Men who are mad at childfree women are the same men who are badmouthing on single mothers, but say nothing about the men who abandoned their children and never paid child support.

"I belong there too." 😆Looks so fun!

To be honest , I think those who are attacking us for choosing not to have kids are mainly if only women who know deep down they did make their choice based on the society standards for women. While they love their kids, deep down they know it's not what they want. And you know what they say, misery needs company.

Here's what I've realized. Many women did not want kids. So when they meet me and find out that I don't have any, they become enraged. Why? Envy and regret. I have been in a lot of female-only spaces and one of the first questions is, how many kids do you have? When you say that you don't have children, 75% of women respond, how did you manage that?! As though I got away with something by not having children. You'd be surprised at the number of women who felt obligated to have kids due to pressure from the church, their husbands, and society in general. It's pretty sad.

Perfect timing ❤ Always LOVE your videos and content. Thanks for All that you do!!!❤

As a caregiver who's taken care of the wives and mothers of millionaires, I can tell you right now it's the STATE that cares for these women--their own families are expert in avoiding 'helping' so they can put Mom on the state dole and not pay for a thing. Average wage for my 24/7 care was less than $4/hr and there are No Benefits nor days off, even for serious illness. Having kids, money or a husband is no guarantee you won't end up in state care and constantly at the mercy of lazy caseworkers who will put you in an equity owned nursing home faster than you can say 'It's cheaper, kinder and safer to keep our elderly home.'

I'm 61 and grew up hearing how the planet was going to die as there were too many people. Men, especially conservatives, said to me often they 'didn't want to pay for women's complicated plumbing' and being a survivor of abuse meant we couldn't get healthcare because of pre-existing conditions (being a woman alone counted for one big write off for insurers who didn't want to pay for pregnancies.) Most of the stand up comedians complained we were all too fat and there were too many of us, and women were constantly body shamed for being HUGE when they became pregnant. Women like me accepted these condemnations of our expensive existence and chose not to have children as a result, especially as most men, including our fathers, were incredibly upset over 'child support.'

i'm 53...married almost 30 years...childfree by choice and recently had a complete hysterectomy....i had no desire to create more housemates and exponentially more chores...i had to take care of my mother until she passed...i wouldn't wish that on anyone...

Egoistisch is het om nu een kind op de wereld te zetten

Een kind willen is eigenlijk al een vorm van egoisme, laat staan het nu nog uberhaupt op de wereld te zetten, wat doe je het kind aan!, en bovendien voelt een kind het als het ongewenst is, helaas, vroeger lieten mensen zich al beinvloeden door hun omgeving om kinderen te krijgen, terwijl ze zelf nog kind waren , want het was heel normaal om op 18-jarige leeftijd ouders te worden, of ze nu getekend waren door eigen jeugd trauma of niet, je kreeg kinderen, punt! Ik was zelf zo een kind van getraumatiseerde ouders, en absoluut geen slechte ouders hoor, maar een kind wil zich toch graag heel gewenst voelen. En geloof me , als ik had kunnen kiezen, zou ik beslist niet geboren zijn, dat heeft niet enkel hiermee te maken, maar ook met de grote leugen waarin we allen leven.

They are very practical people as well! They don't stack things that they do not need! And it's not about being fancy but rather buying useful things Also I was inspired by their ability to spend the day without checking their phones whether they're at work or even in social events! Everyone is also fit because everyone has an activity that they like to do regularly and despite them loving to live a slow life they are very fast and focused on their tasks and in their conversations.

Imagine a world where all the babies were born to families who thought i through first and chose to, undersrood what they were doing and not just ticking off lifegoals, and all those who decided not to were respected for finding other ways to evole humanity (or just be free to do what makes them happy)

Give me that yellow coat!! LOL

People that dont want to have kids should not be judged because you never know why. For example, I have a very very very hard past and all I have been doing is trying to survive, living for others that have lived on me, pleasing others, taking care of others, fixing others etc. and Ive never known who I am. Ive also had a lot of severe diseases because of my traumas and major sleeping problems. Now I have healed most of that and I am almost healthy and I sleep good. Now I feel that I want to live for myself and live the life that I always wanted to live but couldnt. Many years have been taken away from me... Ive never even been happy before, its just now that I know what safety, unconditional love and happiness feels like. And I dont feel like staying awake at nights with a baby now that I can finally sleep. I am 34. We all have different stories

That was a good video for me to eat a piece of chocolate to. Thanks.

Hey I'm child 12 years old and adopted me

When I was a kid no one ever said not to have kids. It was always promoted to have kids.. But I was like imma have kids when I get some money. I’m 36 and no money. Lol I think as a kid you think you’ll have money by a certain age then have kids.

7:49 🌯 When I saw the paved road, I instantly felt uneasy and thought about safety. It’s interesting that you mentioned feeling on edge shortly after that.

You can learn to love your children like you can learn to love yourself. No one should have children if they dont want to but it is just despicable if you are a regretful parent. As a parent it is your job to learn to love your child. It is not good to promote people with children to say they wish they had not had the child. Its bad for the children to hear this.

oh my gosh!! is this you permanent home now?

Life in france is amazing ❤

I'm a 35 year old male and i get shamed because I don't have children at all. I am happy to be child free and not have children like my cousins and other family members are doing by multiple men and women. I went through some trauma when i was a kid and i don't want my children to go through that at all, i don't want my children to take care of me when i get old, that's selfish for some parents to do that to their children. I'm just gonna work hard, live my life, travel and have fun while I'm still here.

Love it, Helena. Thanks 🙏👍✨💖

🥯 It was a nice vlog. thank you.

Thank you ❤❤😊😊 awesome glad we got to join you ❤

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This video preach the truth. Being a survivor of rape, a child of divorce and infertile myself, I have no regrets of never wanting kids and do not care what other people think. I hate when people say never say never, because NEVER means never sometimes. Like shut up, I love my fur babies! Kids are gross and annoying.

I prefer videos and books ❤

You have more than 10 years still. My Mom had me with 39.

Did your parents regret you?

People pathologize things they don’t want to understand.

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I think this is a great idea. Most people should get themselves out of the gene pool.

Bagel 🥯!!! NYC native here! With Pluto and Mercury lines here with a ton of parans… I need to get a second home a bit north! Love these vlogs.

I need to hear this! Thanks Helena! ☀️

Thank you so much for this Helena ❤ I was wondering if you could share some knowledge about learning how to be alone and enjoying your own alone time? Not needing to be dating anyone or seeking validation or attention. Thank you again❤

I marvel at this sage advice from such a young woman (many of these insights came to me late in life). Thank you. Also, I imagine that all your years in the theater prepared you in that you have a beautiful "stage presence" and know how to deliver a message and connect to your viewers. Your words have staying power. ♥

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Unwatchable garbage editing. Learn to edit or read a script.

I've known since I was in middle school that I don't want kids, an SO or marriage either. SO nice that I can be vocal about it! And I AM, believe me, espec IRL! lol.

Les frites en France sont delicieux!

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You are always right on time😊 I am starting a new venture on Dec 1st, and I was just thinking today... maybe I shouldn't do this.. thank you for always shining your light so brightly Helena. You are so appreciated , Tiff 🌞 ✨️ 💛

lol that's because he's very feminine

Thank You ! Really enjoy video's like this one , it's wonderful to see and feel your energy, passion and enthusiasm for journey of life! Thanks for all the encouragement and life lessons you share and also for being candid about your own experiences (for being a real relatable person). Also enjoying your "Paris vlogs" .

I love books and videos!

😊 ❤Thank you