What if a man wears most of those hats in the home?

This was helpful. Thanks…

Good information here.

I'm currently reading your book, "The Audacity of Marriage" and I'd like to know where you got your certification as I am interested in becoming a certified marriage and family life coach. I have a degree as a MFT but am not licensed and after working as an intern and as a counselor, I'm ready to make the necessary step into becoming a coach instead of a therapist.

excellent info we will be watching this one together

My friend called me a boomer for saying this.

Thank you for this. So what happens when you have a partner that don’t understand the spacing thing and h love my space and I love taking a trip away from everyone and my partner does not understand that. Yes I love traveling and I want my partner to miss me and vice versa

They weren’t terrified or scared when they were cheating

You can't stop someone from being unfaithful,they can only stop themselves.

Wait did the husband just say he is the innocent party and then say his wife apologized to him? They are saying everything is just beautiful after three days ..

Exactly that is my wife. Always criticizing me her husband.

Honestly, first step is to file for child support for your kids together. Next, get a DNA test.

Puro pedo’

IDK, I’m deeply disappointed in this entire message. This entire thing is just a self justification message for her decision that she knew went against God’s design and then to reference and twist Scripture is just wrong. everything Tracy is speaking of just sounds like selfishness to me. My cup isn’t filled by my wife alone, it’s filled by Jesus first and foremost. A lot of women just use that as an excuse to seek self gratification and validation. This also sounds like an endorsement for unbiblical divorces. Falling out of love and unmet needs aren’t biblical grounds for divorce so yes it is a sin, one committed willfully and one you are endorsing others to commit. Sin on top of sin. So when does self care morph into selfishness? If Jesus was standing in front of you and you told him “my needs aren’t being met and if I stay in this marriage I will die”…..what would he tell you? Would he say to to take self care and leave your marriage? No, I don’t think he would, let me rephrase….everything written in the Word of God and spoken by The living Word of God speaks against this. Jesus was the ultimate advocate for marriage. If your decision goes against the Will of our Father, you can guarantee it’s rooted in the flesh and leads to death. Jesus himself said that to follow him you have to die to yourself. There are absolutely no fruits of the Spirit to be found in this message.

"But his gay"......thats wat they'll tell you

What about a husband who doesn’t talk and is quiet in a marriage. I’m going through that right now how do I deal with that.

Not gonna lie.. I miss Hasani by himself lol.. 💯

My wife simply said to me, I didn’t mean to hurt you. That one statement was all she contributed to the recovery process. Obviously, we divorced.

How do you have the successful conversations and resolve the issue?

Feelings are NOT facts.

This was beautiful. Thank you so much. Love it.

Where are you please I need your help

It's hard to move forward, when they won't give you closure.

If I feel I give in to his need of not feeling lonely and affectionate and I feel like I'm validating his controlling behavior should I do it anyway to help him not feel alone and not wanted? Id.

My husband has been unfaithful and he is not being honest about 37 years married

What sucks is when the shower Our shower is the trigger. Even though we moved into a new home, I still get triggered in the shower sometimes. But I just close my eyes for a few seconds, say, a prayer, shake it off and continue on

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I wish my man could understand that 😔

This goes for whether the person who cheated was the wife or husband. Even if the child is the innocent one, the betrayed spouse should not be the one who has to suffer due to having the child around.

Hello Mr. Pettiford, Two years ago, I discovered my wife's long-term affair with a former boyfriend. The disclosure phase felt like true hell, marked by the four horsemen of the apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Your videos have given me hope to stay and work on rebuilding our marriage. We find your words of wisdom to be genuine and inspiring for the journey ahead. I found your comment on providing proper closure to end the affair a crucial part of the recovery journey. My wife seems uneasy about writing a "Breakup Letter". She doesn't feel that a Breakup Letter is necessary because she ghosted the AP when I discovered the affair two years ago. I expressed how important it is for us both to focus on rebuilding trust and moving forward. I've been thinking about what you think about this we can both heal from this, and it might help if we set clear boundaries with the other person. I emphasized that it's about creating a safe space for us to work on our relationship. I am interested in hearing your thoughts on this matter. Best regards, Fidelis

Poor audio 👎🏼

After D Day there will no longer be any form of sex!

The Mistress could end up as the new Stepmother for the children

Husband's mistress could be the wife's relative (Mother, Sister or Daughter)

On D-day, when a betrayed spouse catches her cheating spouse and his affair partner together in the same place (the hotel), the injured spouse's visceral response is to attack the affair partner not the spouse because she knows she will be able to address her unfaithful spouse at a later time. Remember, he has to go home at some point in the near future. The betrayed feels that she must seize the opportunity with the affair partner, while she has it. She may never see the affair partner ever again in life, even though the affair partner will always be an unwanted memory and/or force in her life. As far as the cheating husband is concerned, his a$$ whipping can be done at a later time unless he decides to intervene and try to protect the affair partner at the time of her beat down. In this case he will get what's coming to him while defending his whore.

Can you please help us tho?

❤i love your message I really need this

Please don’t stop what doing regardless of likes and views the small some of us still need y’all’s voice 💪🏾💪🏾💯💯Keep pushing for us in or coming out of the dark !!😘💜🤗

This is so RICH and invaluable to a pillar (communication) I consider one of the most important to a long standing successful marriage. Thank you servant of God

Is this still available?

I never dreamed of being a maid . I never dreamed of staying at home and not having a career. I also dreamed of having an equal partnership, who works together in love for the goals of the family. I never dreamed of being a kept woman, that was never my goal. Just an equal partnership where we use our skills and abilities for the success of the family.

I never dreamed of just serving my husband and kids. I dreamed of loving and being loved, loving each other. I dreamed of having a partnership. If we both work outside of the home we should both work inside of the home. Whatever our skills are we should use those in the marriage to reach the goal of the family. I dreamed of being in a loving relationship not of being in a dictatorship.If the man isn’t putting in as much work as a woman it’s going to be an issue. Also I didn’t become a licensed clinical social worker to be a stay at home wife. There’s a season for everything, but if your partner doesn’t hear or care what you’re saying how can you go forward?

Wanted to watch this but the music is insane and this feels like one giant commercial. Good luck.

They resent us because they want to be free

If you can’t bust her face, don’t bother LOL just know that you’re not the one who will live in self loathe and guilt throughout your life especially if they didn’t end up together. You didn’t break a family. Let them sit with that. They’ll lie anyway. They both have and always will.

Hey Dee that's family right there I grew up with her older Brother's V and E!🙏🏾🙌🏾

Women want the wedding not the marriage.

HASANI.

Am 42 and 25 yrs ago all I wanted was to be a mom and a wife! And I wish it could be like that but living cost pushed me to work!

Can we get a part two with the rest of the questions on his list please? My husband and I need every bit of this! Everything discussed applied to the issues we are facing in our marriage! Thank you both for your love, dedication and obedience to God because couples need this!