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Why do I have all of the symptoms. Oh ringht I do have SPD

I currently use the app and while I've run into some proper trash bags I've also come across some really decent people on there too.

Rather than compare and contrast can someone talk about how cptsd manifests in people with autism adhd or audhd. I'm trying to find info about this and all I'm finding is compare and contrast

39:00. I actually have some insight on this. I had a brief but dramatic drinking problem. When inebriated, I would act very… neurotypical. I took a mental note, that to the neurotypical mind, or under a state that can replicate it for an autiste, being mean is just another incredibly funny. It’s like if there was an elaborate, ingenious prank, but very easy to do. You know full well that torturing this person is wicked, but you’re assured by the fact that most mammals, and almost ALL humans do this as a passtime. When I got off the drink I never did that again, but it was morbidly insightful.

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Nonvocal selfadvocacy?

People usually judge Disabled and Autistics before they know anything about them.

Not everyone can do a trade like me because of the limitations of our disabilities like for me is I have fine motor skill issues in both of m hands and I also have low muscle tone that makes lifting heavy things very difficult and/or impossible in some situations.

I’m always smoking alone. Especially in the car at home with my dark tint. It’s en escape from reality😎

If you medicate with Weed or want to see if it works, try smoking less. It takes about 15 minutes for the effect to fully set in. I suggest wait that long between small hits to find your personal sweet spot. So many ways to get bonkers high in seconds when 1 little hit from a bowl is enough for a lot of people for hours.

If you medicate with Weed or want to see if it works, try smoking less. It takes about 15 minutes for the effect to fully set in. I suggest wait that long between small hits to find your personal sweet spot. So many ways to get bonkers high in seconds when 1 little hit from a bowl is enough for a lot of people for hours.

I'm autistic and for me Citalopram just gave me horrendous anxiety over 12 weeks while working my way through the doses (20-60mg). I then tried the SNRI Venlafaxine which was an improvement on Citalopram but it did leave me a bit too "activated" and unable to fully relax and sleep properly. However, because it was an improvement on Citalopram I, wrongly, concluded it was working well for me and stuck with it for years ! After 10 years without medication I recently needed to return to it to help resolve a debilitating episode of anxiety/burnout. I did some research into medication that tends to be well regarded for treating anxiety in autistic individuals and came up with Sertraline. I requested Sertraline from my Dr and, thankfully, it's worked brilliantly for me. As expected, the anxiety was briefly made worse during the first week or so, before fully resolving by about week 10 but improving steadily from week 2. Just putting this out there in case it helps any other autistic folk.

Thomas, you have brought positivity and inspiration to me this afternoon!

My interests as a child were churches cathedrals trains dinosaurs and sharks, as a teenage I left these interests behind bar the sharks. Now at 47 these interests are now very much part of my life, especially cathedrals. I’m building a full scale replica of the world famous Notre Dame de Paris on Minecraft, which nobody is allowed to help. They can build other things but the cathedral is mine mine I tell you damnit 😂

this dude is such an insufferable narcissist.

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it really is such an odd feeling, it always throws me into a tiny spiral when i remember that im real and that everything around me is real. i often have to stop whatever im doing for a couple moments just from the shock of it. but i feel like theres also a difference between feeling real and believing youre real. because i dont constantly think that im fake, i just dont feel like whats happening is really happening if you know what im trying to say :P

Not just them being neurodiverse, but most of them are more likely to be ugly ontop of it too (No, not even average looking. I know this much because I got to see some of their faces and have gone to threads where they described their own faces as well). The fact that you won't find that many images of them online proves this. Using guys like Elliot, Jake, etc. as examples to prove otherwise is just sampling bias. *" I’m never gonna be in a relationship because I’m autistic"* If that's you in your videos, I'm also gonna say that you're sort-of unattractive as well (but still would look better than me). Leaning down might help

I like to call them snap judgements 🙌

To me it's genetic. My grandfather, my children...maybe my mother even. Intelligent though..

I experience the meltdown aura as a tunnel vision effect, too. This I thought of as the Cone of Silence. Background becomes opaque - white noise - and I care not at the time that the people there are observing me because I cannot but roll with it. It can quickly occur when distressing events trigger me on traumas past, and I often automatically verbalise these at the time or write them down soon afterward and send them out into the world while still disassociated. It is as if my body is expelling longheld poison. I do not recall right now anytime when I felt an illusion of control when this happens, only feeling helpless, threatened, emotionally overwhelmed, and alone. I will run away and hide wherever I can. My instinct is now to make it home, which is finally a safe place. Prior to that, my instinct was to escape the building. If already outside, I might collapse onto the pavement and cry. The crying becomes a marathon, where I wonder how my body manages to produce such a plethora of tears. My experience may be coloured by not having any help at these times or being assisted by those who did not understand what was happening to me either. Strangers can be so kind. I hibernate in a cocoon of shame for days or weeks afterwards and frequently suffer through migraines that debilitate me before I manage to reach the exhaustion extension stretch. Shame, both old and new, is a familiar feeling for me. I visualise washing it away in the shower every morning. Sending compassion to anybody else who lives with this. I feel sad because I do not expect anyone I know to take the time to learn about why I am so. I feel grateful that I get to understand myself at last. Thank you, Thomas. 🩶

Thank you for supporting austistic people with your hard work.

