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@MarkDerbyshiremoses 9 сағат бұрын
"Be proactive NOT Reactive" remember my phrase, now practice it , next situation that triggers you , Say "I must Be Proactive not Reactive". Even walking away is proactive. When you're getting hot under the collar and being triggered, breath, think of my phrase. I've had to make my boundaries this: If its not good For Me, then it's not in my life. If it doesn't make me feel well or better than it's not in my life. If its doesn't improve my life, then it's out my life. Avoid bad people 100%, they're a no go zone.
@Growth_Expert110 19 сағат бұрын
I noticed that your content could be better optimized for KZbin rank. I would love to discuss this further!
@anelisemonique567 Күн бұрын
Great video! Thanks a lot!
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 20 сағат бұрын
You're very welcome! 😊
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 2 күн бұрын
Say hi and introduce yourself here on this comment, and let's talk! Jeremy 😃
@-mrbright 2 күн бұрын
Feeling too much is so painful, like drowning and being electrocuted at the same time.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Күн бұрын
It's tough, it really is... but I promise you that it won't last forever (and I say that from personal experience as well as professional!). Focus on one day at a time, seek support to work through your pain, and find opportunities to take small steps forward (like setting small goals that you work towards daily, such as writing 250 words a day or reading 5 pages a day). You might also find my recent video about letting go to be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXqVkIJqppybrbs Wishing you all the best. Jeremy 🙂
@POCKBA 8 күн бұрын
I am from a very messed up family. I am very ill but theh dont want me to get well or have much contact with me. I was sick as a child and I d7d get bullyed for it. They are the same now as my mum contoo all. I am so ill now after surgery damsge in my pelvic and belly but also nerveentraptment who have done that I am handycapped. If I try to get better they are very much like it wont get better. And I need to be in a home. They also know is bo way to get in to a home in this country for people who dont have family who fights for them to get in to one And is to many people who need help and to little help. I feel I never had a family and my sister took our oppringning bad and ended taking her life. They whwre more focus on tveir repuation than losing her. And with me not having contact with them is seem like it more about control and putting me down. My dad was neglected and abused my mum had parents who drink she and the sister i have left do. That sister try to quit but my mum is trying to get her to drunk all the time and my dad mean what ever my mum means unless she is unfair to him. They dont care about bounderies but for me and others. And is all about their misery while they always having fun and live their life.
@pennyc7064 10 күн бұрын
🌟 Thanks. I needed to hear this today, great info.!
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 10 күн бұрын
I'm glad to hear that! Not that you needed it, but that it was helpful 😊
@anelisemonique567 13 күн бұрын
Amazing tips! Thanks!
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 12 күн бұрын
You're very welcome! And thanks for the positive feedback! 😃
@jmMarifulbd56 14 күн бұрын
I’m genuinely impressed by the quality of your KZbin content! The topics you cover are so important, and your presentation is very professional.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 14 күн бұрын
Thank you very much! That's so great to hear 😊
@sophizzle2863 16 күн бұрын
I really needed this today, especially your words at the end. Thank you for helping others heal <3
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 15 күн бұрын
I’m glad to hear that and thank you very much for your kind words 😊 Wishing you all the best!
@pennyc7064 17 күн бұрын
Interacting with family members give me upset stomach and migraine. What to do in this case? My way of dealing with this is avoidence. Any thoughts ?
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 15 күн бұрын
I mean, if you’re having symptoms like that I’m going to suggest it’s probably anxious feelings in overdrive… so if you need to limit contact to the bare minimum then it’s OK, because you need to make your wellbeing a priority. We can’t choose who we’re related to, but we can choose how much access we give them to us! 🙂
@pennyc7064 15 күн бұрын
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Thanks for your reply!
@bk6086 20 күн бұрын
Thnxx
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 17 күн бұрын
You’re very welcome! I hope it was helpful 🙂
@lhill80 21 күн бұрын
🎄Love it! This video was helpful to me! I shared this video with my clients in my private practice! Wishing you much success with your YT channel and podcast!
