you were truly an honest person, you would approach the woman he’s committed to since you feel as if “sharing” is right. Plus you wouldn’t blame one person for another one’s actions. If a man cheats, he’s cheating because he made that decision, not because he’s unhappy. There are a lot of men who get the woman they prayed for only to end up cheating because of something wrong inside of them … and plus if they’re so unhappy then why not leave or be honest with the person instead of doing something that could damage them as a whole and most likely hurt their self esteem. Just cause you’re honest with “yourself “ which you’re not since you have to put on a cold act to bypass any sort of morals, does not mean you’re right and that you’re not doing anything wrong. It’s delusional to think that you don’t have any accountability for your part in his cheating. And that what you’re doing is okay when it’s not… not caring about the people you end up hurting will never bring you good karma, it’ll only add on to the bad. And karma doesn’t always come in the form of the actions you took previously, it can come in a complete different aspect of your life which you care for more. That’s not how the world works… or karma. How else will you change for the better without learning through the consequences of your past actions??? You play a role in it too, a huge one actually, but you’re not the main character. Someone who acts out a murder with a murderer is indeed… a murderer. I hope one day she hears herself and learn from this. Pick up your crown and don’t let anybody be the cause of you changing your standards. Moving in hurt doesn’t heal it, you’re just adapting to the pain which will then only make you numb until another wound comes along that’s bigger than the first one… I don’t understand why this generation think it’s cute or funny to think in a manner that’s detrimental to not only them and their health but to the ones their hurting. It’s really sad… we need to seek Jesus more than ever …

[@colinc5531]

BEAUTIFULLY SAID !

[@2intriguing1]

She doesn't want to settle down because she can't. Her karma has yet to be felt but she will pay with her life. I know women in their 40s snd 50s who still suffer behind messing with married men.

[@babydaddykilla311]

So what does the married man fucking suffer

[@naturally4realmocasio232]

She’s Weird Bro…Great job interviewing and staying professional

[@karmicstorm4022]

Super weird and some men that are happy do cheat. Sometimes they are just cheaters. She is going to get herself in a situation she can't get out of. She sounds sneaky and manipulated. This attitude is just an excuse as to why she does not have a man so she settles for someone else's. Literally living in another chic shadow. Tht shit sad and frankly nasty

[@rubytuesday863]

​@@karmicstorm4022TRUTH!

[@AshlyMonet]

A complete weirdo

[@tayg7677]

Great interview. Listening to this just makes think of men that are DL. Probably very difficult to find someone to do it but I think that would be a good interview.

[@tootieno]

19:45 is real. Very cold and walk up. The way she speaks about women as if she’s not one is scary. I truly believe all the negative things she says about women is how she felt about herself when she was broken. “Eyeball of his eye” 😂

[@tyrahgoldwire3150]

You said it best

[@AshlyMonet]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Deedee-fl6dq]

Low self esteem

[@iamtheclout1912]

She better hope she don't run across a crazy that will take her life about there man or about her scheming

[@AshlyMonet]

I understood when said sadness turns to anger quick. But because I know the feeling of someone deliberately ruining a relationship. I just would never want anybody to feel that way. Its horrible . Smh

[@tyrahgoldwire3150]

She doing to other woman what was done to her and I don't know why sooooo many girls these days think that having this mentality is being realistic cuz it's not

[@Lucky_Gurl-Luna]

This interview took me by surprise bc I caught myself laughing at what she was saying bc it’s facts in what she says it’s just her delivery is very blunt and not dressed up to make other’s comfortable . This interview opened my eyes and I appreciate her honesty. 🙏❤️😇

[@ZYah903]

I hope she can fight! Lol

[@deonteirvin6130]

she sounds so delusional. although it is on the man , she’s willing to mess up a home along with that guy . & the karma topic , WHAT ? u will get bad karma

[@livin4racks191]

I feel her even if you tell the truth they ain’t going no where.

[@haroonkearse7313]

Hurt people hurt people

[@EverydayGworl]

“Let me get it all out first!” 🥴🤣😭🤣🤣

[@wrights32100]

Nothing is sacred anymore. With that said, you are either sharing or single. You are either disciplined enough to focus on the relationship and what makes a relationship work (both MAN AND WOMAN on the discipline and focus).....or it anything goes. Married?? Don't bring yo ass out here in this wasteland.....you better FIGURE IT OUT and make that marriage work 💯💯

[@hermeameoshi]

Good interview!!!!!!! She made a lot of points!

[@HaughtyHedonist]

She Doesn't Know How Karma Works, Bless Her Heart 😅 This Is Part Of The Reason For Why The Dating Scene Is Ground Zero, Too Many Damaged People In It With Not Enough Therapy.

[@5oshine]

That sounds like a man

[@bonnieblancho7381]

The body type look 👀 like one too

[@writeousrhema]

It is a man

[@Ebonnnni__]

The fact her that her daddy don’t care and shows it she’s hurt by it and you can tell

[@user-je7qx6ft9i]

The delirium here is astounding

[@clanice1503]

Happy is not in the vows - a 💎

[@trives99]

Ma’am… when you are “ready to settle down” no man is still going to want you…. That’s going to be your karma and I wanna be the fly on the wall to see it.

