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@healingypsy 6 күн бұрын
It's not encouraging to be with a widower - sounds very one sided with someone holding on to a ghost
@MagnumVideos 27 күн бұрын
What a great and helpful video. A big thank you to Dr. John Gray for his expertise and clear explanations. I lost my wife of 51 years on Valentine's Day this year (228 days ago). A lot of this information will be put into practice shortly. Thank you!
@ansetoussaint5524 Ай бұрын
This excellent musician has beautiful stories which he expresses his insight in a poetic way that profoundly touch others His is unique in his simplicity,and very humble. Thanks heartily to the superb musician for sharing such a delightful interview.
@dahVEEDBBone Ай бұрын
A wonderful musician and human being. I had the pleasure to join him for lunch about 45 years ago in NYC.
@bryanemond7316 Ай бұрын
Wonderful insights about how musical stories relate to deeper inner experiences of love and of who we each truly are. Such transformational conversations are so warmly needed when they take one into such new dimensions of expression.
@Heart-Core 2 ай бұрын
🌟💖💝😊
@beaanderson6488 3 ай бұрын
Such a brave human being… what a case of lived irony; to put a Reverend with a ticking time bomb of a disease (cancer), that he then shares in the experience with, and of those he is employed to guide toward their departure.
@MariaSanchez-gf8lh 4 ай бұрын
I’ve been a widow for almost 4 years and I have been dating a widow who also lost his wife two days after my husband. I couldn’t imagine him thinking of his wife while being intimate with me. That’s a little bizarre. Maybe John still needs to heal so that he can love wholeheartedly.
@gladysmwelwa7020 4 ай бұрын
I lost my husband 3 years ago my best friend, companion, teacher guider and cheerful giver of love. We were together for 28 years. Thank you so much for this video it’s really helpful to me.
@BelieveAndLive668 4 ай бұрын
Dreams are good but it's not nice to remember most dreams. I dream so much that i feel it's making me go crazy, no one else I know claims to have these. So i sound like I'm crazy
@ARCollaborativesCoaching 5 ай бұрын
Acceptance of that which is (outside of our domain of control), is truly beautiful. 🤍
@jn3098 6 ай бұрын
Just lost my wife of 36 years 😢I’ll never know joy ever again
@inri_lee 7 ай бұрын
I'm a MSW student hosting a six week men's bereavement group with my agencies social worker this week. THANK YOU so much for hosting and posting this!🤟Can't wait to dive into Tom's books.
@LaurenaLaCroix 7 ай бұрын
sharing info., hoping to help grow, past the pain, pleasure, heart healed for more lov
@mgonzalez7412 8 ай бұрын
Very disrespectful to spouses gone.
@ilonadankov5175 8 ай бұрын
Make me happy to find that you are Canadian Dr Kerr. You giving so much to humanity.🙏
@marksargent2440 8 ай бұрын
I recently lost my wife due to illness we where together 22 years 10 months as a married couples. but 23 years in all due to dating she was in hospital due to a illness and suddenly life becomes an emotional roller coaster as theres nothing you can do seeing them passing away before your eyes but shes now back in Gods hands life somehow moves on but its the loneliness that gets to you my faith keeps me going but the phone no longer pings or rings any more as for the people we used to know thay where my wifes carers now shes gone so are thay 😢its tough being a man who losses his wife became we are expected to just some how pick up the pieces this weekend end would have been our 23rd wedding. anniversary. I dont know how i am going to be when i head up to her grave and lay flowers on it other then i still miss her as for re meeting other people i wouldn't know where to start or even if i want to let someone into my life again on the 28th February she will have been gone 4 months
@barbaramorningstar5173 8 ай бұрын
As a compliment to the discussion with Tom my conversation with Vancouver photographer Josh Neufeld is both inspiring and moving. A beautiful example of a younger man who lost his father to cancer in his late twenties and approached the experience with open curiosity, compassion and care. This flowed over into his journey of discovery while bereaved. His father allowed him to photograph his last weeks of life but was also teaching him about death at the same time. It is beautiful. He shares his photographic images (tastefully done and even playful at times) with his father in this final stage of life and then moves into his journey of grief using his photography as a guide to heal his own heart and serve others. Here is the link to that conversation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jaCYpItvh7KCn6c
@irenefenton7367 8 ай бұрын
Inspiring❤
@janemiley2323 8 ай бұрын
Really ??? Disappointing! This was a total joke. Seemed to be merely a platform to discuss each others many husbands wives AND how when making love to new partners John, its fine to imagine and reminisce about the person/ persons who lost their lives!! I cant imagine how great your love for this next poor woman is! You both together are all about ME MYSELF AND I and swapping background notes! You would make a fine couple and spare the unfortunates you now know how best to manipulate and coerce. You both need to live the truth of lifes pains and losses and stop playing at being honest respectful partners and people.
