Thank you very much :)

She has such a sweet accent:)❤

The journey is beautifully painful

I found this really helpful to put my experiences into context, when my therapist explained this to me (in regards to my CPTSD), so I thought I'd share to add a bit extra context to what you're saying. With these responses, there's actually an order to them in terms of how much danger you felt you were in based on which type of physical response you experience. If you think back to humanity's cavemen days where we were regularly listed in the food chain, these responses make sense with that predator/prey context in mind. If the predator hunting us was far enough away where we could safely escape, our flight response would kick in. If the predator was a little bit closer, and we couldn't quite make it when running away, then our fight response would kick in. If the predator was too close that we couldn't safely run away, our freezer response would kick in (in the hopes we wouldn't be seen). If the predator was basically upon us, we'd faint. (I assume so that we wouldn't trigger hunting instincts in the predator if we unintentionally moved. Though maybe our brains just wanted to give us a less painful death? 🤷‍♀️ My therapist didn't really explain this one, since I live in freeze response, so they wanted to focus on that).

Well it is a journey. My capacity is bigger. My sensations are higher. My reactions swings are bigger and I recuperate faster. I noticed that my bowels work better and I feel them more. My sleep I sleep more, and I woke up feeling more. My relationships are better. It is the sensations part.. it becomes more and more diffucukt to be with them as they rise and the bracing is stronger. I feel that emotions are at a point where anger is lesser, sadness is replacing it. A lot of compassion for myself as I cannot change others , only myself and I need , I deserve more respect . So yes am I healing ?I am doing some osteopathic work that works a bit. Rolfing was too intense. I am starting touch theraphy soon . And yes EDT, numerous shock trauma and this feeling of navigating life through a continuous feeling what is next. And now that fir the first time in my life I can be myself,the only next left is my body that struggles

Can these 2 be more boring ?!? It is painful just to hear this bubbling and mumbling and ridiculous questions with answers sounding even worse … these 2 need some major healing and some major communication lessons

Just what I needed right now, Irene - I keep finding exactly the right video for what's needed. Thank you again, and again, and ...

She is great,!!!❤

I just want to say as someone who has been told by my therapist I have CPTSD, you do not need to experience physical abuse, sexual abuse or parental abuse or physical neglect to have CPTSD or the symptoms or of it. (Or to be stuck in some kind of fight flight etc response.) It can be activated by psychological abuse or neglect, lack of attunement from your parental figures, sibling abuse that is not physical, bullying, stress, not having support or community, among many many other things. Non-physical abuse or trauma can cause severe damage and dysfunction in life. Just wanna say that for anyone who has all these symptoms but can’t understand why because there is no physical trauma to point to in their past. 🩷

Thanks for sharing authentically <3

thank you

Does anyone have any suggestions for me? I'm having a flare up of CF and FM symptoms. In about 10 days I need to be at a friend's Celebration of Life. I'm worried because I've been stuck on the couch for 3 weeks.

Good talk and descriptions of the processes.

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Just like the emergency room doctor overkilling the situation to cover their butts surgeons know few people have the pain tolerance to quickly reestablish mobility and movement after a surgery without pain medication so the first week or 3 to 5 days after a surgery depending on the surgery can be crucial to the recovery and amount of time physical therapy and Rehab will be required. I'm the same way though I'm not taking all of them because I ice and use wet heat and understand therapy and movement but a lot of people will get Frozen shoulders because they don't want to take the pain medicine or they'll hobble around taking it easy on the freshly surgically repaired knee instead of walking upright. I am in total agreeance that doctors over-prescribe Pharmaceuticals recklessly and their willingness to give someone antibiotics should be considered Criminal negligence if not simply negligence

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I am taking your 21 day class and was guided to watch this video. I lost my native kidneys at 29 years old. I am now 65. I've since had 2 kidney transplants (the last one of which is still working). The old kidneys are dead and have shrunk to the size of walnuts. I don't know what happens to the adrenals during all of this. In the last year, my adrenals have stopped putting out cortisol and I am struggling with trying to deal with being on hydrocortisone to replace it. You say that you offer the adrenals help. Where would they be found at this point? Still on the dead kidneys, or would it be found on the one transplanted live kidney?

Yes! Ive recently felt the powerful impact of 'least resistance ' Any decision I make that ends in relief, is the right decision, and its usually the easiest. So now i can take guilt off my plate. Slo-mo solves the feeling of impatience and racing brain. Cleaning kitchen and cooking becomes fascinating. Slowing down speed of videos where I'm listening to learn... wow! Practice piano at slow enough tempo to not make a single mistake is the quickest way to mastery. It's magical, miraculous, and free!!! (Ps I'm late-diagnosed AuDHD with lifelong trauma from absorbing its issues by self-blaming)

36:05 the purge is a very interesting nervous system release. Can someone point me to more information on this part of healing? I have worked with plant medicine to induce purging for the physical body, but have noticed it is inextricably linked to the nervous system and trauma healing. Would love to know the science of this spiritual experience.

Fabulous interview and Q&A, thank you! My first SBSM was around 7- 8 years ago I think...and the deep growth has been a slow process, as you describe. These kinds of interviews reassure me on so many levels that I AM making true progress in my nervous system regulation...one titrated moment at a time!

