I like your videos, but no offense.. if you make more in the future, can you use less swear words? 😂

I appreciate these videos, especially the subtypes which I have not seen elsewhere. I’d say I am the self preserving four. I am a traveling safety instructor. Many times after my classes, someone from the class will approach me about my message that is the subtext of the teaching. They will tell me things they’ve never told anyone. I observe that and ask a few questions to bring them deeper into exploring their experiences and reveal their values, which even they had no idea how central they were. And as you say- sometimes those conversations are for hours. Sometimes they yield tears that cannot stop. Those are the days I feel most successful.

This was amazing! Thank you 🙏

I've been convinced I'm a 5w6 for years now. However, this one has me doubting because a lot of this fits really well.

Sometimes i want people around me to see how fragile i am and how sensitive i am to not say those hurting words about me.. or at least to know how much they are part of the causes of my suffering.. But i also internalize my suffering.. never show it outside.. and try to become a better version of myself.. a version that can be loved.. So.. i'm not sure what's my subtype.. i resonate with both...

Haha I thought it was funny that people said they cried listening to this but here I am. Ugh.

This was so moving and inspiring!! Hope you can do more!

You are fascinating!!! You have no idea how much your teaching, encouragement, and sharing has helped me!! Thank you! Thank you!

I've always told my husband that I appreciate that he doesn’t let me steamroll him, but doesn’t steamroll me either. I need that pushback. But most people think I'm super sweet and nice and don't realize I have a spicy core and it confuses them if they encounter it. But romantic relationships I'm spicy in, friends next, and work rarely

You have brought so much healing, encouragement, inspiration and rest to my soul!! I have been learning about the enneagram and have listened to other experts but no one deeply explains it like you and shows the beauty in each of the numbers as richly and inspiring and real as you do. You also point us to the remedies to make us even better. Thank you so so much!!! Please keep sharing with us and sharpening us!!

I don't often leave comments on the many self-help videos I watch, but your dissecting wisdom DESERVES recognition and I wanted to share my experience because I feel so seen by your assesments. I am a Sexual/Social 1 (ENFJ) and my current hardest battle is learning to live with the imperfections and perceived injustices of this cruel and imperfect world with serentity AND authenticity. When you asked "Can I find peace and calm in the fact that I am in a place that isn't what I want it to be?" I exasperatedly cried "NO!..." because of how hard it is EVERYDAY to not neurotically mourn the state of the world, of others, and of myself (unable to let GO of others) and live with the volcanic rage rumbling inside me... I truly feel seen... But MAN, is this journey HARD... I feel like I know what I need to do, yet also feel like I don't...

There's another song called Sing but it's by the Dresden Dolls and I think it may actually more 4ish than the one you mentioned

I really enjoyed this contrast between 8 & 4 because as an SP4 I feel like I'm very 8-like. In fact I mistyped as a 2 initially because when I was in disintegration I showed up a lot like an 8. I'd be curious to hear more about the SP4 & the SO8 dynamics, especially because it seems like the SO8 is the more vulnerable of the 8's & the SP4 is the more tenacious/go-getter of the 4's. Seems like they'd find an easy middle ground if they were both mature emotionally.

Drew: "We've gotta get past our self-involvement." Me (4w5 sp/sx): "No I don't."

Greetings, fellow Sexual 4s, If you’re anything like me, you revisit this video-Drew’s video-every six months or so, for surely it is the most lucid and congruent rendering of our Sexual 4 idiocy. Also, fellow Sexual 4s, this particular Sexual 4 idiot (Trifix 4-5-8) recently read Steinbeck’s East of Eden, which, if you are Uncle Drew fans, you will know is one of his favourite-if not his all-time favourite-novels. And what can I say? You need to read this book. I had assiduously steered clear of Steinbeck in a very “not-my-thing” Sexual 4 way, apart from Of Mice and Men, which I once read with a book group and enjoyed. But, as ever, Uncle Drew did not let me down on that front either. I could, of course, witter on forever because of my ego cage, but I’d like to communicate just two ideas-nothing grand, just two things: First idea (which is more of a plea): Uncle Drew, where are you? We need more content from you in some shape or form. If you are working on a book, a new podcast series, or perhaps developing “Essence of Drew” cologne to flog to the masses, could we please have some of that soon? Second idea: As Sexual 4s, we can often feel quite isolated and disconnected in our tormented idiocies, which is why it feels gratifying to know of other self-declared 4s out there-especially other Sexual 4s. So, I was wondering: if you are a Sexual 4 and you do something in the real or virtual world-maybe you have a podcast, a KZbin channel, or some other creative platform-could you link me up? I’d love to see what you’re doing. As an Enneagram nerd, I’m very interested in all types and subtypes, but-as a Sexual 4-I am, of course, most interested in myself and other self-indulgent 4s. And while I often diagnose these fools in popular culture (as I’m sure you do), there’s something uniquely satisfying when a Sexual 4 outs themselves-straight from the 4’s mouth, as it were. Looking forward to hearing from you. 🙏🫖🦋

What the heck is all the noise in the background?! Aeroplanes? Thunder?!

LOVE YOU ~

Man, your POV helps me get by each day I’m at my very low. God bless you.

wow, wow and wow! amazing content! i loved!!!

Out of all the enneagram youtube channels, you have the best descriptions for the instincts. Thank you for your video! I'm definitely a enneagram 5w4 sx/sp.

Drew! I miss your posts. 😊 Where are you?!

Thanks. I'm a 6sx and I learn a some new things here.

I am a terrible snob with entertainment, music, content etc. I also have the cold-blooded side, the venom and the acid tongue, when people wrong me, perceived or real.