@ibsilva48 9 ай бұрын
This is so refreshing to listen to. I’ve lose my wife of 37 years of age heart attack at 65. This is only 17 months. The pain and anxiety that attached my body was out of this world. I felt like I was going to die and I’m 65. My source of peace and comfort came from different avenues. I had to seek professional help. But the best help along with everything else came from God our Heavenly Father. I could say a lot more but in short for anyone grieving there is hope. Hope in God. I still work and have my grandsons around and my hobby of pleasure is playing the piano and gardening. I still do that. I’m involved and connected to my local church family. I miss my wife Alice dearly and after the sadness I switch my mind to thanking God for all those years I had her in my life. Today there is a lady friend that I feel a mutual attraction for and I am open to God’s will in my life. I can feel the same for her since we’ve both lost our spouses. I pray and hope someone reading this will know there is hope in God and he can in his time bring through. God bless y’all. Thank you for this video!
@TowelaBanda-p5g 10 ай бұрын
Very true am also feeling guilty like if I don't think of him even jut for 30 mins I feel am betraying him ,I feel his watching me .
@maryannebriggs1841 10 ай бұрын
I am 23 months into the loss of my husband of 55 years. I wish I had found this interview months ago even though I have gone through many of the stages John talked about. I'm much more comfortable with where I am at this point in my new life now knowing that I'm headed in the right direction. I'm so thankful for John's insights.
@mitchmo 10 ай бұрын
I have read Dr. Greyson’s book, actually I have enjoyed listening to him read the audio version. This interview has been a pleasure to hear him again on this topic, in an interview so well lead by Barbara. Thank you both
@all4source813 11 ай бұрын
Such a super example with the warehouse and the flashlight :) I respect so much Dr. Bruce Greyson.Thanks for sharing this, it is helpful for all of us who thinks about what happens after we die.
@kennydee8296 11 ай бұрын
as a man who lost his wife of 37 years to cancer on March 4th 2023 I have just returned home after attending the memorial of a good friend Julie, partner to Andrew who is now in the situation I was in back in March - to watch Andrew going through exactly the same experience has stirred up the whole horror show all over again - at least I can be there for Andrew in the difficult times to come but the grief of losing a loving life partner cannot be described, our language is quite inadequate - thanks for this video 🌿
@Daisy14 11 ай бұрын
My husband died 3 yrs this march. We were married 37 yrs, 5 kids, 7 grandkids. I found things can trigger your emotion. I have a group of widowed friend's that emotionally support eachother thr the greiving process. I only knew one of these ladies before they lost their spouses. We are all in diffrent places in greif. It helps to know we were are not alone. We now meet to go out to eat and just catch up. We are all healing at our own pace. Maybe you could support eachother. God Bless
@mitchmo 11 ай бұрын
Thoroughly enjoyed this. So much beauty and so much wisdom
@AmbaPuri-1 11 ай бұрын
I just lost my husband, best friend, guide and companion 12 days ago. We were together for 37 years and we were so close. We were one unit ! I have a overwhelming feeling that my life makes absolutely no sense, my existence is absurde and I don't belong in a world without him in it. The word sad doesn't even describe what i'm feeling, I just want to die asap ! But I know though that I will never suffer from such a loss ever again. Every gain is a loss and I will never allow myself to get attached to anyone like this ever again. When I recover from this I will be free because the worst has already happened.
