Zarna Garg only loves food

[@GianmarcoSoresi]

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[@thegregzillo9673]

Good luck to your kids finding a spouse later on in life. I dont love you but lets make babies for bragging rights for smart kids. To feel comfort you must express comfort, to feel pain you express pain, to feel love you express love. Sleep for 3 hours and I’ll make you chai. Okay? Thats…love I guess. THATS bizarre man.

[@motheatrrr]

i’m filipino and the highest term of affection is “come eat”

[@angelface4025]

Facts

[@AndrewKidd14145]

Damn something you have to do is eat or you’re in pain or die. Is that healthy? 😂 that’s just something everyone has to do eat for energy.

[@Bangmaceda]

Kumain kana? Uwu

[@CydonianKnights11]

That’s all I ask is for girl to say I cooked come over and eat.

[@acecole5695]

Had to learn that the hard way lol Whenever i try to hug or take a picture of my filipino sister in law and she literally runs away but she’s always giving me food or teaching me how to make food ive never tried last time i saw her she taught me how to make lumpia

[@NOEHEAD612]

Hispanic parents apologizing: "You want MacDonal? Oralé, vamonos."

[@mimi_rowe8406]

Bro yours apologize 😭

[@nathangavriellom7608]

I'm so sorry my child what do u want for dinner I'll make it as quick as possible just don't cry, ok? 🤣🤣

[@iamdjsluggo]

Nah, smack you, then tell you “you better not cry” or ask, “why you crying “?

[@nathangavriellom7608]

@@iamdjsluggo that's my Chinese parent lmfao

[@xgoatface2359]

Especially after getting a whooping, Straight to McDonalds lol

[@z363652798]

“I will make chai for you” Better than an empty declaration of love.

[@AuntieLux]

I see you with this and I raise you "I make chai for you, I love you" - way better than an empty offer of tea

[@neuclyadroid1357]

@@AuntieLux It Take Efforts To Make Indian Tea ☕ And Takes Time .

[@AuntieLux]

@@neuclyadroid1357 I know I was just responding in the same tone as the original comment

[@Garvant_]

Maybe yours is empty because your mother doesnt love you but we are not the same

[@Garvant_]

@@sxhizornsmn i dont appreciate him implying that declarations of love are meaningless, I said what I said

[@lakshmi360]

I am an Indian. My parents tell me "I Love you" almost everyday. I say it back too ❤️

[@roastedpeanut6193]

Fax idk what she on about

[@sky5413]

Pretty rare ngl

[@Collegedairies2024]

NRI kid

[@megkrish7568]

Deym ur parents one of the rare breeds. Did u grow up in India?

[@lakshmi360]

@@megkrish7568 yup, whole my life 🙌

[@126ajay]

"i will make chai for you", that is love bro

[@haventthoughtofanameyet6364]

As an American, that would be foreign to me, but as a human I am agreeing with this. I'm on her side with this. I don't like saying I love you to basically anyone because that is a serious declaration. I said it to my first girlfriend and then we broke up, ever since the it seems to me it shouldn't be something uttered, but felt.

[@Luna-luna909]

As a tea lover, I agree 💯 😂😂

[@riyatamta144]

Trueee 🙂❤

[@lmfao4573]

@@Luna-luna909 I, too, am a tea lover. If someone made me chai as a way to say they love me, I’d be so happy!

[@puddiinghead9143]

Ikr 😭

[@virginiaordaya]

“Get up and study for the MCAT” KILLED ME 😂😂 💀

[@franthedeer]

I'm brazilian, and the highest term of affection is: "Bring your sweatshirt with you, it'll rain"

[@rennyren8879]

“Vamos comer churrasco hoje” 😭😭

[@Lucky9_9]

This is what my ex didn't understand. I wasn't telling him what to do or that I knew more than him... I was being affectionate because I cared about him and his wellbeing. 😞

[@franthedeer]

@@Lucky9_9 that so sad, I hope you found someone that understand your way of loving

[@julioviana2871]

I'm Brazilian too bro and your mom obviously doesn't love you because mine does.

[@MariaClara-er9pm]

@@rennyren8879 yes this !!😭😭

[@adiyamalhotra3831]

“the Indian language” lmfaooo. also can conform that my desi parents have said I love you exactly one in my whole life

[@matt59fire]

Im white in America so different culture i guess. But my Dad is a zero nonsense person. Never said much to my older brother. Me and my brother are far in age so didnt grow up with eachother. My Dad went through things that had him witness a few people he knew die in front of him. About 4 guys total. So with me, my Dad always says he loves me. I think people change once they get into their upper 60s. One of the men had a 2 yr old daughter and another he never got to meet.

[@AmethystEyes]

What was that one time they said it?

[@Jbren33]

Was is after you aced the mcat? 😂

[@namehere2986]

​@@matt59firethat's really sad for your older brother .. not only not experiencing affection from his father but then seeing his younger brother/sister receive it..must be hurtful.

[@matt59fire]

@namehere2986 You definitely miss read and probably shouldn't speak on things you know nothing about. My brother has robbed him. I haven't done half the shit he did. When he worked for our dad, he would show up to the job then leave the employees and do nothing. Thinking he didn't have to work's because he's the bosses son. He spent the gas card on beer. He would bragged to the employees what he did during the day while they worked. And he also let his pit bull attack my puppy. Saying that it needed to happen. When my dog was just walking around. He made her bleed. Thankfully I broke it up in time. So I don't really feel sympathy for a narcissist. He also got into a fist fight with my dad as well. Whenever my parents got onto me or punished me, I never resorted to that. So to compare me to him when you don't know shit is fucking crazy but okay. His ex wife was warned by his doctor that he can be dangerous if not medicated for his bi polar

[@zedlepplin7834]

" I Like you, okay dreams"

[@a_blaze]

😂

[@dOVERanalyst]

No as an Indian let me tell you: It's kiss on the forehead, a caring caress. Tell me you love me without telling me you love me. We are OG.

