Enneagram type 9 | Subtypes | Social Subtype (SC) - nine

[@stephanieclimer4320]

Drew, I’m near tears with this video. It often hurts to hear people talk about the “lazy withdrawn” 9s; a broad brushstroke which painfully strikes my sense of not feeling seen. I feel so seen, finally, with your video. I’ve known for months that I was a social 9, but few teachers talk about the energy of that with knowledge and understanding. Thank you for this 💚

[@drewnewkirk]

This is awesome! I’m about to meet with my enneagram 9 client in 2 minutes and I’m gonna share this with her because it gives me joy and encourages me to keep doing this work. Thank you Stephanie, I feel the love Drew

[@bbjudyfit]

Yessss well said!!!

[@frenne_dilley]

Watching Beatrice Paes Enneagram they described the sloth as towards themselves about what they need or should be doing, even if they're constantly busy. Like hesitating on self love or on homework or on energizing themselves or on alone recharge time, or even sleep! That's the passion, and that's masked by the subtype, but the passion itself Masks the virtue - right action. It's amazing and healing to learn that about myself.

[@tTheParakeet]

Come to think of it, I’m always aware what’s good for the group but hardly ever aware of what is good for myself. I tend to have trouble even sometimes deciding what I actually like, not always, but I’m pretty immediate on understanding the needs of the whole.

[@GurraGo]

Your enneagram videos, and in particular these ones on the subtypes, are just fantastic. So many descriptions that are right on target for me as a social 9. And I really like that you emphasise to take part of the other subtype videos for 9s.

[@gregbowie3695]

These are some fantastic videos, not getting the viewership they should be (yet). As a 9, it's nice to work my way through this.

[@drewnewkirk]

That word “yet” hits me man, and I’ll receive and appreciate it. I feel it’ll find the right people who need and appreciate it. I’m glad you did. Part of doing these was to put out content in a voice I personally would have wanted when I got into the enneagram. So, thanks Greg! I hope you devour this and keep chipping away at yourself I appreciate it Drew

[@suzanneharris2580]

Totally agree with Greg. These videos are fantastic and so helpful for those of us watching. Keep them coming. I keep finding myself in allllllll the types. But the more I watch the more I learn about myself.

[@drewnewkirk]

@@suzanneharris2580 that’s it Suzanne. Me too. The more I dig the more I’m all the numbers and that’s growth. Keep watching, I got you! Drew

[@kileychamberlain468]

Listening to this- the hardest part is the suggestion to err on the side of arrogance. It’s hard for me to be convinced I’m not arrogant if I open up more, share myself more- my wants, my agenda. Especially because when I try I usually get push back as if I’m being arrogant- at least I feel that way. I feel like I would be too arrogant if I let myself go more, for lack of a better way to express that. Thanks for the video.

[@drewnewkirk]

Sorry for getting back to you so late on this, but maybe that’s a good thing in this case. Have you been erring on the side of arrogance? I hope you’ve at least tried it. We are so prone to exaggerating how we show up. Thinking that we are way more extreme than we are. I do this all the time as well. We doubt, we question, we wonder if we’re too much. It’s so common for all of us, but especially certain numbers. Hope that you challenged yourself to just be out there a bit more in the last two months. Sorry again for the delay, Drew

[@Tousicle]

Think of it the opposite way too - if you think you’re the ONLY one in the universe that can’t share their wants and needs; really the only one?? That’s pretty arrogant. (Lol. Hopefully you take that with laughter fellow 9 :p). Thought it was a great gem when I first heard it.

[@askarufus7939]

About when "loving when things are about you". I was talking with my sister (who is a social 2w1) about the greatest moments of our lives and I said that besides the fact that I am an introvert I loved my 18th birthday party soo much. It was not only mine because we organised it with 2 other friends who had their birthdays the same week and we had many many common friends so we did a huge party that was like a small wedding. Anyways my sister said "You loved it because it was about you 😊". I wasn't sure if I should feel offended but she said it so obviously and nicely that I gave it a little of thought and agreed. It really changed the way I view myself. I actually like to be seen by the people that I try so hard to blend with. And the fact that she said it so naturally like it wasn't a bad thing.

