I went through a devorce 2 years ago then got cancer which was really tough but I'm still here and ive got to be grateful for that
@tonyward875219 күн бұрын
what if it was your fault?
@benjaminbarkerofficial21 күн бұрын
It’s hard my brothers but I believe in everyone reading this message
@KevinLife-xv2hh21 күн бұрын
Excellent advice! I’ve been separated for 8 months and only thing left to do is sign the papers after the judge signs. Hang in there my brothers, this is only temporary and time and self healing is the way. Love yourself
@Mensdivorceplaybook21 күн бұрын
Well said
@MichaelPrudhomme-u7xАй бұрын
Good tips. Thanks! Analysis of this divorce experience had led me to see that it’s not the loss of love. Marriage for a man is foundational. Provider, protector, husband and dad. When she comes to you with divorce, she’s already processed and grieved the loss. And she actually feels empowered for self. Meanwhile, you are standing on quicksand. Your identity gone like tears in the rain. This is my 2nd divorce and I learned from the 1st; I can get over her quickly. But the kids. FK man. Dad is in the home. Sure, father is forever but father is not dad. There are no mental gymnastics to overcome that loss. Some debts cannot be paid. My advice is time. And so I’m giving it a year. My career, exercise, sleep, no booze or porn or politics or sports to numb. I’m going live in this 1br apt for one year and then look at the moon 🌙 I’ll see what I see and if I have peace and love then I made it through the storm. If not, plan B. Making a big change!
@MensdivorceplaybookАй бұрын
Best of luck!
@PatrickBartleyMusicАй бұрын
This is speaking SUCH serious facts right now, that just hearing him even talk about this stuff without trying it first is already helping me to start the healing process. It's only been 2 years of marriage for me, but this month would be our anniversary, and I just got coerced into divorce yesterday. I'll definitely be back on this video to report back on my process, but I just wanna say WE ALL GOT THIS, Y'ALL 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
@MensdivorceplaybookАй бұрын
Thanks Patrick, good luck!
@GregoryBoyce-w3iАй бұрын
It works in stages 1 the cord cutting 2 . Falling into hatred 3. Get to forgive and let go 27 years ended bitterly
@MensdivorceplaybookАй бұрын
I agree
@KevinLife-xv2hh21 күн бұрын
Spot on ! 25 years and 3 kids. Thankfully they are grown. I’m paying out over half a million dollars for my divorce. GOOD RIDDANCE
@Mensdivorceplaybook21 күн бұрын
@@KevinLife-xv2hh Yikes!
@WhiteGhost2120 күн бұрын
@@KevinLife-xv2hh i paid out a hlf mill condo investment that was only made possible by my mom
@johnryan3374Ай бұрын
Divorce is the worst pain I've ever had to endure. Acceptance of what happened, forgiveness for your ex, and faith in the future have helped me. Faith in God helps tremendously as well.
@MensdivorceplaybookАй бұрын
Good stuff
@benperry52332 ай бұрын
Meditation is lack of action and wasting time. Make a plan with realistic goals and use that time to work towards those goals.
@Mensdivorceplaybook2 ай бұрын
Maybe you should make a video
@TallnBald2 ай бұрын
Thanks for making this video. It’s obvious so many of us are in the same boat. All experiencing the same thoughts. Different reasons. I find community to be difficult but maintain my healing via workouts and any time spent with other “dads”. I find most of them won’t find time to come out due to wives controlling their time. Not to mention my X already talking with their wives. We both amicable during this divorce, yet she has gone out to all people to let them know her side of the story. She had taken away from me a moment where I could have said some things. Don’t let this happen to you. Go out there and let every one you know what has happened and how much you need their help.
@crystalgem51092 ай бұрын
I didn't realize this was for men. It helped me anyway. Thank you so much.
@Mensdivorceplaybook2 ай бұрын
That's great, thanks for the comment. Glad I could help
@franckrousseau84552 ай бұрын
Maybe divorce help man to understand that it is ok to cry. For men it is easier to explore the moon than to deal with his inner feelings. Something that women are more at ease with !
