Be encouraged ❤ So many sad comments I pray that you all have a better experience as a stepmom. All children are a gift and I’m grateful I had a good experience growing up with my stepmom so I try to do the same 😊🙏🏽🙏🏽

The key is patience. If you are patient you will survive if not please just walk away and save yourself the stress.

This is no shade to you and I appreciate your situation is hard but why does nobody ever talk about how hard it is to see your child being raised by your ex and their new partner. I don’t want my child to have a step mom but it is happening against my will.

Me and my boyfriend have a nice relationship with my baby daddy and his girlfriend, but I think I will have tough time with my boyfriend baby mama. He is fighting for 50/50 custody and she is not happy about it.

I really appreciated your vulnerability in this. I am a bonus mom myself and have been for the last 6 years. I treat my bonus daughter no different than my son and because of that, it has made me appear as though I am trying to replace the mom. At the end of the day I’m just trying to do my best that I can and like you said, transition days are the hardest. My bonus daughter’s mom wasn’t really in her life the first 5 years and now that she is, I feel like I’m losing my bonus daughter in a way. It’s been really tough but I’m learning how to navigate it now that her mom lives in the neighborhood next to us. I ask for for strength from God literally everyday because I love my husband and bonus daughter so much. I just didn’t realize how tough it would be. My husband is also a bonus dad to my son so we are double coparenting. I like to think and hope that God really does give his hardest battles to his strongest warriors. Thank you for your message ❤

Poor guy took the woman who “settled” after getting ran through

Thank you soooo much for sharing!

I want to see a stepmom story where the father has full custody and the biological mother has no visitation. Has anybody experienced that?

It started off great the kids were a bit younger but now they are grown,the young adult felt the need to verbally disrespect me calling my son names and saying this is her fathers house and he supports me.She called me names and cursed at me and her dad sat and watched.She seeks attention and is very vindictive.I will never date a man with kids ever again in life !it’s the worst kids I ever came across

I'm a stepmom and it's hard to deal with these things. Thankyou for the video.

I feel we’re your coming from I’m a step mom for a 11 year old and me and her dad have been married for 6 years and till this day her mom makes it so hard for me to just be a stepmom I don’t know her she has never meet me! I just wish she would give me a chance and grow up! Some days I feel like giving up and getting a divorce! I have 3 kids of my own and I really don’t like how they feel about everything that we have to go thru just for us to be in my step daughters life.

I saw a lot, it’s only God who gave me strength in this 4 years. If I decide to leave 1 day I promised to myself I will have a boyfriend and we won’t share a house we will be meeting as needed that’s it. Let keep doing what we think is right even if they don’t see or like it but at the end it’s God who pays good👏🏾❤️

Oh my goodness, it’s like you’re reading my mind 😭 can we be friends?! Let’s start a step mom group!

I feel like I'm the only stepmom here without my own child. Is anyone in the same situation as me? It's very difficult and sad.

I have been trying to understand that both my husband and stepson have struggles. I've been trying to be the perfect stepmom and wife by doing everything for both... 10 years later I exploded, it was getting heavy and I need help. I mean now I have two of my own and two adult men in my house (my husband and stepson) whom still "need" me to do everything for them because I let it get to this point. The worst is that if I need help around the house, I'm told that I have no say towards my stepson... I have no say but I'm still expected to do all this. I want to find a solution to this so we can stay together before thinking of leaving and just finding out we had a chance.

Thumbnail is literally screaming: "I'M ALWAYS STUCK step-son! Help me!"

Advice needed!!! I dont consider myself a step mother at all. However, I'm with a man that has a 6 year old son. In the beginning it was beautiful, he the son was still in diapers and was the sweetest baby boy to me. This past few weeks that I've seen my bf son hes changed. He was very rude to me. We went to the park and with his feet pushed sand to my shoes, he said for me to put on my sunglasses because I looked better with them on, he made remarks of my appearance. Eventually, I wanted to cry. Im a child of divorced parents I understand him, I saw my mother n father make a new life with new partners. For me it was hard when I was a teenager and one parent had a new partner. I suffered. I respect my bf very much. I try not to hug him or show affection too much. Its hard because now I hardly see my bf. He moved to a different city and we are now really far away. Only see each other 2 times a week. It is temporary. This weekend While we were having lunch I cursed in front of his son. My bf scolded me in front of his son and other members of his family. I wanted to cry of anger. I wanted to run. Im a generously loved person that had many details with his son..... but i think ive had enough. For my wellness Im thinking of telling him we should spilt in peace. Im chronically ill and cant change . My bf, i accepted him how he is. Trust me lots going on with his attitude that ive accepted till today..... Should i tell him about how his son treated me this weekend???

It will not get better. If she is rejecting you as a little girl just wait until she is a teenager. She may form a bond with you at some point and things may seem good for a few years but soon as she turns around 14 years old she will turn into the spawn of satan and will make it her life’s mission to cause problems between you and her father. Girls are the hardest because they always get off on seeing their dad side with them over you. Boys are harf

I do not have kids of my own but I am a step mom to 3 kids ....this experience has me rethinking if I want kids of my own. 🤦🏾‍♀️ anyone eles relate??? - im so stressed and my anxiety is so bad bc of this. At times - it makes me question my marriage. The kids are here for the summer - and I found myself not even wanting to be in my own house. I rather stay at work.

