The RED FLAGS That I IGNORED....
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@joyusman2670
@joyusman2670 5 күн бұрын
Thank you so much ❤
@GertrudeTeca
@GertrudeTeca 2 ай бұрын
The Devil is a liar
@GertrudeTeca
@GertrudeTeca 2 ай бұрын
God bless you!
@GertrudeTeca
@GertrudeTeca 2 ай бұрын
Ameeeeeeeeennnn
@GertrudeTeca
@GertrudeTeca 2 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@ChiamakaOkafor-s4e
@ChiamakaOkafor-s4e 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@CameronRoberts-r9w
@CameronRoberts-r9w 3 ай бұрын
Does she still attend the same church where she met her ex husband?????
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 4 ай бұрын
AAAMMAZZINNG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 5 ай бұрын
The use of scripture like this is just the worst😢
@Altruist17-z2k
@Altruist17-z2k 5 ай бұрын
His posts and constant attacks on facebook always reek of narcissism. I believe you a 100% on all you've shared! I am so happy you've broken free and pray God keeps you and your children.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 5 ай бұрын
Amen, thank you so much! Yes you’re absolutely right. God bless you! ❤️🙏🏾
@veeghee5044
@veeghee5044 5 ай бұрын
You are amazing and thank you so much for sharing and pray your story saves so many lives 🙏🏾🩷
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 5 ай бұрын
Aww thank you so much! Amen and amen! ❤️🙏🏾
@FigaDJ
@FigaDJ 6 ай бұрын
You have a beautiful home! Fabulous taste 👌🏾
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 5 ай бұрын
Aww thank you! ❤️
@cerielvanarneman9399
@cerielvanarneman9399 6 ай бұрын
I have a natural light brown skin color and I am satisfied with my skin color. I don't want to be white, I like my skin color and my skin color is beautiful. In the summer a lot of white people going to the beach in the sun to get dark skin. I like dark skin ladies they are beautiful.
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 6 ай бұрын
I wish i had been able to set boundaries. Early in our dating relationship even before engagement and marriage, when i tried it was met with condemnation and punishment from my husband Thank you for sharing your story. X
@victoriachibueze5880
@victoriachibueze5880 6 ай бұрын
Love this message! Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏽❤️
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@malwandemkhize
@malwandemkhize 6 ай бұрын
❤❤
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 6 ай бұрын
Hi. How long have you been divorced now?
@estales
@estales 6 ай бұрын
Sis ur not alone !!! I was attracted to the husbands so called love for God and how intentional he was about ministry, i was told i must change my dressing - I must wear hats to Church, cover my head etc i blindly did it all. i thought goodness he knows so much about God and he evangelises and does it all he must be right...how blind i was ...so his criticism of other Christians and Christians leaders and his constant debates, and arguments to "defend God" as he put it were unfortunately not red flags at the time. For the "sake of God and minsitry" he would scream amd shout at others who disagreed with him or had different opinions ... stupidly I translated it as zeal...Sis ur not alone😢 God is our strength x
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Wow! Sounds identical to me!! 🙏🏾❤️
@frankdigiovanni3666
@frankdigiovanni3666 6 ай бұрын
Wanted to hear why you left him? What did he do?
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
It’s unfolded in the videos
@folasadeoduja5743
@folasadeoduja5743 6 ай бұрын
Thank God for light-bulb moments and courage to walk away from an abusive marriage. Sadly, you will come across some annoying people, including older women who will say things that undermine and belittle your perseverance over the years when you were doing the best to keep a toxic and ungodly relationship, especially marriage.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Thank you ma. Yes I know, you’re so right, but I have blocked out that noise thankfully by His grace and strength ❤️
@folasadeoduja5743
@folasadeoduja5743 6 ай бұрын
I am so glad that you mentioned the late Osinachi because some undiscerning and insensitive "Christians" claim that she was not a victim of domestic abuse!! 😮😢😢😢
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Wow, really Ma! Her case was one of the light bulb moments for me! 🙏🏾❤️
@kundaidube0505
@kundaidube0505 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for speaking out and sharing your journey. It has really helped me through my own journey and affirmed that getting out is the best thing for me ❤. Emotional abuse is so subtle and hard to prove. You feel it but can’t explain it . To discover that someone gets it really soothes the self doubt. Thank you. I wish you well
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Thank you, I’m glad to know it has been of encouragement 🙏🏾
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 6 ай бұрын
Same for me. Xx
@chanteynk7324
@chanteynk7324 7 ай бұрын
THis video was my experience in a church as a church member. It almost killed me. I almost drank, smoked, self-harmede my pain away. But thank God I met a friend who spoke a lot about Jesus to me and I heard sermons from Zac Poonen (a preacher on youtube) and slowly began to understand my self-worth and how God loves and sees us all as worthy but how other people do not see our worth and mistreat us. May God bless you dear.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you for sharing! Praise God for deliverance and victory!! ❤️🙏🏾
@ladies1.0.1.5
@ladies1.0.1.5 7 ай бұрын
Congratulations
@nikeakano
@nikeakano 7 ай бұрын
Thank God you are breaking free and sharing your journeys. I can imagine and relate to your story. Most narcissists use what attracted you to them.. as a cover. Sending you love and hugs 🙏🏽😘
@SandyBekombe
@SandyBekombe 7 ай бұрын
Lovely home🥰
@amayaraymond4486
@amayaraymond4486 7 ай бұрын
How do you co parent with your ex husband?