[@VSM101]

Dude this lady doesn't speak for Indians.

[@dOVERanalyst]

@@VSM101 I was talking about families, elders. We don't actually say I love you. Even I love you in Odia, Bengali literally *translates to I like you.* Even in romantic couples, RARELY (only in corny films) would you see the word *"Prema".* Usually, we say I like you. Odia: ମୁଁ ତମକୁ ଭଲ ପାଏ Mu tamaku bhala paye. Bengali: Ami tomaki bhalobashi ଭଲ (bhalaw) / bhaalo (bengali) = LIKE To express lot of love for food. We say I like it a *LOT.* *Bahut* bhala paye. Love from mothers, grandmothers is always expressed in *caress, a peck on cheek/forehead*, or *the classic grandma cupping your chin softly*, and then kissing her own hand that held your chin. It's like a blessing & love. Ofcourse not every family in billions of Indians is going to be exactly alike. But you've to be kidding me if you even TRY to pretend this is not how normally it works. Moms will "cook for you, smile, take care of you in your fever*, give you a blanket in winter, increase the fan for you in summer etc. But they don't tell you "I love you" everyday! They don't. That's not an Indian mother's love language. We don't tell an Uncle/a stranger I love you. We say "I like that chacha, or mamu etc..he's my favourite..". आप मुझे अच्छे लगते हैं। Achha = like. Aap mujhe sabse zyada achhe lagte hain.

[@MemesthanYoutube]

@@VSM101 she does

[@devbae]

“what do u use it for? food?” “food!” “food!” “food.”

[@joeyotremba9508]

I see what she means though. Maybe we use it to much. Especially when someone says they love you and then they don't. Might keep them from 💔 Food comment reminds me of the movie twister. "Foood" flicks fingers.🤣

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

@@joeyotremba9508 that’s true but I hope people tell their children they love them. Or they will be out here looking for someone to say “I love you” to them who don’t mean it.

[@jemangemoncoco]

i laughed so hard when the last guy said "food." as a confirmation, like is he was saying "yep, makes sense"

[@sherimorgan7107]

@@joeyotremba9508 yeah but the thing is, you gotta show love with actions and words. They're both equally as important. And if you love someone that doesn't love you back, makes them wrong not you. You're supposed to love many people in your life and if they don't reciprocate, then they don't deserve you

[@tingle2323]

@@Sunny-tc3ul if the child is more on this word they will go away.. But if they are taught that action matter thr most. No vhild go here and there.. When they can feel it why would they going here and there

[@abo1732]

“Are u hungry” is a term of endearment in my culture

[@bread7587]

In Finland, the world “I love you” is so rare to hear. People usually say it like only few times in their lives Im not even sure has my mom ever said to me, but like this woman said even tho we don’t say it, the love is still there:D

[@niccolodeparmapanini2036]

I think its a westen thing since I'm Aztec descendant and we never say that either its so darm weird and feels wrong.

[@SatumaaVeikkola]

Yes, in Finland you it’s Very rare

[@ohmygahdbilly]

Why can’t I find a man to whisper “PERKELE” softly into my ear

[@iwonder1216]

I tell my kids I love them everyday. I say it conciously, purposefully and mean it.

[@andresandres1666]

@@iwonder1216 and we don't care a single damn shit. I say it consciously, purposefully and mean it.

[@mahishrivastava6441]

"I wish my mom was Indian so she would have an excuse why she never told it to me " that was his emotional damage speaking 😂😂

[@martaleszkiewicz5115]

r/suicidebywords

[@Free2B3]

He Has guts to laugh about it. I'm 40 years old and still feel emotionally damaged that I wasn't told I love you or was hugged enough by my parents when I was a child. However, I am making sure my child will never feel this way at least about me.

[@Tectonictaless]

@@Free2B3 r u a male or female???

[@runbts2280]

@@Tectonictalesswhat does it have to do with gender??

[@Tectonictaless]

@@runbts2280 i asked him not you ......

[@Naitooooo]

"You wanna have some tea" "Yea why not" "Then make some for me too"

[@faizan6581]

Haha same gotta make it ourselves.

[@Zsp05]

My mom to me 😭 and then my dad joins in too

[@Violethaze28]

That’s my mom and dad

[@OO27.88]

GOTTEM

[@danial3192]

😂😂

[@OFilellinas]

"In the Indian language" 😆

[@Daisy_518]

Yes. The SINGULAR Indian language. Lol.

[@harmony1228]

I can never imagine my family telling me 'love you' but i always see infinity love in their actions :)

[@sumairrehman9371]

“I will make chai for you” is the highest term of affection.

[@LA-xc4tc]

“Can you close my lights” is a little gesture but is a way of asking for some affection in a way too

[@alindileep9227]

Go make it yourself means you fkd up big time. 🤣

[@livingourbestlives530]

As a chai lover, this would make me feel completely appreciated and loved.

