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So… I’ve been watching my wife slowly die from Breast cancer for the last seven years…the last eight days of her life I sat with her and comforted her in the hospital…she passed one week ago. And people are wondering why I want to go back to work already. I feel sad that she is no longer in the plane of existence, but she always said that she loved me and didn’t want to be a burden. How do I explain this? How do you explain this?

This helped me make the ‘loss’ easier… They are not lost…they have simply moved along their own path that had simply crossed your path for a time. You now have to keep moving forward on your own path. There are always bumps on that path, but you MUST continue on your own path. Namaste.

I had my first baby on 4thjan,2025 lost him on 08th January 2025,the pain is unbearable.I live with questions every day as to why,how everything happened so fast in a glimpse of an eye.I miss him everyday every minute 😢 it all feels unreal

I practice mindfullness every moment

thank you counselor carl, you help me not hit my 46yr old son

I've lost so many friends in such a short amount of time, I swear my mind locked it all up. I'm only now, 10+ years later, going over the start of it.... I know crying is passing it but it feels like all I do.

It’s totally overwhelming

i love your work! i use what you teach to help other men connect heal and thrive. god bless you

Sir my son's partner turned to be severe alcoholic. They have a daughter too. Since 2 days I think she is attending this. But after 1st meeting itself,she went out and brought a bottle. I hope and pray for her speedy recovery as it is affecting my son's job as well as the innocent child.

Feel it and wait for the gripping hold on my brain and heart to lessen. Most importantly remember that Christ promises to comfort those who mourn and will guard my heart and mind.

Thank you, Counselor Carl! This has been a difficult day for

I'm tired of feeling like I'm second best to his addiction 😢

Thank you for creating such helpful content! I used to feel overwhelmed with anxiety, but meditation and Planet Ayurveda's Ashwagandha capsules worked wonders for me. My cousin also had great results with their Sleep Naturals supplement. Highly recommend!

Hello, I have two questions I need to ask. 1). When I am sharing certain personal issues with certain person, my body begins to tremble. I don't know if I should continue sharing my issues with this certain person or if it's a signal from my body telling me that this person is unsafe? 2). After trying to escape the toxic relationship, I am getting nightmares and I can't sleep. I don't know if these nightmares are a signal my body telling me that I should go back and confront the toxic person? Because it seems like the more I try to avoid, ignore the toxic person, the more vivid the nightmares. It's like what Robert Greene wrote in the _48 Laws Of Power_ "it is a game, and when you opt out of the game, you lose".

You're welcome!

This man is incredible! Thank you very much!

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Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other

It’s been 4 years since my dear friend committed suicide Nov 14 2020 my whole body aches from grieving so much last month was my friend’s death anniversary I’m emotionally drained and tired thank you counselor Carl for your kind words for anybody else that loss a loved ones my heart goes out to you keep pushing my friend

Please stay away from A.A For so long, i have been deceived that this program comes from God when i used to hear God - i used to think that God was just any higher power based on my conception that was entangled with the 12 steps But which God? Is it allah? is it a pagan god? is it the catholic jesus or the true Jesus from scripture? it it just God the Father? again which god? it is a God who saves us by grace or works? do we need to earn our right standing with God or is it a free gift through Jesus Christ? I ask these questions because AA is a pagan man-made religion (do a bunch of works to earn a reward), choose whichever god fits your conception to make you comfortable so your not offended and its all about staying sober (and I'm not diminishing the urgency to be sober) How about eternal life? heaven or hell? forgiveness of sins? divine grace? repentance? the gravity that sin causes between us and God? AA has no mention on this - it is diametrically opposed to the Bible Its just a program that says faith + works, choose your conception and its up to you - this is what every religion teaches (works earn your right standing before God) Lets see what the bible says about these matters 1. There is only one God - it isn't based on our conception of Him John 17:3 3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent. 2. We are all under sin & the wages of sin is death Romans 6:23 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gracious gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. 3. We are saved (delivered from the wrath of god & eternal separation) by grace, NOT OF WORKS Ephesians 2:8-10 8 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and this not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; 9 not of works, so that no one may boast. 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them. -- JUST TO NOTE (we are prepared for good works after being saved to live a holy godly life) 4. The Bible warns about those who speak about God and demands us to test to see if they really come from God 1 John 4:1-3 4 Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. 2 By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, 3 and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, of which you have heard that it is coming, and now it is already in the world. 5. Be mindful of those who have "spiritual experiences or teachings" because not all them come from God 2 Corinthians 14-15 14 And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. 15 Therefore it is not surprising if his ministers also disguise themselves as ministers of righteousness, whose end will be according to their deeds. 6. Being drunk/getting high is a sin (its a symptom of sin) and we are told to flee from it - you don't need to follow the 12 steps but rely on Christ who will save you from sin ALONE 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. 7. If we add any works than we are cut off from grace - its not Jesus + something else or Christ would have died for nothing NOTE - true Christians will live a godly life, they are re-born from above with the Holy Spirit residing in them who will sanctify (set-apart, direct and continually grow) in true righteousness and Godly living - but our works do not save us or keep us saved Galatians 5:4 4 You have been severed from Christ, you who are being justified by law; you have fallen from grace! The "Law" doesn't just refer to the Law of Moses - but any law (other religions, works, steps) Please do not be deceived, put your trust and faith in Jesus Christ and you will be saved and He will not let you down - you will be re-born, you will have the Holy Spirit reside in you and the desire to sin will be lifted 1 John 3:9 Everyone who has been born of God does not sin, because His seed abides in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God.

