I broke up with him unexpectedly, after he said he was not ready for a commitment or responsibility or he had space for me at this time. He referred to me as his friend or company and was perfectly ok having me on the weekends, so i just pulled the plugged 😢

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This is soooo good. As a FA, I seriously need these tools. Thank you. 🙏🏾

Everything you said applies and happened to me. All of it makes sense now. And still, the absolute suddenness and blindsidedness of her ghosting me, haunts me. Lack of closure is the most tormenting cruel action you can do to a human, shy of physical abuse.

Once a DA leaves a relationship they’re just done. I’m so glad you provide this information

In the end, they will never find happiness, even when in a relationship. Take comfort in knowing you will find happiness. It will happen.

I thought it was reading other people emotions

Been in NO PROGRESS & NO WAY TO GO path 8 days now Have discussed a lot Compromise over compromise Telling him this m that, begging him to communicate and hold his hands, hug, see thru his eyes, many many times.... I don't even understand I didn't even angry I'm telling him that I'm upset that he didn't even recognize the clues of our quality time... After watching movies and he's just jumped into KZbin video (again) 😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓😓 4 days after I'm trying to ask n try to get close, but he's totally giving 'doesn't matter' attitude He's just doing his own stuff I found this video Today is my 8th day, sleeping in another room n don't want to meet him It's always, me, who have to come forward Start the conversation and slowly guide him join the dots, and explain carefully... Everything I'm tired n i'm mixed up now

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Nope. Disagree. If your woman, were to challenge or confront you in some way about your relationship..? About something you feel differently and strongly about? Yes, you prepare for battle with facts and reasoning that can be articulated without aggression or argument. Of course, her facts and reasoning may very well redirect you to a shared perspective. Regardless, women can be VERY good at manipulating and antagonizing men. It's THEIR SHEILD! Bottom line, if you allow women to dominate challenging discussions..., you also empower them to hen peck.. The result? They end up losing respect for you.

I stopped insisting i started prioritizing her needs. i was drained lost any power in the dynamic becouse of the unhealthy give and take. I had times guving her 2-3 week phisical space and 15 mins a day calls - i was still "needy" when after the second week i wwanted to see her and get my needs met aswell. So idk

Coach, I appreciate this video, I think I’ve seen it a couple of times, but only now some 4 1/2 months after my ex blindsided me with a break up discard text. Am I in a spot where I can appreciate much of which you have talked about. I think what’s most clear to me, is the level of deep trauma that occurs when something so shocking happens without any kind of inkling or notice or tip off. it’s not just a break up that you were recovering from, it’s deep and lasting trauma and abuse. Like a lot of traumatic experiences, this sort of trauma lit on fire some abandonment issues I had, but I thought were long gone, and it just makes everything exponentially worse. The biggest challenge I have and have had is getting my arms around the fact that the person that I was so nuts about and thought I knew so well, was capable of doing something so heartless and traumatizing. I didn’t know anything about avoidants, I sure have learned a lot in the last four months, especially about red flags. Thanks for the great video you

Red flag. How was their childhood. My girl was raped by a family member at 5 years old till she was 10. Her parents (korean) blamed n shamed her. It all makes sense now. I wish i knew then what i know today. Damn, I never loved anybody as much as I loved her. Im being ghosted as i write, 6 weeks and counting, absolute silence from her. Worst pain ive ever experienced by far.

I went through this as the receiving side. I went through it twice. It’s finally got to a point that is manageable and not painful.

Hello relationship coach i have questions i what know about affairs can you answer them turth full please. 1 I have question for you. What happen if i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating plus does class emotional affair and my and Stephen history and past dating turn into emontinal cheating or not if i was dating Morgan? Is it emotional cheating or not? 2 can i have affair or cheat without never never never having no sex? 3 Does this counts as emotional affair? But keep in mind me and Morgan and Stephen have special needs i feel it not cheating we all got special needs i know it will never never having sex in my affair not never never so does sill counts as infidelity but only physical is hugging and holding hands no sex. It non sexual affair just emotional and physical affair without sex 1 texting Stephen behind Morgan back 2 meeting with stephen behind morgan back 3 laughing with Stephen 4 watching films with stephen behind morgan back 5 specking to Stephen on phone behind morgan back 6 hiding texts and deleting texts behind morgan back 7 telling Stephen i love him and miss him and i can't holding hands with him and watch my and favourite movie dinsey high school musical that got Zac efron and vanessa Hudgens in it.? 8 getting high school musical balloons with stephen? Does this counts as emontinal affair?

