How to Get Over a Breakup from an Avoidant Partner

Just Broke Up With An Avoidant? Here's What You NEED To Know (Avoidant Attachment Breakup Guide)
If you had a relationship with an avoidant partner and they broke up with you, you know there are some unique challenges to navigating that breakup. It can be really hurtful and shocking. This video is for you!
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[@djpdyson]

They don't just break up with you. They take it to a whole nother level. You are discarded and that is a type of trauma that I don't think it's acknowledged enough

[@patriciaanderson7903]

Yes!!

[@Flufero23]

I was in a four-year relationship/situationship with my ex FA. After expressing deep feelings for me, he began a slow fade. Eventually, eight months ago he monkey branched to another, aided by her family. Such a people pleaser. He even wanted to remain friends. Nope!! I should have recognized and acknowledged the red flags, but I didn't . Since I learned early on he was uncomfortable talking about feelings, I let it go. I am 70% secure and 30% FA myself, so I had no problem giving him his space. I have family, friends, activities, A life of my own. Although I felt hurt, betrayed, and disrespected, I have recovered. A discussion and mutual parting would have left the door open to at least remain on friendly terms, if not actual friends. I knew nothing of attachment theory at the time. So sad. He is really a decent guy. I will be more careful in the future since I know the signs. Never again!

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[@gayleneflower398]

Same 5 yr r/s , asked to be friends, have my own life-but felt bad for him. I’m bitter..I felt used and what is worse, he used MY precious time & effort…never again, left me jaded

[@gayleneflower398]

Yes TRAMA BOND

[@northshorelight35]

To help me move on and get over him was accepting that this is a disorder. I don’t want to be burdened with someone who is ill. I’m not looking to take care of someone during my best years.

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[@walkertranger5746]

What if he was in traffic accident and became disabled . That’s a mental incident as well. You walk away cause you don’t want to be burdened ?

[@Sai3495]

I came to a lot of these realizations in the last few weeks. There was always something off about her. I couldn't put my finger on it. I saw the signs but didn't know they where signs, i thought it was just her

[@karltan9461]

SAME bro. My gut was firing off the entire time. I just didnt know what i was dealing with yet

[@LorenaBerrenbaum]

I told my x please work on yourself because your hurtling people as much as your hurtling yourself, he answered, ' i know but thats not easy' Ok bye!😂😂

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[@victorkroud3642]

That’s the Same thing I heard.

[@nickolwilson2212]

I said this & he told me not to tell him how to have relationships.

[@blessedbee186]

They r weak and not emotionally mature

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[@krisreynolds9490]

Very true. But weak from the perspective of actually doing the self reflection, accepting it and doing the work. They’d rather run to save themselves from the fear of being hurt and destroy that persons heart instead

[@gregorystinette8271]

Very difficult relationships

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[@PhilipLoader]

Understatement.

[@arlisward2788]

Coach, your positive approach is so refreshing! It’s helpful to see the good times and connection, as well as the lessons as a gift. If we allow, our past relationship with a DA will inspire us to be a better person and have a brighter future. Thank

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[@faithburringtonjones1337]

Geeezzz what a ride! You hit everything on the mark! Wow how weird it all is - however, I hung in there for practically 8 years. He said it was the best relationship he has ever had. Now I really get it! I am a psychotherapist and there were parts of our relationship that were extraordinarily amazing. I didn't want that part to end. It was like he was one personality in bed/intimacy/safety/gentleness/contentment then as soon as it shifted into regular day to day tasks and things we had to do he became indifferent, distant but not in a mean way which made it really confusing. Yeah definitely aspects were addictive our sensuality was exceptional yet the contrast was so disorienting in a way. Strangely I took it on as a Mindfulness practice; patience practice and Radical Acceptance practice; I really miss him! 2 months now - all the reaching out has been from me (of course). Wanting it to end with a gentleness and kindness that our relationship deserved. Thanks for being such an sincere and authentic human mentoring us through this! Many Blessings!

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[@desertdog8006]

Wow ... My experience too. I have one Question. Are they genuine when both of you together or are they just amazing lovers or even actors ? I often wonder but sure feels genuine to me. Looks straight into my eyes and kisses so passionately. That just kills me but learned to accept to polar opposite behaviours and attitude.