[@musiclove5935]

That should be on a tee shirt 🤣🤣🤣

[@cryptokitten7700]

That’s a sad country

[@deepvoyager01]

Foreigners : "I love you" Indians : "Today I will cook your favorite food"

[@annaburke8537]

I am American and we say both

[@teruderu-tan]

@@annaburke8537 im arab, and we say both too

[@KuchisabishiiYo]

I don't that how it works. If we talk about hindi you never use the hindi phrase for "I live you" it sounds rather cringe like something coming out from a movie or smth. You'd say I love you if you did. Every language is used in its own unique manner and we don't have to go around saying "I live you" why ? Cz we just don't need to 😂

[@Rrrrcc4666]

lol growing up whenever my parents used to have any argument and my mother used to make something sweet in evening in dinner. No sorry no thankyou and Argument dissolved.😂🤣🤣🤣

[@rme1383]

I think most moms are like that

[@mrstickanimator527]

"I like you, okay dreams" 🤣🤣🤣

[@smeshsmesh9695]

Highest affection I get is “I did better” when I show my grades to my parents

[@unchi5462]

Your cousin did better

[@ammegrewog]

“I like you, ok dreams” was really under reacted to 😂 that was an amazing joke 😂

[@stephanieallen5267]

🤣😂🤣 That part had me too

[@Fuzzled369]

Underreacted to an average joke so sad, People are so slow today

[@let_it_sin_kin]

i didnt get it

[@jackboyholla4002]

😭😭

[@MichBeauty27]

@@let_it_sin_kin Instead of “ I love you, sweet dreams”, - form of affection when tucking kids in at night. He’s asking the lady if she would instead say “I like you, okay dreams” - to show affection or endearment. Get it?

[@bustinjieber9539]

"I wish my mom was indian so i had an excuse to why she never said that to me" bro

[@LordSeth-hf8ew]

Yep😂😂

[@VerahMwamburi5569]

Same 🤣🤣😂

[@naomieadair5635]

Yea that was a 😬😬 moment😭

[@gatsu1989]

Sameeee

[@valck5507]

Feel bad for him

[@xenoflavius632]

I agree that the act of saying I love you is definitely not as valuable as showing the love, however, I feel like it is important at serving a different purpose. I cannot always be the perfect son or boyfriend, but I can use it to remind those I care about of my affection. It is such a simple and important tool for giving a quick dose of attention or affection that people really live off of, and I could not imagine living in a world where I don't get to remind the person Im with how much their time matters to me no matter what is going on.

[@StinsonSwarley]

Perfect comment

[@nathanparker2981]

“I like you, Okay dreams” LMAOOO

[@rodnee2340]

"Ok dreams" is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me.🤣

[@clevergirl6041]

Same 😂

[@tiffanymorris8223]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@raekell]

I love you!

[@husaimo911]

“I will make chai for you” took me out bc she meant that

[@DJ-zd3gj]

I’m black and the highest term of affection is: “I told you to get down! If you fall and hurt yourself, imma whoop yo ass!” 😂😂😂

[@prakashtiwari8003]

Bro, Indian parents too do the same with us whenever I used to get hurt or fell down. 🤣🤣

[@DJ-zd3gj]

@@prakashtiwari8003 😂😂😂

[@kittyboy_69]

The level of confusion in the room is hilarious 😂😂 Food ! ! ! ! Yeah Foood ! .... Food...???

[@a3zth3tikz]

“it’s bizarre to us” this is true I’m asian and my mom once told me “I love you” and I honestly stopped what I was doing and looked at her like 🤨 “is everything alright?”

[@zeta1593]

It depends on the region in asian, and even langage and ethnicity in india. Not every asian don't have love terms

[@fe4rlexxv249]

Once???

[@Journey_Around]

Hahahahaha, so true for the Chinese language too

[@Fstop313]

Please dont speak for all asians

[@zeta1593]

@@Fstop313 yeah asia goes from irak to far east russia it's litterally the biggest continent lmao

[@bryceflanigan4636]

She’s trying to explain that love is an action. It’s lowkey beautiful.

[@maepicnic2460]

Yessss I am down for this cultural difference

[@MiVidaBellisima]

It can be both though, I find limiting it to only verbal or only action to be quite strange 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@TheGoalisSublime]

It is if your love language is acts of service but everyone has different love languages so if your child or spouses love language is words of affirmation this could be damaging

[@ShivPatel-hy6vu]

Ye ig but as far as i know, me and most of my other indian friends have parents that do both, so ig this might be a thing back in the motherland.

[@KermitsBadFurDay]

I mean idk if that really makes sense. Why not act it and say it. My parents do stuff for me all the time, they also tell me they love me.

[@kemsat-n6h]

I like their way a lot. It’s not about a word, it’s about the actions & care you give & show to those you love.

[@DeathxCap]

This is actually interesting. My takeaway is they are so confident and comfortable with their love for each other that there is no reason to reaffirm that by saying I love you.

[@notonfire7318]

Lmao i wish

[@mr.j9303]

I also grew up in a large family that didn't say "I love you" either, but they would show it in affectionate ways. Now that I'm a father, I tell my kids "I love them" all the time, and show them with my affection too.

[@user-qc2qx2kw5b]

Same here I was never told I was loved I never had a hug till I Turned 16. We my kids I’m always telling them I love them as much as I can and I back it up.

[@sherimorgan7107]

I've always been told and been shown love and do the same for everyone else in my life. I even tell my friends "I love you, don't ever forget that" but also make sure they love themselves. These people agreeing saying love is an action are wrong, well half wrong. You need to hear it sometimes. I love hearing that both of y'all came from places that didn't share the love out loud and decided to change that with your families. That's how it should be. Actions speak louder than words, but words can cut you deeply or make you feel deeply. You get to choose how you're gonna make the people in your life feel towards you with both of those things. You never know when your last day will be or when someone you love may be taken from your life, and I wanna make sure one of the last things I said is gonna be "I love you"

[@sherimorgan7107]

@@user-qc2qx2kw5b to grow up without hugs, that breaks my heart hearing it. I hope you get all of the best hugs now and if not, I'm sending you the warmest virtual hugs you've ever had!💜

[@user-qc2qx2kw5b]

@@sherimorgan7107 you literally made me tear up… thank you so much!! and your first comment I agree with it 1,000%

[@tingle2323]

I would rather not say ILY but i will show every way to them that i love them

[@bhargavr5248]

"Food?" "Food!" " FOOOD!!"

