Terrific information! Thank you, Chris. Providing feedback to a boss can be nerve-racking and challenging. Thank you for the tools and insights to help make giving feedback to bosses more approachable.
@user-vq1rl5ms9z2 күн бұрын
I work at Macy's. No raises, heavy turnover, understaffed, zero appreciation, overworked, and micromanaged. My managers are the worst. I have never been more unhappy. Looking elsewhere. Oh, and I'm the only FT person in my dept.
@Lordjerm789 күн бұрын
Even when we talk to employers they don't listen. They just use this to try to fake that they care.
@venusadora11 күн бұрын
For work, we created PowerPoint slides we can chose from. Each will show funny pictures with different moods scales(1 through 10, different themes on each slide). We have each student (doing work training) state their name, what mood do they feel today, and why? We have several themes to choose from, we pick one before each class. As an example we have on a scale of 1 to 10 which inflatable duck are you today? Then we have all these different inflatable ducks pictures shown (some more inflated than others). We always get a good laugh.
@beyondthankyou11 күн бұрын
Love this idea. I just watch a teacher ask people what vegetable represents their current and state and why
@SagarT-vh4vh16 күн бұрын
Good information
@MrSulzerboy20 күн бұрын
We are just a number and don't forget it. You're free to come and go as you please. And you are spot on with your comments.
@beyondthankyou20 күн бұрын
It is sad many organization don’t get they if you just treated your people like your customers then you would have the people you need to serve your customers
@louipchajek841020 күн бұрын
Clear instructions are important. I was once told where the clutch and brake were and how to shift gears on a dirt bike but . . . They left out a piece of information - to use the clutch to disengage the engine and then apply the brake to Stop the bike.
@beyondthankyou20 күн бұрын
Ha love the example! The hardest directions to give are about the things you know how to do already
@christinec1521 күн бұрын
I SO appreciated the science provided behind the information presented by Alison. I am excited to get my hands on this book!
@christinec1521 күн бұрын
Love the model and the questions you included! Sometimes it is hard to know where to start and it helps alleviate trying to figure that out.
@DeadCat-4223 күн бұрын
You should spend time convincing others to leave as well. Even finding them better jobs. You want to make as big an impact as you can otherwise employers will continue to do the abusive often illegal things that made me quit.
@montanausa32927 күн бұрын
Sign number 4 they told you where to shove your job😊
@beyondthankyou26 күн бұрын
Well think that is more than a sign at that point ha
@charmwoodalbums2622Ай бұрын
What about if you want to let a client know that you don’t want to work with another person that they want you to collaborate with? Is it gossiping if you say that you don’t like that persons attitude
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Not at all! If you are trying to navigate a dynamic is very different then just complaining about a person
@HeatherLandis-s5xАй бұрын
This is GOLD! (Pun intended!) Thank you for sharing so many great ideas!
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Ha Love the pun!
@boedilllard5952Ай бұрын
I really loved my job until just recently. They hired a fianance director who I report to now. He's the type that would insist use metal staples instead of disolving staples in someone's surgery. We got to get costs down! Then he'd say that they were uncomfortable - what can be done? Then he'd say - wait they got to go back to get them removed? That costs more than the the just the initial cost of applying them - why the double charge? Why didn't you explain why the disolving ones were better? We need to get a consultant to give us another point of view. After a $10,000 review - they recommend using dissolving ones so from now on we'll start using them. (I'm in IT but you get the idea)
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
This is a brilliant example! It is crazy how one bad new leader can kill a great place.
@xlerb2286Ай бұрын
Thinking about the last couple times I left a company, yeah, that's a big part of the visible symptoms. The trouble is by the time symptoms are visible it's almost too late. In my case the first company was one I had been at for 13+ years and for all but the last 18 months I loved the place (some key execs left, the people that replaced them did not understand or care for the business). But by the time I started to "check out" and show any of these symptoms I had already pretty much decided to leave when the time was right. And about 6 months later I did.
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
It is amazing how a few key people leave and the culture changes.
@christinec15Ай бұрын
I love these ideas! I can't wait to try the Synchronized Zooming and Olympic Charades! Great way to get a few laughs in and recharge a bit.
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Ha glad you like them! Let me know how it goes!
@lupitamoreno6528Ай бұрын
Love these Ice Breaker ! Do you know we we can permit sound when sharing a video through zoom ? recently came across this issue while presenting participants could not hear video Audio.
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Shoot me an email via my website at BeyondThankyou.com and I will send you a video on how to do it. Or connect on LinkedIn.
@christianmhanleyАй бұрын
Not the hair in a towel 😂
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Hah. Wish I had hair under the towel!
