Also...i think focusing on 1 GaaS game like Apex Legends or Fortnite is just a sure-fire way to burnout your enjoyment. It sounds like you need to just branch out and play a wider variety if games. I definitely played way less competitive games since i hit 30. The pressure and stress of it (winning/losing/kd ratio) wasn't a fun time anymore. Im more about playing single player narrative based immersive atmospheric stuff. And those kinds of games feel pretty interchangable with any other passive media to me. Netflix. A movie. Its just entertainment.

I get this feeling every now and then. Sometimes its like...stress and depression related. Other times its just as simple as time allocation. I have different hobbies. Balancing them equally all the time is impossible, so sometimes i have to shift focus. Months might go by where i dont game at all. But i build models instead. Or start some sort of tech project (virtual pinball or something). But after a while i will eventually roll back around to gaming. I will say though. My steam deck (convenience), VR (immersion) and indie games (innovation) are whats keeping the spark alive in me more than anything else. The AAA stuff just doesnt hold my interest much anymore because non of them are taking any risks. The big budget games have become boring and predictable sadly.

Very insightful video. Made me think a lot about my own situation with motivation and guilt over how I spend my time. Also, the comment section during the live premiere literally made me wonder if I have ADD 😂 I didn't think I could relate so much to somebody before.

Ngl I'm a young adult and it feels comforting to know that adults also struggle with balancing hobbies with responsibilities, the question of "am I giving my 100% to the job" is one I ask myself. I am coming to the end of my exam season and I have my last exam in 2 days and I am watching this while procrastinating, something I should not be doing but... I am burnt out throughout my exam season I tried to "grind" my way through and now I just feel like giving up. But watching this kind of made me realise that I need to accept my hobbies and responsibilities and focus on each of them without feeling guilty. So thank you so much for making this, it helped me feel a bit better and get back on track. Plus I really enjoy your videos, thank you so much for making them!

what you said about approaching 30 and not always feeling like a real functioning adult was honestly something I needed to hear. Put into words how I've been feeling lately so thanks for that. I've been in a similar place with my own hobbies (gaming and reading mostly) and there were so many times I would pick up a book and just feel anxious the entire time because there'd be this voice in the back of my head telling me I could be writing my own book right now. Then that feeling of anxiety became something I associated with reading and writing, and I ended up avoiding doing both. I think what helped the most was specifically setting aside time to read. I don't have to feel guilty because its part of my plan for the day and there is nothing else I need to be doing at that time. Similar thing with gaming too, I played a lot of Elder Scrolls Online and I've had to take a break because I'd just end up feeling bad. I'd feel bad that I couldn't keep up with other players and held back the team, so I'd spend a lot of time grinding levels and trying to get better. Then I'd feel bad because I could have spent that time with friends and family or doing something more productive. I've gotten back into more single player story based games lately. Going back to Dragon Age, Baldurs Gate 3, and Skyrim took a lot of the stress off. Anyways, great video, motivated me in a way I didn't expect. "You don't get points for just saying you're gonna do stuff, you get points after you've done stuff" was apparently exactly what I needed to hear to stop just telling myself I'm gonna go back to school and actually start the application

14:40 this is true. I play league of legends. The champion you play often. Is a reflection of who you would like to be. Who your role model is. And or what you could have been. Example. I play irelia. She's strong. Willful. Taking a strong leadership when she wasn't meant to be. She had to..

Concerning the "marshmellows", I worked at Frisia which is based in Harlingen :)

Honestly, firstly I was attracted by Luke’s face, that’s why I started to watch this video, but soon I fell in love with his brain. Very clever guy. So damn hot combination of beauty and wisdom. And Perth made this interview very good and interesting, bravo. Good luck to both of you, guys, you’re really cool!🤘🫶