@Wookinpanub235 6 ай бұрын
Hi Amba. I lost my Wife 12 days ago myself. Super hard because we just adopted 2 of our grandkids. Also my wife’s Brother is disabled and he lives with his mom that has poor health and is in her 70’s. I love her Brother and will most likely be taking care of him when his Mom passes. My wife had stage IV colon cancer and lived 16 months after her diagnosis. Im obviously still grieving for my Wife of 33 years. We got married at 19 and started dating at 14. We were a great team and i cant even begin to talk about all the wonderful things we did together. My wife told me from her hospital bed and from our bed at home while she was sick that she worried about me and wants me to remarry when she passes. She even picked out a girl she worked with who’s Husband did her wrong. Shes very sweet and very attractive but I was hurt that my wife made those comments. I was hurt for her for having to tell me those things. Since my wifes passing I have had an old friend , my wifes cousin that is divorced and a couple of her coworkers that are single showing way too much interest in me and it makes me uncomfortable but also I do feel like I want companionship but I worry that I have too much baggage for a single woman to deal with. I think Im doing pretty well with my mental health as my wife and I had always been realists and we believe we will be together again some day. My adult children have been very supportive of me and they’re also protective of me. They are NOT happy about how many females seem to be showing interest in me. I think its because they knew my wife and how much she bragged about how much I loved her and took care of her and she just adored me. My girls are worried these women are going to prey on my weakness and vulnerability. I think its just too early to even contemplate dating another woman but on the other hand I havent been intimate with another woman for almost 2 years as my wife was so injured from surgeries and her cancer was very debilitating like the female host of this videos Husband was. I think I need some grief counceling before I make some bad mistakes. I just have way too much on my plate and I feel overwhelmed, lonely bit also confident Im going to be okay…..I just have alot of questions and emotions. Im still young at 53 but as much as I don’t want to date I also feel like if I pass on companionship when its available I may never have another chance to experience female companionship again. I guess time will tell.
@eleanorbertuch135 11 ай бұрын
Great book❣️
@DavidMaginleyIdeas 11 ай бұрын
This was beautiful, infused with so much spiritual wisdom for the journey of life. Thank you so much to both of you for deepening the conversation we have about the gift of what seems to be an ordinary moment.
@emmalaurence8279 11 ай бұрын
I'm so enjoying the beauty and grace of these images, and the flow of an artistic, honoring conversation. Unexpected photos come from seeing differently. Lessons on perspective found in the micro and macro view. In the red boat shot, there's bits of red in other boats, too. Seasonal metaphors fit. There's lots of wisdom from nature recognized here. "Our growth lies in the bravery, in the adventure..." or "Awe reduces our own ego and allows us to see the grandeur of life...being in nature is a direct path to that awe." Looking forward to coming back to more of this. Thank you, Barbara and Scott!
@carmenburnham1088 Жыл бұрын
I have observed the greatest myth about grief is that it is supposed to go away quickly and it doesn’t. There is no time frame for how long it takes. It takes time. One of the things I believe is when we go through the sacred journey we are actually paying tribute to our lost love that their life matters. So feel it and honor the pain and them and you. Grieving is the healthy thing to do. Suppression = depression. Journaling is the best and prayer and bible. Invite the Lord into your suffering. It does help. It does get better. ❤
@johnkeith2450 Жыл бұрын
When we do invite someone into our life, that is a choice we make. And by choice we are taking on the responsibility for their emotional well-being in feeling loved, desired, needed and #1 in our heart....Their feelings and emotions are just as fragile and precious as ours, and no one gets a special pass on not looking out for them just because they are widowed. If a widowed cannot give the same undivided love and attention to a new love, which they deserve, as they did for their late spouse, it would be best if they remain single. There is no shame in remaining single, but there is in manipulating someone's emotions and feelings. No one would put up with a with the one they love being actively in love with an ex-spouse or someone they dated. And no one should have to put up with it from someone widowed. A three heart relationship will never work. One heart is always being cheated on. If one is married to a new spouse, yet still actively giving love and emotion to the late spouse, they are emotionally cheating on their new spouse.