You are beautiful😍😍😍💫💥💖🎉💫🎈

The fact that you are more beautiful natural.. 😯 girl.... 👏👏💥💖

Honestly, grew up having a step mom AND step dad... and then as an adult my dad got divorced and remarried so I gained ANOTHER step mom and I can't stand her. I'm 28 so it shouldn't bother me so much, but it feels like my dad just up and got a new family and left me and my sisters in the dust. He even adopted her two annoying kids because their father passed. She was so nice at first, but as soon as they got married her demeanor towards my sisters and I changed. She's very know-it-all and sometimes has a snotty vibe. I can't freaking stand it. I hate to say it but my other step parents are awful too. I really don't like step parents. My biological parents have awful taste in partners. lol.

Thank you so much for making this video💜

The man I am dating atm has a baby on the way (unplanned). I love him very much and our connection is unreal. I have anxiety about the situation but you can’t help who you love. This video is helpful. Some days I don’t know if I should run or pursue this love. I worry about my mental health.

I like you 🙃🙃🙃

Thank you so so much!

If you haven’t read Stepmonster please do! It’s a brilliant and often funny book by a family therapist who thought she’d had it all figured out… until she became the stepmonster. By Wednesday Martin Ph.D.

It’s going to get so much worse as she gets older. My step kids are 14 & 16 now and it’s been horrible the entire time. Ive been with their mom for 12 years and have tried EVERYTHING to bond with them. Nothing works. RUN!

I have been a stepmom for 7 years now. My stepson is 13. Currently we are going through one of the hardest times with him and his mother that we’ve experienced so far. Being a stepmom is HARD and if I could go back in time, I would choose a different path. It takes a very strong person to raise someone else’s child and to have your husband’s ex-wife in your life.

Let’s everybody know that IT WAS A CHOICE YOU MADE you can GET OUT OF IT when you want to.

I hate my step mom she’s so annoying

Stepmoms need to know their place.. You'll always be number 2 and sperm bag for daddy.. Nothing more..

I have a stepmother I wish she had the same mentality, I have always lived with the feeling that I'm less and rejected, always trying to be something else. Literally every day it is exhaustive at the same time I kind of grow a sense of compassion for her because I know that she cannot do better so I have to do it myself. There's always love at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you for sharing! I’m a step mom & having a challenging time. 😞

Girrrrlllll.... I know you are trying really hard to kind of generalize what is “being said” but I am already knowing!! I am a step mother of an 8 year old and I have been there since he barely turned 1. It is still a struggle with his mother to. THIS. DAY!! I feel you and my heart goes out to you.

welp you know dont let the kids boss you around unless he loves his employees and teach him or her when own a bizz are you always gunna be an asshole boss like im in trouble ahhj time so yeah make benny and if ya cant ill wait benny ,ean funny plus your daughter should here joke dotter period real dad babck in the dad

Thank you so much for your advice. This is my situation right now. You’re so strong and amazing!

Thank you for this, so so helpful xx

Well they kinda have the right to be angry and get dry when a Radom women who they have mostly likely never meet before try’s to claim those kids as mom and without the real mother there the kids would not be there. Most orthodox mothers do not want there kids around a women who there x married because they obviously are the ones who birthed them and made so many sacrifices to make sure that baby came out healthy. Moral of the story don’t get involved in kids lives if there not yours let the mom who birthed them and made them handle it.

Erin, Thank you so much for this video.. when you cried I felt it.. I’m dating a guy who has custody of his 6 year old daughter and I’m so scared for what our future might hold. She gets so extremely jealous of our relationship and I’m scared to move forward with him. I love him and his daughter very much and I’ve done so much for her but it’s so exhausting😭 your video made me feel not so very alone.. This is my first video I’ve watched on your channel and I hit subscribe about a minute in❤️💕 thank you!!

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Does anyone know of any good online support groups they can recommend to stepmoms, especially first time/childless stepmom? I googled some but doesn't seem to be much.

White ppl version of “baby mama” lol

This is why before entering a relationship with a person who already has children? Must think a 1000 times. A new relationship is already difficult enough. If the children were adopted to begin with, problems are 50% less since child's bio parents are usually out of the picture. That's a very rare case scenario though. Also younger children are usually not that easy to raise since their mindset is fragile and they are easily influenced. As such, the bio parent has a stronger hold on them. Child is more likely to believe anything bio parent tells them than what the stepparent tells them. I don't really understand why any man or woman would put them through this. Its hard on both the stepparent and stepchild.

Just don’t marry someone who has children if you have any doubts that you’ll try and get along with them. Just avoid the headache it will bring you and the trauma it will bring the child, and all the fights with ur husband. 👍🏼.

Being a step mom is definitely one of the hardest things I’ve done it’s normal for the other parent to be jealous and for the kid to react and wanna treat you badly from my experience and that makes it hard because all you wanna do it love them and help them

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You’re brave to be candid.thank you

I’m a stepmom who has never been aloud to meet her stepdaughter. The girl came out of nowhere after my husband and I got married. The girl was a one night stand resulting in a baby and she pretty much refuses to acknowledge my husband is now married with our twins on the way even though we’ve tried to be more than reasonable with her... it sucks.