So much this was very helpful. God bless you. I do detachment with love every single day with my son to drinks

Thank you

Thank you so much for your great work and effort it’s very insightful and tremendously helpful

No such thing as an expert. When dealing with grief. Nobody cares the might listen. But u. Have to live with. This disaster. U R. Self. Best get out occupy. Your mind. Do new things travel. Meet as many people as possible. Sing. Yes Sing it’s great thereby. U are responsible. For u r. Own good fortune. God Bless 4:44

Thank you

Than You Counselor Carl, I have repeatedly watching your program, thanks for being here for me and everyone.

Thanks for the Counseling, Counselor Carl.

Step three is why I cannot do it. It’s absurd and nonsensical to say that a self created higher power, that it can be anything, can give you help either. There’s a higher power or there is not. It’s not just pick. Something and that gives you some help?M Of course that is absurd. I hear people say that the meeting itself is their higher power or Santa Claus could be your higher power. That is just self Delusion. If I’m going to go somewhere to get help, I want to get the actual help pretending somebody is helping me isn’t help So I hear people say that in meetings it just makes me leave. It’s just ridiculous to me. Help somebody else that’s fine, but what it says is self-deluding and helping themselves

I lost my daughter 2/4/90 - 10/18/24😭😭😭😭😭

Wonderful.. thank you

I do not agree that it is a chronic illness or disease it is a choice no matter how you look at it. It is clearly a choice. A person chooses to drink or do drugs. Diabetes is something you are born with or you aquire because of diet. Especially because you are warned to stop the sugar consumption.

"Archaic words such as God" yikes. It truly is no wonder why our society is the way it is.

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Lost my siblings in 2008, my mom in 2019 and my dad Jan 2024. Losing my dad was the icing on the cake for me. Can’t seem to find any happiness in anything I do. I feel so alone. Don’t know how to move on.

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very informational thank you for sharing this

Thanks. I need to listen to this. I lost my husband of 47 years most unexpectedly. It happened right before my eyes. The pain is so excruciating that I felt part of me is dying. It feels like life is purposeless. I am hoping some of these videos will help. Thanks for your channel.

I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your beloved husband.