@Kelly-pj3in 9 ай бұрын
Absolutely, I'd be crushed to know my partner, wbf was thinking of someone else....his widow while making love to me. Devastating.
@MarkMiller-gt5tu Жыл бұрын
Is 🌄 Morningstar your real last name?
@kerryfoster1 Жыл бұрын
When I get asked 'how are you doing?' I try to be true to myself. I say 'good days, bad days one day at a time' I never say 'okay' because I am NOT okay! Just so that they know, but without elaboration. Otherwise I would never stop. 😯
@cousinbuzzin9060 Жыл бұрын
Very wonderful interview. Very concise and deeply understandable. I have been studying NDE's for quite a while. This was a top notch example.
@emps3546 Жыл бұрын
Videos and voice messages 18 months on comforts me
@juliajesson1068 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful interview.
@Afura33 Жыл бұрын
Wow he explains this very well and in easy words, I like it, thank you.
@josephthibeault4843 Жыл бұрын
How does one deal with having prostate cancer and on hormone therapy?
@jonmarston4166 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful 🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🌸☀️
@TheCraig1962 Жыл бұрын
Most informative show I have seen . My wife passed away end of Jan 2023. It is so hard. We were together 42 years. I am 61 now and very lost.we met at 18. We have 3 adult children, 6 grandchildren. Best kids in the world. But still so lonely. She was everything to me.
@barbaramorningstar5173 Жыл бұрын
Glad that this was helpful. Such a sensitive and recent loss. Patience is key. Clearly a time of honouring your life and memories with her along side gentle re-discovery. You (and others watching this video) might find my conversation with Thomas Attig interesting. Very wise words. He speaks of re-discovering the relationship with yourself, the world and the deceased after the loss. Here is the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/j5yac6hqmb-AeZI Breath at a time. Day at a time. Baby steps. Take gentle care.
@MrTitanic222 Жыл бұрын
Wonderful episode that resonates with wisdom and truth.
@btwthblood Жыл бұрын
This has been so helpful to me. Thank you.
@jpowell2603 Жыл бұрын
Im 13 months in after losing my wife of 24 years to stage 4 breast cancer. Still hurts to this day. Our children keep me busy and on my toes I like that.
@dgaydos 11 ай бұрын
My experience is eerily similar....only I'm 6+ years in. Though time has tempered the hurt somewhat, it's still tough, for sure. The one thing that's really helped me is having connected with her via very good and authentic mediums - those who ask no questions and have solid reputations. We never die....just these ol' bodies do.
@marymacpherson7719 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this interview. Such honesty and wisdom.
@sanantoniotonight5569 Жыл бұрын
At the beginning she’s like…. Is he ever going to stop talking….😂
@davidchen7210 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for creating this video. I just lost on last Sunday my wife of 32 years to a sudden heart attack just as we were in the prime of our years at age 58 for her and 56 for me. I'm struggling with the same feelings said in this video on how to move on vs. holding onto the pain which seems easier. This video helped a lot to see people who have suffered a loss as well and see how you two have moved forward. I just wanted to let you know how publishing this video has helped me.
@barbaramorningstar5173 Жыл бұрын
Such a fresh and recent loss. Give yourself time. Baby steps. Day at a time. Breath at a time. No rush.
@juanitamerrill6601 Жыл бұрын
I love what he said, balancing the loss with gratitude. Beautiful insight and help.
@RobSweigard Жыл бұрын
When a man leaves his father and mother, and becomes united with his wife, they will become "one flesh". I have found/experienced first hand that the ripping apart/separating of this "one flesh" is the most painful experience of my/a person's life. This is most likely even more intense with longer time frames in the union. God is Love, and our constant source of True Love, and He will guide and strengthen us till our time comes to a close. Walk with God and Move On as He leads, growth in some ways might be painful but valuable. ☺♥†♪♫ 8-8-2023