Fellow member of the turning 30 club this year 👋 I think it’s a tough age to hit because while people who are 30 and over often say things get better and they feel a lot less expectations on themselves, I feel like the 20s are largely seen are the period where you’re meant to be “setting the stones” for the rest of your life. And as 30 approaches you can’t help but look back on all the places you went wrong or opportunities missed and it causes stress. That said, I think hobbies often happen in phases. Some short and some long. So this may be the first real phase of your life where you’re realizing gaming doesn’t hit for you right now and it’s scary because it’s always been a constant source of joy for you but like you talked about, I think it’s just a learning curve. Right now, you’re leaning into playing games in a different style and that’s helping. There may be a period where you need to step away completely and find some other things that fulfill you. I think it’s very individualistic but trying to understand what your brain needs to enjoy your hobby again and trying different forms of engaging with that hobby is a great step towards better understanding your feelings around it all.

i really wish you make some podcast video, its so relaxing to listen to your voice

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im in the same boat as you , im 20 and have pc , ps5 . my ps5 i used it ones maybe. i just enjoy simple games more now like stardew valley or street of rage from sega,. somthing about old school gaming brings me more joy idk why

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Gaming used to be my way to chill in high school. I’m now a neuroscience and psychology student who’s also trying to learn music production in case this doctor thing doesn’t work out. Gaming is what brought me the majority of my social life (I bonded with some of my best friends over video games), but now trying to keep up starts to feel like a chore.

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what if you started doing videos with friends as an alternative. things like games are always more fun when you have someone there with you

Skyrim😊

Welcome to the process of growing up. It happens to all of us and adulting is a bit draining 😊. As someone from Gen X, depending on how much you loved gaming and if you didn’t found something that filled the hole in your life, you will come back to it in your older years when life slows down again. Probably you will prefer other games then since your reaction time will be a lot slower.

This was a great video, and I appreciate your candor about the topic. I’m in a different stage of life because I’m older. I have an established career and all that goes with it, but gaming is something I love to do for fun. It’s relaxing and helps me destress. To be fair…I go in phases. Right now, I’m in a heavy cozy game phase - lots of Stardew and Coral Island and Graveyard Keeper. But I’m sure I’ll swing back to Baldur’s Gate, etc. pretty soon. There are also phases where gaming just isn’t what makes me happy and I take a break. I think it’s important to avoid having an either/or take on it. You can go heavy on games for a bit, you can avoid gaming for a bit. It’s all about balance and doing what makes you feel good in your life at that point in time. If gaming isn’t a positive thing right now, that’s okay. You can be a gamer and not currently playing a lot of games! I hope you find the balance you are seeking…

Sometimes I feel like I'll only be able to game once I retire from full-time work, if ever 😅

I am turning 54 this year, and I have been gaming for a few decades now. I am primarily a PC gamer, but I have also played console games, including Atari consoles when they first came out, GameBoy, Xbox, and Playstation. I understand the drive to play and then hitting a lull in that drive. For me personally, it has come down to the attitude of many of the players. Players can be unpleasant, and that turns me off of the game. I love a game with a friendly community. I love to explore and take my time in new areas/dungeons, but so many players just want to rush through everything these days. Online games were like a vast interactive chat room where I could meet, talk with, and play games with people worldwide. I loved being able to do this. I would talk to everyone, lol. Now, however, I rarely talk to or play with people I do not know. This really saddens me because I actually like being social, but I have been burned enough in games that I no longer find myself willing to reach out much anymore. I still help new players when they ask questions or if I come across someone struggling I will lend a helping hand to get them through their fight/quest then go on my merry way. I play mostly heal classes so people usually love seeing me show up😄. I play very little during the week because I am tired form work and just do not want to think to much when I get home. After chores are taken care of on the weekend is when I will game to longest. I am still seeking a game that snags my interest as much as Everquest and World of Warcraft did back in their heydays. 🙂I have been watching the development of Ashes of Creation for a few years now and I am hopeful for this games launch. Not sure when that will be yet. 🙂

Yes! This is me too! I love gaming but every time I play I can’t help but think about all the stuff I could be doing instead. Like cleaning, yard work, etc. I used to be able to play games all day.

