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@nicholewalters22
@nicholewalters22 17 күн бұрын
In the very early stages of looking into adoption as a single person. I have a fantastic support system around me is it possible that i could have a secondary person with me on the training down the line? Such fab videos thank you.
@Jo.Math.Richar
@Jo.Math.Richar 24 күн бұрын
Really helpful to see. We’re awaiting our second hearing however the birth mother has contested and it’s been quite tricky to find info/ support on what happens if parents contest. Than you for the video
@sallycollins755
@sallycollins755 4 ай бұрын
Thank you Aimee, this and your other videos are immensely helpful for someone who is considering if fostering and/or adoption is for them xxx
@toniwilliams7193
@toniwilliams7193 4 ай бұрын
Do you need a spare room? ❤ thank you ❤
@mrennie5158
@mrennie5158 5 ай бұрын
Aimee where did you go???
@cookingwithyanny7294
@cookingwithyanny7294 7 ай бұрын
can you please put a link for the butterfly that is such a cute idea x
@cookingwithyanny7294
@cookingwithyanny7294 8 ай бұрын
We was accepted on to stage 2 in jan, can i just say how much your videos have helped me and mt husband x
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much 💚 wishing you all the best
@Maysen-e2v
@Maysen-e2v 10 ай бұрын
Why am I watching this if I’m only 10
@edwardrigby8401
@edwardrigby8401 10 ай бұрын
Where can I get a transition butterfly? Can't find anywhere...
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 10 ай бұрын
We got ours from amazon but it was 6 years ago now so unsure. The brand is Lamaze if that still helps. I know that school and early years resource companies sell similar things for children who struggle with transitions and communication so perhaps search for communication aids for children and this may help you find similar things 🙏
@susanbennett7092
@susanbennett7092 Жыл бұрын
The Moses Basket is adorable ❤❤
@susanbennett7092
@susanbennett7092 Жыл бұрын
Loving look back at this ❤ so precious ❤
@condrousiotis1477
@condrousiotis1477 Жыл бұрын
How long do you normally wait to proceed with adoption papers (in case they are liable)?
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
I'm not sure i understand the question, I'm sorry
@condrousiotis1477
@condrousiotis1477 Жыл бұрын
@@Aimeevlog thanks for your answer Aimee, i meant is it normal to foster for a few years and subject to eligibility, can you proceed for adoption later down the line?
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
@@condrousiotis1477 ahh thank you for expanding. I don't think that would be usual practice..from my perspective I would imagine once the 10 weeks have passed people are keen to gain legal status and reduce social team interactions to those that the family request as opposed to formal, regular check ins. Though I'm sure there would be cases when this would be appropriate to extend
@lennon1005
@lennon1005 Жыл бұрын
At what stage can you change your mind? I imagine that can sometimes happen
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
Change your mind in regards to no longer accepting a match do you mean? Realistically, any point until the adoption order is finalised if it's not right for you. Though hopefully someone wouldn't go to matching panel if they weren't sure.
@lennon1005
@lennon1005 10 ай бұрын
I ment during the process before it went to the panel stage. As I’m sure there will be people during the process with the visits Medicals and all other checks it can be all a bit too much for them no?
@freakstate
@freakstate Жыл бұрын
Fascinating insight. Adoption is something we are looking into if things dont improve "naturally" but yet to engage any social services yet. Good to know how this process works thanks for sharing, we are a bit more clued up!
@Katt-w3
@Katt-w3 Жыл бұрын
I have question for you over adopted . I feel i am adopted but my mum stay i am not i have her name on birth certificate and records from she was having me and baby scans but i sill have feelings about it can you help me answer my question please
@HellenChikwanda-t7d
@HellenChikwanda-t7d Жыл бұрын
I want to be adopted,I promise to be good, kind, loyal and honest please adopt me am 15 years old am doing grade nine
@rabyarabat4257
@rabyarabat4257 Жыл бұрын
I would like to adopt a child but I have 1 bed flat
@gleenobly
@gleenobly Жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this video. It really helps! 💖
@gleenobly
@gleenobly Жыл бұрын
This is very useful information. Thank you for making this video. 🙂
@Braveheartthelovely
@Braveheartthelovely Жыл бұрын
Please only adopt children with deceased parents. Many parents are for to put children up for adoption and some commit suicide.
@deelew8449
@deelew8449 Жыл бұрын
Birth mom here 35 years ago Jesus saved my daughter from abortion. The most difficult thing I have to live with and although she was adopted into a loving family she has dealt with grief and abandonment. I never regret giving my baby life despite the challenges. Thank you though for shout outs to us birth moms.