[@desertdog8006]

Like mine. Totally compartMENTAL

[@lann7669]

Wow the way you describe his different behavior sounds so similar to my experience. He made the most romantic and affectionate gestures, was always extremely tender and giving in intimacy, then in other situations he would just seem cold, distant, indifferent. And very selfish most of the time. Like he was two totally different people. After ten months of dating he told me he couldn't offer commitment because he never had any feelings for me. And that he never had feelings for anyone in the past 10 years after his best relationship ended (he was the one who ended it btw). He acted like I shouldn't be upset because it's no big deal. I was so shocked and hurt. I went into no contact, but every day feels like torture.

[@patriciaanderson7903]

Thanks for sharing this faith burrington. I can relate to what you wrote!!

[@kathirodden6109]

It’s like the narcissist gets off Scott free!

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[@syedbukhari6578]

This video was so relatable. Thank you!

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[@Woowoo_25]

Thanks great information 🙏🏼

[@patriciaanderson7903]

Thank you Coach Daniel! 🙏

[@sarahsurrender11]

Great content ❤

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[@ClancySayce]

So spot on with everything except the narcissistic abuse - although I had helped him to recover from his. The biggest ah-ha was the break up when circumstances change. Three years in there had been so many shared fun interests and much mutual practical support until an old girlfriend contacted him after 6 years. Bam! Thank you for such an insightful commentary.

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[@sheliasmith2884]

Thank you im going through the healing process now 2 year relationship on and off i even met his family.

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[@l0uann3]

I left my avoidant. After one month of no contact he starts sending messages as if nothing happened

[@guywithahelmet9597]

Shit I haven’t heard from my ex haha doubt I will

[@l0uann3]

@@guywithahelmet9597 consider yourself lucky

[@guywithahelmet9597]

@@l0uann3 what I keep reading haha

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[@BratFyre]

Part of me hopes mine will...the other part thinks I shouldn't let them back in my life again after what they've done.

[@SB-fk8fm]

I was avoidant because I was split. I forget people. My memory is shot because I had dissociative amnesia. lol the DA I met and went in this goose chase -chasing a ghost which was me. He mirrored me back to me. It sucked. But led to my own healing and getting my memeories back from the abuse in childhood. It’s really worse than you all think. It’s best to see them split and they forget you. I do and did and still do. I realized it’s actually the best approach and yes I don’t date. I don’t at all put myself out there because I will leave. Deactivation is the splitting. We forget you. Completely.

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[@gayleneflower398]

Maybe you can get therapy? It’s so sad to hear you are so unhappy.

[@PhilipLoader]

The gradual loss of memorie baffled and confused me. I pretended as if I couldn't see it. My birthday was completely forgotten about until I casually mentioned something about it. Then 2 weeks later I had a phone call replete with singing happybirthday and a new birthrate. Really confusing.

[@worldofcats9611]

Oh no! 😢

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[@sakutaro3musik486]

i gave him the space he wanted and he cheated on me with another person for months so why is no one talking about that and how to see the signs. I saw signs but all these youtuber like you tell me they just "deactivate" so I gave him space and didn´t mind if he went 2 weeks without writing and even 6 months without meeting in real life so could you make videos about how to see when it is space and deactivation and when it is more like over and they are cheating on you?

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[@jessd956]

From what Thais Gibson has observed, FAs are the most likely to cheat. And boy do I know all about it. 💔

[@rainingpatchouli4476]

Unfortunately all avoidant do what's called "distancing AKA SABOTAGING tactics " yes that includes having random impulsive sex to create control. It's not safe or healthy . I found mine on dating apps MULTIPLE TIMES... move on ❤

[@kathirodden6109]

I think they manipulated me!!!

[@doublesidestephustler6094]

This happened to me as well

[@eunicesandoval478]

How can I learn more about your coaching services?

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[@paulsell2438]

How do you navigate this when there's false allegations of infidelity thrown at ypu by the avoidant?

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[@Rb79_85]

I’ve been text book discarded by my emotionally avoidant ex right in the middle of buying a house and him telling my family he wanted to marry me. On passing at work we exchanged cordial hellos but months later in the past few weeks he is literally running and hiding when he sees me. What on earth is this all about?

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[@rnnekleiv9739]

So helpful, thank you🫶🏻 seven years don’t feel temporary, lol, but this knowledge is such a gamechanger for me. I appreciate you sharing this.

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[@AndyKat-xm8yw]

Jason and Andrea. Broke up he is pissed with me what does it mean

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