Sure - my website address is in my channel description. Please note that I'm currently fully booked for therapy sessions though.
@binayrawat18665 күн бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab ok thanks ❤
@jeffguzman64976 күн бұрын
What happens if they message her ? Mine did and she entertained him before blocking him. Is she wrong?
@Mattjohnson51926 күн бұрын
In my opinion yes! Everyone makes mistakes but that would be an issue for me. Not replying to them or glad you're doing well but i'm very happy now are the only good responses.
@LastingLongerLab6 күн бұрын
Just as @Mattjohnson5192 says, partners make mistakes, misjudge the situation or are insensitive sometimes. So maybe, and you get to decide if a behaviour is a dealbreaker of course. That said, if you've agreed to forgive but find yourself obsessing about her past and can't seem to mentally let this go, then we could be in the realms of retroactive jealousy. Sometimes intrusive thoughts are all made up in our minds and sometimes they're based on things that actually happened, mistakes that were made. I hope this helps clarify - it's a good question!
@LastingLongerLab6 күн бұрын
@@Mattjohnson5192 That's a fair take on it, I would say.
@Hectorheroic10 күн бұрын
Hey fellas, imagine if your girlfriend had a fling with a famous rapper. And that rapper wrote the "Ultra-Sexual Constitution". Google it, it's a thing. Yeah, well my girlfriend thought it would be a good idea to tell me all about this fling. It has F*cked. Me. Up! And the only reason why that came to an end was because he went back home to the USA when his tour came to an end. She had to tell me about his fettishes. How am I meant to overcome this? I'm just a very average, untalented man. He was a 42 year old African American, she was a petite blonde 21 year old. Imagine the mental movies!
@Mattjohnson51926 күн бұрын
Man, that has to be terrible.. Not sure about the African-American part of it but the fame part would suck for sure. Not sure why that needed to be shared except to stroke her own ego. I would dump her while handing her two tickets to his show and say "good luck getting a commitment from him take care.." lol
@alexanderdoloz234114 күн бұрын
That's my two cents about the issue as a person who struggled in the past but finally got the relief. Maybe the picture is as follows. You are the guy who was raised by books and movies romanticizing relationships with women and "love". Because of that you had some lack or deficiency of sexual experience, or you think so. You meet girl and soon realize, she is "that girl". "The special one". As consequence of this you overcommit in the relationship - maybe not even in money but in attitude. Some day you realize that other guys rode your girl on their hairy motorollers and she was happy about it. And, what's interesting, these guys DID NOT COMMIT. And you feel like a total loser who pays full price for something others get for free. Two things can help. First, realize she is not special. Take a look from bird's eye view. Some people on some territory meet, fall in love, sleep, get married, born kids, divorce and break up with each other. Each person pursues their own goals and your girl too. So, she is not "that girl". At best, she is good and suitable for you. Second, stop overcommiting. Don't give more just because of "thatness" of the girl. Think about yourself too. Well, not "too", think about youself in the first place. Maybe this advice will ruin your relationship if it was backed only by your overcommitment but so be it.
@haiyangliu248117 күн бұрын
Two ways to enlong the time, the first is move your attention, the second is practicing using stop technique to decrease the sensibility.
@LastingLongerLab16 күн бұрын
Both good tips - thanks for sharing! Attention shifting especially 🙂
@vasiliskougioufas574021 күн бұрын
The fact that a girl's past triggers ocd doesn't mean the brain is at fault. it is the natural male instinct to protect which kicks in. So if her past is dark she is actually an accomplice to her own degradation therefore not trustworthy.
