I'm really curious if any men have come forward with sexual trauma from VCUGs. This documentary focused on women's trauma, but the procedure is also done on boys, so I'd be very interested to hear their voices as well.
@UnsilencedMovement7 күн бұрын
@@sarahhenderson1008 VCUGs are primarily performed on girls, so our community is predominantly female. But the Unsilenced Movement includes men as well. As the founder, I've led our support groups for almost 2 years and have connected with several male survivors. I filmed this while launching our organization, so I had only connected with the women featured here. We went from hosting 5 women in our support groups to 20+ people of all genders. It took time to build our community around such a heavily stigmatized topic. As you can imagine, it can be all the more difficult for men to come forward due to social stigmas. You can read men's testimonies on our website: www.unsilencedmovement.com/survivor-testimonies Our first-ever feature in STAT News was not only published by a man, but featured interviews with men as well: www.statnews.com/2023/09/11/vguc-children-test-uti-stress/ Here's a powerful creative writing piece submitted by one of our members as well: www.unsilencedmovement.com/post/the-haunting
@sarahhenderson10087 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for your reply! I appreciate it. I'm a psychotherapist, a trauma specialist. Also a trauma survivor of both medical and sexual trauma. My training as a social worker always has me straining to hear the voices of those not as well-represented, and I'm so glad that you are doing this incredible work for all who suffer.
@UnsilencedMovement6 күн бұрын
@ Thank you for your kind words! It's wonderful to connect with you. I truly appreciate the question and all you do to advocate for marginalized voices ❤️
@saltydinonuggies184114 күн бұрын
I had this procedure when I was very small, I'm not sure what age. For a long time I thought I made the memories up because my family just never talked about it again and I never saw anyone else who talked about having gone through this. When I found out this was a real procedure and that's what I went through, I just broke down in relief. So much shame and self hatred left me because I was no longer left wondering why I had these weird uncomfortable memories I couldn't talk to anyone about. Then I came to realize that the reason I got this procedure is because of recurrent UTIs... that were most likely caused by repeated CSA I went through. And then it made so much more sense why my mother shamed me for "needing" a procedure like this, she was one of my main abusers. I truly hope we start using alternatives as much as possible. No child deserves to go through this, especially those of us who only ended up getting the procedure from other CSA. It's disgusting how heavy the gaslighting is around this stuff. I cant use the restroom without dissociating. I will never let anyone tell me I must be remembering this wrong or that I'm overreacting.
@saltydinonuggies184114 күн бұрын
for anyone confused why my mother would agree for me to get a procedure that could out her abuse of me: its a complicated conversation and I have a lot of thoughts, but a big guess of mine is that my father wasn't aware and wanted to make sure I was healthy and she went along with it to cover her tracks. AFAIK they didn't find anything wrong with my physically because my body wasn't the problem.
@itsnikkisАй бұрын
The "be sure to smile" line gave me chills. "Be kind and polite to the person who is assualting you". That's literally what a groomer or abuser would say. I'm very fortunate that I've never had this procedure done, and I was making it through the documentary fine. But then they said that. These tests aren't just irresponsible, they're straight up evil. Thank you for speaking up about this.
@saltydinonuggies184114 күн бұрын
Yup its horrible. And thats exactly what its like for so many. My mother was in the room with me for at least part of mine and afterwards she shamed me for having it done like I was the one who agreed. A lot of people have experiences where doctors are just downright cruel if they move or make any noise at all (which is covered in this doc) its horrible.
@chuckiehernandez1191Ай бұрын
I just so happen to come up on this documentary and was listening to it in the background when I really started to listen everything she said sounded familiar. I was born with my ureters out of place, it cause me a life time of problems, at 27 years old that is still the scariest test I have ever done, I have nightmares of it. Nothing in my life compares. I hated that test.
@WholisticWomanTeaАй бұрын
As a midwife I am glad to become aware of this test. I would imagine survivors of this test might choose out of hospital birth as an emotionally safer maternity option. Thank you 🙏 for sharing.
