Terrified!??! When I grew up ( I'm 72) water was free & porn was expensive now porn is free and water is expensive. Nudity is the least thing we have to worry about!
@gavin35982 күн бұрын
I've looked at many of your vids recently. I guess you showed up in my feed based on my watch list. Single man here that identifies as gay. All I want is a heterosexual male friend. Nothing else from him. Not sure where to look. I am seriously looking for a male connection without anything else happening.
@Bluelightcheaphotel4 күн бұрын
I keep hearing Eddie's name come up in my mens groups, so am very excited to listen. I struggle with truly understanding the wounds and impact my porn addiction and patterns of behaviors. I certainly know the hurt and pain, anger, paranoia of being emotionally cheated on (an indirect result of "checking out" of my marriage) but there is just a huge empathy disconnect for me. I hate it. I feel like fully understanding it would strengthen my recovery, help me to honor her wounds above mine. Anyways, thank you guys for your work, it is much appreciated.
@drewboa89534 күн бұрын
You're welcome!
@wilblissful4 күн бұрын
There reallybis no cure for this, its just "managing" and we know that these men are not up to the task. They are loyal to their "mothers" to a fault. They enjoy berating you and giving their "mothers" all the details how he did so, all just to feed a black hole they share with her. Theres no cure! You reap what you sow.
@LeonStanford-wp1ox4 күн бұрын
Amazing information
@LeonStanford-wp1ox4 күн бұрын
Amen, mind, body and spirit!
@LeonStanford-wp1ox4 күн бұрын
Interesting topic, it is important, it is part of human.
@LeonStanford-wp1ox4 күн бұрын
True, Amen.
@popeduck5 күн бұрын
Thank you, Sir. Good words.
@kayleecline52786 күн бұрын
About minute 37 it was stated by one of the Pure Desire hosts that he will sleep on floor in his room if a relapse happens, stating something to effect, “whether with a good attitude or a bad one”, but then just kept talking and didn’t clarify the attitude of his heart. A huge issue wives see is the negative, child-ish/ whiney/ poor me attitude of their husband for the consequences of their own choices…I doubt you mean for the bad attitude to be the norm, but it triggered me (and I know does other women) to feel like it’s normal or acceptable for the husband to begrudge all the consequences and safety plans put in place. That is NOT going to build safety in her, or begin building trust, nor does is show real repentance in the husband’s heart and soul if he is just sorry he has to deal with the ramifications vs being truly sorry for the behavior he chose, but understands and willingly walks out the (often long) road to repentance and restoration (if possible).
@kayleecline52786 күн бұрын
Also though, overall really helpful podcast- thank you for the content and courageous work y’all are doing!
@HusbandMaterial6 күн бұрын
You’re welcome, and thank you for sharing vulnerably! I totally agree with you.
@LaDivinaLover6 күн бұрын
Bunch of self-hating losers in this comment section 😂😂😂 I can’t with this nonsense. The closet is glass, get over it. 🤣
@dragonfruit65326 күн бұрын
Just so hard getting started trying to heal. I feel like there’s so much damage to undo that it feels out of reach
@gavin35988 күн бұрын
Great topic. This could be a week's discussion as it is very layered. Well, I introduced myself to porn at a young age, maybe 12. Had a male family member that had many vids. When he'd leave for work, I'd pop in. It was straight porn, but I never found myself attracted to the female part at all. The male part was where the excitement was. It was tangible with different sizes. It's just a nice piece of work. Yeah, I did have sexual feelings for guys before that, but watching the porn really heightened the feeling. With that being said, never been intimate with a woman. I actually prefer straight porn over gay. Just something about the straight guy that is still unknown to me, as a male myself, but gay. I often wonder what it's like to be a straight guy and to only be attracted to women. 🤷 Also, as you said, fear of another man, leads to curiosity, etc. That is absolutely true. I was bullied by straight guys. I feared them, and still do in a sense, as an adult. Quite a traumatizing experience growing up. But now, it is where my sexual desires lie, with straight men. Highly aroused by them. Never noticed there was a connection. You are really nailing these points. I keep editing my comment as you progress. Such relief to hear someone who truly understood the details of these life-altering events. I have been trying to build a friendship with a straight male, without having sex, but have been unsuccessful. I really would like to have a straight friend that I am not intimate with but find it so difficult to make friends at 40. I want to learn from him, what his life is like, etc. I have even looked into men's retreats for male bonding. Not looking for anything sexual. Id just like to have a connection.
@debbiesweet12 күн бұрын
Can I install this on our computer and phones where he can’t get on it without me opening it ?
@pluckeye38612 күн бұрын
Hi @debbiesweet! I replied earlier, but KZbin deleted my response. I think what you're looking for is called a "restricted device" in Plucky parlance. If you configure the computer to be a restricted device, you can require a password that only you know in order to modify Plucky configurations. On Android (technically, in Andoff), you can also lock settings with a password. If you want help with an iPhone, I'm sorry, but Plucky doesn't support iPhones for multiple reasons.