@LastingLongerLab21 күн бұрын
I agree with the first part of your comment - there are natural instincts at work with all forms of OCD. With RJ OCD, it may be status, security seeking, protectiveness. The second part of your comment, not so much 🙂
@WHAT-gm1xm22 күн бұрын
Eating raw garlic and ginger helps in increase sex timing and erection
@San-Vittore-nerazzurra22 күн бұрын
Make a video about PSSD (Post ssri s3xual dysfunction)
@JasonDeanTherapist21 күн бұрын
Yes that's a good topic - we're starting to understand more about the longer-term risks of SSRIs to our sexual function. Will do, thanks 🙂
@Mkthegamerboi27 күн бұрын
Do i have to cum during this masturbation technique beacuse i don't want ejculate by doing masturbation . plz reply Sir
@XanderT-u1m28 күн бұрын
Game changer! And yes, I tried what I read the other day and it was mind blowing to see her writhing with pleasure and ready for anything. It started when I learned to last at least 30 minutes go’ogling the latest in Greyzar Drinbo's PE Solution and now she keeps dragging me back lol
@wonderinАй бұрын
I’m a soldier at war and see my wife once in a couple month. My problem became so bad i can last like 1 second the first time we meet. Second round would be couple seconds more😢. Then the next day it becomes a bit better, then the day after a bit better, but not as wanted. Once in a while i can last like half an hour or as long as I want, but it’s a rare occasion sadly.
@LastingLongerLabАй бұрын
Hey thanks for sharing. I can imagine that your stress levels, anticipation for seeing your wife and now performance anxiety are all in the mix. Due to your circumstances, have you considered a delay spray to give you a bit of a confidence boost? It's not a long-term strategy and by all means work on your relaxation too, but I appreciate you might not be in a place to do some of the 'training' methods right now. I hope you get to that place soon.
@wonderinАй бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab i met my wife just two years ago, before that i had no relations with women for 9 years. Quit watching porn almost 2 years ago. Don’t masturbate at all. Decided recently to begin kind of edging training once in a while, but as soon as i get erect, literally couple touches and i’m done. This gets better when i’m at home after couple days of regular sex with my wife. But it gets too confusing for me in the first day as i want to make love with my wife for a bit longer. She is kind and understanding, transforming my pe as a compliment to herself, but hey
@PhoenixspinАй бұрын
vulva owners
@sultangurey7244Ай бұрын
Any problem
@858milesАй бұрын
The "thats decent" killed me
@greenshroudАй бұрын
Interesting content. The topic of PE is, I think, highly mysterious. It could simply be evolutionary wiring, where quick ejaculation had survival benefits, and some people are just more primed towards that. Or it could be that this primal pathway is activated whenever we are carrying a lot of unconscious stress, which basically pertains to the perception of threats, but in a more abstract sense, and so dealing with lowkey anxiety is important to it. It could also be due to physiological training, as in squeezing the PE during sexual experiences, we train ourselves to ejaculate as quickly as possible, and if we've been doing that since we first become sexually cognizant, then it has become a lifelong habit, which in turn could be reflected in other areas of life. The PC muscle can trigger the ejaculatory reflexive system, which in turn is the activation of the sympathetic nervous system, which pertains to our fight or flight response, hence its overarching relationship with anxiety and fear. I've heard of cases where a person ejaculated simply from a sexual massage from their partner (without sexual stimulation), or from viewing certain explicit content, without any sexual touching occurring. What would such cases indicate? We know that they are passing from a parasympathetic system activation and arousal state into a sympathetic nervous system ejaculatory state without sexual stimulation. Could there be the association of arousal with stress? And so when aroused, there is this attempt by the body to escape stress or this fearful situation?
@LastingLongerLabАй бұрын
I completely agree, and I share your curiousity. For a presentation that seems so straightforward on the surface, we're still trying to understand the many biopsychosocial factors that contribute to PE. In most guys presenting with PE, I tend to see a combination of excitement and anxiety. Closely related emotions and both drivers of sympathetic activation. And just as you suggest, stress is a factor too. Both latent stress and performance stress, which keeps men stuck in a cycle of disappointment and worry about the next time. And, again as you mention, our natural wiring. PE does have some genetic inheritance. Some men are wired to ejaculate sooner than others. We all have some degree of agency over this, but stress and excitement make it difficult to exercise this agency in the moment. We panic or get carried away, or both. For cases of ejaculation without touch, I suspect these are acute experiences of going from parasympathetic to sympathetic engagement due to purely psychological/perceived stimulation. Us humans seem to be the only species that can do that, for better or for worse!