[@hazelsunshine1502]

I was that girl at one time... but you gotta know your worth.. If all you good for is a side chick that's how you gonna always get treated.. You can't play these games and think bad karma not gonna happen... some ppl really will hurt you for messing with theirs that's why you got to be real careful

[@veronicamoxley881]

Low self esteem frfr

[@mbey2158]

She’s hurt. She does all of that bec she is hiding behind hurt. 🙏🏽 I appreciate her for being candid and sharing her feelings openly, tho.

[@CocoWeinberger]

I'm sorry I can't hear "She"

[@latreseelam1012]

All of this will spin the block and circle back when she is wanting and looking for her person

[@mesomeone8684]

This how people end up on dateline.

[@rochellehicks5415]

I can understand her view point. I feel she has came from a place of hurt but she choose to be a side chick so she won’t get hurt or be vulnerable. In my view point you can give a person all their desires and wants but they would choose to do something different even with your permission. People are selfish.

[@chrystalyoung7165]

Soooo true..!!

[@Chantusyluvmuzik]

U answered the marriage thing correctly !!! Yes marriage is under GOD it is sacred !!! God wants marriage!!! Marriage is beautiful and No relationship is perfect!!! U gotta find who is equally yolked with u and ur beliefs again marriage doesn’t stop cheating but u have more sacred committed vow to ur partner under God ! It is in the Bible to get married and procreate .. can’t have kids out of wedlock… yes we do but it isn’t correct … this is a spiritual warfare where side hicks downplaying marriage cause they are the ones breaking it along with the husbands .. too Many jezebel spirits out here !!!! Heathers and all .. stay prayed up and wait for God timing 🙏🏾

[@EverydayGworl]

19:55 As a realist myself, I can respect a Realistic Queen 👸🏽

[@rakystalewis9431]

"I am that girl, with they man" I FLATLINED‼️🥴🤣🤣🤣

[@peachypam4505]

Why doesn't he just be with you then???😂😂

[@chaseme20]

“Figure out what what you’re doing that makes him wanna go out” 🤦🏾‍♀️ if you’re not happy say something or leave but cheating is NOT on the other mate

[@c.celess3662]

There has to be more to life than aspiring to be a side chick…🤷🏽‍♀️shit is weird…

[@yolandamccain]

This is the pettiest stuff I’ve ever heard!

[@EverydayGworl]

🗣BE SELFISH…especially women!

[@sunflowerlove8243]

This was nice to hear although I thought it would be distasteful. It’s all too relatable. Tbh thankGod I found my person but in my single life this was me sadly 😢

[@LyricColeman]

I hope she heals ❤️

[@yerpyurnt2197]

This lady is depressing

[@Hipocahontess]

This is the funniest shit ever because cheating is a character flaw. It’s a behavioral pattern. I would never cheat on somebody ever at any point in my life because that’s not part of my character. Willingly swapping body fluids with multiple people is absolutely disgusting and I can’t imagine what your pH level is like. Also being single and having self love unless you find the person that actually is your match is not lonely unless you’re just a miserable person. I also think it’s hilarious how the black community tries to pretend being legally binding to someone else doesn’t mean anything. Because under dire circumstances that absolutely does matter look at Lauren London she literally had to fight for years to get any type of money because she was not legally married.

[@sandrafernandez6578]

I’m sorry but this sound like a dude that’s why he got his face blurred BUT the voice is giving me manly vibes! I don’t have nothing against any man who’s gay or trans but if u bold enough to be a “ side chick” then u should be able to be bold enough to show face!

[@lavenderblu253]

I thought i was the only one

[@mesomeone8684]

Same

[@EverydayGworl]

6:17 yea, yo nigga is definitely one of those hun… *”you might wanna!”* (Santana voice) 🤣😭🤣😭

[@cadende2010]

This lady is delusional and defensive. You can tell by her responses that she’s reaching for excuses to validate her actions. Stay safe everyone 🤍

[@EverydayGworl]

The self worth talk regarding a side piece is honestly used as a degrading tactic imo. Although, I’ve never knowingly been a side piece, other girl, etc I think you recognize your self worth in the realm of knowing that you can deal with a man own your time, you can still get treated well, you don’t have to be his backbone or foundation as like the “main”, you can reap more “benefits” without risking if that makes sense…of course there’s cons but I can definitely see the hype.

[@novemberjanuary8101]

You have all kinds of cheaters. Some cheat in the winter, spring, summer, and fall, and they don’t cheat again until the next time of year. You have some cheat one time, and never cheat again. Then there’s the one that cheat all the time. Monogamy is a big challenge for a lot of people. It can be done with commitment, and maturity also emotional intelligence.

[@marzi0574]

YAW KNOW WHAT IT IS. IYKYK. Good luck at being a side piece in doing so stunts ur growth.

[@didthebeatgooff7159]

"Sharing is caring", bro noooo !!!!

[@peachypam4505]

I feel sorry for her... Love yourself, queen!!!

