"If you think you can heal, you will".

My own case is that i can't imagine myself having any romantic activity with them, they're all good looking and rich , but i don't feel happy while am with them, I don't like taking their calls, their voice pisses me off. People keep telling me that a woman doesn't have to love a man, that attraction will come later on, apart from my ex i have never met anyone am attracted to, this is really disturbing me.

IVE BEEN WAITING TO BECOME ATTRACTED TO HIM FOR ALMOST 2 YRS. IS IT A “NO”?

I am a very understanding person and I know and understand when he has worked a whole lot with 2 jobs but not wanting to give oral sex yet loves how I do it to him I find it so selfish and and lazy of him. He use to do it frequently the first couple of years and after 10 years he started to do it with an attitude and it started to become a problem. In the past 5 years I’ve felt like crap, unwanted, not desired enough behind it. I continued to go down on him because I thought bringing it to his attention and letting him know how he makes me feel by rejecting me in that way that he would catch himself being wrong and understanding and caring enough but that’s not the case. If anything it became more of a problem as if I was nagging and asking for too much. Now it has become non existent while I still sometimes go down on him because I in the other hand enjoy doing it, I enjoy giving him pleasure and I love him. I desire those things and so did he at the beginning of our relationship but now he complaints that it’s too much work and I take too long to reach an orgasm. I take a regular amount of time and he does it really good. So it’s not an issue of him not knowing how to or any hygiene problems because he has always said I’m the cleanest woman he’s ever been with but eventually it did start to take me longer than the usual because I couldn’t enjoy it knowing he’s doing it because I’ve complaint about it and him doing it with a slight attitude huffing and puffing and me worrying about not taking long to his liking just couldn’t concentrate and actually take it in and enjoy it while all these things is running through my mind while he’s doing it. Now it doesn’t happen at all and I feel like I had no choice but to take that away too because he’s not deserving of it and because he could careless and has refused to do it ti me anymore. Last night I tried to bring up the conversation about our sex life and he caught an attitude, raised his voice and said I’m tired. It’s only but so much understanding I can be because I feel that less sex behind being tired it’s understandable but withholding certain sex act because it’s too much work yet loves to receive it it’s just selfish, careless towards my feelings, wants and needs and neglecting me and our marriage but not too tired to enjoy it when I do it? I don’t like playing the same game because I want to enjoy sex with him but I want it to be mutual like it use to. He loves when I put on lingeries and gets so excited because he’s never been with a woman to do anything like that for him and I love doing those things too he says he never had someone that gave him good oral sex and actually knew what they were doing and I hate that I’m having to take all that away from our marriage and the fun because he doesn’t care for my needs and how he’s making me feel and the fact that I can’t even talk to him about it and if we do talk his solution is then don’t do it to me so I don’t have to hear you throwing that in my face. You’re right, I shouldn’t expect it if I’m not doing it to you too. And just like that he’s ok with that. I’m not but I deal with it and it hurts. I don’t know what to do other than just settle for the limits he have set in bed. He’s a very good person overall, a very good provider, a very good friend, a very faithful and has never disrespected me in any way in the streets looking at any other woman or anything in that nature which is why I continue to deal with it because I feel like we have much more than just sex. I guess I’m just venting here because last night I hit that brick wall again getting the same results. Is he being selfish, lazy and unfair? Or am I overreacting and should just leave it alone?

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Thanks for this timely counsel.

Thank you for this video ma

Thank you for including God into it!!!❤❤

Thank you ma'am for this message. ❤

~Do u really know what's happening in his inner world!? 🙏🏿❤

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Thank you god

I have been verbal about the lack of sex and affection and he doesn’t do anything. I feel like I get pity hugs and sex. He wasn’t like this, the last 8 years I can count how many times we have sex😔

Coming back to this video because im talking to a very charming smooth talking man who i don't find attractive😭😭😭 im in a rut

This is very true. Thank you for sharing🥰

Im divorced with 2kids, i met a guy online which i eventually exited the group but he dropped out of school, he still lives with his father, he can barely buy medication for himself when he is sick, he does solar installation but since i started talking to him i have not seen any job he has done. I asked what he wanted to do he told me catering which i sent him money to support him and i advised him to start up his own which i said i will support him, now he says that is not the will of God for him. Now he said God told him ladies bag and he expects me to fund it. Im a graduate with a job and certifications

Thank you for this good message

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So pretty ❤❤

i was active at the gym, rowing club, i did voluntary work, i was friendly at work. nothing worked because i am not pretty

I was 28 and my wife was 38 Been together 27 years now But seems to be going downhill last couple of years 55 and 65 She not very intimate anymore nor does she like physical contact. I now feel like a roommate in my own home. Very lonely feeling. She says nothing is wrong.I love her dearly and think she is beautiful, however thoughts of leaving have been entering. Very confused

Thank you ma'am for this insightful video. I struggled with uncontrolled anger and this cost me a valuable relationship. I'm determined to work on it and learning how to manage my anger productively going forward. God bless you ma'am.❤️

Would anyone have advice for me? I’m a guy currently separated due to my own selfishness in my marriage. I’m trying to change my self serving behavior (because I really don’t want to be selfish like this anymore). I’ve lost many friends because of it, lost a lot of love and blessings in my life, and hurt some really amazing people (my spouse included). I want to change and make the living situation more bearable for my ex, it’s just been hard because of the distrust. Any advice is appreciated.