[@drewnewkirk]

Self- Awareness is a beautiful thing. It one thing to not know you want to be seen and another thing to know it. People appreciate when you know what you want even if they would never want that Good discovery Drew

[@dianamales5378]

Great video :) I thought that I was a sx dom 9 but after a lot of research and reflection I've discovered that I'm actually a so/sx. In the past I have had managers and mentors tell me to "do less", and I've only now realized what they actually meant!

[@drewnewkirk]

Very complicated to figure out for SO 9’s so good on you for figuring it out Love it 👊🏼

[@karenrollins9369]

Yes!!!! Finally, now I get it and why I couldn’t relate to “laziness”

[@drewnewkirk]

Love it! And sorry for the delay, this one slipped past me. Drew

[@ZeniaLarsen]

Oh boy, this was almost frightening to watch. I related to a lot of your descriptions and I really want to compliment you for being so nuanced and thorough. I've watched a lot of videos about the Enneagram but many seem so superficial - not necessarily "fake" or without insight but too much at the surface for me to really know whether or not I fit the descriptions. This spoke very much to me, especially the anchor part. I've often wondered about my position within a group and thought that my perfect spot would be withdrawn but in a way that enabled me to know what's going on. Not a leader but one who may be called upon when my special skill is needed without getting too involved and thus adding more confusion to the plentitude of confusions that always exist in a group of just a few people. Yes, I need to run that risk in order to fit in well, but it really makes me uncomfortable and feel that I dominate or serve my own interests rather than those of the group as a whole. I do see the patadox of how I do exactly what I don't want to do with that attitude - but what to do? Scary stuff, but thank you!

[@drewnewkirk]

Sorry for the delay. Thanks for watching and for the affirmation and for the good processing If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR [e-mail] Either way, I appreciate you Drew

[@christinafoster3713]

Thank you so much. This fits me so well. I'm a never-ending rough working on my chapters.

[@drewnewkirk]

@@christinafoster3713 Thanks Christina, glad it helped. Keep working on the chapters 😉 If interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR [e-mail] Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew

[@bbjudyfit]

I've tested as a 6 on a couple of random enneagram tests. But.. i KNOW I am a so/sp 9w1 24:29 thanks for the validation 😆🥰

[@drewnewkirk]

Happy to offer it. Ultimately we must know what’s right. Glad you found out for yourself

[@Tousicle]

Awesome video! I appear a lot like a 3 and a 7 but I am a strong 9w8 with a good balance in a 1. Also I have yet to meet a 4 so it’s so interesting to hear your take on things. Thanks for the video on subtypes this was super helpful!

[@drewnewkirk]

No problem!

[@v_s1993]

Hi Drew, could you please do a video about enneagram 9w8 social subtype. I deal a lot with this type in business: they seem to be great networkers and enterpreneurs with interest in the NGO/NPO sector. my parents are 9w8s, my boss and some of his friends are. There are also some 9w8 artists i admire. Sometimes I‘m a tiny little bit intimidated by them. I want to understand them since I have to work with them and are also quite good at it but I like to learn new things. Greetings from a 4w5 sexual/self-preservation (although i‘m not so sure about the subtypes). And then please compare them with 8w9 and please talk about the differences of male and female 9w8 social subtypes if possible. thank you, your videos are truly amazing.

[@akat]

Well, shit. I tested high on 9 as well as 4. The 4 videos were spot on, but now watching this 9 vid, it hits on many levels as well. Seems almost paradoxical to have these two numbers as the ones I’m deciphering between 😂 Anyway, thank you for your content and the deep context offered 🙏🏻

[@drewnewkirk]

Could be just high on your list. Like, my second highest score is a 3, I’m very 3 but still a 4 😉

[@karissahammond4587]

Maybe you have both in the tritype?

[@garypotter5139]

Are you familiar with the song “Be Afraid” by Jason Isabell? As a most likely social 9, this song kills me.

[@drewnewkirk]

I'm not... I'll go listen now So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR [e-mail] Hope all is well and thanks again Drew

[@YEDxYED]

Alright, so what subtype would I be for watching every single vid and watching many others and still not knowing myself well enough to say what my dom subtype is?