Very relatable! I think we are all struggling with this as we grow older and need to be responsible…

I was thinking same. Bcoz i feel same with u. I'm 35 y old now and i can't enjoy anymore. I was thinking that i'm depressed since 3 or 4 years. But i figure it out, it doesn't real reason. Thank you so much. It helped me too much. ❤ loves from Türkiye 🇹🇷

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First, it’s good that you get your priorities straight. I agree that you should finish all your adult to-do lists before you pick up the game. Second, don’t stress out too much about games. You should change your game genres. Online multiplayer games are quite competitive. Don’t put yourself in a stressful and frustrating environment while gaming. You can try single player RPG games, or some fun idle games. With single player RPGs there are a lot of titles that have incredible storytelling, music, characters. Oh yes, you also should try tactical turn-based RPGs. No need to always play one single character in a game. Try to play as a leader of a team of characters, and take care of your team because in some games, your precious companions will die if you made terrible decisions so yeah it’ll be a fun challenge for you to keep everyone in your team alive until the end of the game. Thirdly, you don’t have to play your game alone. Do a streaming session where your fan can see you play the game. Or even start your own KZbin channel that cover your gaming session. Some single RPGs with detective and horror factors are very fun to play live with your fans. Your fan can help you solve the riddles of the game. As an adult, it’s natural for one to cut down on gaming time. But you can still find ways to enjoy gaming in a more healthy way, and enjoy gaming with your fanbase. Your video was a great video. All the best wishes for you. 👍

"I am an adult, by law" Stupid laws making us become adults... Still, I'm in my 30s and had a pretty similar thing happen. For me gaming became a lil bit less exciting at some point down the line when it came to some games (played League of Legends...) and I did feel that although I liked the game, I wasn't good enough at it to not feel that frustration of I'm just playing it hoping that I get people the same level as me where it feels fair. So I changed the game and also played more with my friends. We found games like Valheim or Stardew or Terrarria and we made the effort to play together and it became more about the socalising with each other with the game being a bonus. Laughing at each others fuck ups and cool moments made gaming time far more valuable. As its not just for you then, its a chance to socialise as well. Though don't neglect actually seeing them in real life, that we do as well with board/card games round each others. What I think I'm trying to say is, find a game you can play by yourself and then find one you can play with friends, when you remember you play games to relax, thats a good thing, You gotta have downtime from real life, its like sleep, sleep is downtime from real life and you don't see adults turning down the option for more sleep! Just this downtime you get to be awake and remember the fun you're having. But now after rambling I have to go shower and goto the shops to pick up dinner... BUT when I'm back you can be sure that I'm going to make some pixels on a screen dance for me!

After high school I stopped enjoying playing video games. I stressed out how games got difficult for me or how it got freaking scary i guess and if I'm playing games online w/ other players, there's a lot of A Holes out there. But I do enjoying watching KZbinrs like Perth playing the games that I would want to play.

I think everyone can relate to that in some capacity. Not everybody is a gamer, but we all have something we used to love but for some reason don't get as much joy from anymore. I myself also feel like with age I stopped doing a lot of things that I used to enjoy when I was younger. I'm also 29 and I feel like it's this weird age where you still don't fully feel like a proper adult yet you are treated and expected to perform as one. And we all just miss those simpler days when there was no pressure and no expectations

Love this Video. Feels like we're all struggeling with the adult life and not loosing our inner child. In generall I'm having a hard time really enjoying things, coz it feels senseless without a real goal or life changing/improving outcome. Living and enjoying the moment like kids or animals do is hard as an adult.but you can only try to keep looking for the happiness and fun. Good luck and really, don't force yourself too much to function. Go where you're happy

There's so much stress in our lives these days and so many expectations of what we should be doing. If we're not "doing the right things" we then get judged for it, which adds external pressure that is not needed nor wanted. After turning 30, all of a sudden I "had to do this" and "why wasn't I doing that", on top of my life doing a complete 180. I'm still trying to find a happy medium between, work, life and leisure. For me, being able to separate my workplace from home is good because I can then concentrate on life responsibilities and balance what I need to do with my down time. Some people find having a visual schedule helpful in lessening their cognitive load and allows them to organise and plan better, which helps with reducing stress and anxiety. I think it's always important to remember that you need those times where you can just switch off from everything and have time for yourself.