[@IndyLaLune]

food

[@halcyon2889]

Foooood

[@benzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzs]

Foooood👍

[@himanshusharma4478]

She does say i love you, only the words are " beta do roti aur khale wrna dekh kaise patla ho gya h". Translation " Eat two more chappatis you have gone thinner".

[@EckerKyle]

She looks like she loves food more than her kids lol

[@riem2079]

We used to be like that but now we say it all the time, there's plenty of hugs now too! It took a long time but we got here, I will always cherish this accomplishment. Of course love can be expressed in many ways and I always knew I was loved but being able to say it and being able to be so openly affectionate is just, like till we started I didn't realize it was something that could mean so much.

[@bnmay1]

As a member of the Mayo committee this is interesting. My parents would say I love you all the time but I had never felt so alone. Really shows that love is expressed through action more than words

[@sak4250]

"You want chai?" Ramdomly brings some fruit or dry fruits for me "Eat before you leave for college" We indians show our affection through food..

[@oddlilbird]

I’m Italian, I get it 😊

[@JazzyCrumbles]

Latinos, indians and Italians unite

[@mohibelahi2189]

Explains why most of us fat too

[@bhargavr5248]

@@mohibelahi2189 lolll

[@pratyush_t]

@@JazzyCrumbles haha exactly 😂

[@alishakay]

"I'll make Chai for you" "Wait here I'll get some almonds and cashews" "Do you want biryani tonight?" These are the terms of endearment ❤️

[@RD-oo6yq]

Spoken like a true desi

[@bharris4517]

Aww! It’s like your cultural love language is ‘acts of service’ and it’s interpreted as “love.”

[@nextleveljourney6612]

Seems like being Passive Aggressive in disguise 🥸 You could just LIE by making Chai and not really mean it LEVEL UP 🆙 Say it - Aaaannnddd… Show It 🍵 🫖

[@MarkKk_Ant0nY]

@@nextleveljourney6612 You could also be lying when you are saying it. Do you want someone to say they love you but they don't really mean it inside their heart..? You go around saying the word "LOVE" for every little things in your life, eventually it would become a word without meaning. Action speaks louder..!

[@novalopez3068]

@@MarkKk_Ant0nY that's what happened with my parents. The would force us to say "I love you too" or they would throw a tantrum. And when they said to us, it was clearly out of obligation. It hurts more to know someone hates you but is pretending like they don't rather than just being honest.

[@tukuza1308]

African (Zambia) here and I can confirm, even my mother said she never heard the words from her own parents but they express it in different ways I think. Like making your favorite food when you're sick or when they just want to make you happy, or just making the time to have some quality family moments with you. The words might not be said but the love is there nonetheless.💖

[@sugaudacity]

“I like you. Okay dreams” LMAO

[@lonamisa834]

In Desi family whenever moms scold their children they never say "I'm sorry" they'll be like "I've made your favourite food come and eat."😂

[@ShwetaGupta-hd6yk]

Ahh. Yes. And then food and beatings get this complex Pavlovian connection that you either start looking forward to the beatings because you know your favorite food is coming next or for the rest of your life you eat your favorite food anticipating beatings.

[@Pandaintheshelter]

'Tera psnd ka khana banaya hai khale' ~ Indian mom's sorry

[@lonamisa834]

@@Pandainthesheltermom: aaja khana kha le Me: nhi bhukh nhi hai Usme bhi flying chappal lands on my face.😂

[@Pandaintheshelter]

@@lonamisa834 isliye mamma Jo bolo krlo ek bar hi moka milta hai😂

[@Wandering.Homebody]

@@ShwetaGupta-hd6yk yeah. Like a practically guaranteed eating disorder, that, in this case, the mother will be passing on

[@amityislandchum]

"Sleep for 3 hours, then study for the MCAT." 😂😂😂

[@cee5824]

Ikr, 3 HOURS!?

[@peaceweapon1933]

That explains a lot about Indian people and the state of their country honestly.

[@rupshabhowmick1026]

"It's bizarre to us"🤣 I once said I love you to my mom, she said "same to you." But she won't say ' I love you '. 😂

[@willaandrews7283]

“I like you…okay dreams”

[@brittaniturk6117]

😭😂

[@williamzagarella8066]

Stolen

[@jamilangon5798]

"Mom, i won awards at school!" Mom: wanna have some biryani?

[@nasrazeem]

Wow beta shabash😂

[@enakshiparua836]

🤣🤣

[@siba79manik]

Nah that's not the best possible outcome. My mom would secretly make it and on the dining table I notice that today I'll eat good and ask my mom why didn't you tell me and then she would just laugh it off.

[@davidusa47]

Mom: Why didn’t you win all the awards?

[@msshaffer5]

That sounds so good right now 😂

[@daniellebecker8086]

Wow I can't imagine! I tell my 3 year old all day long how much I love him, what I love about him, etc

[@freemind2025]

My Ex’s mom never told her I love you. Don’t listen to this lady, that shit messed her up 💀

[@ThatBoyBent]

Showing affection with words is more powerful then making someone food. That's why people love music. Hearing is important. And hearing kind words heal.