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
💚💚
@PM-gp3oy
@PM-gp3oy Жыл бұрын
Hi Aimee at the moment i've only got one person that i could really call for support and thats my brother- is that okay or do i need other people ?
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
Each agency will have their own opinion. But if that works for you and you have lots of other supports that aren't necessarily people that you lean on when struggling...why not! 💚
@Betyboop1000
@Betyboop1000 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I have found it very helpful as I am considering foster to adopt as a single woman. Can I ask how long did it take for the adoption order to come through for your 2nd child? Time from bringing them home and having the adoption finalised? Thanks again for your videos - I find them great ❤
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much 💚 it took 6 months total
@MGallo_
@MGallo_ Жыл бұрын
How is that Your child, if so many people are involved like all of the time. That is worrying me.
@Betyboop1000
@Betyboop1000 Жыл бұрын
Can I ask how much time was there between bringing your one home and the celebration day?
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
Around 6 months in 2018
@jsarpong3427
@jsarpong3427 Жыл бұрын
Very helpful. Thanks
@Itsmeandmyadhd
@Itsmeandmyadhd Жыл бұрын
I found out you cant adoption in the any country even the uk if you not been with your partner 3 years that sad
@JerGol
@JerGol Жыл бұрын
Cracking info, thank you for posting!
@jessypathiyil
@jessypathiyil Жыл бұрын
Hey I am a fan and I am in uk
@thegallivanthropologists
@thegallivanthropologists Жыл бұрын
Bonjourno. Editting sucks. lol. We are like 6 months behind. Looks like an amazing trip. I was homeschooloed too. I have been travelling since I was 4 and I grew to love cultures and nature so much I became an anthropologist and park ranger. Your children will benefit so much from traveling with you. Subed to see more. If you like family travel, history, culture, nature and food, you might like our channel too. - Bear
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Bear! If it's not editing stopping me it's drive space or memory issues! I do love having and making these memories and can't wait to make more as well as watch these back as a family in years to come :D
@thegallivanthropologists
@thegallivanthropologists Жыл бұрын
@@Aimeevlog I feel you on the technology issues. We lost most of the footage from our first trip. Just wrote it off as an excuse to go back. I hope you have meny more adventures and keep sharing them and I hope you will like our channel too. We are really trying to grow and improve?
@SAIMSW777
@SAIMSW777 Жыл бұрын
Do we get to choose a child ourself or they do it for us
@DavidFraser007
@DavidFraser007 2 жыл бұрын
Why do you think that somebody asking you why you want to adopt is negative? I'm sure your adoption agency would ask you that.
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 2 жыл бұрын
It was much more in the vein that it was asked, as in "why would somebody want to do that?"
@DavidFraser007
@DavidFraser007 2 жыл бұрын
@@Aimeevlog I hope you gave them a glib answer. I got the same when I joined the army, they were questioning my sanity.
@DavidFraser007
@DavidFraser007 2 жыл бұрын
I like what you just said, it is about identity. I was part of the baby grab era, in those days it was about saving embarrassment to childless couples. I reverted to my original surname many many years ago. If people I knew from school asked my why I changed my name, I just say I've always actually been David Fraser. It was actually my Gran that let it slip what my original name was. She was quite proud of being a Murray and she said that I might have a highlander name too. Didn't take much guessing after that
@DavidFraser007
@DavidFraser007 2 жыл бұрын
Who decides if the natural parents have access to their child, if it's been adopted out?
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 2 жыл бұрын
Initially, that is decided by the social work team after a risk assessment to determine if this would be safe for little one. But when the adoption order is finalised and beyond this, it would be up to adoptive parents and birth parents to communicate (either directly or likely with support of the agency) and agree a plan
@DavidFraser007
@DavidFraser007 2 жыл бұрын
@@Aimeevlog I can only imagine it would be stressful and a bit scary for all parties.
@DavidFraser007
@DavidFraser007 2 жыл бұрын
Please remember that babies, human or otherwise can naturally recognise their actual mothers. You can train your adopted baby to call you Mum, but it's not a natural process. I was adopted for the 2nd time at 18 months old, the first time I was retreived by my Mother, how she achieved this was nothing short of amazing at the time. At 18 months I could already say my own name and I could recognise my own mother and call her Mum. This resulted in confusion, resentment and bullying and I was blamed for not fitting in. You will also be wiping the childs identity and giving them a new one without their consent. I think you are a nice lady and you want to adopt for all the best reasons, but many want to because they feel unfulfilled about their lives. All adopted children will want to know about their natural parents as they grow up, that is perfectly natural, please remember that is their personal space, take a step back and don't intrude.
