@@Cozmocleve it depends. are you still displaying the negative traits and behaviors i talk about? or do you have a genuine lower response to things in life. it’s the difference between putting up a front to not care and caring but it not showing in a way most people are used to

@@zackfazunila616 people come in and out of our lives for various reasons. the important thing is you know what went wrong in this case. what matters now is how you approach your relationships and interactions with people moving forward.

thank you so much for watching!

thank you so much for watching. im glad this message was able to resonate with you.

it's all about that discipline!

thank you jackie 🫶🏾

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thank you for watching!

@@DivineGemini444 of course! i’d recommend checking out the other videos in my “do better” playlist

it was a sign twin im sorry. my whole channel is clocking people

your welcome ❤

@@psyche_goddess 😭😭 KZbin knows you too well

@@aracystic28 I get that. While we may not want to give up on people you should never care more about them improving than they do. If it gets to that point you can’t sacrifice your own self improvement and happiness for them. ❤️❤️🫶🏾

@@inaanaking9107 ❤️ I’m glad it could help

thank you! hope you stick around

@@LifeofShay33 I’m here to be the harsh girlfriend everyone needs 🫡❤️

@@MyCandidWorld 🤗💗❤️‍🩹

im glad i could help

thank you 💖

@@ethancrandall6748 🥲🥲 no literally at least a month

Sat on it and got left

tysm 🫶🏾

thank you for your input!

@@MyCandidWorldeverything you said about it is spot on though. I know cause I’ve been dealing with it my whole life

sorrrry i dont make asmr videos anymore. feel free to check out my newer videos though!

Thank you for sharing your perspective. 💕

@@MyCandidWorld NP

thank you kindly!

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I do appreciate the vid though, how can I move past these feelings

​@@stanleypierre5042 Something that helped me enormously is to study about Stoicism and later Buddhism, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Logotherapy. Just Stoicism got me most of the way there; the rest became helped me to reinforce that. There's the vernacular "stoic" vs. true "Stoic" as the ancient Greeks and Romans conceptualized it. The vernacular implies someone who represses their negative thoughts and emotions, and that can be very unhealthy and what I did originally. I'd still cry and do things like punch walls in anger, just in private, always repressing my negative thoughts to the point of an outburst and only having the discipline to have these outbursts when no one was watching. It was incredibly lonely. I don't encourage that in the slightest. The Stoic as in the way the ancient philosophers envisioned it, similar to the Zen Buddhist monk, is not someone who represses their negative thoughts and emotions and acts like they don't care, but just cultivates really positive thoughts and emotions: inner peace and joy. It's actually being a person who doesn't get upset very easily, not just pretending to be one. Explaining how to do this in a YT comment is a bit tricky but the first thing to realize is that how we feel, short of genuine physiological issues, is often dictated by how we think. So even the words we use in our minds and out loud can influence that greatly. As a simplistic example, say we're having a very hard day at work. We might be tempted to think or even say to somebody, "This job is the worst! It's awful!" Then we will tend to feel awful and stressed out and we can try to hide it or show it but we'll still feel awful. Or we can try to challenge our thought patterns and say something like, "Phew, this is a challenging day! But it's obviously not the worst; people have it worse, it could be worse." That might not make us feel so bad or even discouraged. It might even encourage us, help us endure the rough day, and come out genuinely smiling without faking our smile. It's all in the manner in the way we think. One of the things I failed to understand for a good portion of my life is that I thought when I was feeling bad, that's beyond my ability to control and so I thought the best thing to do most of the time was hide it. Yet when I started to realize that it's my thought patterns which were making me feel bad, and not what was happening to me so much as how I thought about it, I started to suddenly find a great deal of control emerging over how I felt about anything.

Thank you Jonathan 💕💕

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I definitely agree. People skip right past the getting to know one another faze and go straight into being a romantic relationship. If you couldn't be friends with your partner maybe you can't be partners either.

​@@MyCandidWorld I'm thinking it also helps keep men and women honorable on dates, or at least helps honorable men and women find each other more easily. For example, say a man is an unethical player type whose goal is to just have his sexual fun with a woman and then ghost her. Such men also tend to be among the most charming since they're not playing a long-term game where honesty and integrity are rewarded, and can instead deceive women about who they are in order to present themselves as more charming and committed than they actually are. They also tend to be the most socially well-rehearsed at forming the best short-term impressions through the sheer volume of women they try to charm, since they don't need to form anything more than a relatively short-term impression: just long enough to have their sexual fun and move on. When I was growing up before online dating was a thing (I'm in my 40s and we didn't even have smartphones back then), such player types seemed relatively rare even in the West and could usually only operate in big cities filled with endless bars and nightclubs (in settings that offered an endless sea of unfamiliar faces). It's the only way they could avoid being discovered as they exploited random women they picked up as they hopped from bar to bar. Otherwise word would spread of their misdeeds and they would become known among the people there. Meanwhile, online dating seems to establish the perfect setting for the most unscrupulous men (as well as possibly women) to exploit without ever seriously risking a reputation that will come back to them among the next person on whom they swipe right. I suspect the growing popularity of online dating is at least a large part why hook-up culture has become so prevalent among newer generations than mine. So I think the ultimate defense against not only hook-up culture but general exploitation of decent people who only want to find a committed romantic partner is to form social circles of both sexes: a community of like-minded people if you will. Then spend a lot of time together and have a lot of fun going out together in groups, throwing parties, going on picnics, barbecues, watching movies together, playing sports, hiking, camping, attending each other's Birthday's, weddings, and so forth. Then you get to see each other in both the best and worst lights, through highs and lows, and the deepest aspects of each other's character will be known not just among potential love interests within that group but the entire group of lifelong friends. That's the way I met my wife. She was originally a friend of a mutual friend invited to a picnic together (Hanami), and over the course of hanging out together with our mutual friends, we had a strong gravitation towards each other. We kept finding ourselves at the edge of our friends' parties, often talking to each other for hours on end at the balcony of a friend's house, e.g. (somewhat ditching our mutual friends in the process and almost forgetting they were around us as we got lost in our conversations). Then after a year or so of hanging out this way with our mutual friends, one day they left us alone in a bar since everyone had to leave early. So we danced and kissed and I asked her out on a date and she agreed. The rest is history; it seemed like we were already destined to marry by the time we went on our first date. And when we married, all of those mutual lifelong friends we had established attended our wedding, as we did theirs, and that always struck me as the most harmonious way to not only find love but find a sense of community outside of our families. Funnily enough, two of our mutual friends also formed their love interest during our wedding and went on their first date soon after, only to get married 4 years later with my wife and I attending their wedding (they also copied us and had their wedding in exactly the same location since they loved our wedding so much and developed their love interest through the time they spent together at ours).

I infact clicked on the wrong video, will be wearing a skirt to school tmr ig.

go for it 💜