@user-ll1ze8sh2pАй бұрын
nice video. In the real life, the boss doesn't care about you, maybe, he doesn't know or remember who you are. He just wants to know how much profit he can get. You resign, he can hire another guy.
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Sadly many leader make that mistake - the ones who do care, who do get it, keep their people
@TamraHarmonАй бұрын
I've been scheduled zero hours for the past month and I'm on disability and 64 years old
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Sorry to hear that!
@RobtimusPrhymeАй бұрын
This is a great idea! Will definitely be using this soon.
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
Awesome! Let me know how it goes!
@phoenix.maximusАй бұрын
i worked at a church once upon a time, just as a permanent musician, i had never worked at one before and figured it might be a very different kind of work environment. well it was different, but not in the positive way. the snitch culture was real, and the boss (a priest) was a bully to everyone. it was bad enough as he strung me along without a raise from an already lowball offer, and when he made inappropriate remarks in front of and about the kids at the adjacent school, it was bad enough to get compared constantly to my predecessor (who left because of him), but the icing on the cake was getting assaulted in my office by the principal of the school, in front of a second grader, all caught on camera...and upon hearing of it from me, boss had an immediate secret phone call to the regional office, who came and "investigated" and found that the principal had done nothing wrong and that their policy was not to give a copies of video footage to anyone. they seemed shocked when i handed in my immediate resignation, i'm still not sure why, and i hear through friends that it takes 4 substitutes to do my job now. they did manage to hire a permanent replacement, but he quit after only 5 weeks. i can't fathom why! 😂
@OathKeeper1506Ай бұрын
That's a false equivalence. Venting is sharing general frustrations about someone not pulling their weight. Gossip is taking that to the next level with character and reputation defamation which is very personal. Big difference.
@beyondthankyouАй бұрын
I don’t disagree at all, it is an under two minute video so didn’t go very deep on this one. Personally I think the intention is the most important part. Am I expressing to solve or work toward a solution or enroll others in my character attacks.
@WertyingfАй бұрын
Employees are going to leave no matter what as a manager you should have someone ready to replace that person if you don't that falls on you as a manager. As my recent employer is finding out right now. Not everyone is easily replaced and that's what management needs to think about when they are not paying you the salary you deserve
@abvincent122 ай бұрын
Once they’ve begun disengaging it’s over. They disengaged for a reason, a conversation after the fact will do nothing to change their feelings. Learn from it.
@beyondthankyou2 ай бұрын
It really depends on wha that’s happened. Just last month I had a client with a person who was disengaging - they went and spoke with the person who was just board with the projects they were working on and saw no future for themselves. They had a conversation, asked what the person wanted to be doing, created some new opportunities and the person is back onboard
@christianmhanley2 ай бұрын
Awesome idea!! I still think about all the great things we talked about during our walk after work this spring. This needs to become a thing.
@beyondthankyou2 ай бұрын
We do!
@sahajbadyal3 ай бұрын
These ideas are amazing! Definitely trying all of these soon :) Thank you!
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
Glad you like them!
@genessakj82823 ай бұрын
Sometimes when I hear someone say, "I'm fine." I see in their eyes that they're not. Slowing down and asking, "are you sure?" has become so powerful. Sometimes people just want a chance to be heard and share. And sometimes when I share, it gives others the freedom to do the same!
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
And that is why you’re a gift to this world!
@charlenewolthuizen33413 ай бұрын
I like this because I have been leading teams for years and always felt everyone needed to be connected to the bigger purpose. This takes the pressure off and helps me to focus on what is important to each individual.
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
I am glad! Unless people are in healthcare, aid work, and even than many people are working to live the life that matters to them
@southerntiger31073 ай бұрын
The jobs I had in the past had a high turnover rate. Companies don't really care of you leave, you'll be replaced very quickly and forgotten about.
@tiaracargile88673 ай бұрын
This are really good ideas! Can't wait to try with my team. Thank you!
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
Happy to hear that!
@leanit57563 ай бұрын
A solid "tell" is showing up work wearing "Crocs" on your feet.
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
lol! Hilarious and yes
@schoppe13973 ай бұрын
Love getting a job being told there is OT opportunities but is not mandatory worked for 2 and a half years only had to work 40 hours a week more If I chose too. Now since my pms are pussys and couldn't tell a client we can't push a deadline up 3 months we won't make it now they expect me to work 6 days a week 58 hours mandatory told me that I can't have Saturdays off to take care of my mother who can't be alone and I'm power of authority they don't care. I have found a new job just recently tried to talk to my manager to see if they would work with me or I'm gone they didn't want to give me the time of day to meet with me so I'm not giving them notice of my 2 weeks only HR fuck them.