@greenshroudАй бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab Thanks for the response, insightful as always. There is one exercise I've been experimenting with and using to help notice my own physical response. For many years I've been interested in, and using, cold showers/ice baths to help train myself in relation to anxiety. There are a lot of good studies on that and I think that I can say that it's helped a lot, being able to stand in the cold shower while your body enters into a sympathetic nervous response state. But then, learning to be calm within it, almost as if perhaps transitioning back to a parasympathetic response. In regards to PE training, I notice that it is very hard to simply not constrict or squeeze the PC muscles when the cold shock hits the body. But I notice that the more I train to relax the pelvic floor through reverse kegels, the easier it becomes, although still not at a level where it's comfortable. Do you think this sort of training can be effective based on the theory? It might be worth investigating as a type of training for future use cases. So far I haven't seen anyone investigate this, but it certainly does highlight the relationship between sympathetic nervous system activation and pelvic floor activity.
@JasonDeanTherapistАй бұрын
@@greenshroud That's interesting, thanks for sharing. I know that cold exposure/showers has traditionally been viewed as a remedy for PE and possibly for good reason. Though I'm not aware of any contemporary research (except related to Wim Hof method, but that has quite a different objective) and I haven't investigated it up to now. The pelvic floor response you describe sounds completely plausible to me and I would consider it worthy of investigation. Thanks - for my part, I'll give this more consideration!
@MinmalistАй бұрын
I can get hard in 30 sec, hard means really hard and my girl feels the pulse of my rocket but I finish under 30 sec or 1 min and then again wait for 45 mins and then I can go long. Can you please help here
@LastingLongerLabАй бұрын
Well, it's quite normal to be able to last longer in round two - and thank goodness for that. You might be starting out a bit over-excited or aroused and there are lots of options for addressing that. See my videos about excitement for starters and I hope it helps!
@MinmalistАй бұрын
@LastingLongerLab what I cannot get is that in round one it's just 30 sec and done. Are there are any exercises to change that. What can I do. In round you we just have to kiss and get handsy and we start and i come. I want to change that
@LastingLongerLabАй бұрын
@@Minmalist Yep I hear you and it's a very common situation. Pretty much every video on this channel addresses this very issue, and I'd recommend starting with an understanding of excitement and the arousal curve. There's also a couple of videos about specific exercises.
@LilyVegas-vz5ikАй бұрын
Watching this video whistle shaking my hoo haa😂
@Radiantspirit_xxАй бұрын
Pls help me, i am copying everything about the ex. 😢
@LastingLongerLabАй бұрын
I hear you! I've put some more videos specifically about this problem on my main therapy channel www.youtube.com/@JasonDeanTherapist I hope there's some useful info there. It's a common problem and you can get past it!
@Zayday19932 ай бұрын
I need a video that explains this on a more scientific / brain level what's going on in the body what hormones are either off or imbalanced or both
@Zayday19932 ай бұрын
It would be nice for it to be sadness after sexual stimulation and touch but I've had more like a uneasy anxiety/almost a hyperventilating feeling I would take sadness over that 😅
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Anxiety after sex, including panic attacks, can still come under the definition of postcoital dysphoria. But not necessarily - it can also be more related to the postcoital drop in hormone levels, and individual factors such as trauma and latent stress levels. And I do agree - sadness almost feels preferable, doesn't it? If this persists, breathing and relaxation techniques can help and speaking with a therapist with relevant experience can also be beneficial. Thanks for sharing!
@Zayday19932 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab thank you ❤️ is there anything I can do about it physically because I strongly feel it's a strange body response that anything mental and I've tested my self quite often to know I'm not tripping
@charles175082 ай бұрын
Lol fake
@Tinger_902 ай бұрын
It’s because of porn and the woman shaking aka acting like it’s pure female ejaculation
@Cakeandbuns6622 ай бұрын
I still Don’t understand this
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Hey no problem - is there anything I can clarify?
