Hi Keshia! I love this question. Have you seen my video specifically on this with tips from real men? kzbin.info/www/bejne/f2fSgK2pqtmMndk I would say, of course, you need to always act professionally since you see this man at work, but are you able to strike up conversation with him, find a common interest that's outside of work? You could then mention something relevant (for e.g. Say you're speaking about watching Wimbledon, you can say you love playing tennis and often go in ABC park, and ask, if he plays tennis. And then you might need to be a little more explicit, like "well if you ever need someone to play tennis with, you know where to find me!" It's an open-handed invite without being a direct invite so it's letting him know he could ask you if he was interested. What do you think? Open to men chiming in here too!

​@@delphinediscusses wow that's a great idea thank you😊

Gosh yes, the gamification of sex is real. Great point! And also look when it's gotten everyone... more anxious and removed-from-community than ever.

Exactly that! It's all in our perception and perspective. Thank you for your encouragement! Have a wonderful weekend ❤

Yup, OTOH I would counsel any young Man, in the US anyway, to never even consider marriage. Not only foolish but dangerous to boot.. At least with a 'Post Wall' you won't have to wind up paying for a child who she has taught to hate your guts, as well.

This is looking at marriage as an institution rather than a beautiful, holy sacrament God put in place for the good of both men and women. It shouldn't be about men VS women (and thus, a need to compete) but rather a complementary relationship where you depend on each other for different things: emotional support, physical protection, financial providence, being open to life etc. I hope that we can go back to these ways of being a team and living in harmony together. (This isn't me ignoring all the problems with modern society, btw!)

Oh, I'm SO encouraged to hear that ;) I hope it goes well!

Exactly that. We used to have genuine communities where we would look out for one another, I so hope this is coming back - not just into fashion - but for good!

Very good points, thank you for sharing! It seems that implicit communication may not be enough anymore in this day and age. I'm wondering how the male-female polarity dance works best - I suppose there needs to be a very explicit sign or vocalisation of consent that we want a particular man to "pursue" us and then the hint-dropping will make more sense to said man.

as a man pursue the women you're interested in and stop whining.

@@_xBrokenxDreamsx_ I wish I had more courage as a man when I was younger. I HATE being rejected. It makes me full of shame and that I'm not worthy. But now I realize that we all have to take risks and be wiling to get hurt. And that doesn't mean we are not worthy or that we should feel shameful. But that it's ok.

@@_xBrokenxDreamsx_ As a man I like who likes me, and I attract a decent amount of women and it generally works well. Save your useless comment for someone else

RIGHT!? I love playing matchmaker - in the same way I like taking candid and cute photos of others, secretly also hoping people will play matchmaker with me (and take candid photos of me, lol..!) but yes, all God's plan and timing - we just need to move when He tells us to move. He is the BEST author, we just need to figure out how to be the best narrators we can be of the story He's planned for us

Ha, Haydon! I'm getting this feedback a lot which I'm finding hilarious because I think we women think we're being sooooo unsubtle with our "hints" but someone said to be last time, they need a quite literal flashing green light to know the woman is interested. You've given me food for thought!

women are very open and obvious with the guys they like. just look up any male pop star concert online - 100k women all bought an expensive ticket and traveled a long distance because they have a fantasy of being with the one guy on stage. there are women who have uprooted their entire lives and moved across the world to be in the same area as the guy they had a crush on when they were teenagers; they'll literally do anything for the guy they like, unfortunately they only like the one guy on stage and the other 99 thousand guys in the area aren't even allowed in the stadium. if they don't like you you'll end up like airport guy and they'll give you an inane reason as to why they can't date you. women always talk about how they want the guy to make the first move and offer a date but in reality they're just imagining the guy they like doing that and rejecting everyone else. women are hypergamous, which means they aren't looking for an equal partner they're looking for a good deal/to date up. pretty much the plot of every romance story is the unassuming, 'average' girl somehow charming the higher value 'out-of-her-league' guy into liking her. when women use terms like 'swag' or 'confidence' they really just mean physical attractiveness or the perception that he's higher status than her. there's nothing wrong with being shallow but people, especially women, don't like to admit that publicly. swag by definition is all performance and no substance. in the real world swag literally refers to low-iq antisocial men who manipulate people with presentation and treat women and children poorly. millions of women still like justin bieber and chris brown because they have 'swag' despite it being common knowledge that these guys are emotionally and physically abusive towards women. if you want to have a healthy relationship you prioritize other qualities such as conscientiousness, openness, agreeableness and low neuroticism (a responsible, emotionally stable person who communicates effectively and considers your thoughts and feelings). unfortunately, like men, women are just dumb animals and their monkey brains win out most of the time. the halo effect is real and humans will assign undeserved positive qualities to objectively bad people simply because they perceive them to be attractive or popular. just watch any 50s movie where the goody two-shoes catholic school girl sneaks out of her parents' house to be with marlon brando on a motorbike; women have been mistaking psychopathic irreverence for legitimate competence since the beginning of time. i'm not blaming anyone (except society) btw just trying to explain the dynamic. if parents never set boundaries for their kids and let them eat whatever they want they'll gorge themselves on ice cream and candy until they have a stomach ache and ruin their health. if society never puts any pressure on men and women to grow up and do the right thing guys will waste their lives playing video games and women won't stop chasing the bad boy pop stars around.

