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Aq ingatkan Khairul Aming 😂

لا إله إلا الله محمد رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وشرف وكرم ومجد وعظم

Thank you En. Aiman for specific answer for each question. It’s very helpful 🙏🏻

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Good explanation

Bro, I’m not lying I was pretty good in year 9 for French, the in year 10 I can’t remember anything

Mcm mana nk tahu basic fundamental? Klau dia communicate problem

Soalan pertama tu mcm ad kaitan je cinta Rabiatul Adawiah kpd Allah

Saya ada few questions. PERTAMA Saya faham kita tak patut view kehidupan ni as fun fun fun. But salah ke nak kahwin to enjoy the fun of the romance? Melalui perkahwinan sahaja kita boleh dapatkannya secara halal. So kalau kedua2 pasangan dah setuju, dah set purpose kita nak kahwin untuk bercinta secara halal tanpa keinginan untuk dapatkan anak, how is it haram and how does that make us bad muslims? We didn't do anything wrong. We just don't want kids. KEDUA In terms of self-development training tu, dalam hubungan antara suami isteri tu sendiri pun dah ada cabaran2 nya. Bukan 24/7 romance belaka. Ada problem solving, ada listening skill, ada financial planning, ada tolak ansur antara keinginan masing2, ada sacrifices2 yang lain. Semua ni pun self-development training jugak. Dia macam kalau dalam corporate, you dah join one training tu, lepas tu you being promoted. Lepas tu you dah rasa satisfied dengan position you sekarang. You're not interested dengan jawatan yang lagi tinggi. I know this is not a perfect analogy nak compare corporate life dengan marriage life. But kalau dua2 pasangan dah setuju dan satisfied dengan keputusan hidup berdua sahaja tak nak ada anak, I still tak boleh nampak kat mana salahnya. KETIGA As a woman, kami ada hak ke atas badan kami sendiri. And before anyone sesuka hati nak label saya woke liberal dan sebagainya, no I am not. And saya tak setuju dengan apa yang jadi dekat America sekarang which is dorang tengah fight for rights to abortion. Abortion = killing. Same thing. Full stop. Kenapa saya selit isu ni? Sebab saya nak readers faham where I'm coming from. I'm not asking for rights to do haram things (abortions, zina, etc). I'm asking for rights to not voluntarily put our bodies in danger. Pregnancy, giving birth. These are risky processes that literally puts you between life and death. Lelaki tak faham benda ni. Most of them easily dismiss our concerns about our bodies sebab bukan badan dorang yang menjadi taruhan. Bukan dorang yang menanggung sakitnya mengandung, bersalin & menyusukan. So kalau kita dah jumpa lelaki yang faham benda ni semua dan setuju untuk tak nak ada anak, is it still haram? And why? Terima kasih.

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Childfree might seem selfish. But should also try look fron antinatalist perspective. This world have too much suffering. So, how is it ethical to bring new human to this universe just to suffer as well.

Alamak. Saya punya list ada 24 perkara utk jodoh yg saya nk.

sorry you didn't answer the question, i am an electric engineering student i am a slow learner in math so my weak point is in all of my subjects

Salam sir aiman, somehow your '4 quadrants' paper on the wall got my interest. Would you like to share the template :)?