@Mensdivorceplaybook2 ай бұрын
Agreed
@lindasharp85232 ай бұрын
Tip number one - Treat your women right.
@Mensdivorceplaybook2 ай бұрын
I like it
@georgesontag21923 ай бұрын
Every man getting divorced is going to get financially destroyed. Spend time getting your money right. You are going to need help and dont get involved with a new female, she will cost you even more money.
@anoushiravannarvani58573 ай бұрын
It been 8 years... No luck...seemingly I'm better.. but not realy... I know I'm still hurting bad.
@Mensdivorceplaybook2 ай бұрын
You need to help yourself. You should seek therapy, it will help you
@RandyGiven3 ай бұрын
Excellent video. It is so helpful to me. Thank you!
@Mensdivorceplaybook3 ай бұрын
My pleasure, glad I could help
@pointlessnavigation3 ай бұрын
Appreciated this video very much!
@Mensdivorceplaybook3 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful
@jayhickey27023 ай бұрын
Thank you 👍👍🙏🙏 I have this what you speak of. It sucks !!!
@Mensdivorceplaybook3 ай бұрын
You're welcome! Glad to hear you appreciated it
@anoushiravannarvani58573 ай бұрын
Spoken from the heart....and true too.!
@Mensdivorceplaybook3 ай бұрын
🙏🏼 those were my intentions
@davelips3 ай бұрын
Great message. Having experienced it mysel, I couldn't agree more. Thanks for the share.
@Mensdivorceplaybook3 ай бұрын
Thanks for the comment!
@urbanart73253 ай бұрын
Wish my wife lots of luck navigating a single life at the age of 62. When sex is not there for 20 years why continue. I live in Vegas. Sell the house ,get my condo and my Tesla.
@urbanart73253 ай бұрын
Keep in touch with you kids, travel ,do what makes you happy, travel and do not get into another relationship. At the age of 68 my wife and are divorcing. I am ok with it. Starting to navigate my third chapter
@urbanart73253 ай бұрын
Go tracel
@KK-by1ms3 ай бұрын
I’m a woman but I came to learn how men become heartless. This is useful information for how men become so cold and distant. Thank you I’ll be using these.
@Mensdivorceplaybook3 ай бұрын
Sounds like you are hurting, I wish you well. You may want to watch the video again, it had less to do about treating women and more about loving one's self. I hope you do use the techniques I've shared. I've talked to many women who have found value in my advice.
@EricDraven-qd9puАй бұрын
Women initiate 80% of divorces and you claim men are heartless...😂😂😂. Typical
@pabsrea59984 ай бұрын
Was married for 3 years and it didnt work out. No kids, it was amicable and it sucks at times. Moving forward
@Mensdivorceplaybook3 ай бұрын
You got out easy. Best of luck moving forward!
@WhiteGhost2120 күн бұрын
for me it was 11 months , no kids. it was largely my fault, you can say, but i do miss her
@pabsrea599820 күн бұрын
@@WhiteGhost21one moment at a time. In the end it was also my mistake. Little things added up to a big thing. Just learn and move on
@WhiteGhost2120 күн бұрын
@@pabsrea5998 yeah, i fell into being complacent and feeling like i had it in the bag, and didnt need to continue courting her + then we got a dog, which then took my focus more on him than her on top of my multiple hobbies. you can say i neglected her, but she was not perfect and it never is just one thing. one last argument after nearly 3 months of couples counseling sealed it.
@kevinproulx91374 ай бұрын
Divorce is the most devastating thing in your life next to a funeral (especially with kids involved and you are the father who can’t see your kids all of the time and pay child support) God with us all ❤️🤘✝️
@Mensdivorceplaybook4 ай бұрын
Agreed
@jeaf74 ай бұрын
23 yrs of marriage. We had fertility issue for 10 years. Finally had 2 miracle kids. She got cancer and survived. I dropped dead from blood clots in my heart. And now at the age of 44 she has an affair with 29 year old and will not go to marriage therapy. I've tried everything. Im lost....