[@LyricalTrain]

@@ThatBoyBent that is just untru

[@PunitChawla]

True man. My girlfriend’s family doesn’t verbally appreciate and it hurts her

[@Zzz2x]

‘i wish my mom was indian so she had an excuse for why she never said it to me’ lmaoo right

[@shreyabisht9694]

Dark

[@aznonyoutube]

That's sad af

[@jksatte]

Awwww

[@borah8383]

That hit a little to close to home lmao

[@qoon7689]

Heyyyyy, not your mom but i love yall❤

[@nidhinemade4467]

sometimes “I love you” is also needed, it completes a person and get them to ease.

[@rajnishmaharaj]

That Western template for love is not valid for everywhere.

[@yourbackup_b]

@@rajnishmaharaj i disagree with you on that... Not everyone is doing to know what you think or how you feel that's why you need to express your love to them ... Like maybe the kids when they grow up will understand that you where always there for them. But not saying i love you to your significant other it hit's different to me. What i can assume is that you where in an arranged marriage and because of the culture appropriation you now live with this man you never really loved .... Im not saying is something bad.. it's just sad to me..... And if that means to be married for ever I don't want it. Maybe what I'm looking for is not real but if im crazy enough to think that is possible maybe there is someone out there that have the same ideas as me.

[@rajnishmaharaj]

@@yourbackup_b see the thing is that if the marriage is arrange, the cultural thing is involved there, but it doesn't mean that there's no love , actually if you'll be in India you'll understand everything coz here instead of expressing by words we just show love by doing that for real, maybe people from other culture need to express it before thier loved ones but for us it's obvious, that is why I've said that you can't put western template on indian kind of love,btw what that lady is saying is not true for everyone even I don't do what she said coz I keep on saying everyone I love you.

[@siba79manik]

@@yourbackup_b Alright man cool. Now come to India be the President and make it compulsory. You are the epitome of ignorance. Didn't you read the very first reply? If something doesn't happen in someone's culture then it does not. You can not say that in Western Culture it is fine to do this and that and other people will accept it. Although many people in India still say I love you and many don't. I think it's fine either way until the actual love is there.

[@opalblack879]

@@yourbackup_b majority of people do need to hear the words. I never needed to hear the words. You always know if a person loves you by their actions. your husband or wife tells you “I love you “ everyday, multiple times a day but they are out cheating every night, or they disrespect you verbally every day, maybe they are violent but he tells you that he loves you. Now you have a man who has never said the words but he grabs your hand when your on the couch watching a movie. Sneaks up behind you kisses your neck and grabs your ass. Appreciates and ask for your opinion on issues, does small things around the house and points it out and reminds you you asked him to do it a few days ago and he remembers to do it because he knew how important it was to you. These two examples which one would you rather have?

[@BeingFahadi]

As a 40 yo Indian man when I look back every act of my parents had “I love you” context it’s just they never out loud said “I love you” and same goes for me too. However I say I love you to my son everyday 😊

[@Hjea]

This seems to be the case for a lot of people and i thinks its just the horseshoe theory of doing the opposite of some things that our parents did

[@BeingFahadi]

@@Hjea Right! Personally to me it comes from realization that even though my parents provided the best Life in physical form, emotionally things would have been better?

[@anshrajansh2363]

Hey I am Indian 18 years old and both my parents say "I love you" to me almost everyday🤟

[@mancipiachristi9032]

For context and my curiosity, may I ask what country do you live in? And what is the religion of your family?

[@anshrajansh2363]

@@mancipiachristi9032 I live in India and am a Hindu by religion.

[@mancipiachristi9032]

Thanks for sharing.

[@thanos7372]

Words you'll never hear an (ethnic?) mother say: "I love you" "Sorry" "I like my mother in law"

[@christiantinsley4978]

I’m a black mom and I say all of these things…

[@danikajett9277]

@@christiantinsley4978 same

[@rye_ay_ay]

Wth does “ethnic?” mean dude 😭😭 the question mark is taking me out

[@thanos7372]

@@rye_ay_ay i mean i wasnt really sure what the word to describe everyone who isnt white was so i put a question mark and waited for the word police to come and help me but i guess they only come at times when noone cares

[@thanos7372]

@@christiantinsley4978 i mean tbf i wasnt really thinking black parents when i wrote this. Yall parents are a lil different to the rest of ours

[@Jacoe413]

I can't imagine not hearing my parents say I love you. It's so interesting how cultures differ.

[@justdanie7613]

Same

[@matt59fire]

Same. I tell my dog i love her all the time. I cant imagine not telling my fuzzy wuzzy nothing. Like "Here eat this kibble and go to bed".

[@ll-zc8ph]

same i say i love you to my parents each night!

[@ti2218]

They don't need to say it because it's already known. Why have to pronounce it every day if you already love them? It does honestly feel like when you hear "I love you" sometimes the person saying it doesn't mean it. At least when it's not said there really isn't much confusion, just the person's vibe.

[@Yophillips3272]

My family doesn't really do that.

[@shmankyp6753]

Tucking little jimmy in “yea you aight”

[@ryandowner2998]

"I will make chai for you" oh that hit

[@yen-8680]

Yeap, saying “i love you” is so strange to me too 😂 for asian family it is mostly said through actions & gifts.

[@poekpally]

I think as a white dude my family has over used it so much that it really makes me second guess when I think I do love someone or something

[@londynhunter2469]

@@poekpally same. Showing someone you love them by their actions proves that they truly care

[@sophiashmia6587]

Thats sad! Its important to tell the people you love that you love them. Theres so many issues between parents and kids of asian families, all of my asian friend experienced it. its just facts. because love is not shown enough

[@ainazaghdam8622]

Cut fruits for u while you are studying

[@ainazaghdam8622]

@@sophiashmia6587 well I don't know about your asian frineds. But i have loving parents and loving friends. Its just not in our culture to say the words I love you. We show it in different ways. Like make food for each other or just randomly buying gifts, Or hugging ....