@UnsilencedMovementАй бұрын
@@WholisticWomanTea Thank YOU! You're absolutely correct. Many of us prefer no kids or a home birth at best. I appreciate you creating a safer space for women with this trauma ❤️
@Sadie-iw7vcАй бұрын
Hi, im not sure if im a victim of this, I camt remember most of my childhood. But my first memory was a dentist appointment where the pain meds didn't work at all bc of a disorder that I have. They told me that I was lying. I was strapped to a board and one of my teeth got pulled out. No pain meds. There is so much medical abuse and I don't know how it's still allowed to happen. From the troubled teen industry, to vcug's, ect
@saltydinonuggies184114 күн бұрын
Oh god dentists too. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I had a similar experience most times I went for fillings. Lidocaine also doesn't work well on me for a few reasons and my dentist would just tell me to be quiet or stop moving so much.
@Sez.the.shortone.Ай бұрын
I was 3. It's my earliest memory. Crying with all these strangers just holding me down and staring at me and me not being able to urinate and it haunted me in my dreams too. I didn't even know what had happened until I asked mum and she told me I had a test. I don't remember the whole thing but my body and subconscious have never forgotten it
@hollyobaby6949Ай бұрын
How could this be seen as harmless? MY GOD
@randallcauley9484Ай бұрын
OMG - thank you so much for explaining this. With so many MD friends, advocates, and the dad of daughters, I'm so sad that I didn't know about this!! I'm a former human sexuality educator, and a DV/ SA caseworker. I had NO idea about this. Thank you, thank you for telling!
@UnsilencedMovementАй бұрын
@@randallcauley9484 So wonderful to connect with you! Thanks so much for helping us get the word out and all the good work you’re doing ❤️
@Nothemomma9042 ай бұрын
I have 2 daughters and I’ve never heard of this but omg it sounds horrific kinda like gets getting an iud smh wtaf
@katd18452 ай бұрын
Wow.... I'd never heard of this before! It's terrible!! Why are they still doing this? It's obvious this needs to stop 😡
@dustyjackson75842 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. It was done to me 40 years ago, and has poisoned many areas of my life. I still hate the medical profession.
@miguellehman69512 ай бұрын
Beautiful 😊😊
@dustyjackson75842 ай бұрын
I had this done to me when I was 6. It's left me messed up, even 40+ years later. It was my first sexual experience, and I was so young I didn't even know what sex was!
@noodlepoodlegirlАй бұрын
I was wondering that, but I didn’t want to ask anyone who had experience this trauma. I’m glad you brought it up. First, I am so, so sorry that you went through this. I can’t imagine, watching this is really difficult. Sexual trauma of children hit me in the deepest part of my heart, put my stomach in knots. I’m so. so sorry, friend. I was assuming, or it seems like this could give a person the same trauma as rape-and in some girls having this done so young, some could have blocked this trauma out, and it could possibly affect their future relationships and thoughts and feelings about sex, right? My gosh. This world is continuously cruel to women. We can do better, by far. I support you, sister. 🫂 Edit- I wrote this before I finished half the film. They’re covering that now. My word. 💔
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
This is a huge story waiting to be broken by the media. I say this as a former journalist living in a different part of the world. This is abuse of children on an industrial scale.
@SusanThibault2 ай бұрын
I would demand sedation!! Why would they not sedate? Male Dr’s? I refuse to see any male Drs, even my dentist is female..
@lauriensnijers23222 ай бұрын
I was 10 years old. I was screaming looked at my mom and begged. She told them to stop, they didn't. They finally did when my mom threatened to sue them. I'm thankful for that moment every day
@woowoogirly2 ай бұрын
I had no idea I still have trauma related to this until I struggled through watching it. I had multiple VCUG procedures as a child. Definitely damaged my relationship with my mother and is likely the reason I have high anxiety going to the doctor.
