I think that this video single-handedly helped me get over my crush lol - THANK YOU. We have an amaaazing connection and could have a great relationship, if not for his child and toxic ex. I have way too much going for me and it’s not worth it. I managed to keep myself from procreating with the wrong people and am child free, I deserve someone who can be all about me. Not someone who’s a prisoner to his decisions from years ago. It sucks. But it sucks to suck.

Currently dating a man with kid's and his youngest child's mother is obviously trying to get under my skin and he doesnt seem to be over her im thinking about ending things

No Drama!!❤

Lack of kids make lack of understanding being a single mother a married single mother and watching men unmarried help with they children more than my husband is extremely annoying

Trust me, she's 100% right. I do not have kids, but when I date guys with kids I'm always compromising; the men will not alter a schedule to accommodate their woman. My issue was also with the mannerism of the kids. Most men with kids also do not want to have anymore kids or women with kids. These types are the most selfish. Also if the guy is well off, he wants you to sign a prenuptial agreement once it's get serious, so nothing in it for you. For these reasons I do not date guys with kids, even if the kids are adults.

Dont do it! Speaking from experience

I’m engaged and pregnant. My fiancé has an ex wife who is very confrontational with him but I’ve never met her but because of the stories he’s told me I don’t think I’d like her very much. She lives in a different state and they have three children 16, 17, 18 two boys and the oldest is a girl. His youngest boy is actually on his way to visit for a week and none of them know about me but obviously about to find out. I have a feeling that the boy will be reporting back to his devious mother about me and our household which I’m not excited about. The mother constantly pitts the children against my fiancé and lies about him. They mostly take her side and don’t seem to give him the benefit of the doubt. I’m terrified because this is my first child I’m pregnant with and I’ve never met his children. He treats me like a Queen and his top priority so far but we’ll have to see how he is around his children. I don’t typically date men with children but he and I are just so in love and so far a great fit. Please any advice helps…

The first one you mentioned is so hard. Heartbroken.

You sound bitter af when you say that their baby's mom is not family. She sure is. Cause if someone can't love, like, or respect the mother of your child then they are hurting that child. That child loves their mom, and when you bad mouth, get nasty, or exclude her like she ain't nothing to that child's family ( which includes his family also) then you really shouldn't be dating anyone with kids. Only jealous and envious, bitter new gf or bf would say something as low as to say someone's child's mom is not their ex partner's family. In any relationship worth being in, the new partner should be mature enough to understand that his ex is part of his family, and whether they like it or not that person WAS in fact there before they were.

I watched the video to the end. Dating a man with kids is a major adjustment for a childfree woman. Single dads don't seem to understand this. They get defensive if you say anything at all that's not complimentary to his kids even if what you're telling him is true.

I dated a single dad with two kids for three years. He works two jobs because his kids go to private school, so he always has less money and less time for me. I cooked for his children, but they didn’t like it; when I talked to them, they didn’t respond. Sometimes, in front of their dad, they would say good morning, but I never felt at peace. I love him, but I couldn’t win this battle, and today, I broke up with him. I wish we had met before his previous marriage. I felt neglected in this relationship.

I’m dating a man with kids. I’d be out the door immediately if I ever felt he put me before his kids. His children come first, as it should be. I used to be a kid myself. Honestly I’m always checking for that, if I feel he wants to spend time with me when there’s the option to be with his kids, I’m the first to say “nope, work stuff”. The weeks he has his kids are almost me-time, I like it, I had a whole life before we met each other, this is valuable, me-time. I try not to send him things like “out at the bar with friends” when I know he’s dealing with a screaming 4 year old and it’s not an option for him.