I really enjoyed your video and some of the experiences you shared, I related to a lot. One thing that may help would be to take a break from the types of games you play, maybe switching up video gaming for tabletop or tcg gaming , something more tactile and interactive with others. I am married with a child on the way, one thing that helps me is waking up early and getting a bit of gaming or hobbying in with my morning coffee.

1:35 my twin and I like to play different games while sitting next to each other too! We call it parallel play

As someone in their 30s, I've definitely dealt with some of the same feelings. But I decided that gaming was actually an important hobby for me. Now I feel better about it if I specifically set aside time for gaming to relax

Perth - thanks for your honesty. You have the maturity to self reflect on your life. Becoming an adult is a process and you're on the right track. Be easy on yourself , your priorities and interests will continue to change and grow. Your kindness and sincerity comes across on your videos. Take time to be proud of all that you have accomplished so far. Good Luck with your career!!!

I kind of get what you're dealing with. I'm 41 right now, will be 42 in August. I've been gaming since I was 5. We had a Tandy 1000, and I played Sierra's Mother Goose game. I also loved watching my older brother play games, which led me to King's Quest, Space Quest, and Leisure Suit Larry (we won't talk about that one). What I'm saying is that I've been a gamer for a very long time. These days, my games are more like SW: Old Republic, LOTRO, the Dragon Age series, the Mass Effect series, and just some random mobile games. What I'm really going with this is that I've always played single player games or MMOs that I can solo. Single player games that be can played whenever you want/can play them. Maybe just play some games that are about you, because it's about you at this point. For me, playing a game is the same as reading a book. And I do both. But I think the biggest thing here is, STOP PLAYING MMOS. PLAY SOME SINGLE PLAYER GAMES THAT ARE ONLY ABOUT YOU, but also games that can be multiplayer when you want: SWTOR and LOTRO.

Gaming has definitely been an off and on thing for me. Lately I just don't have the mental energy to do like a full game on my Xbox or pc. A quick game on my phone like slots or a word game or something simple I can do. But like something where I actually have to hit the buttons just right to kill something is not happening. Being good does take a lot of repetition. You gotta pick games that suit your mood for sure. I mostly play games like assassins creed or Witcher or things along that line. Get a quest to find such and such or kill something then get a reward. You can stop and start and not really worry. But for the last few months I've chosen other hobbies. Things I can see progress when I do them. I'm not worried I'll never game again cause I'm sure I will but there's no games at the moment that I am dying to play but maybe in the next few months I'll get the urge again when some new ones I've been eying come out😂

brooo soo true though! I've been into BL series since 2015 and istg there's no way to keep up with everything coming out nowadays lmaoooo and seriously, the best thing about my engineer was ramking/perthlay! I was very much obsessed with you guys back then 😂😂😂 (and still follow you guys hehe) much love, Perth! ❤

I want to say this gets easier but it totally doesn't 😅 trying to make a comment about this or that point has me questioning myself all over again. Above all I just don't want to look back and realize all I ever did was try to reach some abstract goal set for me by society. I do understand task avoidance though 😅 wish I could help there, but I'm in the trenches myself. Just doing it seems obvious, but also completely impossible most of the time, and sometimes is made worse by someone telling me to do it. I will also note I have ADHD and this is one of the symptoms I struggle with the most. 😅

This is a honest video, you're so brave, thanks for sharing this with us. I like this kind of videos a lot! You'ld know that is totally normal not wanting to play games for some time, it's ok, there's nothing wrong on that; you may not force yourself to gaming, it'll come again to you anytime, just don't worry about it and don't feel bad for stoping gaming for some time, use it to make a plan to work on your carreer objectives and perform better. You're the only one who can change the way you're using your time, so just try to organize what you want to do everyday but begin with small things, don't write a huge list of things to do, instead of it write just one step you need to make the next one and achieve what you want to do; is like instead of saying "read for 1 hour", think of "read one page", so it'll be easier for you to achieve your goals. What you're struggling happens to all us, I'm dealing with something similar so hearing you talking about this issue, makes me think how can I help you so I can help myself too. Keep going Perth, we all continue fighting with you (⁠｡⁠♡⁠‿⁠♡⁠｡⁠)