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 20 күн бұрын
I'm so happy to hear that and thanks! ☺️😃
@KatieBeth-lm8jn 21 күн бұрын
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@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 20 күн бұрын
😃 Thanks! I hope it was helpful 😊
@missellendiane 23 күн бұрын
RIP daddy- He would have been 96 on 12/22- He passed on 12/19- thank you
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 23 күн бұрын
So sorry for your loss, it's hard to be grieving someone at this time of year (or any time of year really). Wishing you all the best, and remember to show yourself grace and kindness as you navigate this difficult time.
@missellendiane 20 күн бұрын
@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth thank you so very much-
@ScottishCarSpotting 24 күн бұрын
Hi Jeremy, my mum and my sister argue about mostly everyday, and it really makes me sad because I don’t know what I can do to help them sort it out. My dad passed away last year and it kinda kickstarted the problems, my sister reacts to little things and my mum usually forces her point across. I don’t know what to say because I love them both too much to shout over them Do you have any advice for what to do to keep calm during these arguments or how to solve them.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 24 күн бұрын
That sounds awful, sorry to hear about what you're dealing with. I'd suggest talking to them both when they're calm and letting each of them know that their arguing makes you feel uncomfortable, and ask them to be respectful of you being in the space as well. As for during arguments... well, there isn't anything you can do about their behaviour, because they have to figure it out for themselves (this is where letting them know how you feel when they're calm will hopefully help them be aware of what they're doing and its impact on you). For you to keep calm, you need to remove yourself if and when they're going at it; either put headphones on, or leave the room entirely. I know it might not always be ideal, but all you can control is you and your own choices... so you need to prioritise your calm and wellbeing, even if that means removing yourself from the situation for a while. I hope that helps!
@ScottishCarSpotting 24 күн бұрын
@ thanks Jeremy, I will try this next time they start up again. I think what you’re doing is awesome and I hope you have a nice day / night (I’m in the UK so it’s like quarter to 1 in the morning). Best of wishes.
@Victor-oc4vm 25 күн бұрын
So catching my wife, getting pumped by another man step three I can do something about it. Yeah OK whatever
@SeanDacey 26 күн бұрын
Hey if members of my family are at odds with each other and they believe that one does not love the other, what will it take for them to make peace with each other ?
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 26 күн бұрын
It will take them deciding individually to make peace. Sorry to break it to you, but it's up to them; all you can do is encourage them to figure it out. In the meantime, focus on you and how you deal with everything.
@praveen1540 27 күн бұрын
Thank you
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 27 күн бұрын
You're very welcome, I hope it was helpful 😃
@NicoleGentry-pp2sj 28 күн бұрын
I very much appreciate your content and can appreciate your sense of purpose in life. I was searching for videos for my dad to watch. He moved to Florida after living with my sister for over a decade when she decided she felt it was time for him to be independent again. He felt hurt and pushed away bu5 made a new life for himself but then lost his job and became suicidal. We talk everyday but it's hard to hear how bad he thinks of himself when everyon3 who meets him loves him. He's slowly coming out of it but still struggles with self worth. Thank you for what you do!
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 28 күн бұрын
Thanks for those kind words, and I'm sorry to hear about what your Dad went through. Wishing him, and you, all the very best!
@sbmillward Ай бұрын
Thanks for the helpful strategies to deal with anxiety, Jeremy, and for the link to the K10 test. I did it. The feedback was: "Based on your answers to our questions, you’ve been experiencing a very high level of distress..." 😢 I knew this already. But certainly discovering yout excellent LTAMH podcasts recently have been really helpful. And now I'm looking forward to watching your videos here on your KZbin channel. Thank you for all your hard work, time, and support. I have no doubt it's appreciated by many, many people, including myself 🙏
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 29 күн бұрын
Just bear in mind the K-10 is more to help you to (a) understand if you're struggling more than just a bit and (b) encourage you to go and speak with your doctor to talk through an action plan. So if you haven't already done that, please do. ASAP. As for your feedback about my content, thank you again; I really appreciate it and I'm grateful that you're finding it helpful. Enjoy the rest of your week!
