I don’t think this is true it might be in a lot of ways it might be for you but how can you speak for everyone because either you’re empathetic or you’re not what about when you have two people with autism that are not empathetic towards each other are you saying that they’re just don’t know how to show it because they can’t communicate what you just said they didn’t communicate because I know people like that they communicate very well but they still don’t have any empathy for each other and they’re both autistic or on a spectrum somewhere and same way I mean I’m just not gonna waste my time there’s no excuse either you are empathetic or you are not you are there for someone or you are not you care or you don’t there’s a lot of ways you can care about people and love people and still not care if they’re going through something because if you’re not going through it then u don’t care But if that person is going through something and they expect the world to bow to them that’s not lack of communication because I’m gonna say if you don’t know how to Xpress being empathetic then you’re not empathetic just saying there’s a bunch of excuses here I want to see some scientific studies cause I’m pretty sure this is opinions just like mine

I know tons of people not on the spectrum who don't know how to act in some awkward social situations that are not that common in the culture. Or people who are blunt or lack tactfulness. Also communication between genders seems sometimes like a big mystery of completely different languages. And then there's a lot of people who assume that their reactions deserve reactions appropriate in their opinion, not considering the people reacting to your reactions have their own interests, ways to behave etc. Like it's not obvious to me that everyone is automatically inclined to console someone who starts crying, it's context dependent. And they're not necessarily emotionally cold even if they don't do that for someone. But none of these miscommunications or interpreting differently is helped by assuming others have to react the way you want. And I think this is becoming a problem in some societies these days: treating it like one way street where others should be tolerant and behave like you want, but you don't have to tolerate them and their ways. I've dated or am friends with a few girls on the spectrum, and it might be highly dependent on where in the spectrum they lie, but many of them have been extremely hilarious with their sense of humour and ability of literacy (reading between the lines and interpreting linguistic trickery correctly, much better than "normal" people), furthermore they've been extremely easy to talk to when you don't have to go dancing through weird protocols of when you can talk about what, but you can just go straight in the business and discuss matters over how you approach them. They're often a relief in exhausting or boring interactions with people and you can develop much deeper friendships with them faster I experience.

I'm glad I came across this video. Thank you, very helpful. I've been suspecting myself to be on the spectrum yet still doubting myself.

It's just "double empathy problem"

Here is a challenge. Tell me why this notion has been labelled "The Double Empathy Problem".

Beautifully expressed and explained. I will contact for evaluation. Suggest making contact information more visible. Thank you.

When l was at school, a long time ago l used to imagine briefly what it would be like to be someone else-knowing l was different from those people & vice versa. Still pondering why have spent life on the fence, bit miserable really

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What if sperm can mix with other types of cells but only an ovum can produce a baby

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Female gene expression is still mostly the father

What about cells carry the ovum.

What about X chromosome sperm

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I guess it could be more apt to say those with autism lack neurotypical empathatic behaviour. Or at least are less instinctive to it and thus must learn those behaviours secondhand to effectively try and mimic it. Neurotypicals will still have more experience in that regard.

The solution isn't "education". It appears to me from this description that only one side of this equation is guilty of assuming negative things about the other and making false accusations. So just don't be an asshole. That's all the solution is.

this is what i was looking for!

Thank you, that does explain a lot!

Well done and understandable presentation! Good job! :)

It's genetic. Believe me. My while fanily is asbergers.

Great work

I must be the only person with Asperger’s syndrome that doesn’t love people, am I alone?

Great explanation of how EFT should work. I searched Hypervigilance and this came up. Looking for help with my insomnia. I become vigilant and aware of how I'm not asleep and how whatever it is that I have drunk or taken or tried isn't working. Thanks, I'll be tapping tonight.

This video was really helpful for me in my journey of discovering my autism, thank you. I always assume that when someone is upset, it's best to give them space (let them "cool down") since they're not in the state of mind to speak rationally about what's upsetting them (if I did wish to speak with them). When I'm upset, the last thing I want is to engage in conversation or receive physical contact, since my body feels like its burning up and my head's about to explode. If I were to speak with someone about what upset me, I need to have thought through the situation myself first and be in a clearer state of mind. Due to our differences in communication styles, my mom and I have had many bumps, twists, and turns in our relationship. I have been called "manipulative," "selfish," and so forth, upon which I began obsessively researching psychopathology, convincing myself that I have no empathy and my whole life is a lie. Learning about autism has allowed me to sort through my true feelings and desert this irrational train of thought. Thank you. 🖤

Good thing is that your father noticed that you had a problem. My father never asked me if everything is ok or if i have any problems as a child.He basically didn't teach me anything in life. He was not abusive or something like that but he never had a real father son conversation with me...

This is amazing! How can I talk to you directly Gaëtan?

Psychobiology and epigenetics? Sign me up! It sounds just sexy! 😍😍😍 Wow and WHH sounds super good! I actually really begin to like Asperger's people for the very reason others might resent them. I think that not having a clue about social norms and what is expected of you is one of the biggest blessing you can have in life.

My boyfriend’s daughter is diagnosed with it at 6. They sent both parents a chromosome test.

We need to see testimonials from your clients.

I am definitely a hypersensitive but I just don’t understand how to naturally show it. I get so overwhelmed. I came across as cold for most of my life because I just avoided people even though I felt so strongly for them, about them and built strong connections with them that they were unaware of. I am much better about it now that I’m older, my mask is better, but I still can’t naturally experience someone else’s emotions with them without feeling it so intensely that I go into bouts of depression and just generally avoid people because of it.

Asperger and his contemporaries murdered children. The diagnosis is out of vogue. He represents junk Nazi science. Why do you continue propagating his bad name so long after the truth of his complicity was laid bare?