Hi there thanks for your video.🙏🙏 I have a question me and my partner we have a age difference between us he is ready for swx but he is not ready for marriage what should I do in this situation?

The analogy for me is despite having Japanese ancestry I hate the taste of sushi. It was one of those foods that I really tried liking but everytime I ate it, i literally puked! In the end I am happier trying other foods I enjoy while someone else who enjoys sushi can have my share. Why torcher ourselves!

Hmm it really depends for me. Initial physical attraction is VERY IMPORTANT to me only because I realized that there is so much freedom to being single and I would be sacrificing a lot to be with someone that doesn’t meet all my standards. I think people need to change their mindsets and assess what they expect from a relationship. For me a romantic relationship is more of a want than I need. I can survive without a relationship hence I can afford to be picky as I chose to be! You really have to assess yourself independently. The less need you have for something the more picky you can be. When it comes to jobs I can’t be too picky since income is needed for survival but since I have a lot of savings and family wealth to lean on I can be slightly picky when it comes to working conditions. I tend to avoid stressful jobs that pay more than I currently make because to me I don’t want to deal with the stress and I can afford to take a pay cut for a job that is less stressful! Same for a romantic partnership, if he can’t turn me on sexually then I feel I am better off being single playing myself in the mean time while waiting for someone who meets those qualities. Again this is because my mindset has shifted to prioritizing the freedom of singlehood and only giving it up if I feel the person is worth it!

Very good response ma coz I'm also facing such situations and listening to your video now has given me more clarity.

Hi coach please can you answer my questions on affairs please when you are able too please. I have questions for you over affairs and cheating. If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i know him from school to college and date stephen in past by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him behind morgan back without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating can i have affair without never never having sex. is it really affair without having no sex Can i have emotional and physical affair without having no sex? Can people have affair or Cheat on someone without having no sex

Hello ma I enjoy listening to ur videos ,but please can u talk about a man with his 2 kids and a woman with her 2 kids now they are coming together to get married ,and the type of marriage is what belongs to me belongs to u vise versa,how should they do in terms of their assets and pensions ,how to handle this situation in a right and fair manner?

What of in a situation whereby in addition to all this questions. You are already married to this lady? What should the man do in a context where the woman isn't attractive to him?!!!

Guys exactly all people care about are looks and status most women will date a good looking thug bad boy over a caring man and then face consequences.

If you are in a sexless marriage, here is the solution: ask your spouse for an open marriage & listen to their response. I think it’s humiliating for a spouse to be denied sex. The worst is getting a pity / mercy sex.

Thank you so much for this video, your page was recommended to me by someone and coming here and seeing different topics addressig specifucally what i need. This was a great help. God bless you maam ❤

what a great analogy!

Such an incredible reminder!

What if its not for a season, but 30+ years? He is a delusional "entrepreneur" and hasn't made ANY money! Help !!

How can I serve?!

Missed your short videos Ma! Happy to see you resume the videos! God bless you and keep you Ma in Jesus' name.

Thanks very much for your advice mummy

I need some more advice good start though

My name is Maurice and I'm asexual and I haven't had sexual attraction for almost 2 years now and I'm ok with this . I used to have physical attraction and romantic attraction bit nor anymore because I've been hurt by females all my life and it ghastly contributed to this. I'm happy about this too because now instead of worrying about meeting tge right woman someday. I can use that energy to concentrate more on God.

My husband doesn’t want sex he was a massive porn user but I am not allowed to satisfy myself. He says it makes him feel like he can’t satisfy me. He can’t if he won’t. He also was a cheater and went to strip clubs 😢

I have lost the physical attraction fully and its been a struggle, almost 20 years past 5 is been struggle and each time i say i wanna be alone she dont let me, using guilt as a weapon also its down to me i need to be strong just to walk out no matter how sad its going to be hate it if i can come out it i will never want to be in a relation ever again

big help

So I'm the stereotype good guy who is not physically attractive. I want to tell you its your right and it is and you should end the relationship. But as that stereotype I want to tell you, its painful that you all take 2 years and years to figure out it. You should have done it very earlier. Good guys are sensitive as well. You couldnt make a mind and women have that wonderful quality fall a guy and you took the person for 2 years before figure out what you want. which is physical attraction, the basic first step of any relationship. not cool.

A lot of people emphasize the importance of kindness and shared values when saying what they want - or what I should want - in a relationship I don’t even mention kindness when asked for “what I want in a woman,” because it goes without saying if a woman is rude to me or anybody (especially my woman friends), I won’t tolerate that But if I say “I just want a woman who’s nice :/ “ I guarantee I’ll get hounded with “then date that woman over there! She’s nice! You said that’s all you want! You’re obligated!”

Love this

How you gon tell me youre not even a man

Being a giver, not a taker has so many proven benefits​-physical, mental, and emotional-​that everyone should make it part of their daily life. The Bible says "There is more happiness in giving than in receiving". Acts 20:35

Thank you