@saranawrocki3952 ай бұрын
My daughter had repeated UTIs before age 5. Around 2012, I was told she needed a test to check for “kidney reflux” and the procedure was described, which I believe was a VCUG. I asked if she would be sedated and was told she would not. I absolutely refused to allow the test. After seeing this, I am so grateful for refusing-I am not even sure where I found the courage to be so adamantly against it-I just was. I am so sorry for every child who has experienced this. Thank you for this powerful documentary.
@jessirose2 ай бұрын
just got diagnosed with PTSD earlier this year, I still have nightmares. I tried to kick, push, bite, at one point I thought I won. they stopped. but only stopped to get more nurses to hold me down.
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
Children experience being pinned down and subjected to the forcible penetration of their intimate body parts as any human being would. As sexual assault. This is outrageous. Children need protection from any, and every, experience that would be considered a sexual violation if commited on an adult.
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
Thank you to everyone involved in lifting the lid on the life-altering harm and severe sexual trauma of this violating and terrorising procedure.
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
Thank you for exposing this medical horror. It is like the movie Sybil. The medical profession is being exposed for its utter failure to abide by its ethical and moral duty to keep vulnerable children safe from sexual harm. As human beings we share in the duty to protect our children. For professionals who work in radiology or pediatric urology, and for all those in the healthcare sector who are aware of this severely traumatising procedure, this is abuse of vulnerable children happening in plain sight. Known sexual harm. Inflicted on vulnerable children. In plain sight.
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
Life-altering sexual harm knowingly being inflicted on vulnerable defenceless children - this truth, FOR DECADES, brushed aside and buried by a profession which pledges to do no harm.
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
Yes the betrayal is so tragic, the relational damage on top of the the other impacts of childhood sexual abuse. What is the child to make of knowing the parent accepted for them the terror, pain, violation and severe sexual trauma of this procedure? 😭😭😭 It can profoundly damage the attachment. So unforgiveable that parents are kept in the dark, unaware that this the traumatic equivalent of "violent rape" when they are pushed to consent to this. Thank you for speaking out.
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
Yes it absolutely is barbaric. It is medical sexual assault.
@michelezapple2 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. Parents would just trust the "experts", but after this, we know.
@Somebodys_Mother2 ай бұрын
Goodness, my daughter seemed traumatized just by having to have ointment put on irritation from too many bubble baths. I can only imagine what kind of horror this would be to a child. I had to have a catheter left in for a kindey stone once, and that made me feel weird and icky. Little children don't understand why these things are being done, even if you tell them. 🥺 What was described is almost exactly like some of the abuse done to the little girl Sybil in the story "Sybil".
@vivio28522 ай бұрын
I didn't have a vcug but a catheter was inserted to have a urethra widening procedure. I struggled and was held down by several nurses, the last thing I remember before I went blank was my mom leaving the room. I saw her face through the glass in the door as she shut the door behind her. I gave up struggling and my memory blacked out what happened next
@wendyschutze28182 ай бұрын
I was molested by a neighbour for a while when I was about 5-6. I used to get what I know now was terrible Cystitis. I used to get it frequently and I remember the awful pain and peeing just drops of blood. I used to get in trouble by my teacher for needing to go to the toilet, I used to sit there and cry with pain. Doctor just prescribed a horrible clear medicine called Mist Pot Cit and little square sulphur tablets. I had so many attacks of cystitis but no one ever thought to examine me or ask me any questions. My Mother did not care, I felt I was more of an annoyance. I am a Mandated Reporter, and every time a little girl came in with Cystitis I wanted to report it. I did a few times.
@kassyopia2 ай бұрын
I had this done post C-section where my bladder had been damaged. It was confusing and painful for me and I was an adult and compliant…I was ridiculed during the test for any reaction I made. It was extremely painful. Why they are doing this to little children is beyond me. I was told I needed another and I refused, so in stead I got a barium and contrast ct scan. There are other options.