Not to mention "aspergers" was removed from the DSM...

I remember 50 years ago, when I was a pre-teen, going shopping with my mother and thinking that I was seeing all the people around me, even my mother, as if they were on the other side of a pane of glass. In the ensuing years, that feeling of being separated from the world by a sheet of glass came back quite frequently. I never mentioned it to anyone, because I thought it was just me being weird again, and this is the first time I’ve heard it described by another person. It had never occurred to me that I might have autism until my son was diagnosed in elementary school and I started reading about the subject. I hope that understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity will continue to grow and that children and adults on the spectrum will no longer feel as strange and lonely as I did.

Clinicians hate to diagnose aspergers so much that they excluded it as a diagnosis in the newest DSM. They want overt disability to exist but most of us are only silently suffering. I call it Aspsrger personality rather than disorder. But, it's still not neurological!

Neurotypicals demand that autistic people match their way of being, but never consider trying to match the autistic person's way of being. It's time we demand that they match us! Yes, by educating them; they certainly have been hell-bent on 'educating' us, demanding that we match them. They are hardly empathetic at all when it comes to them dealing with us.

Lol, I've never been diagnosed because I'm a well dressed, well spoken black woman who got laughed at by my therapist for suggesting it, but I freeze when people cry. When someone is crying I feel a sense of stress. I have to fight myself to comfort them because I feel so odd comforting a crying person. I have to be fake in order to do it. Even my own family members, unfortunately. Unexpected physical contact makes me flinch. Thanks for bringing that up.

It makes total sense that people on the AS have the full range of empathy. I have it and I hate it; that glass wall is a killer. Thing is though, I have an empathy deficit too. I look out for No. 1 at all times.

Why have the majority of people "change" their behavior to take care of the minority of people who have Asperger's? I mean, wouldn't it be better to instruct those diagnosed with Asperger's as to how to navigate social interactions? It would almost be like the crew of Guardians of the Galaxy changing the way they say things based on the fact that Drax can't understand metaphors. They understand he can't understand metaphors, but they still do things and say things the same way and they work out the bugs later. So, teach neurotypical people to see Asperger's but expect people with Asperger's to change to fit into society as it stands; help them understand what they have to do to fit in. Maybe I'm seeing it wrong, but there seems to be a lot of expectations on society to change and not on people with Asperger's to understand their affliction enough to see what they can to do differently. It would be like me allowing my daughter to grow up expecting every toilet to be as quiet as the one at home and then suing every establishment because they didn't take her Asperger's into account. As it was, I taught her to put her hands over her ears to muffle the sound because that was something SHE could do. Teach those diagnosed what THEY can do differently. Have more expectations for them and give society information.

Question: At (3:54) you said, "...typical response from extroverted people." Maybe it was a slip of the tongue and you meant to say, "neurotypical people" people, but do you find that most Asperger's Syndrome people are introverts? My second daughter has recently found out that she is on the spectrum, which explains a lot when she was growing up, but I taught her (for lack of knowing what I was dealing with, it was 30 years ago) that her "issues" were her problem and she can't expect others to cater to her, that she needs to remove herself if she is going to have a "melt-down" or have a bad reaction to any environmental stimulus. She has always been outgoing, maybe a little un-empathetic when it comes to emotions (for others, not herself), and has always been able to disconnect from things that would tie neurotypical people down. But she is not an introvert, per se. Thoughts?

Well, yeah, a neurotypical brain interprets empathy/empathic responses from another neurotypical brain in an almost fluent way, as if it were part of language, itself. So, when a neurotypical brain doesn’t get that response in a situation that might call for it, that neurotypical brain has to interpret why. With no distinction to draw on, people will stick with what they know. THIS IS WHY WHAT’S SAID HERE IS SO IMPORTANT! I may not have Aspergers, but my family member does. So, information like this goes a long way into helping me understand how I can help him to grow up healthy and happy.

i think part of the miscommunication comes from empathy refering to two different things; cognitive and affective empathy. "Lacking empathy" could mean that you see people around you suffering without feeling sorry for them, but it could also mean that you have a hard time understanding what other people are feeling. As autistic people often struggle to read social cues, understanding what goes on in other peoples mind, or "reading" them, as people say, could be difficult

This actually goes beyond just autistic neurodivergence. Hopefully we will continue to expand our understanding and acceptance of variances of being human.

At last! A theory that explains why my left testicle is autistic but my right one isn't! In all seriousness, I don't see any value in this 'theory' at all. All you are doing is using the term 'wall of glass' to describe 'being autistic' and then throwing in some genetic stuff that seems extremely simplified, and in places, nonsense. There has been scientific research into the inheritance of autism and I'd suggest you look into it. Also, what's all this about 'removing the wall of glass'? You can't make an autistic person 'not autistic'. You can teach us to hide our autism but that's terrible for our mental health in the long term. It's much better for us to accept ourselves, acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses and develop strategies to help us with the aspects of life we struggle with.

This is why I think that Asperger's and Austism are two different things. People I know on the ASD spectrum, including my own daughter, are extremely empathetic. They can't help it, they feel everything! Asperger's, on the other hand, has no "theory of mind." They can't imagine any point of view but their own. If you feel something and they don't, they are genuinely confused.

For me, the hand doesn't bother me, but I'm also very touchy-feely for someone on the spectrum (I am touch sensory-seeking). However, if I replace the hand with "talking to someone with eye contact", that one works. There's a certain distance where I can look people in the eye and feel okay. Within that distance, though, I am *extremely* uncomfortable with eye contact unless that person is one of My People. I think that is "my" wall of glass - when I can "feel" their gaze the way you describe "feeling" their hand.

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