@sbmillward 28 күн бұрын
@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth .. Thanks Jeremy. Perhaps it is time to seek professional support, as you recommend. Friends have suggested this, too. I suppose like many people I have always felt that I should be able to work through these kinds of issues by myself. But I guess there comes a point when we all have to accept that we need help.
@sbmillward Ай бұрын
Thank you for the helpful strategies, Jeremy. I experienced intense over-thinking, though for me it was more of a fixation on regret. It really was like a record in my head stuck on repeat, going round and round, playing the same maddening tune over and over again, all through the day and waking me up during the night, and this continued for many months. I'm not sure if this was over-thinking, or just an inability to move on from my regret. Perhaps it's both.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 29 күн бұрын
You're welcome! Regarding your situation, I'd say it's probably both... but the overthinking creates a vicious cycle, so being able to get it out can create some mental breathing space. FYI I have another video about overthinking coming out on Jan 22 with more tips :)
@sbmillward 28 күн бұрын
@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth ... Thank you for your response, Jeremy. As always truly appreciated. I look forward to your follow-up video about over-thinking on 22 January 🙂
@eleafy Ай бұрын
I did all, but then I share the same work with her and I get judged by her production which is 99 perfect of the time faulty, she says to me she doesn’t give a shit, but says differently in front of other people. I have to correct her work all the time, she even puts her stuff on my desk, to make me move it and put them back on her desk, she lies a lot and when I get angry she has puppy eyes and says look how she’s treating me. A lot of people figured out what she is like. The work place has meeting with her all the time but there is very slight improvement. Again full of mistakes. She doesn’t even bother finding her own mistakes when pointed out. After being told several times she does it with minimum effort. Again I have to check her work over and over again seeing slight changes made and others left the same. I guess I am going to quit. She started rumours about me not just in our department as my department knows now that what she’s like, she tells other people as I see people’s conversations change with me. I guess I am gonna resign. I am tired of her being my problem.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
I'm not sure I understand why she's your problem. My assumption is that your work is measured on your own performance (if not, it definitely should be and you need to discuss that with your manager), so unless you're her supervisor you shouldn't have responsibility for her performance or for checking over her work. You need to discuss this ASAP with your direct supervisor, because it is unfair for you to be responsible for someone else's performance. If it's more that you feel a sense of responsibility, rather than actually being directly responsible (which you're not), then it's time to step back and stop reviewing her work and fixing it for her... all you're doing is enabling her, and creating more stress for yourself. She is not your problem, so whatever you have to do to make her not your problem then that's what you need to do. Wishing you all the best!
@HyeyoungSung-n2q Ай бұрын
great video! i really appreciate the insights you shared. however, i can't help but think that sometimes, it’s not just about how we handle family issues but also recognizing when it's time to step back completely. setting boundaries can be essential, but some might argue that it could also lead to isolation. what do you guys think?
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Hi! Thanks for the feedback and glad you liked it. Yes stepping back is definitely an option and it's one I've had to do with several family members, I just wasn't able to really cover that in detail in this short video. You can hear more about making that choice in several episodes of my podcast Let’s Talk About Mental Health: Episode 228 about toxic relationships, Episode 168 about dysfunctional relationships, and Episode 89 about difficult choices (plus Episode 221 about difficult parents, for that specific relationship). Hope that helps! Jeremy 😃
@CosmicTiger-s7j Ай бұрын
Can't wait to apply these ideas, awesome content.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Thank you very much! Let me know how you go 😃
@stay_swith Ай бұрын
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@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
😃 Wishing you all the best for the holiday season! (PS: I have an updated podcast episode on this topic, with a lot more tips, coming out on December 22, feel free to join my mailing list via ltamh.com and it will land in your inbox as soon as it's released)
@stay_swith Ай бұрын
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@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Thanks! I hope it was helpful!
