Hello I've been working with children since 2009. I run my own childcare out of my home. I graduate ECE college in April. I start the ABA Science program in May. In the past I had a really difficult time taking care of difficult children, later on realizing this was most likely caused by trauma. It wasn't until 2 summers ago when I realised I want to help children that have behaviour or disability, and have autism. I'm so happy I stumbled across your channel because I see the ways I can handle situations, instead of getting frustrated I can help children cope and teach them strategies.

In the first example of the child not wanting to wash her hands, she said she doesn't want to and the lady couldn't make her. I'd like to see an expansion on that rather than the scenario where the child made it easier by explaining, unprompted, why she didn't want to wash her hands.

This video was helpful to kids who are defiant around a specific issue namely food insecurity and history of foster care. How about kids from middle class families that are catered to constantly at home, with woke parents who allow them to 'freely' express themselves while disregarding others. The kids who are defiant because they're simply disrespectful

Jesus fuck turn off the background music! Please.😬

Just use the wipe on her hands.

How do I do this with a two-year old with very limited speech :/

I love this. I'm foing to use this in my classroom.

This is video is so cool! I'm starting my masters in a few months (in my country is a requisite before phd) and I'm extremely excited and scared at the same time. I've always been academically talented (whatever that means) but I'm horrible at being a responsible human being. Making a routine sounds impossible and I don't even know that much compared to my peers. I think I'm just lucky to comprehend things quickly without that much effort, but it sucks to be always procrastinating and suffering the mental consequences. I really really want to put in the work for my masters and this video was so nice to hear. Like, yeah! Working hard and feeling dumb sucks but it feels soooo good at the end of the tunnel!

This is SOOO HELPFUL. Thank you!!!

Thank you for sharing. Very informative

It’s extremely difficult to take this seriously when the hx of humankind IS toxic stress. Toxic Stress is not an area for SJWs, psych activist, or SEL folks to wander into to be ‘saviors.’ Toxic Stress is all too reminiscent of the activists who looked for a new cause after gay marriage was granted by SCOTUS, and burdened humanity with the mutilation and pharmaceutical-hormonal poisoning of children with the transgendered craze. Talk about toxic stress. All, so the activists could worship at an altar of the newest ideology/religion of transgenderism. ‘Toxic Stress,’ in its present form, is a theory in search of victims and the victims just happen to be everybody. Children and adults need to be taught and trained in resilience and resilience is a muscle that has to be exercised by the individual for it to work. Society is too obsessed/mired with a savior complex. In the new book by Abigail Shrier, “Bad Therapy,” she lays out how psych therapists belabor victim experiences, states, and status, especially with kids. People ask, “Why are kids more depressed than at anytime in hx when more of them are under psychotherapy?” The answer is literally the question. I have a sneaking suspicion that the perpetrators of toxic stress theory will label parents as the chief culprit. And, the saviors will be CPS, teachers, school counselors, or psych therapists. Every child’s ailment will be misdiagnosed as toxic stress and it will set off a cascading series of catastrophe’s. Solution: Get kids off cellphones, and get ‘em outside. Have them develop resourcefulness, enterprise, inventiveness, and problem solving. Give them the tools to work things out. When they fail (and they always do) encourage them to try again. Self reliance, mixed in with a little guidance is and has been the best therapy since the beginning of humankind.

I have watched two of your videos on graduate school and they have been so spot on! Thank you for sharing!

But what if there is one person there that shutdown and there is no group.?

This is a good video. I like the hand touching. But what are my other 22 students doing? That's where it gets challenging

Great information.

Great! quit question. What have you done in the past, when children go underneath the tables and don't want to get out, and then more kids follow them?

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I love this video! Have you ever worked with middle school children and made videos about their behaviors?

Love what you are doing keep it up

This is kind of unique that a 14-year-old girl was role playing in this kind of classroom. It is NOT to judge her academic or behavioral ability. It is so she can give the idea how kids normally in their single-digit ages act when they get a little frustrated with the instructions that are given to them in class. Maybe she wants to be an elementary or kindergarten educator.

I lovei it excellent presentation

Wish all teachers could use this strategy …. Most don’t

Disorganized attachment isn't the only pathological attachment style, it's just the most severe. Anxious and avoidant attachment are also attachment pathologies, though are more associated with neglectful inconsistency and neglectful abandonment (respectively) than aggressive abuse. AAMOF ADHD is just severe avoidant attachment and ASD is severe anxious attachment. The genome's been sequenced for a dozen years. It's been abundantly clear though for far longer that behavioral heritability within families is responsible for these conditions. Schizophreniform decompensation is essentially Stockholm syndrome in reverse so in any era those who've attributed the etiology of schizophrenia to the primary caregiver relationship have known we've been correct, but we've also come to know it's all SUPPOSED to persist. People prefer lies to truth, have average IQs of 100 not 130 +, and are handicapped by the irrationalities of mammalian emotions because conflict is apparently essential. Society doesn't "advance", but as it recycles it appears to advance. Any organism that natural selection can allow to evolve to the point of being intelligent enough to figure out that we're just here to eat screw and poop like all the others with no ordained destiny or higher purpose has to be too weak and distractible to understand it en masse. Otherwise almost everybody stops eating shitting and fucking right away, but the offspring of those who didn't would still be of average IQ (yes that's also environmental) even if they had high levels of reserve resiliency so the misunderstanding and conflict would resume. Mutual support and common goodwill ARE the most rational strategies (because our absence of free will is in large part the consequence of our dependence upon the cooperation and at least acquiescence of known and unknown others). So even though duplicity IS the highest form of stupidity, CONFLICT (all of which is rooted in misunderstanding or misrepresentation about the extent of implied trust) ACTUALLY IS ESSENTIAL. Moreover, so is the ignorance from which conflict arises. The most effective manipulations being of a polarizing nature is no coincidence--as polarity is the most fundamental property of energy itself.