@SteveGuthrie-xp1mb2 ай бұрын
I had mine when I was aged 4 years old. It wasn’t a tiny rubber tube but a rigid catheter. The preparation before and the procedure left me traumatised and bed wetting with torture dreams for years.
@SteveGuthrie-xp1mb2 ай бұрын
That was 1969 and my mum was not allowed in with me.
@UnsilencedMovement2 ай бұрын
@@SteveGuthrie-xp1mb I’m so sorry. I relate to your story. This was my same experience at age 2, 1997. The bedwetting, the torturous nightmares for decades. No one even put the pieces together, just kept taking me back to the pediatrician, which retraumatized me. We deserved better. There is no excuse to still be performing this today without disclosing all the risks. We won’t be silenced this time. ❤️🩹
@kaiscote2 ай бұрын
Speechless. Thank you for your courage in sharing your pain for awareness. 💔 I had mild VUR as a young child but am so fortunate to have not ever had this test.
@matthartman70622 ай бұрын
This is absolutely horrible. We need to find a different way. I understand that the test can be important, and ultimately save lives, but there has to be another way. However, this way to perform the test is probably the cheapest for the insurance companies. There’s a lot wrong with the medical industry, and it’s only getting worse with time as humans become the product. Medical tyranny is a thing. Getting government out of healthcare is the first step to tackling these problems.
@randallcauley9484Ай бұрын
it's not informed consent if they are misleading parents, ignoring LT effects, and lying about what it entails and the children's experience. "Getting government out of healthcare" actually would exacerbate the pharma/tech to med school to "standard procedure" problems we have now. Medical tyranny is driven as much be caveat emptor and objectivist tendencies to discount pain for women, children. AMA and TMA would be two NGO's and TDH and NIH presumably on "government" side of the house which should be participating in this as well.
@MissSpaz2 ай бұрын
Oh my god, what is wrong with these doctors? Do they think that because what they're doing technically isn't r@pe, that it won't... effect the child, psychologically, the same way? I don't understand the disconnect here. This is the same as CSA. I'm infuriated. I never had a VCUG, but I do have a great deal of medical trauma. Honestly, this did help validate alot of my medical traumas, knowing that a "normal" procedure would have the same psychological impact as a violent r@pe. I hope that doctors who are aware of the psychological effects and keep performing this procedure lose their license and be prosecuted. This is evil.
@dustyjackson75842 ай бұрын
I don't care that they claim it isn't r$pe. Obviously r$pists will claim it isn't r$pe!
@alexanderheimer88852 ай бұрын
I can't even watch this. that is why it is so important.
@alwaysstraitup2 ай бұрын
Xray tech here! I had to do the X-rays (fluoroscopy) for this exam. I feel sick to my stomach to even think about this again. I went to school for my X-ray liscence from 2006-2008. It was a huge painful procedure to watch for reflux into the ureters and kidneys. I felt so badly for the kids! Of course they would cry! We needed to sedate them. I don't care what the dr's say. I know a lot about kidney disease as Lateran in my life I got kidney disease. I also had a lot of UTI's as a kid, probably due to being neglected and abused. I cant watch the video, because I still have flashbacks. All the dr's and nurses acted like it was normal. If there is a valve problem, there is usually a stent placed in the ureter. For those who don't know what a vcug feels like, imagine having your bladder filled up so much with saline that your going to burst, and its so painful, but you cant pee it out. Its panic inducinceing! Hearing these kids now, validates that all of this could have been avoided. Ind everyone sees your private parts. and holds you down, while your getting filled with saline. And It is so hard for the X-ray tech to get the blowback flash going up your ureters, IF you have a problem. It's like half a second to get that image. So many times I wanted to yell stop!
