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Consider speaking to your friend from her perspective in a way that encourages rather than pointing out her flawed choices. Paint a picture of what will be if she demands certain attributes and treatment in her interactions from her relationships. She sounds like a stubborn dreamer lacking the much needed tool of self worth to powerfully achieve her goals. By encouraging her you keep her listening. Let her feel comfortable admitting her mistakes so she is the one in control of her decisions otherwise you take the role of authoritarian nag that she defies. Speak your mind still and voice your concerns, just do it in a way that leaves you being a trusted, respected confidante that is empowering and reminds her of her worth. Self worth is best strengthened by knowing your self and creating healthy boundaries. Also, please be compassionate and lead by example. She is blessed to have someone care so much though sometimes we plant seeds and hopefully someone else will contribute the other necessary rain 🌞.

@@heathernissaragonese9787 thank you for your reply! This friend, B, and I have sort of fallen out of contact over the past two years, but only because of different life directions and not because of any sort of disagreement. We met back up briefly when we graduated college and she seemed to have grown a lot. Back when B and I were close(r), I had tried every approach in the book, including the method you described. Nothing worked, and for a while after we parted ways she seemed to fall a little deeper into her mistakes. I reached out a few times after I heard of some of the nastier incidents, but mostly just to offer support than advice. I've seen several friends of hers fill in the gap that I left, but like me they come and go as they realized she was unfortunately stubborn in her ways. However, like I said she seems to be doing much better. I don't hear much about any of those incidents anymore, which makes me think she's grown and, for lack of a better word, matured. I think her biggest problem was that she had a stifled youth and so once she got the independence of college, she couldn't find her limits fast enough. It was sad to watch her fall and hurt herself so much, but luckily nothing seriously awful happened to her.