Terrific information! Thank you, Chris. Providing feedback to a boss can be nerve-racking and challenging. Thank you for the tools and insights to help make giving feedback to bosses more approachable.

I work at Macy's. No raises, heavy turnover, understaffed, zero appreciation, overworked, and micromanaged. My managers are the worst. I have never been more unhappy. Looking elsewhere. Oh, and I'm the only FT person in my dept.

Even when we talk to employers they don't listen. They just use this to try to fake that they care.

For work, we created PowerPoint slides we can chose from. Each will show funny pictures with different moods scales(1 through 10, different themes on each slide). We have each student (doing work training) state their name, what mood do they feel today, and why? We have several themes to choose from, we pick one before each class. As an example we have on a scale of 1 to 10 which inflatable duck are you today? Then we have all these different inflatable ducks pictures shown (some more inflated than others). We always get a good laugh.

Good information

We are just a number and don't forget it. You're free to come and go as you please. And you are spot on with your comments.

Clear instructions are important. I was once told where the clutch and brake were and how to shift gears on a dirt bike but . . . They left out a piece of information - to use the clutch to disengage the engine and then apply the brake to Stop the bike.

I SO appreciated the science provided behind the information presented by Alison. I am excited to get my hands on this book!

Love the model and the questions you included! Sometimes it is hard to know where to start and it helps alleviate trying to figure that out.

You should spend time convincing others to leave as well. Even finding them better jobs. You want to make as big an impact as you can otherwise employers will continue to do the abusive often illegal things that made me quit.

Sign number 4 they told you where to shove your job😊

What about if you want to let a client know that you don’t want to work with another person that they want you to collaborate with? Is it gossiping if you say that you don’t like that persons attitude

This is GOLD! (Pun intended!) Thank you for sharing so many great ideas!

I really loved my job until just recently. They hired a fianance director who I report to now. He's the type that would insist use metal staples instead of disolving staples in someone's surgery. We got to get costs down! Then he'd say that they were uncomfortable - what can be done? Then he'd say - wait they got to go back to get them removed? That costs more than the the just the initial cost of applying them - why the double charge? Why didn't you explain why the disolving ones were better? We need to get a consultant to give us another point of view. After a $10,000 review - they recommend using dissolving ones so from now on we'll start using them. (I'm in IT but you get the idea)

Thinking about the last couple times I left a company, yeah, that's a big part of the visible symptoms. The trouble is by the time symptoms are visible it's almost too late. In my case the first company was one I had been at for 13+ years and for all but the last 18 months I loved the place (some key execs left, the people that replaced them did not understand or care for the business). But by the time I started to "check out" and show any of these symptoms I had already pretty much decided to leave when the time was right. And about 6 months later I did.

I love these ideas! I can't wait to try the Synchronized Zooming and Olympic Charades! Great way to get a few laughs in and recharge a bit.

Love these Ice Breaker ! Do you know we we can permit sound when sharing a video through zoom ? recently came across this issue while presenting participants could not hear video Audio.

Not the hair in a towel 😂

nice video. In the real life, the boss doesn't care about you, maybe, he doesn't know or remember who you are. He just wants to know how much profit he can get. You resign, he can hire another guy.

I've been scheduled zero hours for the past month and I'm on disability and 64 years old

This is a great idea! Will definitely be using this soon.

i worked at a church once upon a time, just as a permanent musician, i had never worked at one before and figured it might be a very different kind of work environment. well it was different, but not in the positive way. the snitch culture was real, and the boss (a priest) was a bully to everyone. it was bad enough as he strung me along without a raise from an already lowball offer, and when he made inappropriate remarks in front of and about the kids at the adjacent school, it was bad enough to get compared constantly to my predecessor (who left because of him), but the icing on the cake was getting assaulted in my office by the principal of the school, in front of a second grader, all caught on camera...and upon hearing of it from me, boss had an immediate secret phone call to the regional office, who came and "investigated" and found that the principal had done nothing wrong and that their policy was not to give a copies of video footage to anyone. they seemed shocked when i handed in my immediate resignation, i'm still not sure why, and i hear through friends that it takes 4 substitutes to do my job now. they did manage to hire a permanent replacement, but he quit after only 5 weeks. i can't fathom why! 😂

That's a false equivalence. Venting is sharing general frustrations about someone not pulling their weight. Gossip is taking that to the next level with character and reputation defamation which is very personal. Big difference.