@@delphinediscusses The problem in today's society, especially in the US is that massive swaths of women come off "extra friendly" for attention, to see if the guy will bite, and once he does, she satisfies her need for attention and moves on, enjoying the fact "she still has it", or whatever. The other problem is a problem women have created in that they complain about men taking their friendliness as a sign to approach them, yet on the other hand complain that men never approach them because they can't "read the signs", creating a catch 22 for men where they are "screwed either way". But the biggest problem of all is the hookup instagram culture the west has created where all of the women can flock to the internet to get massive piles of attention at any given moment by tons and tons of guys. This attention leads to a false sense of superiority where it feeds the egos of women to the point they begin acting unbearably unfeminine and unattractive to the men that would take them seriously.

100% We have to trust in the desires God has placed onto our hearts and not be afraid to share them - God will make them manifest in some way, even if it isn't according to our timeline or plans (sigh!) And ha, thank you! I wonder what the feminine version of 'swag' is? Feminine genius? Feminine energy? Either way, I'll take it!

This would only draw criticism from lib/lefties. Not from normal sane people.

To strangers, yes... but to friends, colleagues, family members, I think it's good to vocalise these things. Not in a desperate way but in a "yes, I'd love to meet someone someday" type way, as sometimes when you've been in a prolonged season of singleness people can [wrongly] assume that that's your preference and not think much more of it. And could be missing opportunities to make suggestions or introductions. (And, aw, thank you!)

​@@delphinediscussescan I tell this guy who is also like my boss at work that I like him. It could be he is younger than me I don't know, I'm in my mid 30s. Should I express or just let it be

​@bodhitsal7638 You are a woman I assume? If so I will say that telling a man you like his is a turn off. Would be better to mention your interest to a colleague you trust who can tell/hint to him that you are interested. Bonus points if your desire is to be a trad wife. Modesty and traditional Christian values are the most attractive qualities us men look for.

@@solarjudgement4575 Yes I'm a woman. No relation ever worked out for me whether it was a man who approached me first. But I will take your advice. I don't trust collegue.. I don't know how to drop a hint

@@solarjudgement4575 I don't think tell a collgue is a good idea. I don't trust my collgue, they're just my collegue not a good friend. But he is a good man.. If I express my feeling, will that make me immodest? In my mid 30s, I'm not looking out just to hook up. If he likes me back, yes offcourse I want to be his wife

I absolutely agree with you! Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, especially among a sea of really sad-to-read comments. The current climate of dating is resulting in a lot of hurt, loneliness, and hopelessness - and that's exactly why I wanted to start this channel: to encourage real-life community again, to demystify dating, and hopefully get us all seeing each other as precious human beings and not just transactional swipes!

Thank you for your encouragement! I've been learning from scratch so great to have that production work recognised!

Your entire comment is one very long sentence. Did you run out of periods?

Depending on the culture if you don’t follow courting rules and it works, you got a low class girl good job

Be especially careful when you have the money and people are asking you first. Also I think you should ask first - you probably had a traumatizing experience, but I think the lesson there isn't whether to ask first again, its more of knowing who you are asking.

@@djWOOF I think I’m just gonna let the ladies fight traffic everyday. Work all year to try to get a mediocre bonus, to pay off their debts. This is the future women fought for and won by the way. You see as men made the money for alll these years we were more than happy to use it to invest in family formation. As women are racking it in, how much are they initially investing in relationships? They can’t even be bothered to ask first. NEXT

​@@subjectowns There are good women out there, and if you dont believe it, it will be true for you for as long as you believe it. Not saying its easy to find one

@@djWOOF did you know that even in the most feminist, girl-boss circles; they only refer to real men or men they deem worthy as the old school traditional protector and provider. He MUST ask her out and pay first. I noticed you side stepped that point I made, about women initiating 0 effort. As women now hold 54% of active jobs, they now have the money and status, they have retained desirabillity over the generations and rightly so they look good, and they also want to retain the old school privileges. It’s quite frankly a greedy feminist fest here in the modern societies and rationale men want no part

@@subjectowns okay youre right all 3.5 billion women in the world are hopeless. Men should all stay single. no good ones around, not even 1% of them