Thank you Coach Daniel! 🙏

Thanks great information 🙏🏼

I came to a lot of these realizations in the last few weeks. There was always something off about her. I couldn't put my finger on it. I saw the signs but didn't know they where signs, i thought it was just her

The problem is by the time most of us find this the AV ex already would have discarded us, so they never saw themselves "in a relationship with us" despite being with us for almost a year etc. So we can't really say "part of being in a realtionship with me" etc cause they dont see it that way

i’m crying right now because he keeps singing songs when i’m mad… my dad used to do that to me when i would cry or get mad/fight with him. it makes me panic and get so furious and frustrated and angry. i’m trying to let it go, but he does it constantly during fights and stuff, and it’s not a cute thing. it’s to annoying me, and i’ve asked him constantly to stop. i don’t know what to do..

Love this

Great video. Thank you!

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Boat owners will tell you the happiest two days of their lives is the day of purchase and the day they get rid of the boat. Having a partner is like this.

Honesty is preferred.

Both good and bad.

Narc can mean 2 VERY different things 😂

Sometimes the truth hurts but it is always better to be honest than kind when asked. Also to lie means you will have to carry that burden of the lie just for someone else to not feel hurt. And that is not fair to you. So tell the truth and if it hurts their feelings, well oh well, they can deal with it or choose not to deal with it. Either way now that burden is on their shoulders and not yours.

These avoidants are very unbalanced, they are extremist !

Yes! I will co-create my next relationship. Good information.

True.

That's real nice of you to admit. Even though you don't seem like the type of man to interrupt women more. Although that's probably why you admitted it. 😊

Exactly.

They don't just break up with you. They take it to a whole nother level. You are discarded and that is a type of trauma that I don't think it's acknowledged enough

So spot on with everything except the narcissistic abuse - although I had helped him to recover from his. The biggest ah-ha was the break up when circumstances change. Three years in there had been so many shared fun interests and much mutual practical support until an old girlfriend contacted him after 6 years. Bam! Thank you for such an insightful commentary.

Yeah ur spot on with the advice. U know them well. Good stuff. Can I ask, how come it’s hard to cut cord with them? Maybe the challenge is what I like! Then I think nah I’ve had guys bend over backwards and go to the end of the world for me to get it right! Why did I not like this? Lol. Try tell me this one. If I get a dismissive drunk will they talk? Lol .

I can adapt to all attachments, I don’t see y anyone else can’t!

Nothing works lol. Why don’t they just heal themselves. Too much work and u get crumbs in return. I just annilated one with heavy critique and a wake up call. Fingers crossed it does the job healing him. I’m sure it will… I believe they choose to be this way. It’s a lifestyle choice…communication is the key but when u r talking to a wall u got to smash that wall with direct concise hard words that make them remunerate over their actions. Lol sorry but I’m tired of fixing men! Is there any men that are already fixed out here. It’s not my job to fix people of accommodate there show! They know what to do they just don’t want to!

Thank you very much for this video. It opens my eyes to the anxious-avoidant clash. I was dating a classic avoidant person for one year, despite a significant geographical distance. I didn't know he had an avoidant attachment style, even though he mentioned it in the beginning. I didn't realize how dangerous it could be. He ended our relationship a few weeks ago after getting a new job and new home. He wanted to be with someone closer to him and didn't believe it could be me. This triggered my abandonment trauma core, and it was totally unexpected. Before that, everything between us was perfect. We traveled the world and stayed in touch every day for one year. When I asked for more clarity in our relationship and future perspective, he withdrew. It was, as you described, an anxious-avoidant, trauma-bonded relationship, where I felt in the first hour a "particular connection" to a person I barely knew. It was addiction-like, even if I never showed it to him. I am asking myself if it is so banal that I am drawn to people with whom I can experience failure, mistaking it for love and something "super special". But what I actually need is only a trigger to feel insecurity and endure the pain of loss. It is quite disappointing to realize that I can feel "love" only when someone represents a danger. It feels like a never-ending story with myself chasing the darkness. By the way, I look amazing, have the best job, and the best friends ever :) How to get out of that addiction to love the pain? Thank you.

They get married for economic security and for children. That's it. She doesn't want a husband. She wants an instrument.

Talking and telling doesn't matter. Why? Cluster-B personality disorders on the raise (borderline, narcs, anti socials, histrionics)... you won't recognize what you get into unless it is too late or unless you made the experience like I or other victims did. Check the German psychologist called Marcus Jähn to find out what is about to come in the future (it'll get worse).

You’re still stuck, you just haven’t figured that out yet.

I'm confused about what his responsibility was, except to walk away when she didn't want to do any of those positive things... don't be a doormat for bad behavior.

Being good at talking to the wall, doesn't make you a bridge to anything.

Very difficult relationships

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Awesome advice thanks hope you have an even more beautiful day

To help me move on and get over him was accepting that this is a disorder. I don’t want to be burdened with someone who is ill. I’m not looking to take care of someone during my best years.

I have NO SUPPORT system!! My passion in life was sex with him!!..Throughout my life he came back 4 times.. I have no more time ..66 now😢