[@mankindspatience]

"Just for food?" She answers "Food." While he exclaimed "food!?" She confirms "food." Third guy dreaming about food in his head "food..."

[@JM-wp7te]

That part was sad.

[@Chroniknight]

ItsAlchemy, your comment is perfection

[@inosuke523]

Lmfao 🤣🤣

[@gpablo6640]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Ryan-es5fj]

I'm gonna go eat some food now

[@Dumb_Cat-]

"I wish my mom was indian so she would have an excuse for not saying it to me before" Me: ***rolling on the floor *

[@IcecreamCat23]

I know in Chinese culture, they don’t say it a lot as not to demote the strong meaning behind it. It’s like the one guy that says sorry so much it doesn’t feel genuine. But when your parents says “I love you”, it’s like a dad saying I’m proud of you to his son.

[@deepvoyager01]

Indians never say "I Love you" But their acts say "I love you"

[@soniasingh5151]

true

[@soinlove6889]

As human beings, we need both.

[@hywodena]

My Indian bf and his mother tell me "I love you" all the time. Maybe this is a regional thing?

[@DEEPANJANBISWAS]

@@hywodena they have embraced western culture, thats it. Action speaks louder in Indian family

[@soinlove6889]

@@noname6284 yes it matters if it's verbal. Signals can be misinterpreted or simply overlooked.

[@aloe704]

*Me (born and brought up in US): "Gn, I love you"* *My immigrant mom: "Ok"*

[@sonjawilson28]

Can't handle those words, huh?

[@raquelpk2]

Or “what do you want” & the infamous “what did you do?”

[@aloe704]

@@sonjawilson28 lol

[@memesistolefromifunny9165]

@@raquelpk2 that's where I've been at before because of drug abuse. Just wanting to talk to my mom and her first words are "what now?" Fuckin hurts. Life's better now though. :) If anyone reading this by chance has a drug problem and needs to talk about that or any problem let me know. I know there's a few times I would have liked to see a comment like this.

[@raerohan4241]

@@sonjawilson28 It's more like it sounds cringey and insincere if you say it so casually. Obviously this is just a generalisation, I've seen some families that are big on words of affirmation. But culturally, acts of service is the more common love language

[@ghostlynn1076]

Can agree the form of love my mum gives is randomly smacking me and making me food for the day

[@TheBlaqb2st]

"I like you, okay dreams" 😩😂

[@theminisimmer]

"I will make chai for you, that is a term of endearment" so I'm guessing that act of service is the main love language in India. It's kind of beautiful because anyone can say "I love you" here and not mean it, but when someone makes you a meal or a drink, it's more special because they made it thinking of you.

[@nabaninandi4140]

Its also...scary if your indian parents start saying I love you.everyday then...you are adopted...

[@alkagupta8594]

@@nabaninandi4140 i agree😂😂😂😂😂

[@alkagupta8594]

Also Aimee I think whenever I'll do something for anyone I'll think about your comment. It's a beautiful way to look at things😍

[@smollilbean]

Yes exactly! You get it! :)

[@passedoutsober6322]

Its in asian cutlure typically.

[@brianna094]

"I WOULD NEVER" 😂😂😂

[@alexaninambv1618]

😂

[@the_monstah6378]

I see this in a lot of cultures that aren’t American or typically associated with the western world. For example, my family was immigrants from Italy and the island of Sicily. They came to america and built new lives. My mom would often tell stories of my grandmother and grandfather and how it was growing up. She often explained how she knew the love was there and it existed but she very rarely heard it verbalized through an “ I love you “. Due to that, my mom made it her mission to make sure her kids knew she loved them because she remembered how it was never hearing I love yous, and knowing deep down she was loved but still having that anxiety as if maybe she wasn’t. Even now, I have never heard my grandpa verbally say I love you to me. My nana said it a lot through her older age, but I’ve never heard it from my grandpa. But I still know the love is there.

[@minnymoon1360]

Bro anyone making food for you is a great form of love

[@waterfallsdontsaymeow2917]

"I'll make chai for you" is the deepest expression of love you could ever recieve tbh.

[@chetnaries]

Fr

[@AdnanKhan-ng9so]

True

[@nehabhati1975]

So true♥️

[@deepvoyager01]

Foreigners: "I am proud of you" Indians: "You can do better"

[@blebe891]

Lmao..Me: A 16 year old high school graduate. My mother: Meh..now time for college.

[@sukybasasavage1229]

Asians: “You dishonor your Whole family”

[@aliciamarie9704]

Maybe, but as a very naive American who went to work for Indians at 19…the expectations are real. However, they were always there for me and very reliable. We built an amazing amount of trust amongst one another. I felt like I was with my family. Also, they helped me grow tf up!

[@ranballs3335]

@@sukybasasavage1229 you do realize that Indians are Asians right?-

[@sunshinemoon888]

You know that’s what all of us should have heard growing up you can do better, cuz mommy tells u are god at everything then go out in the real world and find out real quick that u are not good at everything and feel like a loser, saying u can do better gives u room to grow cause whatever we do we can always do it better

[@superduper5949]

In India when we get hurt while playing our parents scold us Thats their highest level of endearment😂

[@thisisnikki19]

As an Indian, i can confirm. We express our affection through foods and by claiming our right on that person, LOL. And if we really have to say it then we'll say “main (I) tumhe (you) bohot (very) manti (adore or appreciate) hoon”. The word 'Manti' doesn't directly mean adore but more like 'i'm validating your presence in my life & you mean so much to me', it can also mean a thousand things depending on sentences like agree, believe, appreciate, adore etc.