Them Menz need to STAY with they FAMILY n STOP WASTING OUR TIME💯💯

single women with no kids should never ever not ever date a baby daddy let alone take any male who has kids esp with multiple baby mommas seriously…he got lots of drama, limited $$$, and is going to b a complainer.

my ex had 2 kids with his ex,we been together for 4.5 years ,i never married ,never had kids .so let me tell you ,why you should not date a man with kids ! especially if u are child-free woman 1’ the kids will be his first priority ,you will not . 2’financial impact is true . he was thinking about buying gifts ,clothes and all for kids all the time ,because he did not lose the battle with mom side(whatever mom offered to kids ,he wanted to do more to win ,or make kids to love to come) 3’i have pregnant 2 times ,my ex lied about that he wanted to have kids with me .he worried the new baby would hurt his bonding with his own kids ,and also give him extra financial stresses. 4’his kids wont respect u ,btw u and his kids ,he would protect his kids always ! you would feel so lonely ! 5’he would using his holidays from work to take the kids to travel somewhere …but not for you . 6’the kids would need -new iphone ,new i watch ,ipods , mac, bike ,car …. run !

There's no shame in living with someone. Do what works for you! It's tough out here, and we should be grateful to have a place to stay and families that we get along with well enough to stay with them. Some people are just lucky and can do it on their own, but there's nothing wrong with it.

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.

Going through some shits. I'm the first babymama. We intentionally had a child, then sadly broke up some months after giving birth. He told me he never wanted multiples kids with different women. I almost felt bad whyle leaving him. After 4 years we got back together and I found out he had a boy 2-3 years ago with another woman. She ran away with the kid. Then after about 1 month later I found out again that he ex was pregnant and cut ties with him after a fight. During a fight I found out that one of his pregnant friend use him as a confident, because she had no one to talk with. I found it suspicious, but he told me he wasn't the father, and nothing never happened between them. Then some weeks later he forgot his lies and told me they hooked up twice, some weeks ago, before we got back together...So I asked him if he was the father, but said everytime he asked her, she denied it. I pressured him to find out the truth about her babydady, for I was certain he was the father. He asked her many Times but she denied it, only to admit it 1 month ago. His ex girlfriend gave birth 2 months ago, and his so called friend gave birth yesterday. So he cheated on his ex girlfriend with his friend. None of them knows about it. They both thing he only has one child with me...I asked him what was wrong with him...why he was living this way. He seems tobbe aware of all this shit he created, regret it, but can't do anything. 4 kids with 4 women: 1 girl with me and 3 boys with 3 others. 2 ran away with their kids... You won't believe it but with all this mess, he's financially struggling...I'm so disapointed on him that I don't even know how long I can bear this situation. I feel so insecure about all this...I'm regretting so much having a kid with him...If I could turn back the time, I would have avoided him! We lost that special connection we had, now that I know that he has so many children out there. I don't wanna be involved with them or their mamas. When his friend will find out about the truth, I don't know how she'll react. I feel trapped in this relation...we are having a talk tonight and I'm planning to break up...I just want peace...I used to value him a lot...But now he look like a trash...No matter how much I know he loves me, and I do too, this is just too much for my mental peace. I have trust issue, for I'm worried he could cheat with one of his others babymamas. I'm struggling to sleep at night...So many thoughts. I'm even starting to wonder if he cheated on me too, when I was pregnant. 😢😢😢😢 I'd never forgive him...

Move on to a better future with a person with no baggage its better for both

Ok now what if this kid is 18?? Struggling because of recent circumstances. I’m sure not easy for kid either. Also dad and kid are not planning people and I like structure so it’s hard when we have plans and they get messed up because of his kid. (Not their fault either just struggling) I don’t want to dislike this kid but I think she is also 18 and she doesn’t have to come with us everywhere or him worried about letting her do her own thing some days. Am I a horrible person?

What if his wife is late?

JUST RUN DONT DO IT AVOID IT AT ALL COSTS RUNNNNN

Dating a man with kids is one thing...dating a man with MULTIPLE kids by MULTIPLE women is a disaster waiting to happen. Chances are one, some or ALL of the baby mommas will bring some sort of drama to the relationship, and he has to be man enough to put his foot down and set boundaries. If he doesn't and he allows it/makes excuses for any bad behavior...keep it movin'...RUN 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️...head for the hills. Dating a man with grown kids who question and control everything the parents do...especially what they're doing with you...and the parent(s) are constantly allowing this...RUN 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️...that's proof positive that the parents didn't set boundaries with them prior to and after you came into the picture.

