Aha! I finally know I’m a 9 (and you’re a 6)- lol!

I think she is a 9w1! Don’t nines also hate upsetting others, not because they fear upsetting them, but because they think they don’t deserve to express themselves? Don’t nines fear loss of connection to others, and so diminish themselves? Try accepting yourself as a nine and live with it, and see if it helps you to understand yourself and your past behaviors. Confusing your type like this is so 9. You have definitely been put through so much stress. ❤

Robert Sapolsky says " change arises in humans when their circumstances change". All else are stories we tell ourselves.

The important part is our subtypes not our wings.

Thanks for sharing your discussion about your experience. I like that you have highlighted the differences between what might be considered as “peace” by each of the types under discussion. It seems to me that if you agree with the idea of growth paths then the peace of the six energy is more of an active adaptation.😊

Six is fear of losing security or safety and nine is fear of losing harmony or connection.. ?

I'm male, but you seem like the female version of myself since most of what you said, I could have also said.

Insightful information on these Enneagram types! I stumbled upon your channel through the KZbin algorithm today. My MBTI channel does the same. Thanks for sharing! 🌟🌟🌟

Thank you both. This helped me figure out that I am 9. I have a strong affinity for the 4 and 5 though.

Great video and the explanations of Mr. LaHue are excellent. Nonetheless I can also see her as a 1w9 sp not a 9w1. She points with her finger alot which is a common gesture for 1s.

Saw MBTI in your profile. Looove MBTI. I am an ENFP. Curious about your type. What is your type if you are comfortable sharing. 💗💞

Great interview, thank you! 🙏😊

same

9w8 SP here. How can I take part in a Live podcast? Would love to discover in real time with other 9's!!!!

To my knowledge, you have 2 different vids with different coaches. That, in itself, screams 6 and you most likely still haven’t decided on a stable type, even today. Lol

I'm a 6w7. I really enjoyed this, thank you. I also thought I was a 9 for a while but looking at everything, 6 makes more sense. It helps to look back at your life and see what the prevalent patterns have been throughout your whole life. I don't really want to influence people too much with this because I think everybody's on their own journey of self-discovery, but from watching this video, I truly think you're a 6. One of the things that was said to me about me being a 6 vs a 9 was that I seem very "present" to who I'm talking to. 9s have a habit of checking out even when in conversation, and while I definitely notice myself doing that too at times (I do have 9 in my tritype), usually people would see me as more directly engaging. Your energy is very 6. Even your very specific questioning is 6-like. You seem to want to KNOW and want to have some kind of structured means to understand something on a deeper level - digging, questioning, taking notes, trying to get clarification, etc. That is 6. I've chilled out a bit in that sense now but when I look back at my childhood, I recall people finding me a lot to take because of my constant questions. I was not chill like a 9 at all when I was a kid. I GO TO 9 when I'm more relaxed and chill, but that is not my most common natural state. A few things to think about 🙂

In my opinion, Lindsey is a type 6 with 9 in her tritype.

This. Was. So. Impactful. He's a great guy. I've watched many of his videos, too.

I just found out I'm a 9. I felt so known as I read the description of 9. When your guest was talking about being invisible, that deeply resonated, and I cried. I recently flipped from being angry about being invisible to seeing it as a blessing and a superpower. But ironically, I think 9s love being truly seen. We just go invisible so as not to deal with being misunderstood and to harmonize with our environment. I will be listening to the next videos. Thank you for doing this podcast❤

I've been thinking that I was a 6 for a while. But then I started thinking about how avoidant I can be and how much I procastinate, and how I'm pretty disengaged from groups? I'm pretty passive and I can cloister myself away from the world either in times of stress or in times of peace. Which feels very 9? But I'm also a textbook worrier. I feel caught between the 6 head and the 9 body, haha. I left with more questions than answers, but this video is very enlightening as a whole. Though something tells me that this constant questioning of my enneagram type and my fervor to figure this out points towards 6.