[@samhitasaravanabhava4780]

indian parents definitely show their affection through actions.

[@RR-xm9iu]

100000000%. My parents have my back till the end of my life. I will never be kicked out of their home. I will never be expected to pay rent. Its an unspoken bond - they take such good care of me that the only honourable choice is to take immensely good care of them also.

[@Smorgasbord.]

@@RR-xm9iu Funny how you phrased that. Hopefully, your parents have your back till the end of _their_ lives not the other way around. :)

[@strawberrry_pancakess]

Sameee! I'd never even wanna hear just an i love you. Indian parents literally go all out to support their kids!

[@putthatjellyinmybelly9698]

My African mom never did either 😂 it’s weird We show love through acts of service

[@rachymn7883]

We do not say it ever. Lovers sure. But in English

[@shay3522]

Actions speak louder than words

[@kspirit7571]

Only west has the tradition to say a thing which is so obvious.

[@rachymn7883]

@@kspirit7571 I assure you that telling your children you love them will do no harm..also because African parents are quite distant

[@damntae6540]

Most countries don’t say “I love you” actions speak louder than words in those places. I stopped saying it as much now because the word just seems so useless to me at this point. People have said they loved me but I’ve just never felt it. Even I was started to say it loosely like as a goodbye. But I much rather show love then say “love”

[@PQ-StarLord]

"Action speaks louder than words"

[@MiszVamprGrl]

My mom "you want a hug? I want a hug"

[@jakk1hundo553]

Indian people don’t say “I love you” The highest term of affection for an Indian is “madam you have to go to the target and buy me five hundred dollar google play card”

[@Boofbonic]

Lmaooooo

[@eccentricaste3232]

Faulty generalization. The heads of microsoft, Google and facebook are Indians.

[@f4iryprnc3s]

Hahahaha

[@shukadevmanu3018]

This is good

[@vp_wrld]

Dude, I’m literally dead 😂😂

[@nalanazi9866]

"food?" "food." "FOOD!"

[@june1076]

When your mom randomly brings you cut fruits and milk at 2 am while you’re studying.

[@RealPlatoishere]

Hispanic , arabic , indians and Asians are all United on this one lol

[@huh5950]

Damn.... imagine being an Indian kid watching all those American movies where they shoot "I love you" like its nothing 😂😂😂😂

[@anaidaazavedo7102]

yes lmao ✨imagine✨, I’m Indian lol

[@gussampson5029]

You're much better off with actions and no words than with words and no actions.

[@FrostedGalaxies]

I'm not indian and have no clue if it's just my family being bad at talking about emotions or the fact that we aren't American, but I really didn't know that people said they loved their kids all that often, I thought it was something special reserved for birthdays and big achievements. I had a sleepover at my (American) friend's house and her parents told her that they loved her more times in a night then my parents had said to me or my brother in a year.

[@huh5950]

@@FrostedGalaxies its not common, and honestly they shouldn't because it would lose meaning, but there's an ENOURMOUS difference between "in special occasions" and NEVER, ps I have Nigerian parents so, yeah..

[@veryimportanttip2855]

Most of the time people that say I love you also act it out it’s not a zero sum game yall

[@prekshabharadwaj1351]

As an Indian I can confirm that this is 101% true

[@neuclyadroid1357]

Im Indian And Its True. My Mom Dad Never Say I Love You. Words Don't Matter Action Does . You Don't Need To Tell Anyone They Gonna Feel That Shit . Thats Love ❤️

[@CaseyForest]

I always say “I love you” because you don’t ever know when/if you will see that person again. This is an amazing way to explain to someone as to why you may not say it. Good for her🙌🏻

[@debrazickefoose8125]

My mom told all of us siblings that we were to hug her before we left because if something happens to us or her, at least we would have that memory to hold on to.

[@vveokoh]

“Mom I just bought my first car” “I’m making chicken biryani do you want some”

[@karishmakumar3120]

This is really what happened when I brought my first car 😂😂😂 we had like a super lovely meal 🥰 . This is a different love language

[@vveokoh]

@@karishmakumar3120 sounds like my mom 😂

[@nghsrae14]

@@karishmakumar3120 that's love and pride! KID-Mum I just did this important adult thing all on my own! Mum-*is very proud and happy that you are launching!* come eat.

[@__-go9cj]

Count all the chicken biryani left you can get frm mom...

[@braydenchadwick9836]

I do like it; it implies that it should be inherent, so to need a sentence saying “I love you” would be like telling someone “we are breathing” It’s very nice that to many people love is something shared rather than earned like it used to be (and still sometimes is) in the European, UK, and American cultures

[@guyanomaly]

I get that she’s doing comedy but “I will make chai for you” touched my heart. My parents have trouble saying “I love you” but every time I visit my dad makes me tea, then he cooks me dinner, & my mom offers to buy me groceries and whatever else I need. I feel the love in everything they do for me. Also, my dad has recently started saying “I love you too” when I say “I love you.” :)

[@amiejalloh2467]

The first time I told my dad that I loved him he was taken by surprise, he said it too. I always tell my kids that I love them. I want them to hear me say that I love them. My parents loved me I knew that but didn’t say it until I was in my 20s and I initiated it.

[@lamoskgr]

❤️❤️

[@omaewamoushindeiru4329]

I love you as a fellow human being Amie 😜

[@theredcinder7437]

Thats how my gpa was and my parents raised me affectionately

[@dhanrajsingh5558]

@@omaewamoushindeiru4329 and amie loves simps

[@cosmicbilly]

Actions speak louder than words. Lots of people say "i love you" without actually showing it through their actions.

[@londynhunter2469]

I agree with that though. Sometimes when people say the words “I love you” they don’t mean it. Showing you love them by your actions proves it better sometimes.

