Hi there, I am currently on a on and off relationship due to me breaking my partners trust. I did at the time we were not together like committed. We were fwb but I made the decision or deal breaker for us was that we could not talk or have sex with anyone else. We did some couple things but without the commitment because I was scared. I was avoidantly attached to my partner at the time and I also lost v card to him. He is 5 years older than me and I met him when I was turning 19. I was so stupid and ego centric, and selfish. I didn’t realize what I had and hurt my partner, I ended up getting into a actual relationship but it was all fake because I thought it would be easier and it was but I didn’t like or even love the other guy. We only dated for a month because I wanted to test things and that person wanted to rush things. 2 months passed by and my partner that was not my partner came back and I remember being so happy. I did like him a lot, as I got to learn more without me being a bitch. I got to fall madly in love with him. I always wanted him things were just so hard before. But I didn’t tell him about the guy I committed to for a month and he found out by going through my phone. When going through my phone he found about that relationship and my ego centric, bitch self. I am very ashamed of that person and I did a couple things to regain his trust. I deleted my Snapchat, I stopped talking to family members, but he still hold on to the past and brings it up and tells me why he’s even here with me. I love him so much and I know he loves me but I just don’t think he wants me. I don’t know what to do. I wanted some guidance on the situation

Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.

I never knew how to communicate and listen i would always go mute and just assume time would fix it but it wont my partner lost trust in me because i promised to talk and never did because i was scared to accept my own problems and now that i have truly found who i need to be and wanna talk about thi gs she is scared that im just saying i wanna fight for us to be manipulative and not let her go anywhere else.. which i understand why she feels how she does i struggled with ym feelings and being a good partner due to the home i grew up in but i genuinely want this girl to see that im a new me and we can take the life step that we always wanted together ans she can trust im not who i was im who i should be. Thank you for the video it helped put alot into persepctive

I want to keep bringing it up. They need it drilled in their mind that they betrayed me. Sucks when it’s a marriage because you can just leave a girlfriend. Can’t just leave a marriage.

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I admire your dedication to relationship/emotional repair. Can I share my story about a manager I've lost patience for and hear your advice?

“Everything about my partner irritates me.” Dude. *Break. Up.*

Great… but impossible to do with people with avoidant attachment… Very sad

Thank you so much for this, you made us not feel shame for the realization about this 😢

Your first step sounds like the end goal. Honest question, is it that easy for others?

Fake it until you make it must be the worst advice I’ve ever heard. Example, what happens with a fake it until you make it attitude at work, school, religion or any other aspect in life? You’re not really living. I came here because I’ve been going through something for a long time now but this isn’t encouraging at all. I’m not knocking this video for anyone else (it may help) but this genuinely seems like a bad ideas.

I was the one who broke trust with a friend, I want to do better Thanks for the video

Wow this is exactly what I needed to here thank you 🙏🏻

My colleagues betrayed me but never apologized😡😡😡😡😡😡

But I do hope that after the pandemic, we can all get back to giving each other the good service we've come to expect. Let's all try to improve a little. I'll do my part too.

I'm not sure if that's that best way to come together after a big conflict, especially when they were mean.

If a person is not willing to try and work it out / repair the relationship. They don’t want the relationship anymore. People work for what they want.

This speaker is assuming that everyone is of good will. The problem is that many people are not - their motives are not to have a resolution until they have "won" unconditionally. Sometimes it's almost pathological and they will play the victim and that's their way of "winning." They will not take responsibility for their behavior. For example, you wish them to change some behavior and within a half hour, they have manipulated the conversation so the issue becomes their victimhood rather than addressing the original problem. No amount of effort on your part can convince them to admit responsibility.

When is it too soon, and when is it too late to apologize? I need to apologize to people i hurt unintentional. And do i do it in person or in a message? Im so lost.. I know what i must do, but dont when or how to start.

Thank you, that's well said and something I needed now.❤ I would add on, that after unhooking ourselves, we need to reassess how to continue the relationship, if at all, knowing what we know now about them. If there is no change in behaviour, we need to change ours, by changing how much we let them into our lives.

My wife likes to punish me by not talking to me for five or six days. She’s not talking to me because there were sand in my socks and unfortunately, some got on the bed. We’ve had thereby, she doesn’t get better

Very helpful. I needed this. I would like to try it the next time I have a conflict

I hate my husband. It is not a phase. But we are stuck together due to finances & kids. I literally cannot stand even being near him. Nothing but disrespect from him for YEARS and I have zero respect for him now.

How to always get everything that you always really wanted

thanks for this important "refreshger course" on a very important part of being a complete human.

these little talks have made a big impact on my gf and i .. We've gone from on the way out to reconnecting and heading back in the right direction

never knew that i needed this. thankyou so much 🩶

My Dad was Asperger's so talk about an emotional desert. He did not see life in color... at all . I lost my cat at 13 and he joked about it. Just a dumbass

Emotions goes better when you grow in a traditional big family. When the comunity shares real activities and solve problems, then emotions are just a normal warning to you not the center of your life. Remember emotions are temporal.

Very thoughtful advice, thank you

Just remember, if you criticize the president of Russia, you may end up in jail...or, like many of his opponents...in the ground.. ok? Understand? Of course, if you like the ground, you can criticize as much as you want...especially on a street corner, with signs, etc...

A communication coach says “super” 4 times in a row. A little disconcerting.

What if they have been told to stop or you were leaving then they do this 3 more times? (10 times total) I sound so stupid for staying but I care about them.. 14 years

Stay away from these people.

Terrible advice

Hi Stacy, thanks for posting this, i understand your point to lean on another value and to let things go so you're not harming yourself by staying annoyed or triggered, but fof example if there's many dishes in the sink in the morning and as you said, you initially viewed that as inconsiderate, would it not be better to address this to the other person? Or is it better to just change how you are and keep letting things go?

I can't express my feelings to my man in words how much I care nd love him...idk why I think he will think. I m lying or only saying filmy dailog.....but I know he will believe me nd get happy...but have prblm in showing love to my loved once...nd they think I'm emotionless

My car was in the shop. My brother was dying. I asked for a ride to go to him. Nobody would help me. That hurt so much. He died alone because everyone made an excuse why they couldn't help...or just didnt respond. I have always gone out of my way to help anyone I could. How do you come to terms with that?

No one likes me so I just stay away from people.

Didnt need long to see that this was in fact not about why but rather how to feel

Thank you, this is very useful advice. I reacted the way you did, really upsetting

Going through this now. It's just mind boggling as I've never done anything to this woman.

If someone doesn't like you, it's their loss.

Thanks for sharing ❤

We are all very heavily-conditioned from early childhood to internalize that to be wrong/make a mistake equates to being a "bad" person.

Great advice, thank you so much! I'll be sure to focus on one specific thing next time😇

Definitely a huge part of the work force dynamic......Sadly the Supervisors actually love these kind of people....

I can’t stand my husband because he’s just too comfortable with himself…he doesn’t want to explore or look for ways to improve himself career wise, educational wise, he gives me false promises, all he does is kiss me and cuddle and f**k!! Like there’s so much more out of life! I feel like a broken record cause I tell him all the time like he’s the most annoying person to be around. He’s selfish and inconsiderate I don’t respect him as a man I just want to be away from him

Thank you 🖤

Tomorrow I am traveling to another city for the 3rd marriage of my dad 😂 I get really anxious when I have to meet my relatives from my father side, I don't like them