Just listening to the first 15 minutes is already so helpful to me (SBSM student) to remind (better said, reFEEL) myself what the purpose is of all the repetition and the slow pace. I recognize what Rachel is saying about the 'boring' feeling and 'how can this little exercise help me to heal?' I too have seen/felt shifts in myself ánd 'fall down' again, thinking about how on earth can this help me? (Even thoughts like 'This is working for sooo many people, but I am probably one of the exceptions where it doesn't work for' came up, which brings very desperate, helpless and lonely feeling after doing so many therapy and practices already) By hearing you talk about these common themes and experiences, I feel so supported. I KNOW I am on the right path, I KNOW it takes time and practice, I BELIEVE in this work. But sometimes it feels as such a struggle. I want to be healed NOW! Then this interview comes along (and I have only seen the first 15 minutes and the 3 minutes 'teaser' from this interview) and it gives me all the strength to continue. It fuels the trust that is always there inside of me, even when it is very soft sometimes. Lately I feel some sympathethic energy come up, in the form of anger. I am 'defrosting'. And it is so new to me that it feels scary and uncomfortable when that happens. It's like someone who has been blind or deaf all of her life, now suddenly has moments where she can see or hear. I know there's much anger stored in me which is releasing from time to time. I am glad and thankful at one hand and scary on the other hand. Although it feels overwhelming and scary when this sympathetic energy comes up, I am so happy that it does. I know, by all the education that is in SBSM, that this is a good thing: underneath this anger energy lies the life energy. Well, what started as a 'thank you'-comment has become a sort of personal experience story, which helped me to ventilate what is going on. And I will post it anyway. Maybe my experience helps someone else to go on on their path. Or gives hope. With respect and love from the Netherlands, Savannah 🥰

Thanks Irene and Rachel . Thanks for pointing out the BS and frauds out there. Irene, I have been watching you non stop since seeing you on The Way Forward with Alec. Definitely seems like the missing link i'm looking for. I have known for several years I need to heal my nervous system, but have not seem to have found the answers. Thanks for all your info

Its literally stuck in our bodies. I know for a fact ill never be fully normal.

OK, kinda cheating when you build a video around the best pop song EVER... But why not? 😂

I haven’t watched this interview yet, but I’ve followed all of your interviews so far with Rachel. Her face looks sooooo different this time, she looks open, settled, and at ease. Thank you both for the inspiration. ❤

How can I do the 21 days with U Irene PLEASE 🙏

Thank you ❤

Hi there, this video was very helpful. Thank you. I just finished an 8-week in-person session layout for Trauma Touch Therapy with a trusted colleague & professional, which has helped me alot with working with my nervous system. Through out these 8 weeks I experienced a lot of uprising of paranoia, anxiety and other mental disturbances. I feel like this may be from deep rooted trauma coming up at the surface, but just wanted to see what your perspective was on it and if you had any clarity to provide? Thanks so much <3

Hi there, this video was very helpful. Thank you. I just finished an 8-week in-person session layout for Trauma Touch Therapy with a trusted colleague & professional, which has helped me alot with working with my nervous system. Through out these 8 weeks I experienced a lot of uprising of paranoia, anxiety and other mental disturbances. I feel like this may be from deep rooted trauma coming up at the surface, but just wanted to see what your perspective was on it and if you had any clarity to provide? Thanks so much <3

Thank you very much :)

AMAZING VIDEO! I have been looking for something like this since i have state my SE training, I got a bit upset when i see books for kids teatching how to deal with anguer saying just take a deep breath. Which obviously does not give the light to their inner power and capacity to defend them selves. In fact I have curious to know what is the best approach to do with my 2y todler that started to push other kids away. And this video finally gave the answer I needed! put the focus on their strength and validate the feeling. My question is if I should explain at any time that pushing kids away is not right? Or simply validating their strengh and capacity to defend the behaviour will fade away?

Joined 21 day tune-up in 2020, (my 69th birthday gift to myself) followed with SBSM in spring of 2021 and looking forward to my 7th round of SBSM in March of 2025-yes, you do it over and over because each time something new is revealed. Kinda like algebra. I’ve heard algebra reveals itself over time. Well that didn’t happen with me, i still don’t understand it. But with this stuff it DOES! I usually notice shifts and differences in hindsight. And I’ve thought i was dying a time or two-wore a heart rate monitor for a while cause my heart was pounding on awakening. Then an ultrasound because there was what felt like a tennis ball moving around in my abdomen. At my age who knows!? I have seemingly limitless early development trauma, every sensation with the exception of one had no memory. The slower i go the better for my system, (i did bell hand for the first time just this week)and that has had me describing it as slow motion magic. It just works.

For me, the boulders of trauma and anxiety came up all on there own long before I knew about nervous system regulation. I'm wondering how many experience this.

I am not fearful of old survival stress coming out ; I am pretty desperate to get it all out.

Ps: this framing - where the is a tiny bit of space on both sides of the face is much much more relaxing and titrated than the “instagram” conventional tight vertical just the face framing. I just had that felt sense insight recently and wanted to share this lil feedback :)

Love the long talks! So excited to listen !

I always find it incredible when people say they've never had anxiety. What about if you've struggled with anxiety since childhood? 😞

who is Rachel?

Irene, have you had any clients with rejection sensitive dysphoria? I believe I 'have it' My understanding is it is part of the ADHD spectrum, however not sure if I am. Thanks 🙏🏼

How to heal abandontmant and lonliness

Perfect timing on this video to validate my experience earlier today. Thank you so much for all you do 🙏🏼❤

So that happend to me in my early stages still when I didn't know I had anxiety...then I would lay down feeling terrible in my own buzz then my tears would just roll without me crying even

I cant even go outside of my home some days. I want to do normal thing's, like go for a walk, but i feel anxiety, so ill stay inside all day. I never left my bedroom as a child. It was the safe room. I do very similar now.

Yes, the practices from 21 day are also embedded into my life.