Hi I notice you continuously use both the BLS methods. I have not seen that before in my very new EMDR knowledge base. Can you tell me your rationale for this do you use this method often. Thanks to you both for sharing your knowledge

Thank you🙏🏻 So how do you choose working with either the activation spot or the calm spot

Do you have a video using an activated spot?

An honest guy and a fearless, sensitive therapist. Excellent work.

Yes!!!

add and ADHD sometimes have trouble looking directly into someone's eyes.

This was helpful. Thank you!

thank you so much, fantastic

If he prioritized his inner child he could schedule time to go to the beach and play with the children in his family. He could plan his vacations so they met this need for himself and his family in the real world. Chances are the family all need it. Ongoing self love without guilt, for maintenance, can include and benefit the family.

I know this is an old video... but is it weird that I had to stop watching the video when they started talking about the upset, scared little part...? Because it was too close to home and personal for my little part, Enari. :( We started crying.... A whole bunch of exchanges between my parts happened after that but yeah, might have to watch this demonstration some other time...

What on earth is a gender unicorn? I agree there can be masculine and feminine energies but there are only 2 genders. It sounds like you would rather encourage people to be beautiful genderless unicorns and mutilate their bodies to fit in rather than actually address issues, traumas etc and help people heal. Watching this was really uncomfortable, like no-one wants to offend or get called transphobic. Also calling women cis is unnecessary, we know who we are and genuine trans women are women, they dont call us cis, its unnecessary.

I’m crying. I think I have found the answer to my life struggles at the age of 51. I was bullied at School for being gay. I have a narcissistic Mother and my Father was an alcoholic. I trained as an Actor but then couldn’t cope with the feelings of rejection. Everyone was telling me how talented I was and asking me why I had given up on my dreams but I was so overwhelmed by just the thought of getting back into ‘The Business’ auditions, castings etc. I found comfort in alcohol from a young age but eventually it ravaged my whole being. I wanted to die. At the age of 40 I had a moment of clarity, picked the telephone for the first time in years and broke down on the phone to a rehab treatment centre. I got sober and have now been sober for almost 12 years. I’m sober yes, but still desperately unhappy. I procrastinate all the time, I’m generally unhappy and continually dream of being a working actor but I’m held back by so much fear. It’s got to the point where I feel like a total failure, worthless and depressed. I avoid social situations, I’m filled with resentment and jealousy of others and am starting to lose all hope after I went through therapy to help with childhood traumas. After seeing this video I can see how much this technique would work for me and it feels almost like the possible answer to my problems. Thank you for posting this, I’ll be looking for a local IFS trained therapist and will hopefully begin to heal myself. I’ll keep you updated. ☺️

When little one decided she was ready to let go of the 80% ❤. I've only recently discovered IFS and so far this is the most beautiful experience l've watched. Thank you both for sharing.

Thank you for sharing your practice of this work. It’s very generous of your participant in her session, and you. 🙏🏻 It felt very helpful to hear this.. it has broadened my understanding. 🙌🏼

Great point what he says about Moshe

If he would have said his ears or eyebrows would have been the most calm, how would this be different in what comes after? Since you can not follow the stick with your ears or eyebrows.

Great video

AMAZIN!

Do you do online meetings

Is there ways to go about it if theres a persistent feeling of not being so clear on communication with a part, for her (thankfully) it seems to come easy and naturally.

Such a strong kan! And thank you so much for being great at this and helping him!

35:20

I have the feeling this is Ericksonian Hypnosis.

😊 Thanks for sharing ❤🙏

Great content but hearing it is tough

Many thanks for this, I found it very interesting, helpful & Informative. My dad was very ill, and then passed away whilst my mum was pregnant with me. My mum was understandably depressed, and went on to be diagnosed with bipolar. I have been quite withdrawn, and had regular periods of depression throughout my life (I'm 58 now), I've read 4 books on IFS, and watched many videos on IFS by Dick Schwartz and other IFS practitioners, engaging a therapist is way beyond my means right now, but I feel that I'm making some progress. I had never thought of handing the burden back to my mother before watching this video - my mum has passed away now, so I believe she has been unburdened, so I believe she could take it back. Thanks again, I'm saving this video to watch again.

Thank you very much indeed for your generosity in being willing to share sessions on different aspects of IFS. I really enjoyed the first session with who I now know is your husband. I live in Australia and am not yet an IFS trained person. I have had one Zoom session with a level 3 therapist trained by Dick Schwartz (Level 3) and am currently reading and working through two IFS books and viewing many therapy sessions online. May I ask a question (and I realise this video is a year old now). Imagining myself as a 4 or 5 year old child (and I clearly can remember myself at this age) I do not believe I would have any sophisticated mathematical concepts such as percentages at this young age. Can you comment please if you read this. This aspect is causing me to be hesitant about trusting. I trust IFS but have an issue with the detail here. Thank you.

This is a great video to watch after I viewed the first session. Thank you. I will mention respectfully that the sound dropped in and out which was a pity to not hear clearly all your conversation.

Masterpiece.

Your way-of-being is healing. I esp noticed it from about 11:50-13:40. 'Oh so THAT is what it sounds like and feels like to really accept oneself...... Ohhhhhhhh nowwww I get it. ' All the space you gave, after, too, allows it to become embodied, I felt. Wow. You're amazing at this.

I am going to start IFS and this was very informative. Helps me know what to expect. Ty.

This dear therapist! She remains so patient with the client. He's in his head so much & all over the place. I hope eventually he can learn to stay with one part & really listen to hear their precious messages.

wait.. can i do ifs if i have aphantasia? is it fine if i cant visualise it?

I am grateful for having been able to see both these videos. Thank you.

Please the audio is inaudible.

Wow powerful example! So when mixing EMDR with IFS would you only do it it the client doesn't want to talk about the situation out loud?

It’s obvious the therapist is still learning and shows in how she works with the patient. But they got to where he needed to go as she stayed with the process. The patient gave good feedback and asked for clarification. Now he can work on his codependency.

thank you for this video! very useful!

I LOVE THIS!!! Thank you very much for sharing it! 😊🥰

Loved watching this session, thank you both for the openness and vulnerability

Great session! I’m wondering how much background the client/actress had in the IFS model prior to this session? I get the sense that she was at least somewhat familiar with the IFS model?

It is inspiring and instructive to see a couple who admire each other's strengths, celebrate their differences and understand how to integrate their unique approaches and visions to enhance their life and the lives of their clients.

I have been bouncing between Internal Family Systems and Bowen Family Systems. I can relate to both. I am also in ACA. What I like about IFS is that I can label a part without actually knowing what that part is. I have difficulty in ACA knowing my parts. The Bowen Family Systems shows why we get all the parts and then what approach to use in dealing with those parts. I do agree with Richard Schwartz about when we get good at this we become our own Therapist..

Hello my dear. You are so incredibly good at listening parts... and also so empathic ! AMAIZING ! I would like to ask you if you still practice and if you do online or only in you office. Thank you 🙏🏻

Which books have you read?

This really helped to put the theory into practice. Will be watching it more than once, for sure. Thank you.

Is the talking to parts meant to be a sort of active imagining?

Beautiful! I'm happy for you, man.

God bless this soldier for sharing his most personal experience.

Thanks to you and your client for generously sharing this very personal video.