[@drewnewkirk]

Ha! You may just be really balanced. That’s kinda cool. Or really imbalanced 😂 I’d say don’t sweat it, the fact you’re digging deep is the most important thing. Just keep learning, the defining will come. But keep watching my videos specifically 😂 Drew

[@YEDxYED]

@@drewnewkirk 😂😂 man, I’ve been through it all. I’ve thought I was nearly every type. I just have this urge to ask someone close to me to take the test and read on my behalf. It’s just strange for an INFP like myself to struggle. I have this habit of connecting behaviors with certain subtypes I test as. If I test as a Sexual dom, then I shift my perspective of past tendencies to match the subtype. Interestingly enough, if I test as a SP dom, then I could shift the perspective of that same tendency to fit SP dom. Didn’t mean to bombard with text but yeah lol

[@drewnewkirk]

@@YEDxYED damn! You may need to just stop taking tests. Your brain is going to fry

[@YEDxYED]

@@drewnewkirk lmao I’ve been a little obsessive but I think I’ve finally settled on So/sx. I’m an introvert, so that complicates things a little but yeah.

[@drewnewkirk]

@@YEDxYED don’t lose your mind in the introversion bubble 😂

[@trevawhitmoyer682]

You ROCK (literally from what I’ve seen), Drew! I really get a lot from your deep dives. I have shared your videos with friends who also appreciate your insights. 🎉 I am a sexual 9, but I love to be in a leadership role, because people think I’m live on “butterflies, zebras, moonbeams and fairytales” and are shocked when the gavel literally comes out and I keep us focused on the agenda and always refer back to our mission statement. I must have a healthy 8-wing! 😂

[@drewnewkirk]

I love this feedback my friend and keep sharing! It really helps keep me motivated Really appreciate it Keep that 8 wing badass

[@trevawhitmoyer682]

@@drewnewkirk I bicycled across America recently to get out of an abusive 30 year marriage. You are correct, sometimes us 9’s are late bloomers, but when we finally do bloom…Look out!😁🚲❤️ I appreciate you!! PS. My “3” son is a KZbinr with over a million subs. Consistency was the key to his success, along with his left handed/4-wing creativity. You can do it!

[@drewnewkirk]

@@trevawhitmoyer682 I appreciate hearing that. Definitely staying consistent

[@KathrineMarie4]

I am beginning to see the social 9 in me. But often I hear that social nines are leaders and can be workaholics. I am a “normal” worker. But I do work hard to please the people I am working with and do a lot for the team - so much that I burnout sometimes. Which I am at the moment😔 I want to belong… Is most social 9 leaders? Sorry, I am a bit concrete in my way of thinking😅

[@drewnewkirk]

So so sorry for the delay, has been a crazy past few months. And on that note, I think sometimes we don’t realize what kind of workaholics we are. We probably work harder and more than we think we do, especially as we are often prone to doubt in general. And prone to devaluing how hard we put ourselves into things. Your burn out might be a representation of that. And I also want to challenge you to not under devalue your leader ship. Leader ship looks different for people. Yours might not be upfront or loud, maybe leading from the back or behind. But you might have a type of leader ship that shows up that you aren’t registering. Maybe find all the ways that you are a leader and not the ways you aren’t, just to play with it as an experiment. as for being concrete, no worries there, but you can work on challenging that as well. Love that you are engaging in this Contant and thanks for reaching out, sorry again for the delay. Drew

[@KathrineMarie4]

Thank you so much for your answer🙏🙏 I have actually begun to think that I might be a social 7. First I thought I was a 2, then 9, then 6, then 9 again, then a social 6. Now I am at social 7😂 I had not heard about the countertype of the 7 before… And I did not think that I was an assertive type. But the So 7 hit sometime in me. I have been sick with stress for 2 months now and my heart has been beating with fear most of the time. I feel the meaning when I sit still and when I dive deep into materials that I love. I know that I do have a lot of morals in me, and I am trying to find out if it is my own or just heavy generation morals… I think 9, 2 and maybe 4 is high up also. Thanks for your words around leadership. I will try to think of it in a broader sense. Thank you so much for your deep explanations and answers☺️

[@drewnewkirk]

@@KathrineMarie4 the cool thing is that you are flipping it around like a Rubiks cube, which can’t be a bad thing if you finally figure out how to solve the problem. Just enjoy the ride and the challenge on the way.

[@KathrineMarie4]

I do like problemsolving… Sounds like head type😄

[@ashleyching5786]

So 9 - Anchor