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you David. I absolutely agree, it's not natural and i so wish that birth parents could have received the right kind of support to stop the need for this ultimate decision. I have huge respect and acknowledgement for birth parents, the wider family and will always include them in life story work with the children. Identity is so important and we have made a commitment to work at whatever we need to support our children and are still aware that things will not be easy for them. Wishing you all the best as well 🙏
@DavidFraser007
@DavidFraser007 2 жыл бұрын
@@Aimeevlog I'm sure your kids are settled and happy, that's the most important thing. I think you're lucky and your kids too. I had a tough time, I got slapped a lot, just for asking questions or looking the wrong way, I never knew what to expect when I got home from school. If it wasn't for my Gran, I would have packed my bags. But even back then everybody had a different experience, I had an army buddy in training and he was adopted and he wanted to speak to me about it. I realised I was speaking to a big toddler, he'd been wrapped in cotton wool by well meaning parents. I didn't respond the way he wanted and he never spoke to me again. I felt a bit bad and I spoke to my other mates about it, they said don't worry about it. We weren't sure what homesick meant, but maybe his family lived on a boat or something. (sorry , army humour)
@amandawatson4477
@amandawatson4477 2 жыл бұрын
We have been going through the process since april 21 and had several promises we would be in panel from june last year ...we are hoping to get to panel this month. The hold ups have been put down to lack of SW and the cost of living crisis inducing more financial checks 😑 it's very frustrating 😑
@Birdie336
@Birdie336 2 жыл бұрын
I'm always surprised how much of your kids' faces and lives you directly show. Have you shared your thoughts about online privacy when it comes to kids before?
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 2 жыл бұрын
I have a video around social media from a few years ago on this channel. I will rewatch it myself and see if my feelings are still the same 👌
@R1doorbar
@R1doorbar 2 жыл бұрын
We took our girls to Majorca last year on their first ever holiday and it was wonderful. However their second trip abroad will be somewhat further because we're going to see family and friends in South America early next year. 2 flights each way, one of which is BA'S longest flight at around 15.5 hrs 😱. We can't wait! Our girls are a couple of years older than yours so they should remember the experience for a long time.
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I think you were over there just after us if I remember right! So glad you all had an amazing time. Oh wow! That is some serious travel envy from me...we are hoping to do America in 2024 so will be picking your brains for any tips on long haul travel :D
@R1doorbar
@R1doorbar 2 жыл бұрын
Looking forward to this!
@melancholy-kate9116
@melancholy-kate9116 2 жыл бұрын
that story is teaching bad habits, behaviours, teaching them to say "no" to everything a parent says? no to everything?
@melancholy-kate9116
@melancholy-kate9116 2 жыл бұрын
what about permissive parenting, i wanna die.
@giani1680
@giani1680 2 жыл бұрын
We miss you, Aimee.
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 2 жыл бұрын
That's the sweetest, thank you 💚 i have so much i want to share with you all, just need to find my editing groove again 🙏
@Overtone-1
@Overtone-1 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Aime. Very useful.
@adamschork5668
@adamschork5668 2 жыл бұрын
Paps are 30 % false positive !!! Urine test is more accurate and safer. Don't let yourself be blood money butchered !!!
@padavanmc1984
@padavanmc1984 2 жыл бұрын
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@bigtombowski
@bigtombowski 2 жыл бұрын
Yamyam?
@CheetahSnowLeopard
@CheetahSnowLeopard 2 жыл бұрын
Aimee is a snow leopard! 🐾
@dawnmillward9335
@dawnmillward9335 2 жыл бұрын
All adoption starts with loss. And this loss is ongoing for life. Adoption is a life sentence for adoptees. And adoptees never feel safe. You make incorrect assumptions about how birth parents holding a baby. I didn't let anyone hold my babies. You make too many assumptions and need to gain insights into both adoptee life and , as for grandparents changing nappies and feeding babies . Really ? This is not true . Absolutely not. You need educating, by both parents, real ones , and adult adoptees. Remember. All adoption is loss. Fir life
@suebennett2551
@suebennett2551 2 жыл бұрын
Have so enjoyed watching this 💕💕
@aaronjoshuaa
@aaronjoshuaa 2 жыл бұрын
My younger sister who is 5 (I'm almost 18, we have a big age gap) has been having trouble with her emotions for a while, having outbursts a lot, and my mum is the type of person to always think that she's right and not listen to things like this. Instead she reacts with frustration and will get angry if my sister wont stop crying (she did this to me growing up and now I have anxiety and never go to her about emotions, so I know through experience that it does not work), so I'm hoping if I try to use this with my sister it will make her feel like she is supported emotionally by someone, even if she can't go to our mum. Thank you for the info :)
@Aimeevlog
@Aimeevlog 2 жыл бұрын
Hope it helps, everyone is so so different