If stuff on screen:Single player gaming (preferable retro) is way better spend time compared to twitter/insta etc i found. Youll get immersed

So you do actually have people that like you..

i like the engine temp/sensor analogy. good one

You have no idea why they didn’t respond. Don’t jump to conclusions.

I have a friend that you MUST respond and im really pissed out becouse of it. Do I really need to respond to EVERY GOD DAMM word you say there is a reson seen exists.

Yours is a useful message. But i have one friend who really is so busy and i still value him so so much. He is 30 percent responsive to my texts but when we are present together he is sooo there for me and i deeply value him. Im totally ok with his not writing back. I also have tons more time than most people. I don't have to work. Ive never met anyone who can give me as much as i might want

This strategy probably operates on personality, though. Humans are fundamentally social beings. We adapted that way a long time ago. People like you and I (who don't need much social contact and prefer genuine over performative interactions,) are probably unusual / weird in terms of our personality traits. That or we are recovering from / adapting to trauma we had earlier in life. If your average schmoe goes and focuses on themselves or goes camping in the woods for two or three months, they're probably not going to fare as well as we would. I do agree that people need to be less insecure and have less desire for the attention of people who don't respect or value them. And maybe pulling away from society for a time is part of building one's self-worth. But these are baby-step type things. If they detach too far too quickly, many people will just spiral into depression. Getting in the gym and changing one's social group might work better for those people who really feel isolated and under-valued. If you have the advantage of being an extrovert and you were fairly well socialized at one point, there's no reason to think that wouldn't help. More importantly though, those people should all get completely off social media. That is the main thing that is making them sad and unable to connect with the people around them. The less time you spend on social media, the better your mental health and your life overall will be.

I think this is might be making things seem too black and white. If you reach out to someone multiple times and it’s not going anywhere, definitely move on. But someone just not getting back to you as quick as you’d like doesn’t always mean they don’t value you though. It’s their life and you’re just in it and vice versa. It’s not always that deep. Your friend might just be going through something unrelated to you and doesn’t want to talk, that doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. Idk if that made sense. All Imm saying is that there’s more to it than “they don’t talk to you = they don’t value you”

Needed to hear this. Living in delusion in the long run is more painful than living in reality!

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i deleted all my socials (youtube doesn’t count for me) back in november when the election happened and i’ve never felt better. i had that FOMO for a week or two but i feel so free. 99% of my “friends” on instagram or tiktok didn’t talk to me or respond at all. they were all acquaintances. my true friends have my phone number, and i don’t need social media. the world is falling apart, but i needed to focus on myself and make sure that i don’t fall apart myself. if you feel like you need to delete social media, do it. we as humans have lived for so long without social media. you got this

I simply learned to let people go. Now I've got no friends, only myself. I've got some people who dislike me and I dislike them. I know I'm probably talked about a lot due to my past of being an alcoholic and would literally go to every party and place I was invited too. I would end up very drunk. Even shared a house with people where it's like a shared accommodation, but everybody get there own space with big doors and locks. Most of the time we where all friends, but there were some fights. One guy was growing marijuana in his place we all agreed it would be best not to tell anybody and only let "loyal friends see the plantation." But somehow word did get out, and a armed gang smashed through the main door armed with machetes while I was out having a good time in town I missed all the action.

Thanks needed this right now David

I get more excited when I visit places in video games as opposed to in real life.

Just time to move on, that's all. Love your wisdom David, Thank you

Well adults communicate and say “I appreciate your message/interest but I’m not available to speak at this time.” It’s just common decency

🙏🏼💚✊🏼Keep On Keepin' On..〰️ ('People Are Bastards'..Mostly)😉

Don't let those empty people try and interfere with your mind. Just live your life and leave them all behind. ~ Black Sabbath (1972)

If were not family and they never respond couple days i'm sure they read the message then i will block them and never contact them again delete everything idc time to move on

Some of us have NO PEOPLE. 🥲

I like your idea to respond to a non responsive contact by engaging in creating something because that is a positive win for the creator rather than going down the path of self doubt.

There is value in every person you meet and communicate with. Good and bad interactions carry the same value and make you better and even wiser. You carry these experiences to the next door. Opened or closed you knock and get response. No response is still a response. You learn from the interaction at the door step. Maybe you'll be invited in or the door slammed in your face. The closed doors don't want engagement, move on to the next door.

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Agree. If someone is always ‘busy’ to respond, they are not prioritising you so it doesn’t make sense to insist. Reciprocity is very important. I would be giving though ‘the possibility of the doubt’ in case that person is struggling with mental, emotional or physical issues. In that case, I would send messages of support ‘I care about you and I am here in case you need to talk’. Not reciprocity is necessary there.

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For me, it is more of being hated for no reason in whatever setting that im in, be it school or just in society in general

I generate a creative income. Picking valuable products from the national forest. With permits.

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Love this so much! I feel like I spent a lot of my early twenties trying to do all these things to make sure I don't regret doing them and don't get me wrong I'm so happy I did because now I don't need to think what if but like you said whatever you do you'll have regrets and there isn't one good way to live life its enjoying what you have and where you're at :)

I healed my traumatized home and parents with myself ( almost). Then decided to travel the world gradually at the age of 32

@9:19 Lol I am a tree surgeon

You mentioned "How do I spontaneously make money without a 9-5?" but I'm not clear as to what that was. Did you do things like 'work away'? Thanks :)