I hate being so sensitive and pain-feeling. I hate autism.

Poor neurotypicals. Life must be so hard for them.

This video is very helpful for me in fact I've listened to it 4 times today will be repeating again and again. Ideal length for me too. Learned a lot. Thank you Thomas❤

Thank you for this Thomas. I'm not autistic but, found this extremely interesting and helpful for me. I think your amazing so please keep doing what you doing if, it fulfills you❤

Thomas is it important that life coaches and or councilors are experienced working with people with autism if so, they are probably not that easy to find?

Over christmas my partners mum kept threatening me to look after my partner, he's just had an operation and had what is essentially a pacemaker for his bladder (a Neuro-Stimulator at the bottom of his spine) and is recovering from the operation. On boxing day I eventually just sat outside until they went home because she just kept threatening me. I really want to send her a message saying "when somebody threatens you to do something, does it make you want to do it?". It kept creating conflicts in my brain, her threatening me to help made me not want to help, but naturally I want to help my partner. I dont really understand what the point of her threatening me is, I do my best to help and assist him. I'm far from perfect and often misunderstood when I zone out and miss that somebody is talking to me or I miss a social queue that I should be helping.

For me i think this has largely manifested in the opposite way in my life. If someone’s lying or confident in something they shouldn’t be i hyperfixate on it and can’t let it go. It’s been hard on my social life and connecting with people in the past but honestly great for not getting manipulated because in my brain if something sounds even a little bit wrong i have a very hard time moving forward in the conversation. To be clear though I’ve definitely been manipulated by cunning / desperate and willing to stoop people 😂, I’m just not sure if that’s a symptom or coincidence

I appreciate the focus on internalized ableism and the personal strategies shared here. there’s so much value in changing our self-perception and finding community. That said, I felt like the ‘without politics’ approach left the conversation feeling a little incomplete. Ableism doesn’t exist in isolation from broader systems and structures. Addressing it often means acknowledging the political and societal factors that reinforce it. While personal growth is important, it can feel limiting when the larger forces contributing to ableism aren’t part of the discussion. Thanks for the content as always, love the channel.

The gym is a place of trauma for me -- noise, lights, sounds, smells, clothes.

I am autistic and consuming cannabis causes me to hallucinate. I hated it.

What about these stages + alexithymia? Not asking for a friend LOL

Thanks. Needed this today.

My heart. ❤️‍🩹 Your thoughts, and your calm delivery of said thoughts, matter much to me. I feel more myself with each viewing of your videos. Thank you truly, Thomas. 🖐

I have people laugh at me and smirk at me put me down when they find out I have adhd/level 2 autism its so bloody insulting and it hurts but they dont care

Thank you very much for your encouragement and comforting words. I feel that shame almost everyday now since I have been in an autistic burnout for over two years now and somehow I have the feeling the regression hasn't hit rock bottom yet and I'm still 'falling'. When or will it ever start getting better again... Due to the exhaustion and overwhelm I am almost completly isolated and most just move on because they just don't understand. Once friends are living their lives and my life feels like someone with ADHD hit the 'pause' button and got up and left and totally forgot to unpause - and I have no control - stuck in 'freeze'. So videos like yours really are soothing to my soul. Thank you for understanding and helping where you can. Oh, and I mean no disrespect to fellow ADHDers 💝 I'm an AuDHDer myself - so I've been there and done that...

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no politics zone IS politics zone. Being apolitical IS A POLITICAL CHOICE. Ablism is a political issue.

When I think of what defines Autism I always think of the scene from Matilda where she makes the TV blow up because her dad is forcing her to "be a part of the family". While the label it's self is socially constructed, the reasons behind the label is to protect people who are different being forced into conformity by the people around that person, forcing yourself to put on an act to fit others expectations of your behaviour and social interactions is essentially masking. I think there's a deeper meaning to the word "Autism" as the greek origin of that word means "Self".

Thank you for sharing. I can relate to this. I have some long and short stories. I try to stay positive and be around those that care and love me for me. I think the true friends will usually come and stay and I just focus on those.

This resonated greatly thank you so much :)!

Amazing video, thank you!

I was just trying to work out why my brain categorized walking on my tip toes as a never-do-that-again thing as a kid. Because I was never berated or bullied for it. My dad just asked with curiosity if I /could/ walk with my heels on the ground, because walking on your toes was apparently an autistic thing, and just that little bit of feedback told my brain, “look, you’re doing it wrong. Don’t do it that way.” So I stopped, because I’d learned toe walking wasn’t “normal.” And another bit of my mask was built. And at 5 years old, I already had internalized the ableist belief that there is one normal way to do things, and everyone who can’t just must not be able to help it, how sad and unfortunate; and if you can help it, you obviously should. 😔

Merry Christmas 🎄 🎁

Thomas Henley, posting important things on Christmas. Love it. This is really good and definitely hits home.

lots to chew on. worth saying, and well said. thank you.

Rates of ptsd, cptsd among us? Anybody got credible numbers?