@Cakeandbuns6622 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab i got cream that says decrease sensitivity but i still ejaculated within 5-10 mins, now the rhino pill i took before it didn’t have me ejaculate for a whole 30 minutes of sex , why would a man need to ejaculate everytime he has sex??
@vikentijslauruts21532 ай бұрын
hi :) what are the examples of physical causes?
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Hello and good question! Prostatitis is probably the most common - an inflammation or infection of the prostate. But less common in younger guys. Lower body muscle tightness can contribute to PE too, though unlikely to cause it.
@billyb21222 ай бұрын
this happened to me after losing my virginity
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing and I wonder how common an experience that is. Have you experienced it since?
@atulanand90162 ай бұрын
Sir , I have sensitive glans which leads to PE What should i do to cure it permanently Pls help me
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
This video should have some pointers for you - it hope it helps! kzbin.info/www/bejne/mqrThn2CpbRneas
@jg76532 ай бұрын
Interesting and useful video, doctor. I think we men should create a more relaxing atmosphere and spend more time speaking to our girlfriend, before starting to touch each other’s body. It’s also clear that the more excited we arrive at the meeting, the sooner we ejaculate. It also depends on personal feelings and reactions: even a kiss on the neck or a moan of pleasure by our girlfriend may take us near the coming. Men are naturally obsessed by ejaculation, maybe because they think the partner expects ejaculation, which represents the final goal when we have sex.
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing, and I completely agree.
@jg76532 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab Of course, there’s a big difference between a serious-rich in real “deep”feelings-love relationship, and a simple, short love story (a quickie). As regards the second type, men are almost always blamed, but it’s not so true…sometimes men simply satisfy the women’s requests.
@TheWilso27032 ай бұрын
I did read to have ya tryptophan on an empty stomach.... I'm not sure of the mechanism but having many supps with coffee I thought makes them more bio available... so it would stand to reason why I've had good results having trypto in my morning cuppa while fasted
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
That's a really useful tip - thanks 👍
@billbrooks46942 ай бұрын
great video. ty.
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Thanks!
@jg76532 ай бұрын
In my opinion, masturbating before having sex is not helpful. I speak considering my experience as a boy and young man. Masturbation, if carried out correctly, requires lots of energy and in case we have sex shortly after, it may happen that we feel not completely satisfied. It’s like the case when we masturbate twice in a short time after a period of abstinence: during the first one we feel stronger, more desire, more satisfied and we last shorter; the second time we may last longer because we have no urgency, but with a loss of energy and imagination.
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Yes agreed. The second round may be longer but less satisfying. Or for some men, not even longer.
@user-gt5op2tj6u2 ай бұрын
Hi Sir iamfrom SriLanka there Will be a good useful video for those who take medication.thankyousir🙏
@danieffendi55562 ай бұрын
Is there ever such thing as too much of this technique or would more practice = better results?
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Good question! Different guys will want to practice this method more than others, just as some guys masturbate more than others. And similarly, it's possible to overdo it too. As a general rule, when guys ask me how often they should 'train' I suggest every other day or three times a week. Some guys with lots of energy will go for every day. Multiple times a day is overdoing it IMO. As for duration, anything from 15 mins to 30 mins is sufficient.
@danieffendi55562 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab got it, thank you!
@Ellucho096422 ай бұрын
Average guys are 5 inches long dude. There is no way....maybe with our 2 fingers
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Yes agreed - for a lot of guys, two fingers would be way to go.
@cheetavontiebolt99712 ай бұрын
Retroactive jealously is irrational jealousy past is past i am concerned with now
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
I take your point. I'd say that like most obsessions or OCD-type thought, RJ isn't completely irrational. It's quite natural to some degree. But the doubt and obsession becomes turned up to the absolute max, making our partner's past feel like a major emergency. Being able to focus more on the now is key, absolutely.
@Jean-de-La-Chap2 ай бұрын
Not all irrational feelings. As a survival archetype from the unconscious mind. Engaging battle with the conscious.