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that! Sounds like leavening was the best move
@3rdDarkwood3 ай бұрын
This was a random vid that came across the recommendations list, but genuinely added value to my life - so, Thank You!
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
I think this is my single my favorite comment I have received since I posting videos on KZbin. My goal is that my content adds value to people’s life…thank you
@warrenlewis39773 ай бұрын
They probably pay this guy over 100k to babble like this.
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
Hey Warren Lewis I am the guy that babbles in the video nice to meet you! I work for myself and try to get leader not be jerks. A lot of people like yourself just want to show up, do their job, and be left alone. Thanks for sharing
@warrenlewis39773 ай бұрын
@@beyondthankyou I understand the point of the video and maybe I shouldn't have been so judgemental. However if right about people wanting to do their jobs and be left alone. That point alone the entire problem. Most leaders don't have leadership qualities or the "stuff". The bulk of the qualities you need to be effective as a leader you can't teach or coach.
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
@@warrenlewis3977 I get it. Most leaders don't have the "stuff" and sadly do more damage than good. The hard part is not ever person wants the same from their leader. Some want to be left alone and others, want their leaders to know way to much about their personal lives. And those desires change over time. IF, people want to learn, to get better, then they can over time....but it takes a lot of work...and most don't.
@jtixtlan3 ай бұрын
They start taking personal items home.
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
Not sure that is an EARLY warning sign ha.
@mdabubokkorsiddik4603 ай бұрын
Nice
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
Thanks
@mdabubokkorsiddik4603 ай бұрын
Nice
@beyondthankyou3 ай бұрын
Thanks
@OurNewestMember3 ай бұрын
I want to know where it goes sour. By this point, there were so many missed opportunities along the way. Even better, I'd like to know which places or groups/departments/companies get this right.
@melvyn994 ай бұрын
source = trust me bro.
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
Ha
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
Everyone’s experience is going to be different and if you don’t ask, and engage with the person your just guessing
@bethiciaprasek10084 ай бұрын
Thank you very much for your video. I was criticized over a decade ago for my doing my morning rounds by my boss's boss. I was not yet a formal people manager but checked in with team members and others who were on the same initiatives that I was...while also respecting if they seemed to be busy and shouldn't be interrupted. He felt it was a waste of my time. It wasn't. Surprised at that comment from him but I expect he may have felt that because I was "just" an individual contributor that it was a waste of time for me to do so. I believe that if you check-in almost daily, and have formal short meetings once or twice a week, that sets up an environment more conducive to slipping in one of these questions...or more without as much awkwardness. Just make it a habit.
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
You were just way head of the leadership curve! Those small checkins are what make the biggest difference! Thank you for sharing
@EllenRogin4 ай бұрын
I love this term "Anxiety Tax" I don't think we think about the extra energy we expend by not taking actions. Thanks!
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
Don’t like paying double but it does happen when I dont take action!
@ellenrogin94394 ай бұрын
Love this practice. Excited to implement it!
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
I am glad it is a great dinner time activity!
@camgere4 ай бұрын
Bosses do appreciate you. When they realize how hard it is to replace you.
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
You got it!
@boedilllard5952Ай бұрын
Nope - they'll just be angry you left them high and dry and now they look bad because they can't do the job they told you how to do.
@annelafleur40244 ай бұрын
"I acknowledge that the problem may be me" -- those are magic words! What a great way to invite honesty, as well as empathy. For me the biggest sources of stress were usually around lack of clear goals and prioritization
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
Glad you like that line Anne! And yes when the goals are not clear it is hard to win a game when you done know the rules or they keep changing
@wannabefarmerr4 ай бұрын
Can care less about the thank you honestly that's too easy to do.
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
What matters most to you for your day to day efforts?
@divyalalithasurana4 ай бұрын
Great stuff! Important to check in on and maintain healthy team vitals early on - before it gets too hard to revive trust
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@GenX-Memories4 ай бұрын
One of my reports has taken 25+ sick days in the last six months. No one knows what to say. HR is stonewalling us and won't help us understand the situation. I believe he's prepping to leave, but surprisingly, no one else thinks this.
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
What have you found when you check in with the person? What do they say? Sometimes people are going through things in their personal life (Family/Health/Parents) all we can do is ask?
@pauldickson34554 ай бұрын
Dead easy I feel I should be paid more, no Next money leaves for a better payed job
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
That base has to be there if not we go else’s where
@n00bster834 ай бұрын
I work at an extremely toxic work environment where the higher ups really don't care at all about their workers.
@beyondthankyou4 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that. What do they do that gives you that experience