Yeah I feel like that with my "things" now, I don't know what to do I have dreams but I haven't reached like other people with my same age or even younger than me and It's sad for me...... (sorry for my bad english)

Hey Perth! First, I love your vibe, you seem to be a kind man. Here’s my story if you care to read: I was responsible of taking care of my parents restaurant during the pandemic (2020-2023) and I worked Monday-Saturday, 9:30am until 11pm at night. No holidays, and we only would take Greek Easter and Christmas/New Years off (I live in the US). My dad was going through chemo, I had to quit my office job at a university, and my mom was also taking care of my 96 year old grandpa (he’ll be 100 soon!). There was tons of pressure during a time where people isolated and my family was working hard to provide food to our community during one of the scariest and most stressful times. My best friend in Japan would call me every Saturday night (Sunday for her) where we would just cry or laugh about the world. I did not have time to enjoy manga, tv, video games, but I read and worked out a lot. It was a good stress relief and it kept me disciplined. I felt like the games and manga I had bought when I was in high school were a waste because my world was very difficult. I felt foolish and that I needed to grow up fast at 27 years old (I just turned 31 in May). There are slumps in life, and my advice is keep gaming close to your heart and don’t throw away or sell or give your precious games. It’s normal and you’ll enjoy everything at a leisurely pace. Although I’m not married or have kids, I hope I can be a mama some day and re-discover the joys of gaming with my kids (because they WILL be gamers hahaha). Please take my opinion and a general observation as just assumptions and call me out on all claims if you want. I’m just a girl 😂. This is coming from a fellow peer, 1993 born and first generation immigrant. Here’s my take, I think you are highly aware of yourself and your emotions, you are highly intuitive and rely on your gut feelings, and you seem to be nostalgic (like most of us here who grew up gaming and are now 30 year olds navigating the “adult” world). I think you really want to challenge yourself in your career and are optimistic, but you seem to let your anxiety take over, and maybe that’s because your YT channel might be a source of stress at times if it’s connected to gaming. Do you ever feel pressured by yourself that you’re not making the “correct” content or are trying to uphold an image that isn’t there? I’m probably reaching, please call me out on this, but I would consider writing down the goals you have for yourself and prioritizing where you want to focus. All you can do is be your authentic self and best version that you can, don’t let anyone dissuade you. Adults should have two things going for them: authenticity and accountability. Perth, you have both in my opinion, you’ll be your cheerful self soon and play whatever video game you want at your leisure. You might even take a huge break and come back to it later. When I would join your live streams, I had a feeling you weren’t too into the horror games 😂 so don’t force it babe! You are so real for storytelling, I always loved immersing in fairytales, Video games, audio dramas, books, manga, etc. Your love of Elden Ring is my League of Legends, although I don’t play and I only read the stories or watch the music videos. I just treat it as another story. You are not alone. From 18-28 I didn’t read manga, play games, or watch any anime since I thought I grew out of it. Turns out, I think I was just experiencing a new part of my life as a young adult in university, helping my family’s restaurant grow, and just figure out what I want to do in life. I still don’t have it figured out, but I cycle through my hobbies like clockwork and I didn’t sell or throw away my manga or games thankfully😅 it’s enjoyable, and when I grow tired of something, there’s always something new to read or play, or enjoy nature. I would like to see a video similar to this, but no pressure! You were so vulnerable and it makes me feel connected. Please do your best and stay healthy! I also want to say you are very handsome ❤ hahahahahha

It's true there's no time to play as you used to when you're a working adult. I love gaming but some time ago i started to feel it's not fun anymore and i quit playing for a year. Then started again 😁 I keep playing games when there's a bit of time, no pressure, just have fun. I think gaming is a hobby of some sort. If you have such negative emotions while gaming, maybe take a break for a while? You can always return when you feel like it.