@onehubuk
@onehubuk 7 ай бұрын
I wish more people would watch this.. well done sis.. may God continue to strengthen you and the children ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Amen, thank you so much ❤️
@BeStill2023
@BeStill2023 7 ай бұрын
God bless you, Sister. Thank you for sharing.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 6 ай бұрын
Thanks for listening
@cheryllevalley929
@cheryllevalley929 7 ай бұрын
Can I ask about talking openly about your abuse experience publicly? I have been terrified to speak up in a public manner because he is forcing me to sign a non disparaging clause in our divorce decree and I don’t fully understand my rights to actually be able to speak about my experience.
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
I am so confused as to why your pastor advised you to marry in secret???
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
I am still wondering til this very day…..❤️🙏🏾
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
@@officiallymo_space did he not give any rationale or explanation for it???
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
Wow, it’s as if I am listening to you tell my story of how it began for me and my husband….😮
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that, wow! ❤️❤️🙏🏾
@user-ey4rc5tu4t
@user-ey4rc5tu4t 7 ай бұрын
You are most fortunate that you don’t have a debilitating autoimmune disease
@Lbrubush
@Lbrubush 7 ай бұрын
I feel like you are someone who has experienced something very similar to my earlier life. I still have mental health challenges, too, but fewer than I did 10 years ago. May you continue to heal.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Wow, I’m so sad to hear! The healing journey is a battle on its own! Amen! I pray the Lord heals and restores you too! Thank you. ❤🙏🏾
@CerealExpLain
@CerealExpLain 7 ай бұрын
I started realizing the emotional impact it had on me over the years. All because he denied his lack of sexual attraction. Im learning when reality doesnt suit his narrative he gets very offense and he would gaslight me..i started writing things down wondering is it me? Am I crazy? Glad to know your story.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
You are not going crazy but the torment of the gaslighting and blame shifting will indeed cause you to feel that way. So sorry to hear that. I pray you find healing and restoration! 🙏🏾❤️
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
You are so beautiful and glam!!
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!! ❤️
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
So true that it is harder to leave than to stay!!! My husband said I was taking the easy way out when I finally left but really I had been doing the easy thing by staying all those years when I had wanted or tried to leave. So much harder to break free.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
It really is! It takes so much courage, boldness, faith, strength and ultimately confidence that God is with you to really leave such a toxic marriage! The damage and impact it has on one’s health is not worth it and most especially the damage and trauma on the children! Thank you so much for your comment! ❤🙏🏾
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
Agree. Nothing you do is enough nor is anything good enough
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Absolutely nothing! They will keep taking til they have sucked the life out of you! As they are demon possessed they operate like their father satan, who’s core mission is to steal, kill and destroy!