@Mensdivorceplaybook4 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that. You sound resilient. I'm confident you'll make it through this a better man
@WhiteGhost2120 күн бұрын
marriage therapy made it worse and was the beginning of the end for me. largely because it made us get in tune with our emotions rather than actions that needed to take place moreso in our case.
@CriticalThinker19674 ай бұрын
Sounds like nonsense right now
@Mensdivorceplaybook4 ай бұрын
Understandable if you aren't ready to hear it
@EliasGraves5 ай бұрын
The same useless advice offered by everyone.
@kotamrajusarikonda17195 ай бұрын
🙏 your words are giving lot of strength
@curtismartin28665 ай бұрын
I don't want to get over my divorce. As long as this pain is with me, part of my ex is with me as well.
@slaucInDaHouse4 ай бұрын
Not healthy thing to do. Get over it or at least fake it till you make it. I would not recomend living with that kind of hurt...
@curtismartin28664 ай бұрын
@@slaucInDaHouse I still have people who depend on me so not living isn't an option. Yet.
@dimension78285 ай бұрын
This helped me so much. Thank you. 🙏🏼
@Mensdivorceplaybook5 ай бұрын
Glad to help!
@stevekostakis29835 ай бұрын
This is one of the most important videos I have ever listened to. Thank you
@Mensdivorceplaybook5 ай бұрын
🙏🏼 so glad I could help. Best of luck!
@satriani197515 ай бұрын
I divorced 6 years ago... it has been a status quo none of us had moved on to anybody. Now she has moved on... and i feel like the whole shit is starting all over again. or as if without this part it has never been over, I have never been through her without this step. I fear that this will never be ove, now facing that I will be forced to watch what they will do together with my children... Its is killing me. how will I ever be over her???
@Mensdivorceplaybook5 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear what you are going through. It sounds like you haven't moved on. I think you know the answer... you need to mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually move on. This is the best thing for you, period. It will be the best thing for her and for your kids if you have kids.
@satriani197515 ай бұрын
yes. I must admit that I havent moved on.... I have to face it... How can I move on when everey week I am around them to pick up ,/ drop the kids? Is there a technic to get over this in this situation? i am thinking about leaving my children... just for my own sanity. Its a total trap...@@Mensdivorceplaybook
@Truman77.5 ай бұрын
Great video, so very encouraging for men. When I divorced years ago I was all shook up to my great surprise, and it was a lonely process to recover. I just thought it was just me having a hard time.
@Mensdivorceplaybook5 ай бұрын
Thanks for the comment. That's kind of the point of my videos. Divorce can be very isolating and you think no one understands what you are feeling.
@scrobag15 ай бұрын
Best way to get over your divorce quicker? Do what allows YOU to get over it at pace that is best for YOU. While the suggestions in these type of videos is helpful - it is not a cure all.
@Mensdivorceplaybook5 ай бұрын
Agreed
@delanodor5 ай бұрын
Separated for a year and divorce to be concluded in a week. She wanted the divorce. I tried to get her back. No joy. Was married for 9 years no kids. Now her family have encouraged her to take me to court for 50 percent of my house, business, apartment and cars. Worked so hard my entire life. Now this is making me suicidal. It’s just too much for me to deal with. Been fighting a really tough battle with depression recently. Can’t leave the house can’t speak to my friends or family. It’s hard. Before all this I was a person people loved to be around. Now ……. Disappearing.
@Mensdivorceplaybook5 ай бұрын
Hey man, thanks for speaking up. You won't see it now, but this is a gift. It will get better. There will come a day when you thank god this happened the way it did. In the meantime, you need to get to taking care of yourself. I hope my videos are helping get you going in the right direction
@user-gl3vr5vm9r6 ай бұрын
Your advice help. I’m seeking a support group nearby because I have no friends or family to talk to . This woman was my whole life .
