In most marriages decisions should be made by both; it should not be the husband’s fault that she didn’t apply for a green card or residency. When the wife doesn’t even live in the husband’s country, she may not pass the interview for the residency because there isn’t a reason for her to get one. I don’t see why revealing more to the public will do anything good; don’t they know their daughter may see all these online? I feel more sorry for the daughter than trying to know who’s right.