@kathyhoney7017 Ай бұрын
Really need tp let go of toxic place where I work
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Sounds like it's time for a new job! 😃
@JenniferPickett-t4e Ай бұрын
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@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Thanks! I hope it was helpful 😃
@JenniferPickett-t4e Ай бұрын
Jeremy can you message me?
@JanetSilverwood-f2g Ай бұрын
Very good advice. Difficult person in a group situation. Will try these steps. Sadly I may have to leave the group because of this one person.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Thanks Janet! Yes, group situations are tough, especially because the others may not see (or be willing to see) the issues in the same way. You have to make the right decision for you, even if that's difficult. I wish you all the best with it and remember that you're in control of who has access to you as well as what that access looks and feels like. 🙂
@tadeeia Ай бұрын
thank you
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
You're welcome! I hope it was helpful 🙂
@SaleaSharpeShows Ай бұрын
It's 2024 and grateful you made this video. Still relevant and helpful!🎄
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
That makes me very happy to hear! Thanks and glad you found it helpful... wishing you good luck for the holidays! 😁
@Incog-e1z Ай бұрын
I just want you to know that I’m currently going though a hard time in my life. Your videos are helping me cope.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Sorry to hear you're having a difficult time, but I'm glad to hear my video are helpful. Please remember these two things: it really does get better (because every storm eventually runs out of rain), and the key to getting through it is to take things one day at a time (even just a few hours at a time if you're struggling to focus on the whole day; break it down into 4 hour blocks, like 8-12/12-4/etc, and give your energy to one block at a time). Wishing you all the very best. Jeremy 🙂
@Ladybird22373 Ай бұрын
I had long Covid 2 years ago but recovered . But I changed jobs and I burnout i felt better after a while I got sooooo anxious and constantly over thought every minute of the day . I now have insomnia but I started to believe I’ve got all these chronic fatigue issues and they don’t recover . But surly it’s the sleep and anxiety making me tired
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
It could be a combination of factors, bearing in mind that the effects of long covid can potentially drag on for ages. I'd highly recommend having a long chat with your doctor about it all (or finding a new doctor if your current one doesn't seem to understand). Wishing you all the best!
@Ladybird22373 Ай бұрын
@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. Much appreciated. there are no test to prove LC . I try not to think I’ve that , it makes the anxiety worse. I was completely recovered from it over 2 years ago . The fear from that time stays with you though & you can’t think through the fears . I went to the park the other day & I felt so energised after wards . But I did have very tired legs not much energy 2 days later but I’m not used to walking on road . The next day I did a 12 hour work day & felt great so I must of recharged. But it’s been up & down since . I want to go for more walks but I’m fearful.
@ShimmloLederberger 7 күн бұрын
@@Ladybird22373 Hey there! I have been having the same conflict for the last 3 years. Not LC, but after the vaccination I never got to the same energy I had before and cant go after my hobbies and job anymore (27 yo). I also started to have very bad anxiety. So for 3 years now I still havent found an answer to the question if my anxiety causes the fatigue or I have this rather new and hard to diagnose CFS-like state, which makes me anxious. The video states activity could help, but I always make the experience if I pickup exercising I am completely drained like 2 or 3 days after, despite just exercising on a real beginner level (like running for 10 minutes or so). Just wanted to share this, I hope you are getting better!
@TeresaCarol-k3w Ай бұрын
Brilliant advice thank-you 👏
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
You're very welcome! Hope it was helpful 😌
@TeresaCarol-k3w Ай бұрын
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@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
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@TeresaCarol-k3w Ай бұрын
Love your videos I'm so negative atm feel angry with myself .my feelings get the better of me slowly ruining everything my mind is very overpowering at times .I think negativity emotions around people I love.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Hi Teresa! Thanks for your message and glad you liked it 😃 You might find it helpful to write down those thoughts and feelings if and when they happen, and put them aside to then revisit at a dedicated time of the day where you can then choose to review them with a solution-focused mind, or you could instead consciously replace each of them with a positive (or at least neutral) reframe. Give it a go daily for the next few weeks and see how you feel.