Dear Lindsey, thank you for your great video ideas. With regard to your own typing according to the Enneagram (maybe you're sure by now) I see you very clearly as the social nine of the Enneagram. Your "quality of gaze" already shows me the energy of the 9. In addition, there are many other indications for this, e.g. the eternal polarity "believing-doubting", which is much more typical for the 9 than for the 6 (the latter would like to appear more secure on the outside and tend to hide their inner insecurity outwardly), to name just a few points. The main reason why you are unsure about your enneagram fixation is, in my opinion, above all the fact that you, as a social type 9, are a so-called countertype who hides its passion from yourself, unconsciously attacks it or unconsciously negates it. As a result, the social nine, like any other countertype, regularly fluctuates between his integration and disintegration point and by thinking about his own type, he is in the stress point of 6 and is due to the associated "blocked head energy" totally confused about his own identity. Thank you for your great contributions👍🌈

I was sure i was a six, because i question authority. But i learned when stressed i turn into a six, because when i am at peace i am my 9 self and authority figures stress me out because of past trauma. But this made it really hard. Honestly, knowing i am a 9 gives me peace because i feel like it gives me more self understanding for why i dont feel like i represent myself. I can never trade who i am for someone's visions of who i ought to be. I'll go with the flow until i feel like i wake up to someone trying to change me, then that person better watch out because i may flip from my 9w1 ways to a 9w8

There is something about 6w5 vs 9w1 that is so confusing. I have been between them for so long. 🌻

I have been thinking I am a 9 for a while now. I heard that you shouldn’t take the quizzes. But I did one and it said I was a 4. When I started reading I thought 6! But then very quickly 9. So yesterday I did like 4 quizzes. And one said I was 83% 9 and 82% 6. 77% 2 which matches my jobs etc a bit more…etc etc. I hoped this video would help me but now I am still not sure. I can only say I can take all of this into account when I am trying to solve each problem. When dealing with individual situations.

Doctor Tom LaHue is sooo wise! Love his points and advices! So good!

I’m at 15:36 and already knew that you’re a 6. 😄 6s become like a 3 when under stress, trying to take control, marshal up all the resources to *survive*. 9s only become like 3s when things are in smooth sail mode, and under stress they’re the ones who have racing thoughts, can’t sleep at night, etc., essentially taking up traits of a 6.

"In the future Lindsey discovers she's really a 6 " interview with Tom Lahue;)

I'm a 9 w 1 , it's the anger I'm sitting on that's the tell tell sign , I'm afraid to express it but it always comes out directly or indirectly .

Wow ! Thx for sharing this , love Tom

Damn that “glitch” hit me hard. I’ve always said that I can help people with their life but I’ve always struggled helping myself

12:47 - The six moment. I can see a 9 doing this, if they are in the Bermuda thing..

I am at 2:20 and I already love this. I rarely comment on the videos, but I love what I'm seeing here. Btw I watch everything. Just keep in mind that you are both awesome personalities to me.

I am struggling literally with this very thing. Am i a six or a nine?! It’s so tricky. I have to at the end of the day ask myself, “do i erase my needs?” Is that my motivation? To totally cater to the needs of those around me so i feel comfortable and so THEY feel comfortable…. The answer is no. Do I trust people to a fault? No. I am super guarded and suspicious of peoples motives always. Do I avoid things out of fear? Yes? I was like you, I avoid things that are “unpleasant and discomforting” but i think that’s a nice way of saying i am afraid of not being in control of the outcome. We are afraid to do things open ended things like make phone calls sometimes bc we don’t know where the conversation will lead. We have to be prepared right?!? Lol But honestly your overthinking of this in the thoughtful and accurate (6) way that you did proves you are a six. We can’t trust our own inner knowing. If you ask yourself deep down you know the answer. JMO

I absolutely LOVE seeing these wonderful nines come alive with other peacemakers! No having to wait for a big enough quiet space to jump in, no rapid fire topic changes, just some lovely expressed views!