@ayasreviewsandtoycolection71482 ай бұрын
They also claim that a hysteroscopy of where they do a biopsy of your womb cells doesn't hurt either, and that's a LIE!! They basically insert a metal hollow tube in you PAST the CERVIX and INTO YOUR UTERUS. Then they pass another tool with a SCALPEL on the end of it and PUSH IT ALL UP AND AROUND INSIDE YOU WITH NO ANESTHETIC GIVEN. They do it to search for cancer, but I ended up just signing the "consent form" WITHOUT being told how BAD the PAIN WOULD BE. And this was at 40 years old!! 😢😢😢😢
@ninaromm54912 ай бұрын
Thank you Shelby. I have been trying to Comment, but somehow my post is not coming through. For now - much appreciation for what you are doing. Please find a way to get this info more widely disseminated. Will follow-up later, with a few suggestions. Best regards.
@allisonconey8532 ай бұрын
I personally had this procedure done when I was about 19 with my mom with me. The staff was very caring & helped me relax with my mom. I forgot what it was called until now. It didn’t really help diagnose my bladder issues at the time. It was over a decade ago and my bladder issues come and go rarely on occasions with stress but are fine now. I couldn’t imagine a child going through that procedure. I’m lucky to not have had a negative experience during my procedure even though I grasp more of the complexity of the procedure years later.
@AmyEdward-ke5et2 ай бұрын
I had my son have one of these as a toddler i feel so bad now iim not sure how it hasx aiffected
@user-atkins3 ай бұрын
This was very informative information, and it made me realize that every child affected by this unnecessary procedure deserves better, I see these medical staff as paid child predators wearing a white coat and mask, they are no different than any registered offender out there, they can be jailed as well.
@abigailstatkus54333 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for getting the word out there!
@hazelrhone72603 ай бұрын
Hi! I was inspired by your shorts, would it be all right if i wrote a book detailing my exact experiences with it and crediting your videos as being the catalyst for my final pursuit in understanding that trauma?
@hazelrhone72603 ай бұрын
My own trauma regarding VCUG treatment outside of the movement you have started
@hazelrhone72603 ай бұрын
Because watching this videos was the final click of 1 + 1 for me and i hope if i share what happened and why, it'll make people less scared of their own bodily functions that it starts shutting down their body when they feel stressed
@hazelrhone72603 ай бұрын
I plan to share your teasers with my therapists/researchers at the hospital so thata why i wanted to know lol
@aprilgilchrist23443 ай бұрын
Agreed i think it should be illegal for regular catheterization too not just the vcug part. I know i felt like an svu vic after i had mine so basically i say ive been raped twice by medical ppl
@hazelrhone72603 ай бұрын
Thats horrible to hear, i hppe youre able to take care of your body now and meet your ohysical needs without the stress and fear from this procedure keeping you from learning how to manage pain because man ... this test was horrifying
@aprilgilchrist23442 ай бұрын
Mine wasnt the vcug mine was just the straight normal and i was 3. I think it should be made into a law where if children have to absolutley have to have this done that it is required they be sedated for it test or straight.
@user-atkins3 ай бұрын
Great message there, hopefully we can put an end to this, kids deserve better.
@hazelrhone72603 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, i really appreciate seeing someone say that as someone who underwent this twice
@TipTop-fh5fg2 ай бұрын
@@hazelrhone7260 You absolutely deserved better. Children experience being pinned down and subjected to he forcible penetration of their intimate body parts as any human being would, as sexual assault. It is unconscionable.
@aprilgilchrist23443 ай бұрын
Mine wasnt the vcug just straight catheterization but i still see it as if i was raped.
@user-atkins3 ай бұрын
Will be watching on 11/1/2024, keep up the awesome work.
@TipTop-fh5fg3 ай бұрын
All power to those speaking out about the harms of this violating and severely traumatising test.
@TipTop-fh5fg3 ай бұрын
Thank you for bringing this to public awareness. Children deserve to be protected from sexual trauma!
@TipTop-fh5fg3 ай бұрын
This is such an important documentary that every parent needs to see. The medical community must be held to account for the ethical and moral failure to protect children from the known harm and severe sexual and medical trauma of this barbaric test.