Have. Thou Ht go too. A barber shop

I’ve always had in my mind that I didn’t want to date a man with kids, but was opened to dating one. Got with my current boyfriend that has kids and I didn’t put into perspective of what I had to really consider. Of course I knew about the drama which we talked about . I was really open to dating him because he was very open about having kids and the relationship with the mothers from the first conversation. Everything moved very fast and now I’m pregnant and feel like I’m being put last to everybody. After the incident that just happened this weekend, he pretty much confirmed how I been feeling. It’s like how do you leave when you accepted it from the beginning.

how to take his phone word with he is done i want proof lol

A relationship(women) comes first not their kids from previous relationship. if he puts his kids before the relationship then the relationship will not worth it.

no drama 😂

My preference is no single dads. No drama with baby mama/mama's, and I'd rather be my husband's top priority. That said, no single dads for me.

Praying for boldness to end my relationship with a man with kids ASAP! I’ve suffered silently for too long. Too many issues and the mother… 🤦🏽‍♀️

That last part. Also, don’t feel like putting a whole long post out but I’ve loved, supported and protected my boyfriend‘s daughter for almost a year now his daughters mother had her first child taken away by CPS and was about to get her daughter that I know taken away as well by grandparents That thought that this was their first grandchild because the babies mother lied to her boyfriend and her boyfriend‘s family saying that this was his child and my boyfriend had to tell these people that he was in fat father and then he was so sorry and she never apologize for that shit at all just trying to paint Meanwhile I’m a child this woman not my choice not my facility life is what it is. I have protected their daughter. I am spent every waking moment when she’s with her father and he’s not there with her making her laugh making her happy feeding her doing everything I would love to do for my own, and I know she’s not my own and her Happily gotten her things that I would like to get any child I’ve gotten a child last night I was putting a bed on a bed that I found for her. Her father paid for but was really high quality and I wanted that for his daughter and I was hoping her mother would’ve wanted that for her too. I’ve never thought nor acted, or even had it comment my mind that this beautiful baby girl does not have a mother I am not her mother as much as I wish that I could have my daughter as her. She has a mother carried her for nine months, and I can never ever take that place nor I want that place I told her how much I love her for bringing so she got upset with me. First time we met in person heard some nonsense from the baby’s father about me because he was upset with me big red flag but it was never anything that was a true be that she hasn’t done in her own life through her own children. She’s done way worse came into the apartment that I was cleaning put a bed on her baby bed. I hung all the clothes that I got for her I clean the entire apartment not just for his daughter not just for him for her too because I’m gonna say baby daddy he partakes other things that are things that could get their child taken away from them. I don’t mess with police I don’t snitch and do that stuff. This mother punched me in the face that she doesn’t think I should be around. I’m heartbroken. I’m mad at myself getting so attached, I don’t know there is this age of my life I will be able to have a child. I’ve been pregnant twice and had a complications after punching me. This woman continue to tell me that I wasn’t worth having a child. I shouldn’t have children and she’s happy that I don’t have children. I don’t deserve them. I’m saying a lot without my heart it’s so broken right now. End of the day, it’s his my boyfriend, her baby’s daddy, it’s his role and responsibility to handle things maturely when it comes to his child when it comes to his girlfriend, and when it comes to the mother of his child and he created all this. And now I’m alone, feeling like I lost love which was his daughter it’s my fault for getting so attached. And also knowing that things will never work and the only reason I stayed with him last several months because of her daughter Baby created with her mother and Still grateful they brought this wonderful human being as well. I am grateful that I got to spend, some of my life learning and growing happy spending time with their baby. I just can’t do this anymore. I would’ve laid my life down on the line for their daughter, but at the end of the day I am not her birthmother. I am not her mother and I know that there’s nothing I can do but respect wishes of the people that brought her here.

