That's really hurts iam really sorry i love you ♥️🥺

So how about if you join a contest or celebrity search programs. And they required you to this and that for you to qualify.

What are you talking about? Does a bit of rudeness mean their dignity isn't your responsibility? The western media loves to tell you that you can just kick out and ignore rude people in your life but you will canonically and genuinely have to put up with people and owe them things. You can't say you don't like someone then do absolutely nothing regarding them because that would be thin skinned and a snowflake. The media wants to cause social division with a mentality that once something is broken, it is a completely lost cause with no reason to try to redeem it no matter who they are or how beneficial it would be to repair relations. You owe them nothing, what a useless crap joke.

I never understood grown people listening to their shitty parents talking shit to them, demanding them to do this and that. There are so many people who's whole life revolves around their relatives, they consider "family" to be the most important thing. I personally just took off when it became possible, they don't know where I live or how to contact me, and it's not even because I was treated badly, they're all just random people to me who I happened to grow up with.

Put pennies in them..... Your memories are precious.....If only..... don't let time drag you down...... Blow by blow, one day will be soft. Start another one, for you. My prayers for the soft day for you.

I have experienced the same thing.My experience has taught me True Love is forever. I never got over my loss,just learned to live with it.

This is great, John. Love doesn't die when our loved ones leave. My 28 year old son died of colon cancer 12 years ago and those moments of grief are frequent and it's fine. I'm so happy you've opened your life up again and are engaged. I wish you both every blessing.

People say you owe your parents for giving you life. I say i do owe them....with revenge for bringing me into this dumpster fire of a planet filled with evil people.

Correction: Except for your kids. You owe a loving, responsible, save raising to your kids. Not like till the end end of time but the very least until they are adults. Plus if they aren't treating u right u probably wanna check how u are raising them. Ps: I meant like actual terrible behavior. Not parents thinking their kids are their servants or have to act and live how they want.

Thank goodness. I really can't pay them back for all the drugs I stole but I really needed to hear this because they keep texting me "PAY ME BACK YOU SON OF A B*TCH!" 😭

Thank you John. I think perhaps that posting this was emotionally risky. But you did really well! You honored your love for Michelle. You honored what you knew she would want you to do these years on. And you're turning that inward black hole into an outward healing trajectory one moment at a time. The visuals of the cups are really helpful to me! Here's something I've journaled: "Grief has a waiting room with no floor. It holds you in its chasm but doesn't let you go." My process has me choosing the future over the past. Day by day. Thank you.

Amen brother

Their words said I was good. Their actions said I wasn't good. Actions speak louder than words.

If a man doesn't fear rejection, what does he have to fear? Get strong, stay strong.

This changed my view on life

You are so correct. Tomorrow is 13 years since my husband of nearly 26 years was killed instantly by a drunk driver at 44 years old. Today I had a little breakdown, but he sent me some signs that he is here with me so I am thankful for that! Tomorrow might suck, but I will recover and go on as I do every July 11th. Thanks for these reminders.❤

My lesson for the day❤❤

Soo true. After my husband of 34 years passed on, a lady told me while divorcing her husband because he cheated on her, that it is easier when your husband dies than a divorce. Because in a divorce, he is still alive, but not with you anymore. Needless to say, I was a bit furious.

Very true. I am.just really struggling without my husband. Physically I do go on, but emotionally struggling. And although I have soooo many blessings in my life, that void remains.

Its my 5th year without my husband and I will never let go of him.

I've often struggled with supermarket shopping since my dad died. He always loved doing the family food shopping and finding bargains. He'd always come home happily showing us what he'd bought. I was food shopping earlier and found the grief wash over me again as I saw young families with children excited about the food shop. Since I'm single with no kids I'm not experiencing that myself. Supermarkets bring up so many memories.

Sobbing on the bus in front of everyone, after frantically scanning the street corner where your lost friend used to stand and play "Eruption."

I hear you. Their favorite song on the grocery store music made me burst into tears.

It get a little easier with time😢

True

100% fact

I never thought about it like that, but it makes sense.

