Same-Sex Attraction Stereotypes (with Jordan Castille)

How do you view men who experience same-sex attraction (SSA)? In this episode, Jordan Castille and Drew Boa deconstruct 10 stereotypes about men who are sexually attracted to men.
Jordan Castille is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, Certified Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, APSATS CPC (Certified Partner Coach) - Candidate, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He and his wife Cherise have two boys. Jordan loves Jesus, people, video games, working out, Tex-Mex, learning how to fix things, legos, and his church community. Jordan also does one-on-one coaching and small group coaching within the Husband Material Community. He is trained with partner betrayal sensitivity through the APSATS organization.
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[@PsychoBible]

This and last episode are critical for guys to watch. Looking forward to next one!

[@alan5589]

Good podcast! It's probably outside the HM community, but there's a stereotype in the world and sometimes in church that goes "Christian guys use 'same sex attraction' as cover because they're unwilling or afraid to admit that they're gay. Along with it comes the unspoken assumption that they're either fooling themselves or they're cowards. Like with other stereotypes, guys have to deal with more than the attraction.

[@susandrakenviller3683]

I am not aware of my gaydar failing much or even at all. However if you only look for supposed femininity, that’s just very superficial.

[@MarkSummers-g2n]

Is it easier if you have blonde hair and blue eyes

[@beaudevinsalix]

There is a huge part missing from this. You have to iterate that there are lots of people who can only be attracted to people of the same sex and be gay and never think of opposite sex attraction and that’s completely ok. You are mostly discussing sexual attraction to the same sex as an issue that shouldn’t be frowned upon but as long as the person is in “recovery” from it. But it doesn’t always need to be recovered from when people are gay. Also sex isn’t a purveyor of sexuality yes that is true but the real reason that people are afraid of ssa in churches is because the Catholic Church is HOMOPHOBIC. End of story. There may be people who are addicted to sex but gender attraction is separate to that. Also who cares if a gay man IS effeminate? Femininity is incredible so stop being concerned if someone tells you you aren’t a man’s man or that you might be a bit femme. Feeling shame in that is the real problem. Listen you guys are deeply entrenched in your beliefs so much that you have forgotten that sometimes people are just gay or just bi. It doesn’t have to be part of an addiction to porn or attached to any trauma. It’s just who they are and it is nothing to be concerned with.

[@Dub_97]

It definitely stems from somewhere, I believe that porn is truly 100% bad and can lead someone to some pretty dark parts. But I’m a believer that having sexual interest/desires towards men stems from somewhere. Do I think it always has to be “trauma” hmm just dont think so but I do think that it comes from somewhere, I feel that our sexual developments can be taught growing up and can also be twisted and messed up from sexual abuse or exposure to porn at a young age but, With a stable home and both parents in the house and both of them being 100% present and not intrusive. Is a start to health sexuality. There’s a lot more to it.

[@beaudevinsalix]

And where does being straight come from?

[@beaudevinsalix]

@@Dub_97 sexuality doesn’t come from trauma