@debbiesweet12 күн бұрын
@@pluckeye386 hi there. I need help walking me through how to install it on a desk top computer. Would u be able to walk me through that?
@pluckeye3864 күн бұрын
@@debbiesweet I'm sorry, but Plucky is not a simple program that if installed solves all problems. Configuring it is more difficult than installing it, and I think if I walked you through the installation, that would only give you a false sense of security (or provoke more questions). And if it provoked more questions, I really don't have time to walk new users through the basics. If you want to try Plucky, use the Plucky docs on "how to install" Plucky to get started. I'm sorry it won't "simply work" without requiring more from you. Fortunately, if you do install Plucky, you can find help from others using the Plucky forum. I wish I could add hyperlinks to Plucky documentation in this KZbin comment, but I fear the comment would be deleted by KZbin if I did that.
@yellow93lovely13 күн бұрын
Thank you for this! It’s the only video that came up talking about this! I’m not a man but I’ve never seen the beauty in me I always wondered how people could be sexually attracted to me because I didn’t see it and always wished I did but last night was the 1st time I ever looked at myself naked and got turnt on off my own body it was weird at 1st but I’m happy to finally see what others see in me 💛
@capjackson379614 күн бұрын
Kindly handled, as always haha 👏
@jeff_chen6817 күн бұрын
I did 10 min 🤣sorry while learning PATH, I needed to draw those stimulating images in my brain for better practice and those things proved to be too stimulating to me the urge really came! so I immediately applied what I just learned lol 😅 but I won! so 1 marble for me 😁 also, I stop at 35:23 I'll be back
@HusbandMaterial6 күн бұрын
well done!
@JoshC-End-Abortion-Fear-God20 күн бұрын
😮
@Yuvi_theGamer3121 күн бұрын
Today i am gonna tell this to my parents and i will write their reaction on replies under this comment and how they help me or reject me 😔.
@myrtlemoore761121 күн бұрын
Yes and and it's my heart goes out to all of them but let's go deeper let's go real deep we have a problem with men men men are sexualizing our children and if you get to the percentage of it it's over 90% of children that have been sexualized all over the world that have been sexualized by who men and until men get it together this will continue until we stop it So what's stopping us from stopping now men are sexualizing our children and you need to deal with the facts of the reality the majority is man not every family got to watch the member of every man in their family to make sure they're not sexualizing the children in their family that's a job that's disgusting but is happening what are we gonna do about it
@myrtlemoore761121 күн бұрын
If this is so sad we can talk around it we can talk over it but man has a problem with their sexuality they've been raping children for millions of years okay for as long as we've been on earth even with our education man is still sexualizing children at least the majority some women do yes but the percentage is in the teams and you got 90% of children that have been molested are molested Bye Man manWe can do something about this but the culture is so strong can you imagine how strong it is if a man sexualizes the only child and that happened so often we're in a sick world we surely are
@TBurpo22 күн бұрын
Wow!! This episode!!!!💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💯💯💯❤️👍🏿🎯🎯🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
@TBurpo22 күн бұрын
❤❤❤
@macaulaywoken759822 күн бұрын
Thank you for this video. I have a girlfriend and I've never been in a relationship before. I want to make sure I get things right, and understand her more so, videos like these help a lot
@junjoncuambot600224 күн бұрын
Hello
@aecred9627 күн бұрын
I think it would be a good idea for people who don’t have the ability to experience there sexuality to a Christian social camp for men to experience/ explore themselves with other men with your boundaries of God to attend?
@tw165927 күн бұрын
So I see this as triggers that are based in thoughts and feelings but what about visual triggers? Seeing an image or person that is triggering because they represent that thing that is found so appealing. Not making the connection to my sadness?
@HusbandMaterial27 күн бұрын
Great question. For visual triggers, we ask a different set of questions: 1. How does this appealing image make me feel? 2. When have I felt the exact opposite? Go to this exact point in this video for my full explanation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jIDKgqCIZ5p0haMsi=iFDhRGsTK9ZNzWPR&t=2990
@ballzofiron128 күн бұрын
Thank you for your big hearted approach to what you do! Peace brother
@peskyjesuit9021Ай бұрын
Bottom line is if you're a Christian and you're single you have to live chaste. Period. When I was single I stayed super busy and didn't allow myself to be in situations where temptation was going to drop me I didn't get it right every time. It was still sin. Frequency doesn't determine an act sin or not sin. Every one of us is and faces temptation. By no means does heavy temptation make sin less sinful.
@user-rx6og1ze6xАй бұрын
Hell no! He better not pray for her and acknowledge another woman to God
@lblincoe2094Ай бұрын
Motivating through ANY fear is toxic, it's not just "excessive" fear that's abusive! If you're relying on fear to motivate, that's an indication you're lacking the necessary skills to motivate in a appropriate, healthy way. Because motivation can ALWAYS be achieved without fear, so using it at all is just lazy. If there's a better way to do something, we're always responsible for figuring out what that is and how to do it, especially if it means avoiding harm. Asserting that "some" fear is acceptable to use on your children is just excusing and justifying incompetence and the failure to find healthier ways. I mean, sure, having the healthy fear of a legitimate threat or danger is appropriate and sometimes necessary to keep us safe, but WE should never be a threat or danger to our kids! Fear is always lazy and abusive because you never NEED it.