Lindsey, I have just recently found your podcasts and FB group and as a fellow nine I just want to say thank you so much for doing them. Your efforts and taking the risk has helped those of us who feel sidelined or waiting to be noticed a chance to see one another and know we are not alone. We have value. I am proud of you. Please don’t give up.

It’s so good to know that I’m not alone in the struggle to wake up and get up every day. I used to think it was just a night owl thing, but it seems to be worse than just that. My type 8 husband is a night owl, too, but he doesn’t struggle nearly as much.

9s over explain too but her reasoning for over explaining was a 6 reason for doing so

Reading these comments of people wanting to be a 9 is so interesting... i definitely don't like being a 9. I wish i was one of my wings, or even a 3. So .. yea very interesting.😁 Edit: okay I'll take my type of anxiety or a 6's anxiety. i have a couple of friends who are 6s and I'm always telling them to chill out.

The 100 Acre Wood video commentary. Wow, so agree. I've watched that video multiple times since Tom posted it before I watched this video -it resonated with me so much! Obviously it hit a nerve with other 9's too! I look at Winnie the Pooh in a whole new light. :)

On the clock time, I like to arrive early. It’s more peaceful for me. When I’m in a creative flow, clock time can be immaterial, though.

If i am a type 9, I'm a different type of 9. Some points I resonate with 9s, while other points I feel like there's a lot of "vagueness" in the 9s perspective on their personality to where I question my type. I feel like I have more of a complicated angle to the 9s experience, but maybe that moves more to the "Tritype" system of the enneagram haha.

Great Interview! I’ve always felt this intense connection to God even though I don’t go to church. Feeling favored by him someway somehow. Now I see this is a 9 thing. Lol. I also connected deeply with the comment that it’s inevitable to raise your child unscarred. I needed to hear that! Once again… Great interview!

I just realized I’m a six the day before i watched this. I too didn’t want to be a six! I thought I was a 9 too, but understanding that I’m a six makes so much sense about myself now. Thanks!

Thanks for yet another insightful discussion. I am a SX9w1 and new to the enneagram. I feel that I had been sleeping all my life. In the exploration that started, I have recently come across your channel, blog and podcast and voraciously checked out all the content. It has been really very very helpful to understand the intrinsic motivations, traits and journey to health for a 9. In today's video, you surprised me by your questions about the similarities between the 3 types. It made me to ponder "what am I really?". However, I realized looking back at my own life how individualistic I have always been when it comes to groups of any kind. My tendency of merging is more on one person level. Thanks again. Eagerly waiting for the next episode. More power to you. :)

This video was very informative! As a SP9w1 I resonated a lot with the discussion. Especially Today has been a really hard day personally as I watched this video first thing this morning just to see that I am in fact in extremely stressed and the motives behind it because of a problem/conflict I’m having. It just all made sense to me. Just in case you are worried if it’s worth making these videos, I’m here to tell you that it is worth it. You’ve helped me today by putting this content out and I appreciate you guys! Keep the videos coming!

Listening to this podcast hit home for me. To not focus on the struggle and procrastination of the action, instead visualize the result and focus on the feeling I get once it’s done. Will try this!

Learned something new here! Thanks Lindsey!!! Great interview!

I love doctor Tom Lahue!!!! He is the best and I’ve personally have grown as a 9 from his videos. Will invest in personal coaching as next!

😂 I'm definitely a 6 as well. 649 or 694 I'm not sure, I may even have an 8 fix but all the descriptions add a lot of aggressiveness I don't display. Anyway, I always thought I was a 9 because I didn't know how much I over thought things compared to them, or any other type really. But now I know; isfp 649 sp/sx as of now. Thank you foe this video! You asked all the questions I wanted answers to.

Thank you so much, really helpful to hear from other 9s out there. I appreciate your efforts to take such wonderful initiatives for the benefit of us all. Inspiring.