Type 9 here, not really winged I oscillate between defiance and compliance. I find myself this Saturday morning binge-watching your videos. Thank you so much for your loving insight and advice. This subtype fits me to a T. From my perspective, it is hard to find what is meaningful when the general feeling is that life has no meaning! I have spent over the past year looking inward and all I see is darkness, the void, emptiness. Will that change? Who knows... I do this meditation to empty thoughts from my mind because I am annoyed with my tendency to play out future impossible worst case scenarios in my head (6 ?) or replaying past hurts in my head and negative thoughts to those who betrayed me in the past.

For the longest time I thought I was a five because they like solitude and want to preserve their energy. The SP type sounds a lot like that. What changed my mind was my aversion to conflict which fives don't seem to be afraid of. Thank you for this enlightening information.

What an awesome video! Insightful, caring, gentle guidance...LOVED IT! Thanks so much, friend :)

How is Drew doing?

I'm 34 min in: finding delight in anger??? As a One!? If only you talked the same about envy for Fours. Like someone else said. You don't know what kind of demons you're stirring. Just because "anger" sounds like a sexier sin than "envy" it doesn't mean it really is: for Ones is JUST as damaging as envy is for Fours. Please consider this.

I think the example of a tantrum over a fallen hotdog might be more sx. They're the "shameless" subtype, more expressive and at times aggressive in their expression. Social instinct of Any type is more keenly aware of social dynamics, and where shame comes in with type 4 I think social four would not want to embarrass themselves, which is why I think they're one of the subtypes that expresses intense emotions and thoughts through the intermediary of art most often, it's socially minded and has greatest shame about what others perceive among the fours

I had wild experience with sx 8 woman,she just stumbled upon me and was intensely aroused,acting strategicly and dominant but somewhat softly to not scare its prey(me)😅😅A dangerously intense huntes.

Amazing !

I laughed so hard listening to this, but I agree with you.

You're a social 9

This is one of the most accurate descriptions I’ve heard on my type. 😅. I feel like I do pretty well at the “not give to get”, but I’m definitely more motivated to give so I won’t feel bad or out of obligation to help. I had a manipulative and subtly controlling 8 w 7 dad and our relationship operated this way. Oh I’m self-pres by the way.

Brand new… I have been studying anagram for over 20 years and just picking it back up again. The way that you language things is brilliant… Thank you!

Im 1w9 sx/sp

Thank you for this information

skipadahooo!!!! sp?: 🤣

Your enneagram videos, and in particular these ones on the subtypes, are just fantastic. So many descriptions that are right on target for me as a social 9. And I really like that you emphasise to take part of the other subtype videos for 9s.

Awesome Drew! Keep creating. Here to remind you that it will be worth it. Keep writing on your path through life and remind yourself of why you are doing it. So looking forward to read when you are done. Go for that finish line and stretch out for that emotional depth and closure. Endings & new beginnings. Tick tock goes the clock and scribble scribble, dibble dabble, the pen is meant to waddle. From ink to paper you will gladly become a shaper.

i love this video, it’s the best one describing fives out of all the ones i’ve seen to date, which is a LOT. eveyone else gets really cartoony with their biases against fives (which really anyone can do, but we fives get it a lot lol). thank you! ❤

Great takes and insights Drew. I resonate with what you bring up here. Beauty & wonders, depth & sunder, forming abundance. I am deeply glad to feel and see our tribe of soulful ones go beyond the above and below. I sometimes feel that we 4s can simply lift others through our being and breathing. To all wonderful 4s: Keep creating and keep doing what makes you happy in life. "We have the power to give others oxygen and strength to swim up to their own surfaces from their own depths." - KB

I feel like I am a type 8 when I am not in an emotional relationship. But when I am emotionally vulnerable, I am a type 4. Is that possible?

It being 2024, is there still the idea of a retreat for 4s? ;)

I had someone who was 4, we are deep but maybe somehow differently. I also dont know that I am 9 or 4, I tend to be eccentric as well and very creative. But he was unhealthy because he wanted to save me, I hadnt opinion because he was offended...so I blocked him finally he took a role as a teacher and we werent equal..

Trusted the algorithm. Now I landed here. Through my years I have felt that we 4w5s are the expanding awareness through the many spaces of creality. To all 4s out there, I can warmly recommend looking into non-duality. Unite the mother and father inside. Because yes. They deeply loved one another you see. Otherwise you would not be here. Aha! Now envision all those parts merge inside, you are whole. You always have been. Even when you feel fragmented or scattered. Lost? It just means that you have created and expanded new space. And with that you can now continue to thrive and create. tend to it. water it and witness it all grow. From cell to cell with its electric homeostasis of it all. Where you focus your awareness, growth happens. Merge and grow beyond. The best of vibes to you all. K

It is so strange, because I think I’m at a turning point in my life. This particular period is very crucial, since I’m about the publish my first novel that I put some of my own feelings and experiences. Those experiences that I felt ashamed of, because of the way they made me feel. But if the people who read my book, would understand it or could gravitate towards it, my core believe would be shooked Because I create and was always fascinated by intimate one on one relationships, I thought of myself as a 4 sx subtype. I just realized years later that I’m a 4 so. No wonder why I feel that I’m the one with the less knowledge in every college class, even though that couldn’t be farther from the truth…

Thank you I feel very seen

“We can’t be addicted to the search of arrival.” 👏

“Failure for a 4 is doing nothing. Waiting too long…” I am a 4 and I seem to be frozen in this state right now and I can’t seem to shake it.