[@tootmama9233]

She needs therapy

[@autumnandpeanut5598]

This was very interesting. I don't condone the cheating but in reality men/ women need to be more accountable. It's not the other woman regardless of her preferred position. I enjoyed her honesty and her reality. Men/women that are selfish, don't have self control or respect for themselves cheat themselves. It has nothing to do with the person they're in a relationship with. We need to know when to leave. Always forgive?

[@jamesde74]

“You expect to get bad karma when you know you’re doing something bad” then said I don’t think I’m doing anything bad, you can bait yourself up into thinking that what I’m doing isn’t bad just like if you say I don’t have any money but I’m hungry so me taking this bag of chips isn’t bad the circumstances of why you did something don’t determine if it’s bad or not

[@michelesoares6016]

Someone clearly hurt her. People cheat because they want to. Not much you can do. The person to blame is the cheater. Not everyone cheats i have cheated and been cheated on in my younger years. She needs emotional and spiritual growth. Living like that is all good when your young but when you find yourself old and alone you wonder why.

[@writeousrhema]

The interviewee resents natural born women and the fact that men are ashamed of the interviewee

[@mesomeone8684]

He's not cheating because she's boring. He's cheating because a lot of humans lack integrity. Zero morals. If someone's word means nothing then what does say about their character?...

[@piecesofc8772]

My brain hurts, shawty not living in reality

[@piecesofc8772]

In 2 yrs she gonna cringe at this interview she did

[@skinnydadon]

She gonna be jaded she looked behind the curtain she know the lies the bs a cheater will do to cheat so what is normal not normal to her

[@actnaturalunderpressure]

She’s more of a Pickme side chick…. hence the male centered talking points & beliefs. Very hypocritical when she’s being the dummy believing what men say. I can’t take her serious. She had good points on her fellow pick me mindset tho. Sad

[@brandieesaffold2332]

No texts is wow true but right on that , mindset changes

[@bigmantae]

Did she just say level 2023

[@dorothyfisher2263]

God i pray 🙏 that you work on her in Jesus name

[@mischarashann778]

Just leave! Cause diseases are real. Women that think like this can have him

[@calebsimmons2520]

She ain’t lie tho

[@rickiericktv3320]

Multiple, what about STD’s?

[@peachypam4505]

She mad funny tho!!!

[@igradin08]

Alexa play My Little Secret by Xscape

[@ojay8961]

If this is the mindset of black women, then I'm getting a white girl next time 😅

[@ll.nailz_7632]

I feel so sad for this girl because when she does fall in luv with som1 her pain will come from the most unexpected place and also karma can come in many forms not just a man cheating on u karma could be herpes,aids or even str8 up death so please watch urself

[@chaseme20]

How she goe say everybody get tired of their partner. Lol that’s not true girl lol

[@williammatthews7252]

More Wimen cheat because of boldness than Men

[@SB-mf2th]

Confusing AF. Is that a man or woman talking??

[@payne1925]

He said “Karma doesn’t care if you care or not” and that’s not true at all. Someone’s reality is whatever they believe in! If you believe in Karma, you’ll receive Karma.. if you don’t believe in Karma you’ll never experience it.. Just like Superstitions.. Religion etc.. it only applies if you believe in it 🎯

[@indiganoir]

That applies to an extent bro cause I believe that way as well. The laws of the universe are just that. Laws. They will be carried out justly whether WE know how it looks for that person or not. The universe is cyclic meaning “what goes around comes around.” But we also know energy cannot be created nor destroyed only transformed so it HAS to go somewhere and it’s never just “in limbo.” She’s going to get hers, whether its NOW or LATER but she can’t escape the laws of the universe, facts.

[@chroniclesofdavon]

Nah. Even if you don’t want to add religion into it .. that’s just how life works. Whatever you put out into the world, you’re gonna get that back times 10. Some people call it karma others may call it something else. Nonetheless you definitely reap what you sow. Religion or not.

[@jamesde74]

People only care about their damn selves if you don’t want to be cheated on be by yourself problem solved and if you say well I don’t wanna be alone then get cheated on you can’t have both can’t play checkers and get mad cause you can’t figure out why your pieces keep getting taken either play the game and shut up or don’t play

[@IamAngelaHodges]

Ppl cheat, sin, and do alot of things like fornication. Why is cheating any better? A woman or man having a baby out of wedlock is just as bad as a cheater. To me, if you not engaged or married, it's technically not cheating.

[@deegee6904]

You must be able to relate to the video.

[@Sara-sara86]

Some of her logic is off....

[@diamonhudson1551]

Nobody can get you we don’t even know what your voice sounds like

[@mekawashington9742]

This interview is sad and its clear that she needs to find GOD and allow GOD to show her unconditional love because GOD design husband and wife not be with multiple people she has trained herself to take whatever cones her way and thats sad.

[@focused0002]

24:30 she is absolutely correct! Marriage is financial...the most Base of business contracts The interviewers perspective is totally based off of religion.

[@hazelsunshine1502]

Hurt ppl hurt ppl bottom line