@Mensdivorceplaybook6 ай бұрын
I hope you find what you are looking for. Be sure and check out my other video about 3 tips where I talk about finding social groups not necessarily to talk about your divorce.
@scottromano766 ай бұрын
Great advice. Going through it currently and having a hard time with it all but your video really helped! Thank you
@Mensdivorceplaybook6 ай бұрын
Glad to hear I could help
@Wilburthewise6 ай бұрын
I was married 9 years. It ended slow....than all of a sudden. I am using videos to cope :/
@Mensdivorceplaybook6 ай бұрын
I hope they are helping
@Wilburthewise6 ай бұрын
Not sure if my coping strategy is healthy. But hey it works for me!
@Mensdivorceplaybook6 ай бұрын
Sometimes its just about survival
@user-kl9th4dm2y6 ай бұрын
It's the emotional attachment that causes all the gut-wrenching heartache. Throw in the fact that you have young kids together and it's a living nightmare. It feels like your being punished by God and all you want is to rewind the tape and do it right. The crazy part is, I was allowed to rewind the tape, over and over. Chance after chance and it got a little better but always deteriorated. Sometimes I think I never really loved her and that was the root of the whole thing. But the attachment is no joke. You could put supermodels around me everyday and I would still just think of her. My brain is wired. I want it all to end, but don't at the same time because ending the misery would be letting go of hope (that's how it feels at least).
@Mensdivorceplaybook6 ай бұрын
Hang in there man, it gets better
@ByWelly6 ай бұрын
Very similar story to mine, it's been a week and I'm at a very dark place im worried about my mental and physicalhealth. Everytime I hear my phone notification I wish it was her, it never is. How have you been distracting yourself, they say it gets better with time but one day feels like one month.
@user-kl9th4dm2y6 ай бұрын
@@ByWelly The divorce will be finalized in a couple months, she's already monkey-branched with another guy and been posting more on social media and I rarely see my kids anymore. It's been extremely challenging. I've managed to let go enough and try this low to no contact. I've noticed her disposition towards me has improved just by giving her space and not chasing or bargaining anymore. Somedays, I get on this motivational high where I tell myself I'm going to conquer the world and don't need her anymore and it's a sweet but fugitive relief. The very next day, I'll fall into the same pathetic, obsession over her and feel nauseous. I even started talking to another girl and while it has been distracting, it feels so forced and artificial. My attachment and identify are so wired that it will likely take me years. My kids were trying to get me to buy her a Valentines' Day gift the other day at the store, I nearly broke down in tears. The only advice I can honestly give is to just push through each day. If you have friends and family around, lean on them. Try to embrace the "let her go and if it's meant to be, she'll come back" mentality. Stay strong and remember there are thousands of guys like us feeling the same way. You're not alone.
@Mensdivorceplaybook6 ай бұрын
@@ByWelly Understandable that you are feeling that way. You have to just get through it, it does get better. Distract your mind if you can. I wouldn't suggest doing that with substances.
@3chunter3076 ай бұрын
I have had two Christian women dip out on me by cheating. Just got to face the facts. Women don’t love unconditionally. A piece of paper saying your married means zero to a woman. Wedding vows also mean zero to a woman. Don’t get married to these women until you have dated her 20 years.
@t-pain33436 ай бұрын
My wife kinda lost it. 36F, married 10 years with 2 very young kids. She decided the marriage was over and had an affair for 1 month with a guy, and at the same time hooking up with our 22F babysittter who is kinda ghetto, but at least she’s in college. They listen to Toosii together, KZbin a song. Recently divorced. I found all the details on her Apple Watch b/c she forgot to change the password. Saw that they both got each others first initial tattooed on their wrists. Classy. Crazy part is my ex is a CPA making in the mid 6 figures. Educated and successful woman. Good riddance to trash. I like your videos.
@Mensdivorceplaybook6 ай бұрын
Dang man, sorry to hear all that. Thanks for the kind words
@anoushiravannarvani58573 ай бұрын
I feel you.