4:20 and paternal attachment can obviously be of enough importance that the majority of children adapting with the transgender delusion attachment strategy (the authentic toddler version, not the mockery-of-developmental-trauma nonbinary pseudogender fantasy version) are abandoning male physiology. So paternal absence is far less harmful than a rejecting paternal presence. And it definitely happens the other way also, as Cher naming Chaz Bono Chastity when there was only room for one vajayjay at Sonny & Cher's aptly illustrated. Inducing a delusion which subjects the child to unnecessary medical procedures to protect or enhance the parent's ego (secondary gain) is the imposition of a factitious disorder upon another (Munchausen by proxy). So I guess the moral of the story is not to blame kids for being the opposite sex from what one had hoped.😐

Sadly, most of the teachers at my school wont allow sensory objects in class during transitions as there are many behaviours to address and not enough time for supervising sensory objects. Some of the more severe kids, like ones with autism have boxes to access with stuff in them

Children from daycare centers (regardless of their quality) tend to have deregulated cortisol, that is, they have high levels of cortisol in the morning hrs as well as in the evening hrs. The normal pattern is to have high levels of cortisol in the morning hrs ONLY, and lower levels in the evenings. And this is a huge red flag because it has implications in several aspects of the brain, e.g., its wiring and thus in the development of the central alarm system (a circuitry that gates innate threat cues and learning, necessary for survival). As a result, development is compromised and that includes attachment. That's what neuroscience has shown. If parents or grandpas are not available from 9:00 to 5:00, then, a healthy and caring nanny should be with the child. It's the best second option to create healthy attachment with an adult not with another kid. Toddlers cry at daycare centers because they suffer as separation is not normal at those tender ages. By the way, no mammal is ready to get frequently separated from their moms (even during some hrs of the day) either. Daycare centers DISRUPT kids' secure ATTACHMENT leading to hating school and teachers as they have previously learned to develop attachment to classmates not to parents. Source: Dr Gordon Neufeld and Dr Gabor Maté (Canada); Dr Carlos González (Spain); etc; etc.

They're over stimulated in those preschools. And, they're under supplied and under staffed. And everyone of these places have "teachers" using controlling techniques with negative tones.

eye openeing about when kids open up about jail situations where it's confusing for them. That would be overwhlmeing, how are their parents bad. Having that safe area to explore and process through stuff is so powerful.

What about when a child enters a make belief world or fantasy world in response to doing common tasks.

What about almost total LACK of caregivers?

And when the kid says “just because”

My god this is going to help so much. Thankyou and good work

I was a bad kid and all it took was that look from my mom to behave quickly or a belt on my butt from my dad and ild never do that again! Today's problem is we cuddle kids! We are raising snowflakes.

Great! Thanks a lot!

I have a student who misbehaves with humour, to control a situation. Does anyone have any ideas on how much I should ignore (not reward) the humour?

I worry about my nephew doing this kind of behavior. My sister was murdered and he was in the room so even though he is currently 3 years old I know there is trauma there. I hope I can find him a local school like this so he can get the help he needs and hopefully work through the tragedy of losing his mom so young. Thanks for the insight!

Pandering to the child again

Thanks for sharing, I'm learning from Brazil.

I have a question about synaptic pruning. What about synapses that continue to "fire" but that are unwanted and the subject wishes they could be pruned? I'm speaking of negative, self-deprecating thoughts (voices?) that recur "on their own". Why aren't they pruned? Or alternatively, what keeps those synaptic firings going since pruning would benefit the subject's well-being? (Your presentation is way above average, by the way.)

this is solutions is good, but so ideal. the reality is there are more than 20 students in the class, and more than one students like this. being a teacher, you really really have no that much time to deal with one student like this. ....

How do we tackle a behaviour but with the opposite issue, the child wants to stay in the bathroom continuously washing hands and throwing self to floor. And also have attachment to food, go earlier to Sit at the table, get upset when food isn't ready

I keep watching this because it is so good! I will be using this in training - it is the perfect way to explain resilience and ordinary magic

thanks a lot ma'am.

Really a big help. Many thanks.

Hi

Great

exciting thanks for sharing

I would add another traumatic experience: it is called medical trauma. An example of this would be a child who needed a life-saving surgery and their body remembers it as abuse and therefore trauma. As this video shows, anything can be healed from, but it is helpful to know that if a child continues acting differently after a medical procedure, you might need to seek extra help.

My 3 year old had turned on the microwave until it caught fire. Luckily he wasn’t injured but sometimes he says he’s scared of the kitchen because of the fire. How can I help him overcome this trauma?

i need help for my 4 year old son. He's afraid every time it rain it started after we experienced typhoon Odette that ravaged our area.. For him, the houses will collapsed when its rain. Thats how he saw everything after the tyhoon.