@TeresaCarol-k3w Ай бұрын
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Thankyou I will.
@sbmillward Ай бұрын
Really good advice about "letting go". Thank you
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
You're very welcome! And thank you for the nice feedback!
@sbmillward Ай бұрын
Excellent advice about the importance of purpose and meaning in life and how to find these. Thank you!
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Thank you very much! Glad you liked it 😃
@malcolmpalmer2249 Ай бұрын
Letting go of trauma is so hard. It keeps coming back to bite you on the bum, but life is getting better. It's just taken 57 years. My psychologist, and this interesting character named Jeremy Godwin are continuing to improve my life and I'm starting to find some peace and happiness since around march this year. Hmmmmmm 57 years
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
It really is hard, Malcolm... it really is. Very happy to hear you're making progress and that I've been able to contribute in some way! 😃
@MariaUk-w6r Ай бұрын
Thank you Jeremy, your podcast has clarified my confusing day. I am managing a dementia suffer with a very strong character ---difficult, yes! Your podcast has been so helpful, I will make sure to listen to all your episodes. You explain everything clear and reflecting how what you recommend on your own experiences and practices. THANK YOU!
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Thank you very much, glad to hear it! 😃
@SrimanArcharyaJBC Ай бұрын
It’s seems that a majority of people that grew up with two parents suffered from one beating up the other. I know so many people that had these issues and even those children later developed psychological issues and hit there own parents or started hating them. ⚡️🤴🏽🕉🔺➕
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
I wouldn't necessarily say a majority, because there's no real evidence to support that, however what I think is important to note is that it doesn't matter whether it's a single-parent household or if someone grows up with both parents present and together, trauma during childhood has many damaging long-term effects well into adulthood.
@SrimanArcharyaJBC Ай бұрын
@ think about it, it’s the only outcome of the situation. One parent missing means that there is no parent abusing the other.
@WatchOutitsThatOneGuy Ай бұрын
Listening in from South Africa. Listened to almost all your episode on Spotify. I just felt the need to leave a comment and tell you that I appreciate you and your Channel. I've managed to overcome trying time because of you Jeremy. Thank you for being here ❤️
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Ай бұрын
Thank you very much and a big hello to you in South Africa from Australia! Glad to hear it's been helpful, thank you for putting a big, happy smile on my face this morning 😁 All the best! Jeremy 😃
@simonhy1313 2 ай бұрын
I commited a crime 5 months ago and i been struggling to move on and i feel like my futures is over and i keep dwelling in the past.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 2 ай бұрын
We all make mistakes. All of us. But not everybody has remorse, although it seems like you do. That's a good thing. Harness it, and use it as fuel to drive you to do better and be better. That way, your experience can be used for good. I look forward to hearing how you create a better life for yourself out of this, because you can do it. Jeremy 😃
@svarthelikoptern 2 ай бұрын
This video is an excellent summary for self-care. It would have been great if someone had taught me these lessons at school.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 2 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! I go into a lot more detail in my podcast; try Episode 101 for the basics of good mental health (letstalkaboutmentalhealth.com.au/2021/10/17/the-basics-of-good-mental-health/). And yes I agree, it's definitely something I wish I had have learned at school as well!
@AleiahPrice 2 ай бұрын
I’m not close to them I’m in a group home have 2 manipulative people and hate them
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 2 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that. My suggestion is to keep interactions with them to the absolute bare minimum (less if you can) and to keep your distance from them emotionally; if you can't trust them, and you feel manipulated by them, you need to protect yourself by staying as far away from them as you practically can. And remember that their behaviour is a reflection of them, not you; don't put up with crap, and don't let their crap get to you.
@HelenAlshilli 2 ай бұрын
thanks alot for your videos, you have a special way of explaining things and you give a vibes that is everything will be okay ❤
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 2 ай бұрын
You're very welcome, and thank you! And yes: everything WILL be OK. 😊
@TheWellnessCuess 2 ай бұрын
Great video ! Thank you for sharing them.💚
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth 2 ай бұрын
Thank you very much!