As a woman with kids I prefer to date a man with none 😂. I’m not the bitter BM. I was married when I conceived mine and am happy if he found someone new. Ladies, the part about the woman sleeping with him, I swear many women I know who are BM have proof THE MAN wants/ask for sex not them. You do have the bitter ones but many of us aren’t.

It aint easy tryin to find someone without kids

Dating a single parent means their kids always come first and that’s how it should be. If you’re dating someone who doesn’t put their kids first then that ain’t a good look. This is why I say single parents need to date each other because only a parent truly understands the priorities.

This all sounds like a headache

Men only like the activity to make kids but not the responsibility it produced

This black guy i just met in muslim dating app turns out having 3 kids, all are babies from 2 to 5 years old lmao, fuck me i thought i won a hot practicing muslim man lol

Dating a baby daddy is a form of self harm. Unpopular opinion.

Actually I prefer his baby mom ex to be psycho rather than if shes a sweetheart that his family still loves 😅 so yep rather the drama than that

I Made it to the end…no drama

If you date a man with kids. Date other men as well. When you find a man with no kids, dump him, and transition into your new relationship. The only time I dated men with kids, they were place holders until I could find something better. Let them take on dates during their child free days. Unless you’re married, you’re technically single.

I broke it off with a guy recently who has 2 kids but I haven’t met them yet. Everything was going well but the more we dated, the more I realize I don’t actually care to meet his cares, like ever. I also don’t think his baby mama was over him. So I called it off. I prefer a guy with no kids honestly. But sugar daddies are an exception. Haha

Reasons not to date them: 1. Their kids come first (which is how its supposed to be honestly) 2. Their baby mom is a permanent part of his life. And she could bring drama 3. Their kids might hate you for no good reason 4. Their financial commitment to their kids can impact your finances 5. If baby mama wanted him back, there's always a chance she could get him back 6. You will be expected to handle parenting responsibilities (like feeding kids, cleaning up after kids, buying kids thing) but you won't get the respect/authority that a parent gets. 7. He will turn you into a nanny bangmaid. 8. The man already failed at creating and leading a family. Dont expect him to create a healthy family with you when he already created a broken home. 9. If you're child free DO NOT date a man with kids. Even if he's just a weekend visitation dad. If something happens to baby mama, he will change from fun time dad to full time dad, and you will be expected to fill a parental role. 10. If he's not healed from their break up he could get jealous and bitter if baby mama is dating or gets re married.

It’s hard. I expect to be a priority. I

Selfish advice

I feel like I met my partners child too early and their is no boundaries within their dynamic. I don't have kids myself but it's a lot of red flags that I see and I really don't want to deal with it. I'm learning that I’m selfish and I'm okay with that because I deserve to be someone’s number 1 🤷🏽‍♀️

*For me it’s a „no“! It’s not about the ex or the kids! He is just constantly BROKE! And I don’t rock with that! Ex and kids take distance, I don’t care! But he can’t even provide or plan cute dates! No bueno!*

Am dating a guy with a child buh we are in a distance relationship when he comes to me,he keeps on talking with the baby moma n i hate that buh didn't no how to tell him...but he hasn't shown me to his family members tho...so oneday he jxt call me and told me his mother said i should leave the house the guy has rented😢and i ask him y,buh he didn't say anything to me.i think the his mother likes the baby moma than me.and theguy keeps on talking to the babymoma n he knows i hate that i don't noe what to do if i should break up with him.😢😢😢am hurting ryt now pls need ur help.he also tells me bcos of the child they had that is y he talks to the babymoma but he doesn't love her..pls any advice 4 me?pls...

These men and their modern day harems. Divorced (or separated)is just a magic word, especially if they have kids. THEY HAVE A FAMILY. …you’re just the volunteer fun.