Employees are going to leave no matter what as a manager you should have someone ready to replace that person if you don't that falls on you as a manager. As my recent employer is finding out right now. Not everyone is easily replaced and that's what management needs to think about when they are not paying you the salary you deserve

Once they’ve begun disengaging it’s over. They disengaged for a reason, a conversation after the fact will do nothing to change their feelings. Learn from it.

Awesome idea!! I still think about all the great things we talked about during our walk after work this spring. This needs to become a thing.

These ideas are amazing! Definitely trying all of these soon :) Thank you!

Sometimes when I hear someone say, "I'm fine." I see in their eyes that they're not. Slowing down and asking, "are you sure?" has become so powerful. Sometimes people just want a chance to be heard and share. And sometimes when I share, it gives others the freedom to do the same!

I like this because I have been leading teams for years and always felt everyone needed to be connected to the bigger purpose. This takes the pressure off and helps me to focus on what is important to each individual.

The jobs I had in the past had a high turnover rate. Companies don't really care of you leave, you'll be replaced very quickly and forgotten about.

This are really good ideas! Can't wait to try with my team. Thank you!

A solid "tell" is showing up work wearing "Crocs" on your feet.

Love getting a job being told there is OT opportunities but is not mandatory worked for 2 and a half years only had to work 40 hours a week more If I chose too. Now since my pms are pussys and couldn't tell a client we can't push a deadline up 3 months we won't make it now they expect me to work 6 days a week 58 hours mandatory told me that I can't have Saturdays off to take care of my mother who can't be alone and I'm power of authority they don't care. I have found a new job just recently tried to talk to my manager to see if they would work with me or I'm gone they didn't want to give me the time of day to meet with me so I'm not giving them notice of my 2 weeks only HR fuck them.

This was a random vid that came across the recommendations list, but genuinely added value to my life - so, Thank You!

They probably pay this guy over 100k to babble like this.

They start taking personal items home.

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I want to know where it goes sour. By this point, there were so many missed opportunities along the way. Even better, I'd like to know which places or groups/departments/companies get this right.

source = trust me bro.

Thank you very much for your video. I was criticized over a decade ago for my doing my morning rounds by my boss's boss. I was not yet a formal people manager but checked in with team members and others who were on the same initiatives that I was...while also respecting if they seemed to be busy and shouldn't be interrupted. He felt it was a waste of my time. It wasn't. Surprised at that comment from him but I expect he may have felt that because I was "just" an individual contributor that it was a waste of time for me to do so. I believe that if you check-in almost daily, and have formal short meetings once or twice a week, that sets up an environment more conducive to slipping in one of these questions...or more without as much awkwardness. Just make it a habit.

I love this term "Anxiety Tax" I don't think we think about the extra energy we expend by not taking actions. Thanks!

Love this practice. Excited to implement it!

Bosses do appreciate you. When they realize how hard it is to replace you.

"I acknowledge that the problem may be me" -- those are magic words! What a great way to invite honesty, as well as empathy. For me the biggest sources of stress were usually around lack of clear goals and prioritization

Can care less about the thank you honestly that's too easy to do.

Great stuff! Important to check in on and maintain healthy team vitals early on - before it gets too hard to revive trust

One of my reports has taken 25+ sick days in the last six months. No one knows what to say. HR is stonewalling us and won't help us understand the situation. I believe he's prepping to leave, but surprisingly, no one else thinks this.

Dead easy I feel I should be paid more, no Next money leaves for a better payed job

I work at an extremely toxic work environment where the higher ups really don't care at all about their workers.