Hi Carl, so very sorry for your loss! I lost my 23 year old daughter who died suddenly from complications of Covid-19. We didn’t expect this to happen, so sudden after only one week. Aubrey died on December 14th, 2020, during the pandemic under the Trump admin. Enough said! It has been almost four years now. I almost died of a broken heart literally after the stress of losing her caused a past heart bypass graft to tear. I barely survived. This was three days after I retired. My other daughter, who was 21 then was having all kinds of problems which came to a head about a month and a half prior to Aubrey’s death. So we were grieving, at least trying to, but very worried about the well-being of our other daughter who seemed suicidal at times. I tried my absolute best to help her during this period. Thank-fully things are better now. Point is, we had to deal with losing Aubrey, along with all the horrible stuff my other daughter was going through. My wife and I are traumatized by so much heart-ache and stress over everything, and just trying to survive day to day. Your comment about feeling like a “dead man walking” resonates with me. I feel like I too died that day. I never thought I could feel so sad and hopeless. Life has lost all meaning. Since that day, the fallout from losing Aubrey has completely blindsided anything I could ever imagined about our future. I have lost all my friends and family, and prefer to spend my time alone, working on projects at home, playing acoustic guitar, and photography. But even things I have always enjoyed seem to be losing their appeal. I struggle to just keep going, no matter what. I watched how my ego melted away. I felt I had no choice in the outcome of this grief. It is as if it had a life of its own that had to be seen to its conclusion, but as we know, there is no end to this type of grief.. This meant having to lose friends and family, and having to rethink everything, and have to try to build another kind of life again from the ground up. I know there is no longer a thing called happiness, for me those days are gone. I don’t expect much from life any more. I don’t believe there is such a thing as “therapy” for grief like this, because the fact is, it just is what it is, a natural phenomenon that feels so unnatural. I have a couple new friends, named death and grief. We are getting very acquainted! I think of all the hundred of millions of people who have come and gone since we as a species has existed, this is nothing new. People have been losing children for eons. This doesn’t make it any less painful, it just helps me keep a realistic perspective. I don’t have anything figured out, I am just winging it. I just miss my sweet Aubrey terribly!

Thank you so very much Carl…..I’ve watched this b4, but this time I’ve healed enough to really absorb your steps….they are incredibly helpful….it was so very difficult to change my codependent behavior and do what’s best for my well being

My girlfriend of 14 years lost her battle with cancer on September 20th, 2024. I was broken. But after the wake and funeral I stepped up and came to terms with myself that she was gone. I needed to move forward and not get caught in the rut. I have watched a couple of videos about men dealing with the loss of their wife's/girlfriends, and I don't fit in the box with most men. In the two weeks since she passed, I cleaned out the whole house, I removed her belongings, I reorganized, changed rooms around and basically stayed busy. I have my moments and short breakdowns but I'm a realist, I know I can't change anything. I said my prayers, cried my tears. Didn't get mad, I have no regrets. I'm ready to continue moving forward. She would have wanted that. We had these talks. I'm a Navy veteran so I know how to do chores, do laundry, clean house fold clothes and I make my bed every morning. I was raised with all sisters and raised two daughters. I have always managed the bills and kept the bank account balanced. I work an overnight shift by myself, so I'm used to being alone and used to the silence. I will never forget her and what we shared, but I needed let her go. No alters, or memorials. I plan on finding a new person someday to share my life with, because I don't want to be alone even at 63, I'm not ready to pack it in. After watching many different videos on the issue I would peruse a widow, I think that would be the best match. My kids are grown and gone, and I need to move forward and live my life the way I want. I know she is in the lords' hands, and she's no longer having pain. We will meet again, in the future, in another time, place and reality... James Swan, Rapid City, South Dakota.

Daily tasks are a struggle. It has been almost 6months since he died. I know he was terminally ill for 9 years but I still have trouble accepting the fact that he really died and I still have so many dreams and experiences I want to share with him. I feel so alone.

I miss my son.

ur way of talking us is just super calming 😢 so gentle and caressing way it make sme wnna cwy 😮

So happy to have listened! You have helped me already! Thank you!

I never watch your podcast. I just did to tell you what i think of you!

I wish you would have helped me with the many narcissist that were in my life. This is what I have been dealing with for the last ten years. So sad. I have been listening to a medical doctor that has helped me with the trauma i have faced. Also, a licensed therapist that lives in the US but is originally from India. I like him the best. He had narcissist parents. He is able to explain in detail what has happened and how to deal with the trauma Sometimes it is like reading my mail. You knew the person i was married to was a narcissist. This is ridiculous. I know you will erase this but i don't care. 👎😔

Thank you for helping , I am sorry for your loss 3:16

My Mum had this on the wall in a room in our house. I read it at age 5 and never understood it but never forgot it all my life. Then at age 55 I was suicidally depressed from my inability to quite alcohol. No other drugs involved. I was using alcohol to self medicate an undiagnosed mental illness probably manifesting from my childhood. I was in immense confusuion and emotional pain. And I finally realised the genious of the Serenity Prayer. I finally got it. It wasn't an unsolvable riddle. It was an essential message for all humans and could save lives.