[@noisycatlady9100]

Flying slippers with love

[@bree2woke737]

I love you❤️

[@lorxandion6261]

@K C sometimes but all the time just seems fake but what would u like better I love u or ur favourite food being made and going to bed happy. We can very much realise what they do is for love and actions speak louder than words.

[@sophiashmia6587]

Doing both is love. Actions and words mean a lot more

[@matchbox1275]

@@noisycatlady9100 May be a double whammy. I used get flying belt when I did something fken stupid and then to clam me down I got to go to eat my favourite fast food outside or better, extra fun time. Indian Parents are strategic that way, lol.

[@bigbets365]

Hidden love that always makes people love you back

[@linussaurian4000]

My parents & siblings Feel uncomfortable when I said, I Love You !! I am Indian, but grew up in the west and married a American woman...

[@jmocrawls]

"Actions speak louder than words.."

[@LuhRhino231]

Stfu yeah you think he got Hugs from his mom nah

[@armyot7purpleot7]

Not necessarily, words can mean alot ,more than what u can do !

[@jmocrawls]

I know what you mean. .like the difference between saying you will harm someone, versus the actual act of the harm.

[@tanyahunt9476]

Having both would be better! :)

[@humbleservant1294]

😂 cool story bro

[@mastertrey4683]

You can say “i love you” without saying “i love you,” and you can also say it and not mean it

[@LT-jr3yb]

I think it’s important to hear it at times. Especially from your family.

[@on1ytheb3st]

Right because NEVER saying it to those around you that you feel this way with is a healthy relationship.

[@elishabiggs86]

@@on1ytheb3st it’s a cultural thing it’s nothing crazy

[@Dish.Washer]

@@on1ytheb3st western views won't work on eastern culture keep an open mind

[@elmarciano0630]

Right and alot of of people from everywhere mostly old school dont really Express their love verbally but definitely in most other ways

[@taz1728]

I'm Indian, mostly, not from India for generations. This way of life continued with the old school parents. I've never heard that term from either of my parents to us or each other. To the grandkids- Every conversation. The most affectionate thing my parents tell me is when I'm sick and/or going out the house or away from them for some time I will get a take care of yourself or are you alright. That's the most affectionate thing my dad ever said to me when I was sick once, are you alright. I was not, but that did make me feel better knowing he acknowledged that I was not.

[@tiaraerving1742]

My family always says "I love you" Whenever we say goodbye. That way if something bad ever happens I'll always know the last thing I said to them was "I love you."

[@joylamberto4302]

In asian they can say too but they preffered not, instead we act the love not just speak.

[@Matt-by3yd]

But like……. To me that just feels like your relationship is so weak if that is what it takes to have a warm feeling about the relationship if the other person were to pass away. I have friends who if I hadn’t spoken with in some time, and then passed away, we would still know both in hearts and our souls how much we appreciated each other

[@user-goaway]

@@Matt-by3yd ....how is that weak? The same validation you seem to get in " knowing " that your friend is always going to be there seems to be the same validation she gets in reminding her loved ones she loves them. Ive always found it odd to judge people because they sin differently than you.....

[@Matt-by3yd]

@@user-goaway it’s ironic that you’re judging how it’s odd that I judge people for how they sin differently when you yourself are doing that exactly with me rn lmao. But anyways besides that point, my point is that if two people’s love for each other has to constantly be reminded from a place of routine and habit and fear and worry, and not from a genuine place of appetite and heart and spontaneity, then it doesn’t seem that genuine or deep to me lol. like I share affection with my friends and family sometimes, but that’s when I genuinely wanna do it, not because it’s a certain event such as oh we’re about to part ways. That’s just fake lol. My friends and family and I don’t need scripted fake lines to know we love each other, we know that in our hearts already

[@user-goaway]

@@Matt-by3yd ….finding something “odd” is not a judgment, it’s my observation. It’s best to own ones assumptions rather than placing them on others 🤷🏽‍♀️. I won’t fain that I read the rest. I scanned and saw the word “fake” somewhere at the bottom. Hypocrisy isn’t really my thing either. Good day, Sir 👍🏾

[@apmoneybagg9778]

“You sleep for three hours, then you get up and study for MCAT”

[@jerryvala6153]

This one got me lols

[@mattyhew8364]

It's very stereotypical though

[@rainsrapidly]

Lolll

[@robincyril6352]

She wants to give all the love in money.

[@300zxss]

It’s things like this that make me realize why India is such a colossal train wreck 😂

[@Hoodboi005]

This actual common to foreign families. My siblings and I all grew up in a 2 parent household and they rarely said I love you to us but they absolutely showed it with how they raised us, sacrificed for us and led us by example in good behaviors. We’re all grown now and still have a great family bond, we even live in the same state 😂 🙏

[@sayanb5031]

Love is like Give me a call when you reached home.. take care of yourself... I'll give you treat... ❤❤❤

[@iamblade7862]

What nonsense?! I'm Indian and I tell by daughter and wife "I love you" all the time🤨

[@Shu05]

Depends on the generation, older south asian parents tend not to say it, i am sri lankan, my parents (in their 60s now) have never said it.. But their action always showed they cared.

[@peerlesscucumber9960]

Can confirm. I’m Sri Lankan as well and my parents have never said ‘I love you’

[@arjunjha08]

Bro fr if u have a wife nd a daughter considering u are someone who is older than 30 than ur username sounds fake ngl 😂

[@noahjacob5552]

My parents have never said they love me or my siblings, I've never told my parents or my siblings I love them. I'm Indian

[@unravelmysoul1598]

@@arjunjha08 alright God of noobs