@cheetavontiebolt99712 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab yes
@CM199122 ай бұрын
Can SSRI medication be tested with masturbation to see if it works?
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Yes, you should notice a delaying effect when masturbating. It might not be as obvious because most guys last longer solo anyway (less pressure, excitement) but it will 'feel' different.
@JulianRickert2 ай бұрын
Really good video. Thank you
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Glad you liked it!
@KathyChapman-y9g2 ай бұрын
How do you increase norepinephrine and epinephrine and histamine? Mines are low. Thanks
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
Hello, options include medication (typically SNRIs), dietary supplements and lifestyle adjustments such as exercise. But it does depend on why your's might be low in the first place, so a consultation with your doctor is way to go.
@michaeldickson85082 ай бұрын
Testing study available?
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
I think more testing results are being published on the MOR website as the device proceeds through FDA approval.
@michaeldickson85082 ай бұрын
Maybe allow the led to be powered off in app software kind of like turning power light off on wifi router
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
I agree - let's hope this is an option 🙂
@elturco1632 ай бұрын
I really dont understand why women even tell their bodycount😂😂
@cheetavontiebolt99712 ай бұрын
Fear of harshjudgment
@Jean-de-La-Chap2 ай бұрын
They proudly do, with details, if you ask..notes, tape measure included..
@Royan712Күн бұрын
They think men think and feel the same as women.
@LIVNNACPT3 ай бұрын
It is a g spot orgasm
@liamjordan30683 ай бұрын
Well I did this breathing technique at the gym doing squats and blasted through to ten reps every set. Also I tried this casually during the day, by simulating poping my ear drums without popping them. Instantly this felt like the best reverse kegal I ever felt. Normally I just used my abs to do the RK but this method recruits the diaphragm and the push is fuller, stronger and easier to hold. This alone is amazing just for the use in the gym. My breathing was all over the place before this.
@LastingLongerLab3 ай бұрын
That's great to hear. Yes, it makes a big difference in the squat rack too. What's not to like! 🙂
@Raulsevillamental3 ай бұрын
I have a doubt sir. Concretely about the video of the fleshlight, the MIHIXEL Control. You, as a psychologist and therapist say that we can train our endurance by stimulating the most sensitive part of our penis, the one that makes us finish nearly instantly (for those who have PE). For that we can use devices like the MIHIXEL Control. Nonetheless, how then, could PRM (Penis Root Masturbation) could help to enhance our endurance in bed? If it makes the opposite to these realistic stimulation devices. I mean, could these two methods (focusing on a target sensitive point, and avoiding completely the target sensitive point) ameliorate PE condition? Thanks for your time and support.
@LastingLongerLab3 ай бұрын
That's a really good question, so thank you for asking. I agree that these two forms of stimulation are opposite in a way - one targets the most sensitive area and the other purposely avoids it. When formulating a treatment plan for PE, we often introduce PRM as a starting point (along with a breathing technique and lower body relaxation). Many men with lifelong PE have very little experience of receiving penile stimulation while erect, so PRM brings useful experience and insights. Sometimes a true 'wow' moment. Then when we're able to stimulate in this way for 5-10 minutes and acclimatise to sensation, we can start to introduce more intense stimulation, with a device or manually. So working towards 10 minutes of PRM and then 3-5 minutes of glans or frenulum stimulation - reverting back to PRM when/if necessary but not stopping stimulation completely. And gradually, we can shift this ratio to 1-2 mins of PRM to acclimatise and 5-10 mins of intense stimulation. This takes time and patience to work towards, of course. Research suggests that PRM alone (typically for 15 mins) can be beneficial, but we've had best results with this mix so far. I hope this helps explain things and thank you again.
@Raulsevillamental3 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab Wow, I did not see it like that. It is congruent and coherent though. Thanks for your answer, i will give it a try!