@Needy_nicАй бұрын
This resonates with me.... I'm a woman. 😮 Or am I? My parents wanted me to be a boy.
@NarutoCurlАй бұрын
Wow, the more I learn! I did not know that some of my pleasure triggers literally triggered a bodily fight response in me, I have thought I was simply turned on/aroused. I have caught my hands start shaking when triggered and lost all control/reasoning. I have not understood why until now. Without some kind of breathing method, it seems impossible to break out of that state since we literally cant think/see straight in that state.
@HusbandMaterial27 күн бұрын
Well said!
@iw9338Ай бұрын
As the 10th child i realized that i would never get my parents approval, grieved that and now grieving the loss of siblings as i take a 10 mile step back to look after myself finally 😮😢😅
@iw9338Ай бұрын
I was smothered b/c the 3 kids above me were acting out 😮. She tried to over protect me and keep me from proms and friends.
@shawnmercer3124Ай бұрын
Glad to watch the premiere. I was delivering during HMA so I’m glad to be able to watch now!
@Needy_nicАй бұрын
3 minutes in and I resonate with every word.
@LEOS-BIZARRE-YOUTUBE-CHANNELАй бұрын
Bible doesnt say sex is bad it says is bad with a woman is not your wife. Same goes with money. It says the LOVE for money is the root of evil. Not money itself
@darrinthurman4414Ай бұрын
"I think that Jesus is way more excited about who we are than he is worried about out sin. He's paid for our sin. And it I'd grievous and it is terrible and it is paid for. He is excited about who we are." BOOM. And this is not to say that we don't call sin that is is. It's not to say that we don't repent of that sin. But we MUST know who we ARE in CHRIST. Amen.
@HusbandMaterialАй бұрын
YES!
@calvind2054Ай бұрын
What if porn is the only sex life you have? Is that a thing?
@HusbandMaterialАй бұрын
Hi Calvin! I'm a little confused about how to answer your question. Yes, for many people, porn is the only sex life they have. What exactly are you wanting to know?
@codywood8137Ай бұрын
This was SO HEALING!
@HusbandMaterialАй бұрын
Awesome!
@annettealrand9736Ай бұрын
It’s gotta be remission for sins
@annettealrand9736Ай бұрын
There has got to be a remission for sins
@HusbandMaterialАй бұрын
What do you mean?
@AlanraveminАй бұрын
The brain is this incredible organ that can accomplish so much, but at the same time it’s so fragile and susceptible… at least it can heal itself too
@HusbandMaterialАй бұрын
Well said
@isidroguevara4741Ай бұрын
I really relate to this , it should b talked about more. As a Latino guy living in the USA and struggling with homosexuality, I feel im condemned by all sides like my religion, white people, and even other Latinos. I've been dealt with racism since HS, was even locked in the back of a moving loading truck in 110 degree weather by a racist guy. I grew up JW and was a rather sheltered, scared of the world type of kid due to bullying and abuse. I've been made fun of by other Latinos because of my sexuality and not living up to the stereotype of the suave, macho, player type of guy. I felt like I was getting squeezed to the point I have no air. But once I was crying so much and asked God to get rid of me, for I didn't feel worth living for being a pervert and a mistake. Suddenly I felt someone caress my head so gently and I opened my eyes, and they were the most kind and gentle dark eyes I ever saw. There was an aura of white light, almost sparkles around him. It was Jesus Christ. A peace filled my body and I heard in my head "just cry, everything will be fine". I felt so happy afterwards. Since then, I trust that Jesus really cared for the outcasts of his time, and that he wants me to follow him. That has been my decision and I've never felt so happy!!! 😊😊😊
@HusbandMaterialАй бұрын
Wow! Thank you for sharing what you have been through and how you encountered Jesus so powerfully.
@osmarjr1070Ай бұрын
I backslid so many times, really so many times, after repenting so many times, that i feel condemned, ashamed before god and before people.
@neitiajatusrikos2 ай бұрын
interesting conversation! 👏🏼👏🏼
@JVPunplugged2 ай бұрын
I got a knot in my throat with your accepting words. Society can be mean and makes others feel how you say inadequate or weird or just feel wrong to be a certain way. Also didn't realize straight men can be into gay porn. Thank You for all your hard work and amazing words ❤ Amen! The lord loves us
@HusbandMaterial2 ай бұрын
You're welcome!
@Monokitsune2 ай бұрын
“What arouses you is a story.” That…tracks well considering erotic fiction actually. 🤔
@HusbandMaterial2 ай бұрын
Yes, it does.
@JVPunplugged2 ай бұрын
Amazing material. Very much feel the same way. I have so much more work to do though. This will help a lot on my new journey. Thank You so much for your words
@HusbandMaterial2 ай бұрын
You're so welcome!
@japojo19582 ай бұрын
Awesome interview - literally. There really is so much here.