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
I relate to so much of this. I was always in the wrong and in trouble over something or other and my husband would use Christianity, scriptures, religion to always justify his actions, thoughts beliefs and to make it seem like I was wrong
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
That’s sadly how they operate, I believe an earlier comment I think on my previous video nailed it, the blame shifting, the gaslighting, only someone who has been it can truly relate. The attack against your walk with God is also a clear sign that they are operating under a demonic influence…! God bless you. ❤🙏🏾
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
@@officiallymo_space I remember a few months into our marriage him telling me that I had better be careful because God was getting fed up of me and my rebelliousness and thus something bad would happen to me
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
@@soniaperez9269 sounds very familiar language to me….! I’m so sorry you also went through such trauma. I pray the Lord heals you completely and restores you in Jesus name! 🙏🏾❤️
@hannahrebeccamusic
@hannahrebeccamusic 7 ай бұрын
🙏🏼 your right about taking responsibility but I don’t believe you should take full responsibility. You were a young women seeking support from a man “of status” presenting as a man “of God”. You were mentally manipulated/abused and that is not your fault. In this world of healing mentally and physically and the rest of it we put a lot on taking full responsibility but I think it is a dangerous way of gaslighting ourselves. Xxxx
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your comment! I agree, whilst I take full accountability for my actions I am also aware I can’t keep blaming myself. Therapy has certainly helped with this too. It’s part of the healing process as you said to I believe do such. We are to reflect and examine and take ownership of our actions which is what I believe I have done. Thank you again. ❤️🙏🏾
@hannahrebeccamusic
@hannahrebeccamusic 7 ай бұрын
Wow thank you so much for your courage to share this with us. It is so needed and so helpful 😢🙏🏼💚 I’m so sorry you went through this but so happy to see you shine out the other side now xxx
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! 🙏🏾❤️
@Mwithumbi
@Mwithumbi 7 ай бұрын
Really sorry... You were only 24 not yet fully mature, your pastor misled you at your young age.... Marriage is such a personal decision .. decision should be between you and God...if you have a loving supportive family, they should be very key as well... Puting a pastor,bishop,prophet in the position of Jesus is dangerous, only Jesus is our mediator.they are just human with flaws...many pastors are also narcissistic & controlling. Remember: Jeremiah 17:9-10 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately corrupt;who can understand it. Mark 10:18 And Jesus said to him, “Why do you call me good? No one is good but God alone. 1 Timothy 2:5 - For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! Your comment is heart felt! God bless you! I have since learnt these crucial lessons! ❤️🙏🏾
@clintstryder1131
@clintstryder1131 7 ай бұрын
My best to you! I'm a survivor as well. I do understand!❤
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
God bless you! 🙏🏾
@kemeyfal
@kemeyfal 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story, more people need to identify these traits and deal with and not throw it under the rug. Well done 👍
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Absolutely thank you so much sis! ❤️🙏🏾
@NotYourOrdinaryDogWalker
@NotYourOrdinaryDogWalker 7 ай бұрын
You have since realized you are enough? You are good enough, he was projecting his own flaws and insecurities on you.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Thank you. ❤️
@gapatriot3729
@gapatriot3729 7 ай бұрын
The mental attacks are relentless and diabolical! No matter what you do to fight back, you will NEVER EVER win!
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
You nailed it! That’s 150% facts! Thank you for your comment. 🙏🏾
@mayruthuganda
@mayruthuganda 7 ай бұрын
Finally! I get to hear a story of someone who went through what I am going through!! At one point I questioned my own Christianity 😢...thanks for sharing dear sis.
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
Wow! I am so sorry to hear! Please know that you are loved and cherished by God! Because the Narc is demon possessed, they tend to attack your walk with the Lord. Stay strong and know you are loved by God! God bless you! 🙏🏾❤️
@soniaperez9269
@soniaperez9269 7 ай бұрын
Me too
@amayaraymond4486
@amayaraymond4486 7 ай бұрын
Wow the narcissist is a dark cloud in people's lives. The blame shifting, gaslighting, belittling tge list is endless. Unless you have experienced it you will not understand it.
@gorryumbul9031
@gorryumbul9031 7 ай бұрын
the narcissists are Satan children. stay away! ⚠️
@officiallymo_space
@officiallymo_space 7 ай бұрын
I couldn’t have said it better! Thank you! X
@Kapx64
@Kapx64 7 ай бұрын
We are all behind you my dear. We need to teach women the difference between normal marital issues and domestic abuse and violence. Do not put up with abuse in any form. I also learnt the hard way. I am happy that we are back to each other and I will support you all the way. Continue to shine. God bless you and your children. I love you so much and so happy for you.
@valeriyanev11
@valeriyanev11 7 ай бұрын
That delusional woman is a prime example in Kevin Samuels book of what type of women to avoid like a plague. Pride is number one of the seven deadly sins and she is fool of it.( the grammatical mistake is correct)