@vikentijslauruts21532 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab hello how are these 2 methonds different? sorry english is not my native language so a bit confused Best Regards Vik
@LastingLongerLab2 ай бұрын
@@vikentijslauruts2153 Hi Vik and no worries - we did get deep into the detail there 🙂 In a nutshell, one method of masturbation targets the most sensitive area, around and just below the penis head. And the other method just stimulates the base. This second method is good to start with. It gets us used to staying hard and stimulated for longer. Then we can add in more of the intense stimulation as we become more confident and relaxed. Hope this helps!
@vikentijslauruts21532 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab what does the mihicel stimulator do? The sensitive part or not the sensitive?
@Raulsevillamental3 ай бұрын
I have a doubt sir. Concretely about the video of the fleshlight, the MIHIXEL Control. You, as a psychologist and therapist say that we can train our endurance by stimulating the most sensitive part of our penis, the one that makes us finish nearly instantly (for those who have PE). For that we can use devices like the MIHIXEL Control. Nonetheless, how then, could PRM (Penis Root Masturbation) could help to enhance our endurance in bed? If it makes the opposite to these realistic stimulation devices. I mean, could these two methods (focusing on a target sensitive point, and avoiding completely the target sensitive point) ameliorate PE condition? Thanks for your time and support.
@LastingLongerLab3 ай бұрын
That's a really good question, so thank you for asking. I agree that these two forms of stimulation are opposite in a way - one targets the most sensitive area and the other purposely avoids it. When formulating a treatment plan for PE, we often introduce PRM as a starting point (along with a breathing technique and lower body relaxation). Many men with lifelong PE have very little experience of receiving penile stimulation while erect, so PRM brings useful experience and insights. Sometimes a true 'wow' moment. Then when we're able to stimulate in this way for 5-10 minutes and acclimatise to sensation, we can start to introduce more intense stimulation, with a device or manually. So working towards 10 minutes of PRM and then 3-5 minutes of glans or frenulum stimulation - reverting back to PRM when/if necessary but not stopping stimulation completely. And gradually, we can shift this ratio to 1-2 mins of PRM to acclimatise and 5-10 mins of intense stimulation. This takes time and patience to work towards, of course. Research suggests that PRM alone (typically for 15 mins) can be beneficial, but we've had best results with this mix so far. I hope this helps explain things and thank you again.
@liamjordan30683 ай бұрын
Thanks for information!
@LastingLongerLab3 ай бұрын
No problem!
@RGTomoenage113 ай бұрын
It usually works
@LastingLongerLab3 ай бұрын
Yes that's true for most guys, including guys with PE. But for a significant number of men with PE, it doesn't make any difference and then feels a bit hopeless. But you are absolutely correct!
@JLN273 ай бұрын
The way porn helps to cause PE is like this. Before, when watching porn I would last long(as well as during normal sex) but because I masturbated so often to porn, waiting an hour to ejaculate wasn't cutting it. I then started putting myself in an overstimulated mindset by which i would cum in 5 mins. Now it seems I'm unable to reverse this as sometimes(if its with a new partner) I can cum in 2 strokes.
@liamjordan30683 ай бұрын
Is this like Box breathing? Count 4 seconds breathing outwards, hold for 4 seconds - then breath in normally, repeat?
@LastingLongerLab3 ай бұрын
Yes box breathing has a similar effect. Any technique with a longer exhale and not too much emphasis on breath holding can help keep the parasympathetic state sufficiently engaged - and that's what we want during sex!
@liamjordan30683 ай бұрын
@@LastingLongerLab Gotcha, longer exhale! Watching all your videos, you’re really good at explaining things. Probably could sell water to a well!
@LastingLongerLab3 ай бұрын
Hehe thanks - I hope you find them helpful!
@TheMan402623 ай бұрын
I hate the idea of using a term as a blanket for men who care about their partners past. In this case, "jealousy". I think it's natural to be repulsed by a cuffing a woman with a "rich sexual history" because theres a tendency for it to be a sign of masculinity in a female (likely via birth control pills). Also, it ruins a woman's ability to pair bond and why would I wanna invest my time, effort, and energy building a life with someone who doesn't appreciate it because they're too busy crying about their ex/exes?