Men do this too.

​@@EricaBassi99so change it and do better.

@@octaviod9379 How?

@@harleykidd7910 You're not a nation

Thanks for sharing, great comment!

While I agree with alot of what your saying. it's also a point twisted and used by misogynistic men who want to drag women back to the 1800s.

Of course you are correct. If you take more risks, you are more at risk.

did you watch the video? or is ur mind made up and you don’t wanna hear another perspective lmao

@Myuunium who's more important the child or the father staff can only do what they can do, the whole world grouses about how hard done they are, give it a rest please!

@@deadmemelol I did, a bit of a drama queen!

@@anniemain7670 and thats why theres so many absent fathers. As you say, they aren't important, so why waste time hanging around?

@@mickys8065 That is NOT what I said, but twist my words if you like.

In my hospital they had a photon (idk how to spell the couch with a bed under)

I’m with you on that one. Why would you want your loved ones going through the stress of the situation as well?

Everyone copes with trauma differently ❤ I'm used to being alone and I prefer it that way but it drives my family crazy lol I'll get a hug after when I'm good and ready for one but I process differently than others

Thank you!! ❤

Both parents are important

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Your experience tells me that I was thinking was right. It's ok to feel empathy towards the father, but only after all the physical and emotional needs of the mother and the child have been met. Otherwise, it's one of those patriarchal ways of invalidating or underplaying the mother's experience

Thats fucked up. Im sorry you had to go through that

​@@jeinyabad youre completely right, its important to check in with the dads but theyre only experiencing the emotional side and the normal parenting moments that they signed up for doing and are both impacted by like sleep deprivation, but the mother is dealing with those emotional and normal parenting learning curves but also unhinged levels of pain and discomfort and inability to function as they did before but also the hormonal chaos of pregnancy, birth, and post partum. Men are important in child rearing but at the start theres 2 primary concerns that require attention first and those are baby and mother

​@@jeinyabadYou're 100% right !!

I'm sorry you went through this darling :( and unfortunately I think this is a common experience for women :/x

Government agent like she's James Bond 😂

Rubbish.

@@nullnull7495 no not at all, their job is to check the child and mother aswell as report anything they don't like to the government... People who work for the government are not there to help you.

​@user-lb1yw6fc7l people aren't inheritantly evil because they happen to be employed by the government

​@@Momruoy-v5j i work in a maternity ward in a hospital and can tell you wholeheartedly, youre either so paranoid that it genuinely requires medical attention because its a serious mental health issue that does lead to injury and loss of life so frequently or theres something that you dont want madated reporters to see and thats just telling on yourself anyway. I earn one penny above minimum wage, who on earth do you think im reporting to in the government, do you think anyone with any actual power cares what i have to say, genuinely????? 😂😂😂 if an investigation is opened then youll be investigated, not instantly charged with abuse or neglect or drug use or whatever else, but its telling that you feel otherwise despite your clear lack of understanding of our jobs and what we care about. If you act abusive we will report it because if we dont and there is a loss of life or serious injuries resulting in a legal process, we risk jail time too if we saw anything that we didnt follow up with and frankly someone wanting to beat their wife during childbirth or shaking their newborn or anything else thats serious enough to require us to report what we saw to management is not something im willing to risk my freedom and life for, I'll happily send a man to sit in a box for a decade if he dares to be abusive and i think thats a pretty kind consequence given the severity of harming someone experiencing a serious medical process/a newborn. No one in a hospital cares about you just going about your day and existing, we also really really prefer it when we dont have to worry about if the mum and child will survive the other parent and dont have to be told that women we bonded with have passed because of preventable and unnecessary abuse. I dont care about your feelings or what youre doing as long as it doesnt harm anyone else, i care about the lives of my patients and will follow the law to ensure their safety, you having an issue with that shoulddddd prevent you from getting close enough to anyone to have kids in the first place so just enjoy your bunker in peace instead of spreading disinformation about hospital staff gleefully trying to ruin innocent lives and seeing abuse where there wasnt any. The reality is that we dont like seeing the abuse because it stays with us for a very very very long time and have a legal responsibility to report crimes that we witness, especially against vulnerable people and theres few wards with people as vulnerable as new mothers and newborns, no one cares so much about a strangers life that we're willing to risk fabricating abuse reports for the sake of it but especially when we're all busy and have actual important things to prioritise like birth. Come back to reality or stop charging your bunker solar panels, either way, stop making your mental illness into a contagious thing, no one is risking their education, licence, and freedom for the sake of a false report or for the sake of letting someone abuse their partner and baby. Dont like it then dont abuse people or do things that endanger children, its really that simple.

Breath Lou

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Where does "bad" begin? And who decides about that? His disgruntled spouse? Well that hasn't worked that great in the last 50 years.

@@halvarf As someone who was raised with a drug addicted, violent father, I think I'm qualified.

@@AZ-ty7ub .. to speak about your case, yes, definitely. There definitely ARE fathers for which this is true.

@@halvarf Yea no shit.

@@AZ-ty7ub Mothers keeping fathers away from their children and manipulating kids after a divorce is as real as that, too.

Exactly. There's no reputable research that indicates lesbian parents are any poorer parents than straight ones.

…. Are lesbians .. men? Two women aren’t meant to raise a child

Well that's the statement of the decade...👍

I honestly think its not as much about gender as it is about have two well rounded role models. As long as there are two "parents," who meet all the needs of the child its fine.

The statements in the video all all very generalized and "on average" findings about the roles of fathers. No one says that it can't work differently, for example with other role models.

If it weren’t for the motion of the hands I wouldn’t have liked or commented this