#truth✌️😎

Brilliant talk. Not one minute of losing us. Excellent.

Are you wearing All Star concierge shoes. My late husband wore those. Red blue and green.

Yes!

Brilliant speech by a very gifted man. John has been an excellent coach - first helping me navigate my grief, and now helping me navigate my life.

I have been to several Camp Widows, and this is the best keynote I have heard. John has walked the path we are walking. He understands intimately where we are, he talks honestly about our pain. And he offers hope for our futures. He is an amazing example of loss and healing. ❤

Such a powerful, honest & insightful speech. All things that I can really relate to as a widow. Well done John 🙌❤️

This resonates deeply as a "seasoned" Widow. Every step we take feels like we're walking through molasses...and John hits the nail on the head every time. "Shattered" is, indeed, the word.❤

don pollo?

This is utter truth. I’m not there yet, but it’s only been 7 months for me. I hate it and also know I must. I wish peace to us all ❤

Shut up dude seriously i know your trying to do good so thank you but please shut up

Thank you, sometimes we’re harsh on ourselves for living terrible lives sometimes there’re things we can’t control and we should be proud about surviving and making it through, it’s alone an achievement

Sorry dude, the world doesn't need more people saying trite platitudes

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This is absolutely, 1000% truth! At the time I didn’t think I would survive any more losses, but goddammit - I did! I will never ever forget who tried to crush me more when I was already down or those who betrayed & stabbed me in the back post loss, even those blood relatives!! Buh-bye is right!

So .. How does your finding a new life has changed your grief. I know what you mean about grief always being with you. 3 years for me.

Good points 👉 Self Love is great, yet wait there is more 👈

No! That’s not holding space for them to speak. Who in the h*ll would say that to someone who is grieving? I hope that person wasn’t a “professional” because they missed the mark in a big way!

"We are all toxic" is generalization. Toxic is someone who is using default way to cause harm and damage to others at the expense of their own comfort - all the time. Toxic people do not have guilt nor shame inside, this part is not working inside them, that is what makes them toxic. So no, we are not all toxic. We might do something that someone might label as toxic - but unlike toxic people, we have inner mechanism that triggers honest and true shame, guilt which we do not cover up with narcissistic mask of superiority and abuse. "It is our responsibility to walk away" Sure, but.. What if you cannot walk away? For example: 1) we need to have job. Without money - we get broke thrown into street. Job could be full of toxic people. 2) we might have kids with toxic person - and no money. We cannot throw kids into street or give them away 3) we might be in prison convicted for false charges - we cannot escape from toxic environment here 4) we might have social anxiety and feel afraid of life and everything - and CBT falsely tell us that these fears are hallucination and that we must stuck and stay stuck with toxic people to gain magical cure 5) we might have trauma and codependency issues that we are not aware of, so our triggers dysregulate us and this mental fuzzy unclarity makes us stuck with toxic people 6) we might need some help or service which only toxic people have - so we are stuck with them 7) we might not have money - so we cannot relocate and move unless we want to be homeless and expose ourselves to danger and environmental extremes 8) altruistic narcissist appear to us as friend and they use honeymoon periods and charm to keep us stuck in Karpman Drama Triangle and they give us support and validation as hooking up system - so we get addicted to them without knowing they are toxic since they help us sometimes 9) Manipulative people gaslight us so we are not aware that they are parasites - so we stay stuck with them 10) toxic person might be psychopath - so they threaten to kill us if we leave- look at femicide all around the world

This!!

Yep. I am so ready to leave social media, but why should I have to? I have started to delete and unfollow anyone and any page that allows the crap that I read. People really do love to bash others for ANYTHING they can find to do so. Miserable people make other people miserable. Social media has killed positive human interactions and that makes me really sad. Nobody connects anymore. People don’t even speak to each other in public anymore. I’m almost afraid to make eye contact with strangers for fear that they will think I am invading their space. This is not the kind of world I was born into and not the kind of world that I want to live in. I am 54 and too damned old for this crap. I’m over it all. I just stay home or go for short outings then back home. I am as tired of all of this as you are. Believe me!

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