Hi there. I currently experience the same thing :) Dari 3 tahun degree terpaksa jadi around 5 tahun sebab burnout (banyak kalau nak cerita lmao). Here's my advice: 1) Cari balik motivasi utk meneruskan degree. Buat benda yang awak suka - Jaga diri, jaga makan, jaga emosi - Hobi nampak macam remeh but it makes you sane 2) Cari tujuan belajar yang betul - Kita jadi sedih sebab kita sibuk fikir pandangan orang, pandangan ibu bapa bila kita terpaksa extend belajar. Yes, awal2 memang rasa macam gelisah sebab nak berhadapan dgn manusia. Lama-lama, you akan belajar macam mana nak hadap & tak semua benda you perlu explain to others. - Belajar kerana Allah. Maknai benda ni, focus on pleasing Him. Then you'll lose the grip of trying to reach people's standard. - Extend is just extension of time, yes kita kena tambah masa & duit tapi yakin je, since getting failed is never your first plan - Allah yang takdirkan bermakna He'll help you survive and provide for you. Dia yang rancang, Dia yg akan bagi apa yang kita tak cukup. 3) Fahami qada' qadar - I belajar banyak dgn dengar ceramah Ustaz Pahrol Juoi mengenai ujian & also Dr Firanda Andirja mengenai tawakal, sabar, takdir. - Setiap takdir dibangun atas hikmah. - Redha dengan takdir yang Allah tetapkan sebab kalau you asyik fikir and dwell on past mistakes, it won't help. So just drop it, move on dan bear the consequences. Fokus selesai apa yang di hadapan kita, satu per satu buat ja. Tak payah fikir benda yang jauh2 lagi. Fokus lalui hari ke hari 😇 - Percaya yang walaupun kesilapan kita, atau kita cuba buat yang terbaik pun - you'll only reach your takdir. Apa yang terlepas, memang bukan you punya. Memang takdir kita, perlu extend semester. Allah lebih tahu apa yg terbaik utk kita - mungkin Allah nak you betul2 belajar medic so you won't make mistakes bila dah kerja nanti. Mungkin Allah sedang lindungi. Mungkin Allah nak bagi you pahala melalui ujian yg dihadapi. Berharaplah dgn ganjaranNya. Percaya yang Allah nak bagi kejayaan yang lebih baik dari apa yang kita nak sekarang. Sabar & teruskan kehidupan okay 🙌🏻 4) Terima yang waktu2 extend ni, memang takkan semua orang faham kita. Connect with those who can support you. - Extend ni kita akan rasa alone sebab your peers are no longer with you tapi takpa, jangan berhenti je. - Rasa nak give up itu biasa tapi bangun je tiap hari, ikhtiar apa yang boleh. Time will pass and the steps help you closer to your graduation. - Trust that Allah's timing is the best. Just enjoy dan lalui pengalaman belajar. Tak perlu nak cepat2 graduate sebab lepas grad pun, mungkin kita kena hadap kerja yang lebih stressful. 5) Process your emotions & experience - Jangan biar kesedihan, kecewa semua dipendam. Luah dan develop emotional regulation yang baik. Build resilience. You'll feel better if you perceive this test as a space to grow. Goodluck ;) Mereka yang berjalan ke arah kejayaan, lambat laun pasti akan berjaya. You've survived many years of degree, apa lah sangat tambah lagi setahun kan. ✨

Tq bro AA remindset the purpose of degree😭

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Apa niat kahwin yg betul? - Hadis 1st imam nawawi - Niat is a foundation. Kuat tapaknya, kuatlah rumah yang bakal dibina. - define betul/salah - reflects your prinsip hidup. As a muslim; Quran dan sunnah. Whatever Allah redha, then can proceed. Agama ajar kita cara menentukan betul/salah. - whatever your niat is, tanya semula pada diri; Adakah Allah suka niat ini? - niat can be divided into two. First, purely lillahita'ala - eg; for ibadah khusus mcm solat, puasa. Second, niat yg Allah i'tiraf. - decide your niat on yourself. Di akhirat nanti, semua akan dipertanyakan ttg apa yg dilakukan. It's not as simple as saying, but perlu dipercayai, yakini dan dilaksanakan wholeheartedly. - the alat utk set niat: 1. Susun priority niat. 2. Ask yourself, Allah redha tak?. Nature hati selalu berbolak balik hence, perlu selalu perbaharui niat, revisit it. - how to know Allah redha tak?; cari ilmu supaya kita kenali Allah dan Islam lebih baik, so that it helps us in determining our life direction.

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Kenapa taaruf face to face? not kewajipan, tetapi wajar dilakukan. why? 1. we want to make the taaruf session as a representation of the actual communication in marriage - can we discuss, have deep conversation, serasi cara bercakap, personaliti, gaya bahasa, tone of voice, spontaneous reaction, cara susun kata2 on the spot etc?; all these only can get thru f2f conversation but the taaruf process should involve 3rd party. 2. text may lead to overthinking, unnecessary stress. f2f meeting may avoid that. 3. setting agenda for f2f - dah tersusun apa nak tanya, discuss - increase readiness for deep conversation, bukan random2 - may prepare emotionally - use 100 premarital qs 4. f2f method is more professional - safe guarding dalam mengurus emosi - if attachment comes early, will be harder to handle emotion - at this moment, it's a professional relationship; it shouldnt be romantic - Islam membenarkan romance, but ONLY in marriage. - hubungan mesra between both genders, may slowly lead to bedroom, naudzubillahimindzalik * as a Muslim, be realized that melanggar batas yang Allah tetapkan will bring harm to ourself.