@davelips2 ай бұрын
You dodged a bullet dude. She sounds like a child. Work on yourself, get in the gym, focus on the day to day. You'll get better and find a new life brother. 😃
@alexdamecour32882 ай бұрын
She must have felt very emotionally neglected to go off like that that's all.
@t-pain33432 ай бұрын
@@alexdamecour3288 I think it’s a mental health issue.
@EithanO-jq6hy7 ай бұрын
Hi I just started to watch you videos. They are great- thank you! I’m in the middle of a painful divorce process and I struggle emotionally a lot. It’s a very sad time for me and your videos help. Thank you!
@Mensdivorceplaybook7 ай бұрын
Thanks for commenting. Glad they are helping. It will get better
@MrFrenchHarp7 ай бұрын
If all the pain and suffering can in some bring her back and make you happy.. then I’d say suck it up and push through. But constantly remind your literal and functional mind that it’s all a COMPLETE waste of energy and time grieving for her and she DOESNT DESERVE IT. Find a couple things you really enjoy and do that with all your heart or at least MAKE yourself do them and eventually the pain will go away. Just remember. Don’t make the same mistake again. Let all the bad women whore themselves out for what they need and ruin other men’s lives until they die bitter and alone. Get smarter. Understand the game. Maybe you’ll get lucky and find a good woman… just know going in that they are very rare or already married.. and women lie very very well. Practice made them perfect. Do I sound bitter? I’m being a realist not a pessimist.
@Mensdivorceplaybook7 ай бұрын
I like to think we create our reality. I agree with most of what you wrote, but I frame the end of your comment a little differently in my head
@MrFrenchHarp7 ай бұрын
We create much of our reality and the rest is chance and fate. Sure,I love the idea of that. It works with work, dreams, aspirations, etc. But.. we cannot take responsibility for what others do. And as long as we intimately make ourselves vulnerable in the way you are connected to another human being… we are then open to being hurt. 1 million love songs can’t just be written by those who created their own pain and suffering. As men.. we will NEVER know what we cannot understand enough to control its outcome. Also. Some people only get the message when it’s blunt and direct. I’d like to know how you would have worded it differently. No sarcasm. I’m 11 months into separation and 3 weeks away from divorce. I’m happy to be wrong if it helps me.
@williampowell46447 ай бұрын
My dad passed away when I was 8. I was essentially raised by my mom & 5 sisters. Because of this, I thought I had an understanding of women. But the "sugar & spice" theme came crashing down with my last relationship. I believe this is because we had children together. My ex had a plan & it wasn't hard to execute once we had kids!! I'm currently on child support & have been since my kids were 2yo. But prior to going to court my ex moved out & took the kids while I was at work. From there, she began asking me questions such as "How much do you think you should be paying me?" It was a total mind fuck as I was providing for our family the entire time (including a 9yo son she had from a previous relationship). Needless to say, I was pissed off. I ultimately asked her why she was doing this to me & she replied "You've had it too easy in life, you're about to get what you deserve... This is what you get for Fucking with a Bitch who didn't have shit!" (HER words not mine). Then I found out how crooked the family court system is. This happened almost 12years ago. It's been 12 years of painful Co-Parenting - as I watch my child support money being spent on everything but my children. The ex now drives a Tesla, has relocated to over 4 different addresses, etc. I was 39 when we met & 41 when we had children. Today I am 53yo but I feel much older as this entire ordeal has taken & continues to take a toll on me. Honestly, I don't know if I'll ever feel the same about relationships!!! I truly empathize with all good men who made the ultimate sacrifice in marriage only to see it crumble without warning. Stay strong
@capturdevents7 ай бұрын
Thank you, brother. I am going through it now. Mentally I know it will be ok, but it hurts really bad right now.
@Mensdivorceplaybook7 ай бұрын
Glad I could help. It will get better
@Janine4665 ай бұрын
They’re plenty of dames out there just go out and get another one and quit crying boohoo.