Last question: preparation for L - find an example of a man that you would like to be and dont want to be: write it up! - go all out, intensely for ilmu dan skill (1 year left before marriage) - settle any emotional issues - still teruskan after marriage: build yourselves together

1. kriteria minima - standard that we set on seseorang yang berperanan sebagai suami, bapa dan pemimpin keluarga - 10 max, tak perlu banyak but need to be firm with the criteria. 2. berkenan - literally 'berkenan', not bercinta - purpose: motivasi awal - love comes later, setelah berkahwin dan mengenali lebih dalam 3. sekufu - ngam, boleh harmoni with each other Prinsip: how do you decide betul salahnya sesuatu perkara Pemikiran Personaliti: Purpose: we're heading towards A destination. the big why should be align. 4. menerima seadanya - comes after 1-3 dah ticked. - things that we can tolerate, tak affect langsung checklist 1-3 - perlu jelas our own boundaries 5. istikharah - ikut doa istikharah yang Nabi ajar - sekiranya baik, semoga Allah mudahkan (bukan tak ada conflict!) sekiranya buruk, semoga Allah jauhkan - mudah: does the process bergerak ke arah perkahwinan?

- never underestimate syaitan's effort in doing his job - the nature of taaruf process should not be romantic - does our vision, priority, values, fahaman agama align? - ask yourself; Allah suka/redha tak? - taaruf that includes romantic behaviour; shouldn't be - need to always tajdid niat throughout the process, not just at the beginning of the taaruf process

Video posted 13 years ago😮 I'm now 24 years old, still remembered when I was a teenager watching this. Now I'm married and have 2 kids. How fast times fly past me... Awesome videos, semoga berjaya dunia & akhirat

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Assalamualaikum Encik Aiman, saya berminat nak masuk webinar esok tapi kerja time webinar itu berjalan, will there be any video of the webinar to be posted anywhere? Like on your akedemijodoh ?

Thnks bro

terima kasih Abang Aiman share ilmu. Saya dah setahun lebih follow apa yang Abang Aiman share dan semuanya jadi baik, alhamdulillah lagi 2 minggu nak kawin.

41:44 handle disagreement

Astaghfirullahalazim. Kesian wife dia. 😢

Buku utk mencari Tujuan Hidup: 1. Al-Quran (al-baqarah ayat 2:30, az-zariyat 51:56, al-an'am 6:XX) 2. Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life (suka ape, mahir ape, ape masalah yg u boleh selesai dgn u suka dan mahir and mcm mne bende ni boleh jadi duit/pendapatan)

Terima kasis atas perkongsian How to be confident: 1) be aware of what you're thinking 2) organize your emotions/ thoughts Know which one you need to tackle first. 1,2,3. Cross it off 3)those thoughts may or not be true Deal with the emotions now!! Ask questions, investigate, debate. Seek for facts!!

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Terima kasih atas perkongsian yg sangat bermanfaat utk pasangan yg sudah berkahwin ataupun masih single...di sini saya ada buat sedikit catatan yg penting mengenai sesi power struggle coffe talk hari ni (with no chronological order: ❤Bliss= no reason to be with the person, but you're still want to be with him ❤I promise to myself, not to you ❤If you think about Winning in an argument= red flag ❤Finding secret recipes that are unique to your marriage, keep flirting your husband, don't stop working on the marriage 30 years of marriage, 30 years of continuing effort to work on it ❤Marriage is a gamble that you can win ❤Kena sentiasa sebutkan rasa hormat, sayang, cinta, percaya kepada pasangan ❤Communication style : Passive Aggressive Assertive ✅️✅️✅️✅️ terus terang// i respect you, i respect myself Passive Aggressive ✖️✖️✖️✖️i lose you lose😂 ❤Akal made up of 3 sifat penting Kemahuan desire Perasaan emotion Fikiran Fasa marriage: Romantic Power struggle Stability Commitment Bliss sakinah mawardah warrahmah Power struggle in marriage ❤Give & take, how much? When? Why? Who? I want to give, you want to take? Am i marrying the right person 🤔 Tarik tali, jgn tegang sgt, nanti putus Competition, tolak ansur Start to hurt each other :( Transition to Power sharing Me + you = We Spiritual growth, trust, respect, collective leadership Inequality leads to abuse If there's issue/argument/conflict. Both are contributing to the argument. Reflect! Banyak lagi input yg saya tak catat....apa pun terima kasih banyak Dr Har & Sir Aiman ❤❤❤

Org tu belum habis ckp, jgn mencelah. Bagi habis cakap dulu, baru sambung.

Delayed gratification, menyemai benih pahala, meninggalkan legasi setelah bersusah payah menunaikan tujuan menjadi khalifah, doa anak soleh, pahala yang tak putus, nikmat kasih dalam sukar membesarkan anak. Paling best, kalau kita ikhlas Allah nampak sangat effort dan niat murni kita besarkan anak. 🎉 Tq Tn Aiman for the insight.

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